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This is a public forum—feel free to ask away! The worst that can happen is no one responds, but the best-case scenario is you’ll get a variety of answers and perspectives. Those can help guide you or give you some food for thought to use as you see fit. And honestly, we can learn from you too!

I always tip my regulars. I aways tip providers who go above and beyond in ways that genuinely surprise and touch me. I suffer from migraines. One night, rather than cancel, all I wanted was to nap, close my eyes and be held in the provider’s arms for two hours with the lights dimmed. I asked him to wake me up when the two hours were up and he needed to leave. About six hours later, I woke up—and he was still there lying in bed next to me. When I asked why he hadn’t woken me, he simply said, “You were sleeping.” He became a regular. And then later a genuine friend.

What do the other quotes mean? Are they also about the same provider?

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I just love low hanging fruit from which to grab.

You’re absolutely right!! From a business standpoint, it’s important to understand the value you’re providing—not just the physical service, but the ENTIRE experience. Sometimes clients seek more than just physical intimacy, especially when they’re looking for companionship or emotional comfort. For example, I suffer from migraines, and one night (many nights in fact), rather than cancel or just because, I ended up just lying in the arms of the provider in a dark hotel room. There was no sex—just the comfort of being cared for. Many of these providers actually refused to let me pay them their full rate, but I insisted, because that’s not only how I operate, but I am paying for HIS TIME. In a competitive field, positioning yourself as a premium provider with a baseline rate that reflects your expertise and time is essential. If $250 feels sustainable for you and reflects the quality of service you provide, then that should be your baseline. But only you will know that! Setting clear boundaries with your pricing upfront is key because clients who truly value both what you offer and the experience you provide will respect your rates. Those are the kinds of clients who are more likely to return and appreciate the full value of the service. As a client, I always appreciate when someone sets their pricing firmly. It shows they value their time and expertise, and that makes the experience feel more professional and worth the investment. When I book with someone, I expect to pay what they believe their service is worth because that’s how I know I’m getting the best they have to offer. By sticking to your rates, you’re not only attracting the right clients who recognize the value you’re providing, but you’re also protecting yourself from burnout. The pressure to take on lower-paying clients just to fill time can be exhausting and ultimately unsustainable.

I completely agree with this! I have never, and will never, negotiate a rate with a provider. It’s bad form. If you don’t agree with their pricing, simply walk away. How can you expect to get their best work if you don’t respect the value they’ve quoted? Not only can negotiating affect the relationship, but it can also jeopardize their performance. Honor their pricing—and their expertise—and let them do their job. Even if a session isn’t to my liking, I’ve never haggled at the end. Never!

I hear your points and appreciate the context. My intention was to offer a perspective with respect and care. I hope you find fulfillment and happiness in your work—you deserve it.

How about option 3: Everyone has their own take on monogamy, and it’s not one-size-fits-all. For me, it’s a choice in a committed relationship because it aligns with my values and what I want in a partnership. If “enduring monogamy” feels like a challenge or a compromise for someone, that’s okay too—but it’s something that should be communicated openly with their partner. Everyone’s experiences and needs are different, which is why I emphasized the importance of open communication and finding what works best for both partners. When I’m in a committed relationship or considering taking it further, open and honest conversations are a cornerstone for me—not just at the beginning, but throughout. I believe in regular check-ins to ensure both partners’ needs are being met—not just physically, but emotionally as well. If I’m falling short in some way, I want my partner to tell me. I’ll never be offended by constructive honesty. What would offend me is if my partner didn’t give me the chance to address their needs and instead sought to fulfill them behind my back. If my partner ever feels that something is missing or unsatisfying, I want to know so we can address it together. Likewise, I would share my own concerns openly. That said, if I am unable to meet my partner’s needs and they want to explore those needs outside the relationship, I would absolutely respect that because I want my partner to be happy. However, for me, the intimate part of our relationship would cease at that point. My preference for monogamy is what feels right for me. In my monogamous, committed relationships, my approach to protection reflects that preference (no condoms.) Ultimately, I agree wholeheartedly that communication is key, regardless of the relationship style.

Communication is key in these situations. It might help to talk openly with your partner about your feelings and explore different options like an open relationship or new ways to reignite the spark. Sometimes, working through things together can bring you closer. Ultimately, it’s about finding what works best for both of you. Personally, I’ve never hired an escort or had a side piece while in a relationship. I prefer monogamy when I’m committed. Every relationship is different, and it’s about figuring out what feels right for you and your partner.

