ApexNomad

Eight hours?? I don’t even travel that far for family. 😄

Are you actually raising this as a point of concern on behalf of the OP? Because if that’s the concern…wow. That feels like a lot of faux psychoanalyzing based on something the OP never even said. You’re projecting a specific emotional explanation onto a pretty straightforward situation. I’m not saying that dynamic never exists. I’m saying there’s nothing here that points to it. He made one post. One! Asked others if they encountered something similar. He never said he was hurt. Never said this brought up painful memories from the past. Nothing! He said it was gross. And decided therefore not to hire. What’s nuanced to me is how a provider presents one image personally and another professionally, and how that contrast can influence a client’s decision to hire. And also how a provider can carry that out despite the difference. That to me is interesting. What’s not interesting is assuming from ONE post with no evidence that the OP has a fragile and bruised ego and should look inward. That’s not concern. At this point, I’ll let the OP speak for himself. There’s no need to assign motives that aren’t there.

I get what you’re saying, I just don’t agree with the premise. Not everything that sticks in someone’s mind long enough to post about has to come from ego or hurt feelings. Sometimes people just find something interesting, nuanced, or worth discussing and want to hear other perspectives. To me, this isn’t just a binary “would you hire or not,” it’s about the disconnect between how someone presents professionally versus personally, and how that affects perception and the overall experience. That’s a more layered question than just “yeah I wouldn’t have either.” Making ONE post about it doesn’t strike me as rumination or hurt feelings or bruised ego. It reads to me like someone who noticed something, made a decision, and was curious how others interpret the same situation.

I think that’s reading too much into it. Noticing something and wanting to hear others’ opinions, in a forum, doesn’t automatically mean someone’s ego is bruised, that’s just discussion. In this case, the OP saw something that didn’t sit right with them and it changed how they felt about hiring. As I mentioned, part of what people are paying for is an experience that feels at least somewhat genuine. If something breaks that illusion or highlights a disconnect in how someone presents themselves, it’s completely reasonable for that to affect your interest. The OP noticed it, chose not to book, and made one post about it asking for other opinions. I don’t see anything here that suggests he’s rocking himself to sleep crying in a corner in the fetal position.

Does your brother ever ask for advice? Is sex not of interest to him?

I agree that providers are entitled to their own preferences. But I don’t think this is about ego. For a lot of people, part of what they’re paying for is the feeling of being genuinely wanted, even if that’s part of the job for the provider. If something breaks that illusion, I think it’s reasonable for clients to factor that into their decision.

I don’t mind the criss cross pattern but the knotted lace ruins it for me. What happens if you double knot it and you have trouble untying it? How fast can you rip that off for dick action? I need less barriers not more. 😂

I can’t tell from your comment whether you mean you’ve had a lot of partners or just a few, but either way, it doesn’t matter. Like most things in life, it’s just a number. I have gay (and straight) friends whose partner count fits on one hand, and others you’d need a spreadsheet.

And this is exactly why firsthand experience outweighs everything else. You already have your answer from your previous thread.

Laying on top. Sniffing the pit. Savoring his body like it’s his to explore. Arm stretched overhead, locked in place. Backwards cap. Completely and utterly sexy.

This isn’t a problem. If five people were to say he sucks, but every one of my own personal experiences has been great, what exactly am I supposed to do with that? Ignore my firsthand experience based on opinions from people I’ve never met? That doesn’t make much sense. At some point, your own experience has to count for something.

If I’ve enjoyed a restaurant and my experience was “great,” but it’s been a while, I’m making a reservation and going back. My own experiences carry more weight than someone else’s yelp review. One person saying it slipped wouldn’t override consistently great firsthand experiences.

He’s already had multiple good experiences. Firsthand. What exactly is being questioned? Whether he’s still hot? Whether he’s too old? If he has to ask, maybe it wasn’t that good to begin with. Hire him and find out. He’s older too.

Here’s another provider you’ve had good experiences with, emphasis on the plural, and you’re still asking for an update? Your experiences should speak for themselves.

If you had a great time before, wouldn’t your own experience be the best reference?

By the 25 minute mark of straight non-stop fucking, I’ve checked out. I’m planning my week. Dry cleaning, groceries, wondering if I already paid that bill, can I get theater tickets for Thursday, and whether my back’s gonna complain about this tomorrow.

How boring life would be.

There’s something else that’s plainly outlined under the singlet. And drool isn’t the only thing I have to wipe off the keyboard. Love when that happens.

Bravo to him… and your hole.

Could watch this all day. Would love to see how this ends.

45 minutes straight?? At that point I’m not worried about stamina, I’m worried about my ass catching on fire.

Sometimes my feet get cold so I wear ankle socks. 🤭

Great, so I won’t even rest in peace, I’ll rest in plaque.