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We just celebrated our 2-year anniversary. He tells me he loves me every day, and I believe him!

I wouldn't put it that way.  I never felt like I was in danger at all.  I would say that he's a dominant guy that will go for what he wants, unless you set boundaries, which he respects.   I think a lot of men on here would be really into a very take charge guy.

Bunk. The overwhelming majority of women around the world aren’t staying at home with the kids, and they never have been. Just because your mom did - and bully for her - doesn’t mean young folks today aren’t being nurtured by devoted parents. 

I am hoping his debut will give me an auspicious boost.     It is always fun to have escorts attend the pool party and the dinner.  It gives them the opportunity to meet potential clients and to meet colleagues to compare notes.  I look forward to meeting your friend.  

Im going to be attending this year for the first time ever. A friend will accompany me who I am guessing will cause quit a stir. he's fairy new to the business and is utterly charming very very fit and drop-dead handsome. I'm hoping his debut at the weekend will give his career an auspicious boost.

There's another thread where we can share the disappointments with Generation Z:
 
I think a lot of this particular situation can be summarized with "Don't send deposits".  I believe escorts asking for deposits may have been discussed once before on Company of Men ...maybe even twice.

He is SUPER SUPER up my alley (so to speak) so I contacted him last month and we have each others contact info and have a plan to contact each other when the his arrival is closer. Hoping to meet up with him next month when he's here. If I do, I will let you know. 🥰

He is SUPER SUPER up my alley (so to speak) so I contacted him last month and we have each others contact info and have a plan to contact each other when the his arrival is closer. Hoping to meet up with him next month when he's here. If I do, I will let you know. 🥰

He is SUPER SUPER up my alley (so to speak) so I contacted him last month and we have each others contact info and have a plan to contact each other when the his arrival is closer. Hoping to meet up with him next month when he's here. If I do, I will let you know. 🥰

A 2025 study identified that around age 32, the brain undergoes the most significant architectural changes in neural wiring, signifying the start of true adult, matured, and, stable brain functioning. It was long believed that 25 was the cutoff for brain maturation, but scientists now consider that too young, as the brain continues to change, refine and adapt well past that age. The NIH says that, while the brain's physical size stops growing early, the prefrontal cortex—responsible for complex planning, risk management, and decision-making—undergoes significant, long-term development throughout the twenties. Fucking improves. Hence the phrase “young, dumb and full of cum.”
Also, my prefrontal cortex is telling me this thread should be moved out of Deli and into Questions About Hiring.
 

He's from Venezuela.  They probably use the metric calendar down there.

I also like the younger guys and, while many of them are immature, scammers come in every age.  I am guessing that he wanted the cash for the Uber because he wasn't going to take an Uber but would travel to you another way (e.g., by public transportation or a cheaper car service).  Sending the money to a 'friend' could be because he doesn't have a bank account, but it complicates the negotiation and raises suspicions, which you don't want to do when making a sale.  You were kind to go along with it as far as you did, but if his request was really about transportation, he'd have just taken your offer to get him an Uber.  It was him trying to grab for just a little more money that made it all go south.  
Years ago, I hired a younger guy in LA for a one-hour session at my hotel (I was traveling for work), and we had so much fun I extended it for a second hour and then a third.  I paid him three times his one-hour rate (I didn't ask for a multiple-hour discount) plus a very good tip and I told him that I was in town for the rest of the week and would love to see him again the next night.  Shortly after he left, I got a call from the hotel garage saying that someone was trying to charge a parking fee to my room.  Hotel garages are expensive, but the charge was maybe 3% of what I'd paid him or 10% of his tip.  I rejected the charge and didn't contact him again.  As much as I wanted to see him and as great as our time together was, his grabbing for a little more pissed me off so much the connection I felt with him was ruined.  
 

You've saved a lot of other Brothers here on CoM  a lotta disappointment.

