ApexNomad

A link? Sure. An introduction? Absolutely. Throw your hat in the ring. By all means. But when the details start spiraling into CACLSD metrics and why being cocky is justified because of it… that’s when it stops being impressive and starts reading like overcompensation. Confidence doesn’t need a calculator.

No doubt you’re working with something rare. But in my experience, true rarity doesn’t need to shout. Confidence is sexy. Insecurity dressed as arrogance? Less so.

Because my plumber’s not putting his dick in my ass. That’s why I’m not negotiating.

Same reason everyone’s obsessed with Luigi Mangione. Our empathy isn’t always about the pain—it’s about the packaging.

https://rent.men/ROGERMACHO Definitely one of them.

The operative word here being right. You really need a guy who knows what he’s doing.

Agreed—it comes down to marketing. Most of these sites let you filter by age, size, height, etc., so of course a lot of guys game the system to show up in more searches. It’s frustrating, but sadly common. That said, if you can actually deliver what the client is looking for, there’s zero reason to misrepresent. The truth sells just fine when the service is so good.

Do you feel comfortable sharing why this did not work out well?

Bold claim, Niccky. I’ve seen lamp posts with more modesty. Still, A+ for confidence and creative writing.

What a disturbing post. I’s not just ugly, it’s overtly transphobic, misgendering, and cruelly dismissive. A blatant form of erasure. Non-binary people exist and deserve the same respect and recognition as anyone else. This statement contributes to the toxic culture that fuels discrimination and violence against LGBTQIA+ individuals, and to read shit like this from my own community is a travesty.

Maybe because he waxed? This is a picture of a man who takes care of himself—what’s funny about that?

This is true! I’ve encountered that and was surprised the first time it happened. It definitely killer the moment. It’s always best to clarify upfront what you’re hoping to get out of the experience. Sadly, it can make things feel a bit clinical, but it’s important to be on the same page before the meet up.

If discretion is the name of the game, if privacy is of the utmost importance to you, and if the provider can’t host, then you need a different hotel.

Stunning!

You’re a good man!

Very kind of you Bozo. 👏 How or why did he let you take a picture of him?

Thank you for sharing that. I’m sorry there wasn’t more chemistry or that he didn’t take the lead a little, especially knowing it was your first time and that you were nervous. That can be tough. But I’m really glad to hear you still had a good time overall. Sometimes just taking that step, even if it’s not perfect, is something to be proud of. You deserve connection and comfort, and I hope your future experiences are even more aligned with what you want and need.

Being in the closet can feel incredibly isolating, but it’s often a form of protection—and in some cases, survival. There’s absolutely no shame in taking your time. You have every right to come out on your terms, when you feel safe and ready. No one else gets to dictate that timeline. Your identity is real, even if no one else knows it yet. Who you are matters—even if, for now, it’s just between you and your reflection. That’s still brave. That’s still valid. Take the time you need. If it helps, speaking with a trusted friend or a professional therapist can be grounding. And if you’re feeling the need to explore yourself sexually in a safe, consensual space, working with a provider can be one way to do that too—without shame or judgment. What matters most is that you feel safe, respected, and in control of your journey.

Try not to regret anything about your first time - there’s so much at play. Pressure. Expectations. Nerves. Having a short window of time to be intimate with a complete stranger. Etc. etc. It’s a lot and can be overwhelming. One question though if you don’t mind me asking - If had communicated your needs and he had clearly read and understood what you wanted like you said, do you have any sense of why those activities didn’t happen until the end? Do you think he was waiting for you to initiate or ask out loud?

Probably — I stopped counting after the private island.

I was hoping you would. I love this story.

This kind of response packs in a lot of gender essentialism and casually reinforces the very double standards I’m calling out. Saying that “gravity is less kind to women” or that male aging “produces masculine results” isn’t objective truth—it’s cultural bias dressed up as biology. These are narratives we’ve absorbed, not immutable facts. And yes, women may have more freedom to wear makeup—but that “freedom” comes with expectation. The beauty industry didn’t grow into a multi-billion-dollar machine because women are less pressured to look a certain way. Quite the opposite. So when we talk about aging and appearance, we’re not on a level playing field. The standards are still different, the judgments still harsher, and the room for error—especially in the public eye—still much smaller for women.