It sounds like you genuinely enjoyed the time you spent together, and it’s understandable that you’re reflecting on the dynamic now that communication has shifted. Relationships with escorts can sometimes blur lines between professional and personal, especially when there’s genuine warmth and connection during your time together. However, it’s also important to remember that their friendliness is part of the service they provide, and they may have personal boundaries about communication outside of arrangements for work. The change in communication likely isn’t about you doing something “wrong” but more about him setting professional boundaries, either intentionally or because he’s managing his own time and energy. Escorts often interact with many clients and may choose to keep communication primarily focused on scheduling. To move forward and if you want to hire again, you could say something like: “Hi [Name], I just wanted to check in and see if you’re open to planning another trip or meeting sometime soon. If you’d prefer to keep our communication strictly about arrangements, I completely understand and will respect that.” This approach acknowledges his boundaries while keeping the door open for future interactions. It also signals that you respect his time and space, which is likely to be appreciated. If he doesn’t respond, it may be best to let it go and not take it personally. More than anything, try not to second-guess yourself or overanalyze the past. The connection you shared was genuine, but it’s important to remember that his distancing likely isn’t about something you did wrong. It’s more about his own preferences or boundaries, and that doesn’t diminish the value of the time you spent together. Focus on what made the experience special for you, rather than seeking definitive answers about his current behavior.

Not to interrupt this gorgeous thread, but seeing these stunning men in backward baseball caps has me reminiscing about my younger days. There was this one guy I used to see who was obsessed with baseball (Yankees) and couldn’t get enough of wearing his baseball cap backward. I used to tease him about it all the time, but honestly, I couldn’t help myself. His thick, curly hair was irresistible, and all I wanted was to run my fingers through it. The first time we were together, he kept the cap on, and for a second, I thought, are you serious right now?But damn, he was just too hot to care. And truthfully, nothing was sexier in that moment than him with that cap on. When it was over, while he was still inside me, he slowly took it off and gently placed it on my head, like it was the most intimate thing he could do.

I mentioned this in a previous thread, but I once met a provider who happened to be having a really bad day. He wasn’t in the right mindset, and it had nothing to do with me. We didn’t do anything physical that night—instead, we went to the hotel bar/restaurant, had some drinks, enjoyed a nice meal, and just talked for several hours. I really enjoyed his company. He insisted we meet again the next day, and when we did, he was absolutely amazing!

Which would be a shame because Norbert is a terrific (two-time Tony award winning) theater actor.

Just brilliant!! Not only does it make lowering and lifting the turkey (or lobster or seafood) easier and safer, but it also minimizes direct contact with the oil, which significantly reduces the risk of dangerous splatters. That daily show clip was hysterical. Looking at your genius setup, another thing I noticed (you probably have too), is that once the oil has cooled, you can easily strain it to remove any debris, making it reusable if it’s still fresh. The basket will help lift out any loose bits of turkey skin or batter, keeping the oil cleaner for longer. Just a thought.

For some reason, I think the cookies shipped from Levain taste different from buying in store. Have you noticed or just me?

The basket inside the pot is a brilliant move!

I thought Gregory Maguire’s book was brilliant in its depth and complexity. The way he reimagined Oz, weaving in themes of politics, morality, and identity, was nothing short of genius. That said, I think Winnie Holzman did an incredible job adapting the story for the stage. She took a very dense, philosophical novel and distilled it into something emotionally resonant and universally relatable, without losing the heart of the original. The musical shifts focus to the friendship between Elphaba and Glinda, which gives the story so much humanity. It’s funny, heartfelt, and still layered, but in a way that connects with audiences on a more personal level. Holzman found this perfect balance between humor and poignancy, and she created characters you can’t help but root for—even when they’re flawed. Some people criticize how much the musical simplifies things, but I think that was necessary to make it work as a theatrical piece. The political and philosophical undertones are still there, but they’re framed through themes like self-acceptance, defying stereotypes, and friendship. It’s a different kind of brilliance, and I think it complements Maguire’s vision beautifully.

So let me get this straight—you were bothered enough to create a thread the same day you joined COM and post about being called a “dirty f*****” and warn people to avoid this guy, but now you’re saying there’s “no such thing as hate speech”? That makes no sense! Hate speech isn’t just “speech you don’t like”—it’s language meant to dehumanize and harm someone based on their identity. And let’s be clear: the First Amendment protects speech from government interference—it doesn’t mean people can’t criticize or call out hateful behavior. Calling it what it is—hate speech—isn’t an attack on free speech; it’s the exercise of it. Maybe spend less time throwing out insults and more time learning how rights work—and maybe why you’re so confused about your own outrage.

Have fun… I’ll say a prayer for your hole!

Men need to smile more!

I didn’t realize there were videos—I had to skim through over 20 Speedo photos. Do you recommend him?