I said something just like this in another thread. The providers with whom I've had the best times have been 30-40 something. They tend to be more mature and experienced. Some guys are only into young guys and I get it. But if you're open to it, then consider looking up the scale a bit. 

I said something just like this in another thread. The providers with whom I've had the best times have been 30-40 something. They tend to be more mature and experienced. Some guys are only into young guys and I get it. But if you're open to it, then consider looking up the scale a bit. 

I hear you. But I am really into twinks, and I have been lucky enough to find a few who are respectful and not flaky ... but one does have to be careful, that's why I back away from anything suspect ...

So I had really been looking forward to meeting with Jesusguevara for quite some time. We had a quick facetime chat and he seemed very nice and real, plus he is a perfect match for my fantasies.  We made a date to meet tonight - I said I'd send an uber at 7:30. When I texted him, he asked if I could zelle him $35 to pay his friend who is an uber driver whom he said he wanted to help out. I was reluctant but agreed. He gave me the friend's name and cell #, (after raising the price to $50), and it came up as unregistered on Zelle. When I told him that, he then sent me another phone number with another name. At this point I said I'm sorry this doesn't work for me - let me just send you an uber. He wote, "you're a complete waste of time", then said, ok send me an uber in a few minutes. I wrote him, how can I invite you to my house, you just insulted me. He said, ok, I don't want to meet either now. I guess I did the right thing but boy am I disappointed ... he seemed so nice when we first met ... any feedback? Curious what others think.
https://rentmen.eu/Jesusguevara

I personally think you dodged a bullet. Guys that age tend to be very selfish, self absorbed with little empathy for others. If he behaved that way before a session imagine if the session didn’t go the way he wanted. Yep you live you learn and you go on. Yes I too have been guilty of thinking with the wrong “head.” 😝 

Sorry that happened. I would never hire a guy that young. Around 25 is the minimum age for me, but prefer guys in their 30s and even early 40s. 19 year olds just don’t have the maturity, nor the development, both mentally and physically. They are also more likely to be on the skinny twinkish side of things, which is not my type.

Remains StudFR on RMass. So, perhaps a bifurcation of service lines. A possibility.

Yup! The first sphicter is relaxed you're not done. Once the second relaxes, THEN it's party time. But not before. 😩

I'm currently wildly infatuated with one of my regulars. It'll be fine. But in the meantime, he does such things to me--what they are I know not--but they are the wonders of the earth. (With my apologies to King Lear.)

