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Thanks for the suggestions. I have visited Omaha and Lincoln and have a couple regs there from my last visit, but I don’t think it’s conducive to a gay ethnic male provider trying to streamline his possibilities. Omaha is a place to have on an occasional rotational. Omaha has flakes to the high levels of extremes, and those areas tend to be out of tune with the whole paying for pleasure aspect of living. They are so used to seeing ethnic folk as low and/or 2nd class citizens or working in service type of industries. So when they see a real life professional, it can be a bit too foreign for most of them. Not all, but the majority. Kansas City can be the same way, which is why I’m 1 foot out the door here. I’ve been to North Carolina a handful of times. Both before and after. Prior to these laws being passed, North Carolina was a busy state for me on my first trip to Raleigh and Charlotte. It seems afterwards, things there changed up a bit. Maybe because of: https://statelaws.findlaw.com/north-carolina-law/north-carolina-prostitution-and-solicitation-laws.html https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.wral.com/new-law-would-help-in-fight-against-north-carolina-s-thriving-illicit-massage-business/16832136/?version=amp

Which extracurricular activities though?

Thanks, and good key points. I know Austin has also been compared to Nashville as well. Live music. Food. The “Liberal” island on the sea of intolerance. Whenever I really start considering a city, I always google “why I left (insert city)”. There’s usually always tons of blogs or forum posts out there somewhere, in which people address the real issues about living in a city. I know it seems pessimistic, but I’d rather weigh the whys and why nots BEFORE moving there and finding out. Austin seems to have a long list of “why I left” articles in my search. Some are just personal reasons, others are quite humorous yet believable to an extent: And let me say one more thing to @Beancounter and @OliverSaks and @MiamiLooker. Because I don’t appreciate being made to feel like there’s something “wrong” with me. I need to break it down, 1 more time. I’ve traveled to many cities/states, and I’ve met people who live there. I don’t just fly into a city, have clients come in on a conveyor belt, and go home. I actually do real life stuff. And based on all the “real life” stuff I’ve done, I’ve determined MAJORITY of people have either been in the same city/state their whole life, or they have only made 1 or 2 major moves when they were children or early adults, but at the decision of their parents. OR, they made a major move...but end up going BACK to the city they grew up in. I’ve seen that over and over and over again. The average gay guy out here who’s not a flight attendant or in the adult business, are staying in the same city most of their life. Many gay guys my age think too basically mentally, to pack up and relocate. That’s why all my long distance “flings” never pan out. They can only think about what’s happening locally, and are scared to either move someone to them or pack up and leave their safety nest and go elsewhere. The ones who do leave their 1st or 2nd hometowns, are the ones savvy enough to either land a career, or find a partner and move somewhere together (usually for their careers). At that point, they have each other and the social/financial ducks just naturally line up. However, if that relationship goes sour, guess where that person will likely go? Back to their hometown. For me, going back to my hometown isn’t on the menu. I sorta did move back to Florida, but once you’ve traveled the country: lived in Texas, lived in Colorado, lived in Tennessee, spent extended periods in Wisconsin, Washington DC, Phoenix, Las Vegas, Missouri, California, Minnesota: you realize there’s an actual world outside of where you were born and raised! You may never want to go back! As much as I can talk smack about different cities, I also equally appreciate each in their own way. Texas was the 1st state I moved to outside of Florida (at the direction of my parents). I hated it. Moved back to Florida. 2 years into it, nothing was happening. I moved back to Texas, and got into the escort game. At that point, that’s when the epiphany struck: Instead of going back and forth between Texas and Florida, what should I do? Ummmmm....maybe move to a state that’s not Texas or Florida. And that’s exactly what I did. But basic minded people, or those who are constantly cosseted by their family and friends will rarely ever understand what it’s like to make big moves, because it’s too scary for them. When I move from a city, whatever relationship/dates I had usually fizzle because they don’t have the ability to see themselves moving to a new city unless it’s for job or family. And that’s fine and understandable. Who wants to move to a city where they don’t know anyone and have to start life over? People who have stepped out, won’t have that problem. Had I never left Florida to begin with, I would have most likely still been living there. I used to think I never wanted to live anywhere else besides Tampa, Miami and Orlando. Nowadays, I don’t even have those places on my travel list, unless I’m specifically seeing a specific person. So point I’m making: don’t fault me for not being able to decide on my “home city”. Most people out here wouldn’t be able to find theirs either unless someone or something (Job or family) forced them to move there. Not many can make that endeavor on their own reconnaissance.

