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Thank you for meeting up with me, I'm not exactly sure who you are but if you would like to we can discuss this matter further. In response to your post - 
I do not have any issues with getting hard provided the person I am with is hygienic, respectful, and makes me feel safe, turned on, and comfortable with my surroundings and situation.
I consider myself a neutral person who tries to find something attractive in everyone that I meet. However some people I just cannot get along with. My information is public and rarely I meet up with the wrong type of people. Some of them are ignorant, racist, arrogant, criminals, liars, drug addicts, etc. They ask me to do things I am not willing to do and as a professional I ignore them and continue to make the time we spend together the best that it can be. I have met people who have lived in disgusting houses filled with roaches, I've been thrown up on by a drunk man, I've had people overdose in front of me, tried to scam me, steal from me, drug me and rape me, verbally and physically abuse me, so once a person makes me feel uncomfortable i follow my intuition and I am on high alert.
I am not a flakey person. I am on time and if I am running late I always inform beforehand. I am flexible with my scheduling and even drive long distances to meet people. I respond to messages when I can, but realize I have my own life with its own obligations. I own an art gallery, spend times with friends and family, and enjoy my own peace and quiet to unwind from life. 
As for being focused on getting pleasure. Yes I do like that. It feels good to be licked, touched, and sucked and I get aroused from having someone worshiping me. I focus on them too 😁. Always make it a hot time. 

Just had a fabulous 90-minute massage session with him in Austin. What a sweet man, talented massage skills, naturally hairy, MT & HE. Will repeat when I'm visiting Austin again! 

Being rimmed by a hot guy with a beard like that is a great otherworldly experience 

My heart goes out to you @Charlie 
It is an unfortunate feature of our lives as we age. A lovely old woman (who was much more of a mother to me than my own Mother) once lamented that in her 90s, she had outlived all her old friends. 
 
And I’ve been enduring something similar in the last 18 months with the death of some friends of many years. I still have 2 friends from childhood and I have 3 ex-lovers who have been good friends for years. 
 
One particular case has hit me hard. A very old friend died and after 40 years of friendship, he relied on me for everything in his last 2 years. He left me his entire estate but I have unresolved grief as, only after his death, did cousins emerge to contest his will. The cousins were truly distant as my friend had no contact of any sort with them in the last 30-40 years. They have been vicious in waging a legal battle and it is emotionally exhausting to spend endless hours in lawyers’ offices going over the past - luckily I have the resources to pay for 2 law firms and an expert Counsel on estate law. It has really brought home to me the importance of not just making a will but ensuring that others cannot contest it (and cannot destroy evidence or steal property).
It’s a great asset if you can find younger friends to help you. I have 3 such men in their 30s as friends. And I do have a young lover in his 30s who has been remarkably supportive, loving and helpful during a difficult time for me.

I remember Charlus now that you bring him up. I started on HooBoy back in 2002. And I vaguely remember his interest in Proust. Sorry you have lost his friendship and the other person you mention. 
 
Living a long life entails loss of friends and old lovers. It happens to all of us who enter the golden years. For my generation AIDS cut a huge swath through our ranks.
 
I have many photos of those I lost. To see their vibrant faces in my photo albums brings back many happy memories and I don’t let it get me down. 

Long time members may remember him. He was never extremely active on here. Using the search function on this new website, the last post I could find from him was from 2007. Even with him gone I don't want to give too many personal details. But in case it might jog someone's memory, he was a retired English professor. He had an especial interest in Proust-hence his screen name  
I hadn't 'talked,' well emailed, with him for 4 or 5 years. I tried contacting him over the last several months-but couldn't find him. I  recently came across his obituary from January. 

He (along with one other now deceased member) was a friend and advisor when I really needed one. We actually managed to meet in person on three separate occasions. Even though it had been years since we were in contact, it still hurts that he's gone. 
 
