PhileasFogg

I would take any recommendations or advertising claims by @ChaseTheDreamXx with a grain of salt

You’d think he’d want to gain the insight of clients who do it, do it well, and do it with respect. But no, he just pisses them off by fighting with constructive feedback

Many providers do set boundaries and own it - they say “can’t host” - “have a day job, so only available on weekends” - “no pnp” -“need 24 hr notice” They put it out there, accept the trade off (reduced engagements) and don’t whine - or more importantly, don’t blame everything else BUT personal choices. Now, I think JB has equal concern about not being treated with respect And he deserves respect His superpower would be refusing to engage and finding satisfaction of only working with clients on HIS terms

Apparently blocking the profile doesn’t block posts that are quoted. Like you, I’m a strong advocate for providers rights and fair/respectful treatment. And I’m fiercely loyal to my regulars but I cannot ensure their satisfaction with their chosen vocation just like I can’t with my own - we are, in short, in for the distance or not But consistently, this young man asks for advice or insight, gets it, and then argues with the opinions and perspectives offered. So, I’d like to help, but life’s too short. i think your comments have been graceful and kind and I appreciate what you’ve said. I still fear they are falling on deaf ears. But as I said earlier, I respect this young man’s resilience in the face of frequent frustration. https://matterco.co/the-maybe-story/

The solution suggested by many in his previous personas was “find a new career”

Congratulations? 🤪

Yes. But they are powerless.

It’s a risk with any threesome, isn’t it?

Gracias to @liubit for guiding me. Time to move on

This is beginning to sound like the experience I shared above with skyler in New Orleans. His attitude is “I deserve it, you have it, therefore it’s mine to keep.” Or young RM name “Kaiden_Foxx” who ghosted me days before a weeklong trip to NYC (that was expensive!). Or “Tyler P,” the Northeastern Grad Student who texted me and then blocked me as I was driving to pick him up at the airport saying he wasn’t on the plane and was getting off RM for good (that was an $800 plane ticket I didn’t get back) What about my means justifies their actions? The aggregate loss on those three examples is nearly $6K. Your Instacart example is ridiculous. They deliver the goods before they’re paid. If there’s a problem, I make a call and get a refund. You have an odd and entitled perspective that I suspect bleeds into your interactions with clients. I encourage you to stick only to the profile you seek and stop complaining about the rest. I figured out the mitigation on the plane tickets - first time encounters are booked with miles. Then, if it’s cancelled, the credit comes back to me in miles and not eCredit to the ticket holder…but there are still other costs at risk like hotels, dinner reservations, show tickets, etc. But the moment I start making reservations, I have much more at risk than a provider deposit.

Well, then THEY are your target market. They want you on YOUR terms. Find more of them. NOW, if THEY are good enough for you, then you don’t have a grievance. But you do have a grievance, so, you’re not listening because ONCE AGAiN, by pointing these few examples out, you’re proving that you simply want to get a better result doing things exactly the same way. good luck… Can someone PM the instructions for blocking someone…I’ve tried to find them three times

I spent 18 months going through a series of experiments. I generally hire 2-3 times/month for travel and weekends - never less than overnight and usually 2-3 nights. So connection matters. After suffering through a few dramas and disappointments over a pool of about 20-30 guys, I’m focused on 5 who are mature, intelligent, and sober. Might I experiment with others? Maybe. But I don’t need to change a good thing with the ones I have Edited to add: one or two is not enough. One side or the other risks excessive dependency - either emotional, financial, or both

Much sweeter

+1 to CuteBlondeBoy I’m a big fan Also, checkout @Gilfson Or @JackValor if you can get ahold of him

Ditto this was such a predictable response congratulations, you are now the third person I’ve blocked. Unfortunately, I think the other two were you by a different name.

Correct. There have been a number of posts overtime drawing parallels to other businesses and the response is a rationalization of why his situation is different told through the filter of how it makes him feel. Unfortunately, business risk doesn’t have feelings. But I give him sincere credit for making a go of it as long as he has despite his frustration.