Well...the point I was making was for that to even happen at all, just goes to show what one is up against. Your father in law knows you, so of course he’s going to throw something out there like that. Some random out in public getting in your face and saying that to you, is uncalled for. I’m not interested in approval either unless it’s making me money, but that doesn’t mean I should accept being called out of my name in public. Nor do I want to position myself in regions where people think it’s anywhere close to acceptable to do that in.

Lol...that’s funny, but let’s not get too off topic. I was trying to make a slightly humorous yet informational type of thread about cities. I wasn’t intending to turn it into a Dallas or South bash. And I really didn’t want to dredge up the past in order to make my point, but some people won’t understand, unless you break it down to them. @MiamiLooker, @Beancounter and @OliverSaks shouldn't discredit someone’s choices until they actually understand the reasons WHY. Your advice about picking a city and playing it by ear sounds good, but the hardest part is the moving. I don’t want to spend all the money to move, then be dissatisfied. I want to move someplace where I can be content for at least 2-4 years. My shortest move was to San Antonio. I was so eager to leave Dallas at the time, but I stayed in San Antonio for about 8 months before I decided to pack it in. I had a couple good friends, couple good dating opportunities, but the market was stagnant. When I visited a different city and had a client every day for 5 days straight...I knew it wasn’t a problem with “me”, but a matter of I had needed to get out of there. And I did. Leaving a place in that short of time just isn’t fun because you’re ready to go as soon as you get settled. So don’t want to do that again.

Well that’s insightful. Despite me mentioning the unlikeable things about Dallas, I’m very aware Dallas is a “World Class” City. I was even thinking on my last visit couple months ago, maybe I should move back to Dallas. I love the buildings, the endless choices of 3, 4 and 5 star hotels for reasonable prices, the Galleria and North Park malls, Reverchon Park, Plethoras of restaurant choice, Midtown spa/Club Dallas, Cedar Springs/Oaklawn bars and shops...so much to do. But then it hit me as to why I don’t. The reasons are almost hard to recognize, but over time it adds up. The stuff I’ve heard and had experienced in Dallas tends to remind me that it’s simply not open-minded enough to settle in. And making the wrong move in Texas could get one KILLED. Especially if you’re of certain ethnicities. Like the time I’ll never forget: some old cowboy guy in Fort Worth came over to our table at Whataburger as we were about to sit, and exclaimed “that’s my seat!” As me and my Hispanic friend were POLITELY walking away, he yells, FAGGOTS! Mind you...this was in completely packed restaurant on a Saturday night after 2 am (generally not a time to engage with idiots). Not being one to back down (though nowadays I would have just walked away and said some choice words), I turned around and addressed him. Then the police tried to arrest ME! Meanwhile, still let this deplorable walk around the restaurant intimidating people. Texas is a state built on honoring some, while punishing others. That’s why hurricane season there is so vicious. They’re growing larger so they can reach Dallas instead of just Houston lol. Repercussions bitch! Lol (please don’t take that with too much seriousness, natural disasters are no laughing matter) Good point...but yes. It applies to all Bible Belt cities, except for a select few smaller markets. Little Rock seems to not apply. Oklahoma City seems to not apply. Iowa seems to be in a special class of its own as well. But places like Atlanta, Dallas, Nashville, Charlotte...too many games and nonsense going on in those places. (And I guess Iowa isn’t in the Bible Belt...considering Roseanne) http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/736x/26/b7/8c/26b78ca89dbcfeb091c506fb416b3a1e.jpg

Do you really think I’m going to take the advice of someone who perpetually has nothing good to add to anything I post? NO. Thankyou, bye ?? I accept your apology. But show me your psychology license before you try to psycho analyze me. And then show me where you’ve actually sat down and had a real life conversation me, seen what I’m actually doing and whether that equates to “running from something”. Then see why I actually feel the way about certain places, and why I want to make sure the next move I make is a carefully considered one. Show me, and everyone on the forum that...and I will critically acclaim your statement about “running from something”. Because right now all you’re doing is talking fluff and making up stuff.