If I can bring myself  to do it, I might be posting more in depth about these two friends I've lost.  It's definitely more difficult to grieve when you're grieving by yourself. In one case -the friend who passed years ago-he has family left-but -and we were only platonic friends-I'm not someone known to them. In Charlus' case -he was an only child, a bachelor with no significant other as far as I know-with the only family left being cousins. 

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Pics lead to a grad student in NYC with a BF even hotter than he is.
After looking at his profile, received this IM unsolicited:
"Hi, my name is Tiagogato. I’m 22 years old. I’m a TOP, and I’m flexible in bed.
— I have a friend who is top, and he could join us for a threesome if you are interested.
- I charge $250 per hour. If you come to my spa (in-call) for an erotic massage. Or if you decide you want me to do an outcall, it costs $300 per hour
- $450 per hour working by myself. I give you a nice massage to start, and then I fuck you however you want, very passionate or dominant.
- $800 per hour when It’s a threesome"
 

He looks way older than 41

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Yeah there recently was a guy who came to Buffalo. I said I see you're visiting my area soon can you unlock. He replies back are you looking to hire me. I said possibly depending on your rate and if we match up sexually. He blocked me then right after that. Like I'm not going to commit and say yes absolutely I'm hiring you to see your private gallery. Yeesh.

Took one for the team. He's hot and is gay despite what his profile says.  It was fun. He's tall, good looking, and has a sexy voice.  Will prob hire again at some point but would like to try others first. 

I’m more hesitant if they’re “straight.” 

Just found this thread and other Conner threads and had to thow my cents in. Yes, he's pricey but I want to say that it's pretty much worth it, for a "bundle" of reasons:
He has a great, perhaps not perfect body, and a great big lovely cock. He has a great, perhaps not perfect face, eyes and smile. He has a great, if not perfect personality (like actually) and is sweet and kind and not a clockwatcher, and you can depend on him not to dip out on any of those attributes for your 400 bones.
Perhaps 350 would be a a more "Acceptable" price for a non-adonis, but adonises can be idiots who are terrible at sex. He is neither of those things, so think of it as him asking for a gratuity in advance, which is a bit cocky but I do not think you're being cheated.

Maybe it's just me, but I prefer the idea of travelling to meet guys rather than flying them to me. Two or three days in New York or Toronto (or both) would give you the opportunity to meet two, three, or however many you choose, of these fine gentlemen. If you're expecting to pay a return fare across the pond, it may as well be your bum on the seat.

For context, I’m 63, white, and though I’m tall and slender, I consider myself an average guy. I mention this for those who, like me, may wonder about the connection between client and provider. Rest assured, age or physical appearance won’t be an issue. I think more of us should share these details so others in our demographic can relate and make informed decisions based on similar experiences. Hope this helps!
I love you guys—you’ve saved me many times and led me to some truly wonderful connections. I can’t thank you enough. 🫶🏻

A made up post?  I've responded to every message from the actual troll AND I've provided my responses to the group.  Nothing made up about that.

Administrator’s Message 
Gentlemen, The subject is: “NYC - Massage Parlors w/ Older Masseurs”.
Please, stay on topic and stop the bickering. 

Well that's the thing about "age" in our time. So many people are looking great at an older age, like never before. I once had a fabulous massage by a guy on MF. His ad said he was 38, and there was nothing about his appearance that would suggest otherwise. While I was on his table, enduring his painful but masterful work, he confessed to being 52. I applauded him, not only for his honest confession, but for his gene pool.

Thanks so much!  I really love Masseur Finder and the others.  I hope the implications in my original post showed that I do know  finding an older guy in a parlour is rare, which is why I decided to create a topic listing to do a broader search to see if anyone has specific experience with older guys at any of the parlors (they do).  It's not lost on me that most older guys also probably care more about their reputation and are smart enough to want to keep their own money (which is something younger guys aren't thinking through just yet).  This is the same reason why younger guys are more prevalent in porn, but it also speaks to the larger demand of people who prefer to look at and pretend to be adored by youthful looking people.  One doesn't need to do too deep of a dive to recognize why this is, specifically in America.  
Anyway, to everyone who has messaged, thank you.  Keep messaging me and I'll post regular updates.  

