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Bonds are only created between equals? Power dynamics exist in all kinds of relationships—mentorships, marriages, friendships, even parent-child relationships—and yet meaningful bonds still form. Financial disparity doesn’t automatically negate emotional connection. If that were the case, then friendships and marriages with economic imbalances wouldn’t exist. I appreciate your perspective. I think we have a difference of experience and philosophy. I will say if someone’s been having sex with me for eight years straight, there’s a bond forming, whether we acknowledge it or not. My barber isn’t in my bed. There’s a difference between being familiar with someone who provides a service and having an ongoing intimate connection, even if money is involved. You may not define that as a bond, but I’d argue that kind of consistency means something.

Guess I can always make it up to you another way. 😘

So you’re saying I shouldn’t expect a card from you?

Being in a relationship doesn’t automatically prevent someone from developing a bond or feelings with someone else. Connections can form in all kinds of situations. Just because there’s a financial exchange doesn’t mean a bond can’t develop. Maybe not for you it seems, but if I were seeing a man for 8 consecutive years—partnered or single—I’m almost certainly forming some kind of bond. To me, that’s natural—it means I like this person and care about them on some basic level to want to see them for 8 consecutive years. Doesn’t mean I love them. Some of the most genuine connections can form outside of traditional relationship structures, where both parties are clear on boundaries but still manage to bond in meaningful ways. Maybe the better question I should be asking—what do you mean by bond? Never forming a bond during a session? Maybe I’m not understanding.

In my bed, we say “makeroom.”

Thank you for this review! I remember watching the movie’s opening, when Madeline/Meryl Streep is performing on Broadway, and thinking to myself, I would actually pay to see that show everyone was walking out on! LOL.

Even people I do know go to voicemail.

What’s noteworthy doesn’t have to be something big. Your story and experience has value. If you ever feel like sharing, I’d love to hear it! 😊

That’s fascinating—thanks for sharing. I’ve never had an 8-year consecutive regular, and honestly, I’m not sure I could handle that. I’d have to really think about that, especially without forming some kind of bond during a session over that many years. Interestingly, I had a regular for almost two years before I started dating a man who eventually became my partner. Once I stopped seeing my regular when I was partnered, we decided to be friends—one of the few times that’s happened. Years later, when my partner and I went our separate ways, my former regular was still escorting, but our friendship had become so genuine that the idea of reverting back to a transactional relationship was not even a question. We’re still friends today. Also, I’m curious — how can he do an excellent job but not pretend to enjoy your fetishes? I couldn’t be with a provider more than once if I felt they weren’t enjoying it. Put aside whether their enjoyment is genuine or not - a great provider should never make you feel or see that they didn’t enjoy it.

To be honest, when I first saw his ad, he wasn’t someone I would have been immediately drawn to based on his tattoos and piercings. He also comes across to me in his photos as very intimidating. It’s just not typically my type. But there was something in his ad copy that caught my attention—he described himself as a “gentle giant,” and I thought, really? Okay, why not give it a shot? Once we started texting and talking, I was really surprised in the best way. He was incredibly sweet and easy to connect with. When we met in person, I was impressed not just by how strong he was physically (rock hard body), but also by how true he was to his words—he really was the gentle giant I was looking for. Present. Engaged. Really cared about my experience. It was an unexpectedly great time, and I thought he was a lot of fun. The lesson here, and one that I was reminded of, is don’t always judge a book by its cover. I was very wrong about him.

Yes! This man. https://rent.men/JimmieDaniels

You should consider your writing as ways to explore and express your desires, feelings, thoughts—let your imagination soar. And if ever you feel so inclined one day, I think many would benefit here from reading about the insights you’ve gained over the course of your journey so far.

Tone is definitely important, and being friendly and cordial is always a must. But even if you do all the “right” things, a lot of this is still subjective and depends on the individuals involved. Tone can sometimes be hard to read in text when there’s no voice or facial expression to accompany it. As for the “right questions,” it really varies. Someone completely new to this might unintentionally raise red flags for a provider, whereas someone experienced knows what to ask out of the gate and how to navigate the conversation smoothly. Finding that balance is key, but it’s not always a guarantee. Nowadays, a provider’s ad copy, the language they use, whether they receive an automated message when they text them, and how that message is worded—all of these things create a initial impression in the absence of face-to-face interaction. That really sets the initial tone. How the prospective client receives it can shape their approach in return. If the message feels warm and welcoming, they may respond with the same energy. If it’s more transactional or direct, they might adjust accordingly. That initial exchange lays the groundwork for the interaction, influencing expectations on both sides. But not always a guarantee.

He’ll be fine.

When you say his profile measurements are inaccurate, which you mention often, are you referring to dick size?

I guess starting a new thread, “More Bottom,” is out of the question?

There’s no set timeline for love or sexual discovery—51 is as good a time as any to explore who you are and what you want. Your journey is uniquely yours, and it’s fine if it doesn’t fit neatly into a box or timeline. Truly. Please be gentle with yourself. The idea of a “biological clock” can feel oppressive. Your value isn’t determined by past experiences—or the lack thereof. Every step you take toward understanding yourself is progress, even if it feels small. Lastly, if you ever feel overwhelmed by these thoughts, perhaps talking to a therapist who specializes in relationships or sexuality might help. They can provide guidance and tools to manage overthinking and help you navigate these feelings with more clarity. Keep being open to the possibilities—sometimes, taking that initial small step can reveal that the unknown isn’t as overwhelming as it first appears. Wishing you all the best on your journey.

I just got home from a Super Bowl party, hosted by one of my best and dearest friends every year—straight as a nail. Every year, I’m make trays of Hawaiian roll sliders—turkey and provolone, ham and Swiss, Italian, and Big Mac sliders (trust me, they’re delicious). If the straight men aren’t at the gym, they’re at my friend’s house. 😂

Perfectly said.

It’s never too late to be who you are, no matter the age. ❤️

Uh, no.

Who wants dinner at 5pm? Me! Bc I’m old.

Email? That is a wild thought.