That’s true, but remember I didn’t say people in LA were all about money. That’s not what I said. I was simply quoting what a guy I met who lives in LA..TOLD me about the general “scene” there. Granted, this guy drove a BMW...so it’s like, I’m sure he’s perpetrating the same image of “status” just like he claims others in LA are doing. But otherwise you are right. LA has tons of opportunity and lifestyle, I don’t even have to reiterate it. However, I’ve also heard others say there’s nothing going on there either. Sometimes a city can have everything going on, but yet nothing at all in the same. When I was in LA for a week after Palm Springs last month, it was eerily quiet. No solid business inquiries, just flakes. I dare say I was even a bit bored until my last day, I just popped on Grindr, met a guy from France, took us to West Hollywood, met his friends, then swapped dates at the end of the night. So IMO, Los Angeles is good for “fun”, but probably not somewhere where anybody can “start up” in without a large budget. I know guys who made the moves to New York and LA “back then”, but due to the logistics of today, couldn’t make those same moves.

My point exactly. Once you are there for awhile, you eventually end up becoming adjusted to the surroundings. You thought I was going to say something about not being there long enough. If you’re going to dredge up some old thread from 3 years ago, in an effort to add negativity (because let’s face it, things were going okay until you stuck your nose here and said something negative), then be prepared to get something negative back in return. I’m just doing what you’re do. Criticize.

Things: Besides the usual pleasure items, I’ve now began carrying “entertainment” material as well. Anything that’s going to make the session feel like an experience. Expectations: Define sleep. Boundaries. Will sex be spontaneous or reserved for certain time of day? Are you comfortable to sleep next to, or will your guest be woken on and off all night? Behaviors: How does PDA fair? Do you make suggestive statements around others? Will the other person feel comfortable with it, or do they prefer a level of discretion?

I’ve already established that if I go forward with settling back in Colorado, things will be different than before. I’ll be living IN Denver, versus the outer suburbs where I was before. Even though I had access to get to the city at all times, I think living in the west suburbs cut me off from some of the social scene. I still had to “drive” to socialize. Versus just be able to walk around and down the street. I stayed at the Downtown/Colfax hotels earlier this month, and it was much easier to meet people. This time, I’d be coming with someone who’s also relocating back, and has connections. However, part of me is still concerned Denver might ultimately be a step backwards. The long driving distances weren’t a big deal for me, but it’s a factor when there’s not enough cities within range to meet clients. Many of the villages to the west are sporadic with clients, the small Wyoming market died off once craigslist died, Montana has been a nearly non-existent market, and the only major cities is a 400+ mile drive in either direction Well that’s good. I was just in Los Angeles last month. I had a good time on my last visit, but I can’t see myself living there. $4.50 per gallon was grating my nerves fast when pushing a V8 with 20 MPG. And my haircut in LA was $35! A black haircut usually is never more than $20-25 in any city. Guys there have told me California and LA is just all about money. Spend, spend, spend...more than what shit is worth. I’m just not with all the over priced stuff. But what about it makes you feel at home?

But the problem is, Nashville has become nearly unaffordable in many levels. Just to get a hotel in the city for the night, is over $200 a night. I had an apartment there 2015-2017, a basic box of an apartment with few amenities. No pool, no fitness center, outside parking. Mediocre area of town near the airport, but down the hill was the MEXI-ghetto. They threw some remodeling on it and called it a “boutique” apartment built a Mercedes dealership close by off of i40 and Briley parkway. By the time I left, they had gone up to over $800 a month. I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s $1,000 now. It was a miserable apartment in miserable city. And when winter hit, I think my cat was the only one that pretty much prevented me from wanting to kill myself in that apartment some days. When I moved, I had to let her go. But she served a purpose during a miserable time. I actually do miss that place from time to time. It’s sad because just as I was moving, I finally met who I think could have been my dream man. I was barely making a dime in Nashville. I had my own place to host in the city, and 2 cars to do outcalls...and was still not making any major money. It wasn’t until I left that I started making the money I deserve. Kansas City and Nashville are twins in how the “scene” operates. Both cities are full of flakes and bullshitters who rarely follow thru. A couple big businesses and tech startups moving to a city don’t impress me. It’s the mentality and overall setup of the city. Nashville has lots of money savvy queens strutting around, but guess what? It’s all kept “in the family”. They also look down on sex work in that city, as once again...the whole Bible Belt location plays a part. Most open minded people aren’t going to accept jobs in cities that seem overly conservative. Therefore, even if a big company moves someplace, that may only bring in an extra 1 or 2 clients...if any. I think @VictorPowers could relate, considering Salt Lake City has been dubbed “Wall Street of the West”. That doesn’t mean you’re going to get the same results as being on the New York Wall Street.

