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Some people become so enamored with a person that they don’t want to share them. They become a form of chattel to be dominated and not a partner or companion. The nature of “an arrangement” is it must be mutually beneficial . The mind I’m referring to are unilaterally beneficial to the dominant party. and I probably should have said the healthy reason is access and companionship…not accessibility

Control. And I don’t mean that in a way that, for some, is healthy. but the healthy reason is access and accessibility.

I’m sure that was frustrating. But the guy that I spent the weekend with was far from that personality. He was bright, articulate, attentive, and very mature.

It went great absolutely yes

That’s an exhausting schedule with burnout in 30 days

I completely recommend him. Spent a weekend with me at my house. Bright, articulate, attentive, and giving

There’s much more to it than just sex edited to add: …if you find the right one

I’m not sure what you’re saying, but building on the well articulated comment @Jamie21 just made and using your example, the guy who works every 7-10 days better be ready to put on quite a show or he might go find himself high and dry for a month before he gets his next gig. The ninny isn’t the one with the cash, it’s the one arrogant enough to think that he can work two days a week and get ahead for a sustainable period.

That's completely not fair and misses the point. Relevant questions: Would he otherwise make $500/day, EVERY day, if he weren't on the trip? If so, then I suspect he wouldn't be accepting the offer at that price Your calculation doesn't account for sleep and recreation time. Adjusting for 8 hrs sleep, you're up to $31/hr. That's second quartile on the US wage distribution - which incidentally included skilled trades which have very high average wage/hour You aren't accounting was Payment in Kind - that is, the economic value of the travel, lodging, food, etc. My experience is that is probably totals about $1,500/day (in this case, probably more) of which he benefits from 50% of that cost bringing his effective benefit up to $1,250/day. In my experience, I've traveled with companions first class, provided first class accommodations, fine dining and bars, and great cultural entertainment depending on the location - all at a level that they would not otherwise be doing on their own. Then, there's the intangible benefit of something called "fun". So, it's not about what an individual service is "worth." It's about "does he make and receive more than he otherwise would have gotten?" And then, it's only up to HIM to decide if it's fair and/or if he received sufficient benefit, right? In that way, it's a simple math problem for him. The world is full of people that think their time is "worth" more than the market will pay - holding out for $xx. Many of those people are either unhappy or unemployed. @Coolwave35I'm glad to hear that you have a resolution on $. I hope the rest of the trip is great!

It’s over the top. I think it’s a vengeance post unless there are multiple similar reviews.

Suggest an amount of $/day plus you have all expenses covered. I’d suggest $500/day which, combined with travel costs, equals the general range for overnights.

Isn’t it simply about the bottom receiving prostate stimulation and contracting certain muscles?

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Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love gives a good reference point I’d suspect that “falling for” in this case is infatuation and nowhere near consummate love. It’s hard for me to think that commitment can truly exist in a transactional interaction. It’s also my sense that very few providers are comfortable with emotional transparency out of a sense of caution of course, if it is consummate love, I think it would be mutual and the transactional relationship would cease as it became mutual and requited

I’ve dated or been with multiple younger women and men over the last several years. The first rule is “don’t call me daddy” I have adult children. I have grandchildren. I have no desire to add a dependent in my life or to have a sexual partner calling me the same thing my kids do. it just ain’t gonna happen 😝

My house is for sale. The only thing attractive to me is cash

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I’m a little older than you. I’d say prices are high because the expectation is that older guys have more discretionary assets. Also, price negotiations are often a test to see if you can pay. I had one guy say “I quoted $500 because I wanted to be sure that it wasn’t your rent money and that you could afford it” When it became regular, the price went down this is an experiment for me after a divorce and a LTR breakup, men simply offer less drama than the previous women in my life Paraphrasing Sally Fields in “Forrest Gump” - “old is as old does.”

I’m trying to stay in touch with a past provider going through a tough time. Not about sex (we’re hours apart)…sharing humorous stories etc to try to cheer up. But the relationship dynamic is rarely such that you can give anything other than a gentle nudge…they have to know they need help

What you provide is irrelevant in the marketplace if others provide the same thing for less. What you're expressing is a concern over is a commoditization of your services at low cost. I can buy groceries at Kroger, or I could choose Publix or Whole Foods. They all sell food and my needs are basic. At the latter two, I pay considerably more, but the staff is friendly and engaged. At Kroger, I pay about 25-35% less - for FOOD. I choose low price. But this is not absolute - I still have a Rolex and not a Timex driving a Mercedes and not a Chevy. The economic concept is "utility" - and for some guys, the utility is getting head or touch from a warm hand and that's all. I think it's been said multiple times that the way to avoid commoditization is through building relationships with regulars offering repetitive income even if it's at a lower price. I understand your feelings. You see this as a slippery slope to commoditization that doesn't bode well for you in the crystal ball. But you're not bigger than the market and at some point, you may have to choose if this is the profession for you.

$150 is $150 more than you’d have if you do nothing. All else equal, like transportation distance etc. $150 is a gateway to regulars. When your available time is so booked from regulars that you have no room for more clients, then you have a commodity to barter with. That’s when you raise prices to maximize value on your time and make more doing less So the question is, would you rather do two clients a day for $150 each and make $1,500/wk to cover fixed costs, or wait in hope that someone will fly in from SoCal by chance. But if you wait, you may have made $3,000 in those two weeks AND still had the time for fun with the guy from SoCal. i come across a lot of folks (in many skills and trades) who say my time is worth $x. Unfortunately, until other people know they’re worth $x, then they’re not getting the calls. A decade ago, my half brother, a tradesman, once said “I will only work for $50/hr.” I guess that’s why he’s 54 yrs old and living with his father with plenty of time on his hands just my two cents… And btw…STL is not a wasteland….its just full of guys who will do basic stuff (or more) for $150. The market sets the price AND the expectation of “value for the money”…that capitalism. In my retirement, I consult for $150/hr. I’m booked full time with a six month backlog. Now’s the time for me to raise prices. And I’ll sent you a bill for $37.50 for the 15 minutes I spent on this consultation…😉

Onions, peppers, garlic, gluten, dairy….yeah, my oven is REAL clean Oh yeah…and I avoid sugar too but, I’m accustomed to it and have no complaints. no, I’m not celiac, but I have a direct cause/effect outcome. Dairy causes my retired complexion to act like a teenager. Onions and peppers make me belch. Garlic makes me self conscious.

If I’m reading the table in the link correctly, zero%

Viagara is not an override to lack of arousal.

Honestly, I've had some very good experiences with guys who were "panned" on here. I'm sure that some of the bad reviews here are justified in the moment. But having met some of the guys, I think it was either a bad circumstance, poor communication, or unreasonable expectations. But that's sheer speculation.