And to @pubic_assistance -- I hope you understand that when you're talking within your community of other gay men (or queer, however you want to identify this group), you should recognize that our bond is special and should be protected.  To liken older people to stale bread, old food, or just a fetish is so beyond insulting to the people who quite literally had to fight for their lives to exist. They are beautiful and should be respected, not made fun of.  It saddens me you can't see this.  
Maybe you're afraid of growing old, maybe you resent being older, I don't know.  But whatever it is, I hope you can try and heal whatever is inside of you that makes you feel entitled to be negative.  I hope that when/if you are older, you will be shown love and respect by people of all ages.
 

Ummm….
it does matter. How one delivers his message usually determines how the receiver accepts that message, if it’s correct/incorrect, true/false. 
 
The issue with your statement is not that it’s incorrect, because I agree with you.  
 
It’s  that you are an arse in your delivery. 
 
You can’t present caviar on a pile of cow dung, and expect people to eat it. 
 
 

I think you're more confused by the notion of someone asking for recommendations. 😂  You know if someone asks for something, it doesn't mean that thing they're asking for doesn't exist, right?  They're just asking where/how they can get it?  And I wasn't suggesting that you're wrong, I'm just telling you that just because your understanding or experience of something is contrary to what I'm looking for, it doesn't mean you're right (or that I'm wrong). It just means that you don't know. 

Anyway, thanks to the *actually helpful* people who have written to me privately.
W Man Spa
Ocean Bodywork in Brooklyn
East Men Spa 
Yeah Man Spa (LES)
27 Men Spa 
Time's Square Men's Massage
Bonus suggestion was Russian Turkish Bath House, but a) I already knew about them and b) I don't find the guys who work there are as fun as they used to be pre-pandemic.  
So, there you go.  Less than 24 hours and seven suggestions.  If any other *helpful* people want to chime in or write to me, I'm happy to post any updates.
 

Not sure who wrote it, but the "Karens are out in force" comment made me laugh.
1.) We're really still using the term Massage Parlor?  Is Mae West running them? You'll have to Google that name Gen XYZ or whatever you are.
2.) To Pubic_Assistance, I'm older and your comments don't indicate anything to me except ignorance.  And guess what? I have below zero interest in young guys. It's like eating green cantaloupe. It will be fascinating to see how you are dressing and behaving should you be lucky enough to get to be a "fetish" or "old food" of being older.  
3.) To answer the original poster's questions.  There are older massage men out there. Two of them that immediately come to mind are Rob_CMT who used to live in NYC.  And Hud who used to live in Chicago. They are on RMasseur and MasseurFinder when they work. Both are traveling massage men now, and I can say with confidence that as far as massage goes, there is no young guy or even slightly older than 40 guys that can come close to their massage styles...they are mind blowing massage men.  If there are better older massage guys than these two, i'd like to know about them.  Seriously, please forward their names to me.  Older men are not a fetish, and they (we) can be very hot.
4.)To the original poster.  Ignore the haters.  I am grateful to be recognized as a Daddy in the community and I turn down young guys with regularity...again, "green cantaloupe".  I get more offers for hooking up now than I did when I was in my 20s, 30's and 40's
5.) Ok, i need to get ready for bed...can someone help me with my casket-bed?  I'm so old. Lol
 

Question on this guy and eatmedeep.
Why has eatmedeep only ever commented on Hairyluc and no other privider and is very defensive over his negative reviews etc. Just seems fishy to me. 

Ive met him several times.  Don’t hesitate to tell him it’s your first time.  He’s a very nice guy and he’ll make sure you feel comfortable.  He’s also all around hot af, and a lot of fun. I left some review's on RM, but feel free to message me here if you want more info than that.