I snorkeled between the tectonic plates, went down in a volcano, climbed summits and hiked on the glacier…of course, I also hit nearly every lagoon on the golden circle too

I gave up fast food when I went gluten/dairy free (out of necessity) a decade ago. Occasionally take the grandkids to McDonald’s or Chik-fil-a but even with them it’s usually sit down, local owned dining. I’m glad to hear that McDonald’s is trying to innovate, but in the end, they’ve rarely offered something new that worked

I didn’t take it poorly. Either way, I enjoyed Orient Bay much more 30 yrs ago

You are right 😉

I agree with that approach. But sometimes, the circumstances become so arcane with broken trust that "more time, special treatment, and access" are meaningless. I'm not sharing space with someone I can't trust.

At the risk of being either pedantic or incorrect @mike carey, I believe the island is Saint Martin with the French side being Saint-Martin and the Dutch side being Sint-Maarten. Either way, I highly recommend the house distilled rum at Ocean82 in Marigot

Deposits take many forms. Reminds me of experience with a 30-something “twink” still operating in New Orleans. Apologizing in advance for the sour grapes, but sometimes the best reinforcement comes from true stories. Days before our first meet, he had a crisis with his mini storage contents being auctioned for non payment unless he had $181 by 5PM. I sent the money - cha ching - plus a bit Total $250. As the date approached a couple days later, “the vet was too expensive so now I don’t have the money to replace the tire to make the drive to your house.” I sent the money plus a bit - cha ching - another $250…I accidentally sent twice…so then I’m $750 into an overnight that has yet to happen. He did show for our for our first meeting…if I recall about 2 hrs late…but I was doubting until he rolled into the driveway Within 24 hrs of his arrival at my house, this situation started a spiral into the most dramatic chaos you could imagine. In the end, over the next 30 days, the “deposit” turned into $3,300 (to avoid eviction, groceries, ransoming his car from the impound lot for unpaid tickets….) that was to be repaid at $100/wk. of course, he missed a couple of planned engagements as well for lame excuses. Naturally, I’ve not seen a dime and his situation seems to have spiraled further out of control rendering him completely untrustworthy to me. So, first, I own the fact that I allowed myself to be hustled. But let’s call it what it is: - outsized deposits rooted in chaotic life management issues are not the mark of a professional and are a major red flag - life’s too short to get pulled into someone else’s drama A token deposit for a well reviewed professional gentleman is a valid business tool for them and evidence of good faith from you - particularly if they have costs to get to you. But when the request is rooted in a shaggy dog story to make you feel like an a$$hole if you say no, then it’s likely a hustle. Just say “no” and cancel the plans. If you’re conflicted about it, PM me for moral support As to this situation, I’d be more forgiving and tolerant if he’d made even a token attempt to repay. But his attitude is one of entitlement because I had the money to “give” so he shouldn’t have to repay. Such is the mark of the hustler who doesn’t have the standing to get a legitimate deposit but still wants money upfront.

In business we say there are three options - fast, inexpensive, high quality - but we can only choose two of the three. Sounds like @Veryshyone found the golden ticket and got all three wrapped in one!

This is just to share a funny story, but also to get advice. i currently live in Mississippi. My physician is the only Concierge MD in a 100 mile radius. So, I have good primary care support. They know I’m bi, active, and wanting regular STD testing. No problem. Once, I called and said “I think I need to get my throat swabbed for an STD.” They said “we can’t do it here, but we can send you to the outpatient clinic at the hospital…let me send in the order now.” So, I get to the hospital, get checked in and wait to be called. The MedTech brought me back and handed me the cup and pointed me to go pee in the cup. When I said, “I’m not here for a urine test but to have my throat swabbed” and explained it to her, she got that look on her face (that large southern black women have perfected) like I had a third eye and that I was crazy. So she called “upstairs” and they again said “pee in the cup.” I go through it again and then they finally say “oh, we don’t do that here, we send it off and it will take 10 days!” Hell, what’s the point to testing if the test takes as long as the natural resolution! so my question - how often do you get your throat swabbed and where do you get it done? How long does it take to get the results?