Yes, you’re absolutely right. I can’t FATHOM it either. I have talked some things Dallas, but I’ve also gone back to visit and had a good time, and went home. That’s my relationship with Texas now. I go to visit, and after a couple days or so I leave. And? Just because I “bad mouth” a place doesn’t mean much in the scheme of things. Let me ask: how much time have YOU spent in Dallas? I was there for over 2 years, so I can talk a bit of shit about it. Do I need to remind you why? Between the racism, the crime, the alcoholism, the high police presence/profiling, the annual (flying) cricket plague, the traffic, the long commutes, the untrustworthy “Dallitude” gay scene, megachurches and overall Bible Belt location, racist Whites, mean Blacks, rude Hispanics, relentless 100 degree summers, constant allergies/air quality issues, tons of stray cats, icy winters where you walk out and your car is encased in ice... Yeah, gotta love Dallas. But that’s not the point of the topic, is it? That said...I respect Texas and their cities and lots of fun can be had. However, it’s one thing to visit and another to live. And if you’re not living in a prestigious neighborhood (bubble) in Dallas, you’re going to see the “other” side of Texas.

I’m not suggesting. Those towns ABSOLUTELY only revolve around 1 OR 2 things. It’s a fact. Like I said...known for 1 OR 2 things. You named 2 things. Tech and University. Same with Nashville: Tech and University and Country Music. I been to Austin a few times while I lived in San Antonio and lived in Nashville over a year. I know what’s up. There’s nothing bad about country music, or tech or universities. BUT...my experience in those type of cities is either A) if you’re not affiliated with the above, you’re considered an outsider or B) assumed that you came to the area for those opportunities. Why else would I move to either of those cities otherwise? Nashville and Austin aren’t cities people move to for shits and giggles. When I told people in Denver I was moving to Nashville, first thing people said was, “for country music?”. Yes, it’s a stereotype and misconception and I know Austin and Nashville are known for other things...but the core of the city for both places is either the Texas LongHorns for Austin or the Broadway live music in Nashville. Without those, don’t tell me that either city would be recognizable on the map. It just wouldn’t be. All the tech stuff and satellite industries simply revolve around those things. Also Austin and Nashville just overall aren’t the busiest cities for me work-wise so I wouldn’t even look at them as relocation spots again. One thing I liked about Palm Springs, is people don’t ask, “so why did you move here???” Or “why would you leave Florida to come HERE??” (As every person in Kansas City asks me). People move to Palm Springs for no other reason but to be gay and themselves. I want to be able to move to a city for no other reason, but to be ME. Not to be a part of what that city has going on for itself.

Well...I have noticed that more and more of my client’s parents have either passed or have declining health. I think it’s the result of the aging “baby boomer” era. But to have these young men going left and right, it’s just a reminder that gay men’s life expectancy is still shorter than others. Matter of fact, to be more specific, in all the examples I gave above, only 1 was White. So more exclusively, there are many older White gay men, but I feel ethnic gay men face many hurdles on the road to longevity. And by ethnic I mean all outside of White, not just simply Black.

This past week has been a sobering time (though I still been drinking more than usual lol). It's making me want to change my relations with people. I was searching for a long lost friend the other day, and when I finally found his name...it shows he was deceased since 2016. That was 6 years after I last seen him. So for 9 years, I couldn't find him, and when I finally did...it was too late. I called a friend, feeling very emotional. After that same conversation, I helped him find his ex husband whom he hadn't heard from im awhile. He found out that he recently passed away at around 25. Just the week prior, he found out an old friend in Chicago was murdered, at just 28 years old. Not too long ago, I was next to a friend who was discussing another friend having committed suicide. Couldn't of been older than 30. And just a couple years ago, me and that same friend lost a mutual friend in a horrific car accident. He was only around 26 years old. And with all that being the case, I'm still trying to cope with the tragic, and "deemed" suicidal loss of one of my favorite clients, who wasn't quite 60. It's just so crazy. People disappear, and you think "oh I havent heard from them in awhile". Well check. Maybe they're in need of help, or guidance. I'm tired of it being swepped under the rug and dismissed. Some of the ones who've died, they go away and nobody stops to think what could have prevented it from the start