I'm going to write you guys a story here that's very applicable to these forums that I have refrained from telling.  Mostly because you don't want to give everyone hope and my situation is probably pretty unique and rare. 
Backstory: 
I'm a 47 year old gay guy who had never hired before or considered it up until about four years ago. I am very masculine and cool and comfortable. For reference, a bigger guy (5'11, 255#) but carry it well. Handsome face and usually attracted both women and men. I'm not fucking paying for sex is what I always thought. Spent my life in IT and rode the crypto wave a decade ago. I founded my own company and built it with my then partner at the time. It was crazy successful but tore us apart emotionally. We separated and I moved out. When the company was crashing down and almost bankrupt, I was drinking every single day and didn't leave my house for a week. Didn't shower and shave. I was a mess. 
For many reasons, I lost all my friends. I had lawsuits against me and couldn't go hang out at the bars. My lawyers said I couldn't talk about everything and my entire social world was with my partner. If I walked into a bar, people would be like "how's work? how's your partner?" and I just had nothing. So I stayed home.  
After a month or so of this, I wanted a person. Someone to just hold me and tell me life would be okay and to just have raw sex with and unload everything in my balls as much as possible, because at least that would feel good for the moment, right? 
Escort: 
So I jump on Rent Men. $300 per hour. Had a guy come over. It was decent, I got off, and he went away. Not great not bad. Tried it a second time, same thing. At least I had someone with a pulse. 
Third time, I was in New York city which is amazing for escorts and I decided okay, let's do this the right way. I have a list of 20 requirements I want.  Handsome as fuck, masculine, square jaw, deep voice, a body like you just walked off a stage. Just raw dripping testosterone... and that's a little hard to find right. But that's when Trevor walked into my life. 
Paid for an hour. We met up and guess what? Didn't even have sex or get off. Just talked and I was too nervous and shy because I had never been around someone like him before. A day after we met up, he texts me and says "You know I do overnights, right?" and so I paid $2,400 for an overnight and it kind of changed my life. I had been a top my entire life and never got fucked, but this dude railed my lights out and I LOVED it. I didn't understand why or how guys bottom until him.  
So I go back to NYC and we do it again. Then again. After a few meetings, he basically looks at me and is like "What are you doing with your life?" -- I think he could see the depression and me not taking care of myself. My gut reaction was "I'm not paying you to question me like this!" but it sat with me. I kept thinking about the question. 
I wound up hiring him for a trip out of the USA as a 4th person for a group of three of us.  It was a lot of money but worth it. Fast forward a year and he actually made me a better person. I woke up in the morning and thought "What would Trev do?" so I hauled myself out of bed and showered and shaved and hit the gym. Then did it again. I realized that I am not just paying Trev for sex, but the value is flowing both ways. I'm getting more out of this then I am paying. 
Jose: 
So I am back in Boston and lonely. But I am doing better. I have more energy, I look better, and I see the sun and the good things and natural energy takes over in all my interactions during the day. I don't want or need a boyfriend or a relationship and that's why I was hiring, because  they go home afterwards. 
But I am horny and bored on a Friday night. There's a new escort in town I haven't seen so I get him over for an hour for $300. 
He leaves but there was a real connection. I text him after and ask if he has plans the following night, and he said he can come back. I offer $2000 for the night. 
.... and he doesn't leave. We sit on the beach watching the sun come up together. He lives in Miami and says "Come to Miami and stay with me."  Well wouldn't you know I had a conference in Miami that Wednesday, already had an Airbnb booked with work people, and flights planned. I say what the hell and take him up on the offer. I walk in the door to his apartment and it's clean, and comfortable, and feels like home. We spend the next week together each night. No payment. Nothing. 
Passionate sex. But more than that, an actual connection.  I go home and tell him to come back to Boston and go to Ptown with me in two weeks. 
One year later, I asked him how many people he invited to his house before. He said nobody. His house is his temple and he doesn't bring clients back.
Fast forward almost two years and I am now living in Miami at his place. My company went bankrupt and I lost everything, and he's here paying the bills supporting us. He said "I don't care how much money you have, I would be happy eating a sandwich with you in the room with nothing"
We are getting married soon.
Lesson: 
I'm writing this to show people that escorts are also humans. Will this happen to others? Probably not. But beyond the business transaction, they are also people with their own problems, their own life, and their own desires. I happened to find someone who was single, available, open, and fell in love with me (although I didn't know it at the time). But at the end of the day, what really matters is will they be there for you when you have nothing and the money runs out?  In my case, yes.  He was there to pay some of the bills and give me a place to live. That's how you know it's genuine and authentic. 
As far as Trevor goes -- those types of escorts are just magic. You can pay for sex, sure. But sometimes you can get so much more if you open yourself up and let it in. It isn't always about sex. He and I still keep in touch. He doesn't escort anymore and is back in Canada living his fulfilling live off of Rent.men. He will be back at some point and if you have the chance to hire him (he is easily searchable on here), don't walk, but run at the chance. He's fucking awesome. 
So that's my story. It feels good writing it. Not looking for any validation, just something to share. 
Be good guys.

I'm also curious. You know. for science.

I feel fortunate in that while I've never fallen for any providers, for my regulars I have developed a friendship and am interested in knowing what's going on in their lives, and they with me. I think it's just hard for me to catch feelings. I had a 5 year relationship and it took me about 10 years before I fell in love again. So I'm not immune but clearly for me it's going to take a lot!