Thanks for the suggestions. The hub idea is always something to keep in mind. However, I can add in 3 optional put off-ers: #5: Don’t want to pick states I’ve already lived (except maybe Colorado, which I’m debating) #6: Don’t want states with extreme laws (seems North Carolina is one) #7: Don't want small town big cities. Aka, cities who's economy/livelihood revolves around 1 or 2 things: e.g. A university (Austin), country music (Nashville), or a sports team (Green Bay). Texas, Texas, Texas. What can I say. I read they recently passed a bill criminalizing “texting unsolicited erotic material”. That could mean just about anything Texas would also land as #1 on my list: too saturated. Dallas and Houston has opportunity and potential, but everyone else is trying to get the same opportunity and potential as well. Austin lies at #4 cost of living and San Antonio at #2 with the limited (also wanted to use the word homogeneous) scene. Fort Worth and Arlington I’m familiar with. Neither 2 cities have much of a business potential. I think in two years living there, I might of had like 3 to 5 clients. I would generally drive 30-40 miles to Dallas anytime I had a client. Oklahoma City has mostly tapered off from where it was a few years ago, I have made a couple trips there this year. There’s still clients there, but usually after 1 or 2 days, it dries up. New Orleans, I don’t have a ton of experience in...but I have been thru there and Baton Rouge. Based on the demographics of the area, I just don’t envision it being a hot spot for me. This isn’t to pick apart your suggestions, but I’m glad you brought it up because that’s what makes it so hard to choose. Places may look good on the map, on paper, but they may not be suitable for my needs. Of course cities change, my brand changes, and new clients are born daily. So it’s not gospel. I have a former client who’s moving back to Colorado from Atlanta because he couldn’t find the opportunities he went for. I’m like yeah, Atlanta is the most cutthroat city in the south next to Miami, for finding jobs or clients. After spending a week in Los Angeles earlier this month, I said if Atlanta and Miami were to ever panagea together, that's what Los Angeles is.

Interesting, but you didn’t say which city that is? Cold winters, brutally hot and humid, non stop flight anywhere in the world....Is it Washington DC? Unfortunately, friends and family don’t really factor into my decision, because previous relos doing so have ended up in regret. I thought about moving to Las Vegas to be close to some “good” people I met, but I wasn’t away but for 3 weeks before everything went bottom up. It was just that, a thot. Following my heart usually works best.

I spent a couple of days at a porn/cam etc. producer’s home...and he showed me how he another co-worker of his would scan the “tube” sites and have such letters sent out...usually to the company itself, and then the company notifies the user. So people are watching regardless.

Interesting...I’m kinda along the same workflow, 1 client a day when I’m home but can manage 2 or 3 when I’m out of town. I can manage 2 or 3 locally too, but the town I’m in, is a one a day type of place. Unless I’m doing a project or making plans with people though, I always feel like I SHOULD be seeing clients if I’m not doing those things. I feel like there’s this pressure to always have a client, always be having sex and fucking. Some of the Social media aspect of sex work can make one feel like you have to keep a constant stream of sex and money going, otherwise you’re irrelevant.

True, but also all the casinos are public places. One doesn’t have to stay at the hotel to go to the casino or even use the hotel pool. I imagine the surveillance is more for theft, robbery, mass shooting...versus meet n greet, date which I’m sure happens all day every day in Vegas. With so many people coming and going, it’s very easy to not standout. Smaller hotels where you have to cross the front desk, smile and say hello to get to the elevator...not so

So going into next month, I’m city/apartment searching for landing a place to home base out of. I’ve posted up for extended periods in about 6 cities over the course of 10 years. So I have seen a few places. I don’t know if it’s the general circumstances of being “new” to a city, or having to navigate the challenges or having seen many cities and making comparisons. If anyone is familiar with hip hop or even regular football/sports culture, everything is all about “representing your city”. I can’t remember the last time I’ve felt like I loved a place enough to “rep” a city. When the Denver broncos won super bowl, everything was all about Denver. Even though I was in Denver, and it was nice to be a part of something, I couldn’t take pride in it because I didn’t feel I embodied the Denver “culture” or “scene”. Therefore for me to parade Denver as a city to embrace, just wasn’t me. I also cringe when I turn on the news and a segment about “all the city has to offer” and “hundreds of people are moving here” comes on. All of that stuff to me is fluff, and rarely ever address gay needs as a whole, which in many cities are rarely included as a factor in the makeup of a city. I’m currently looking at a couple other cities but turning up empty handed. The main 4 factors that put me off a city: Market is either too saturated or not steady busy enough (Las Vegas, Kansas City, Atlanta) the gay “scene” is either too limited or repressed (Salt Lake City, Nashville, Iowa, New Mexico) the weather being too extreme: either endless summers with no winters or too long winters/cloudy days (Orlando, Minneapolis, Phoenix, Chicago) the COL is too high (Washington DC, San Francisco, Miami, New York). I’m wondering if the perfect city for me doesn’t exist in America, and I’ll have to resort to choosing whichever is the easiest city to move to for now...and working thru it’s shortcomings lol. I think of places like Brisbane, Saint Tropez, Barcelona, Prague...being places where I’d enjoy on many levels. But without work Visas or pertinent reasons and resources to get there, it’s not possible to make it a reality yet.

I won’t slang California too much considering I was just there last month for the 2019 Palm Springs, but basically...Californians can be flaky. BUT...in defense That’s not to say all those people in California are FROM California. However, my last visit I had so much fun in California I didn’t want to leave. Everyone was really nice, and I didn’t encounter too many flakes until I went to LA...and even then, I end up just going out in West Hollywood and meeting a new group of friends. Like I said, I haven't really had but 1 bad experience in California (think the “client” was some Asian guy with phimosis who was like 15 years old, and I left after 3 minutes”, which is surprising considering the type of place it is, but I always go on high alert and caution anyway. I would say places worst than California when it comes to being “alert”: Boston, Chicago, Miami, perhaps New York, and perhaps Phoenix, Las Vegas.

Was that a compliment or??? Lol. I’m confused. That’s tragic... It’s hard to tell. I know I’ve been thru the gamut with lost relationships, lost clients, friendships broken. It’s tragic and sad how people act some days. Personally, I know escorts are often touted to “be professional”, but it’s also on the client’s end to be professional too. I often think, clients have no idea what’s going on behind our scenes. Clients see an ad with hot naked pics, and think we’re ready when they’re ready. You just never know. I popped off on a client couple weeks ago big time. He had texted me moments after a dude I’d spent 5 days with in Las Vegas, tell me he’s not trying to be in a relationship. I could have just block/delete, but I wasn’t in the right mind frame. And having a client jerk you around when you’re already feeling betrayed, it’s the right recipe for an altercation. So, I wouldn’t dump the bucket of drama on him right now...maybe let it cool off and then state you only have X amount to give him, would he be willing to meet for that, and then discuss the rate hike in person. It’s sad people use texts to discuss the hardest of topics. A phone is a lifeless device, and people don’t understand how different their words come across. The guy who said he wasn’t tryna be in a relationship, I wouldn’t of never thought in a million years he’d end up becoming the royal jerk he was over texts versus his in person demeanor. It was as if someone took over his phone and it wasn’t him.

That’s s good point you made there. I had made a thread awhile back about a client I “lost” to another “escort”. Me and @Robster had even gotten into a virtual altercation about it. But couple years later, the client is still seeing this guy. Regularly. As in, relationship. It just dawned on me, I didn’t lose the client to another escort, it just so happened the other escort lived in close proximity to my former client friend. And my client lives in a rural town that’s 600-700 miles from the nearest high rise building. And there’s usually no trace of escorts in both his state and all of the states bordering it. So he hit the jackpot with this guy. He had offered me to move in with him (jokingly, but I could tell that wasn’t far off from his desires). I didn’t want to move to a place that gets 6 feet of snow in January and a winter that lasts from September to May. So, understandably when a guy who’s similar to me happens to move down the street, of course they’re going to develop a relationship, and I’ll lose that relationship. Some clients want a boyfriend, and look for it in escorts (or vice versa, as one client told me). I’m not going to say that’s right or wrong, but it’s not going to be suitable for every encounter...even if it is a regular thing going. I think most escorts would agree it’s an uncomfortable place to be, because if you don’t agree to be boyfriends with the client, you can pretty much bet it to be over. That’s why I tend to like my “confirmed bachelor” clients. They’re not trying to get involved or obligate you to date them. You can see them every 6-12 months and each time, they haven’t changed up and “found someone new” to replace you with.