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Honestly, I’ve learned that Grindr is even more full of scammers. My advice is to stick with RM ( and even there, only interact well reviewed and longer time providers).

Honestly, I’ve learned that Grindr is even more full of scammers. My advice is to stick with RM ( and even there, only interact well reviewed and longer time providers).

Honestly, I’ve learned that Grindr is even more full of scammers. My advice is to stick with RM ( and even there, only interact well reviewed and longer time providers).

Honestly, I’ve learned that Grindr is even more full of scammers. My advice is to stick with RM ( and even there, only interact well reviewed and longer time providers).

So I’ve fallen for the okie doke many times now so don’t feel bad or think you’re stupid cause it happens to the best of us from time to time just don’t make a habit out of it and consider it a contribution to your karma. I always figure that they must be in a pretty fucked up place to go through all that to get a couple dollars so they probably need it more than I do and that’s a blessing.
I recently violated my own policy of not making deposits and not only did he play me, he kept trying to get me to send more! I was deeply disappointed but I knew better from the start. Take it as a class and learn the lesson. No money in advance unless you already know them and trust them to come through.

Incredible that you’ve never been asked for a deposit. 
 
If you have a profile somewhere, I’d take out the “I pay cash” part, just to avoid any legal attention.
If you have found a way to repel providers who would ask for a deposit, that’s a strategy that can indeed save you from an uncomfortable situation/ a wasted conversation.

Well, in my 30+ years of hiring, I have NEVER been asked for a deposit, never. 

I’ve flown him out several times. That is- prepaid him money for his flight costs to NYC when he used to live in SF. Perhaps the ultimate deposit leap of faith.
He is absolutely trustworthy, and an amazing sex partner. 
I also regularly uber him to me now that he lives in Manhattan. He doesn’t request deposits given that we are somewhat nearby.

Yes lol, I was being euphemistic with the term "legally controversial". Additionally, I am in full agreement with your last sentence.

Are you suggesting it is me who is trying to frame it as a universal requirement? I actually don’t see anyone in this thread trying to do that. If anything, I'm seeing defenders of occasional deposit use. Even I almost always decline to pay a deposit lol, because the person is maybe too close such that I don't think its needed, or they don't have enough good reviews on RM/CoM, or there are definitevly negative reviews about them.  I actually decline to pay a deposit 85% of the time that I am asked to pay one 🤣.
 
I think that there are circumstances though, where I find it acceptable to pay a deposit. I am just in disagreement with one or more people who advocate for an absolute end to all deposits.
 Additionally, I do find it incredible that someone has never been asked for a deposit, because I assume many people have made dozens of different inquiries with distinct providers and that it is likely that one would encounter at least one provider who would ask for a deposit.
 

Not that I know. Maybe I'm selective, maybe because of my communication,  or most likely my profile clearly states I pay cash, but I've never been asked for one. 
It's also entirely possible that they read I pay cash, realize that means no deposit, and don't respond to my query.  Which is good.  Saves us from an uncomfortable position.

Come on guys.  I think we can agree on many things:
1) providers have risks to mitigate and clients do too
2) reviews and/or personal experience matter in assessing the reliability of a provider
3) no one operates in a vacuum.  Some markets are deserts with few providers and it’s a seller’s market.  Others are saturated and it’s a buyer’s market 
4) we each have an amount that we define as token - for some it’s $50, others it’s $250, others it’s more.  The more it is to US, the more it matters on whether we should accede to a deposit and how much we can risk.
There is not a single incumbent provider in New Orleans I want to see - if they’re my type, they are probably addicts and unreliable.  When we have an appealing visitor, I absolutely am willing to pay a deposit when it feels right. Otherwise, I’m importing talent at great expense and the deposit is called a “plane ticket.”  

I’ve flown him out several times. That is- prepaid him money for his flight costs to NYC when he used to live in SF. Perhaps the ultimate deposit leap of faith.
He is absolutely trustworthy, and an amazing sex partner. 
I also regularly uber him to me now that he lives in Manhattan. He doesn’t request deposits given that we are somewhat nearby.

I have tried Seeking before, and it seems many supposed providers on there are scammers. I've had some success with Hunqz before, but honestly, RM seems like it has been my best bet for finding a good crop of providers.

I have tried Seeking before, and it seems many supposed providers on there are scammers. I've had some success with Hunqz before, but honestly, RM seems like it has been my best bet for finding a good crop of providers.

This guy is hot indeed. The blend of beautiful in aesthetics + kinky in behavior is very alluring to many of us clients.

Finally got some of him, as well as another great escort at recommendation. Loved topping his huge ass. 
 
I had a fun time. Would do again if I’m back in NYC.
His pictures match his RM profile.
He is quite direct, and wants you to be direct as well, so don’t beat around the bush with him.

I never share details unless I’m hosting. I use a fake first name, and I also use a second phone for hires.
 
I’ve gotten close with one or two guys in Miami and NYC, and they know my first name. 
 
You don’t want to give a provider any sense that they can try to blackmail you with something. Especially not a provider you’ve just met and who doesn’t have excellent reviews.

Had a sexy time with him 🥵. Clean cut, yet very sexually explorative guy. I wish I could get more explicit on here hehe.
 
So far, my favorite city for bottoms is NY, and SF is my favorite for tops lol , haven’t been disappointed by either of those configurations  😂.

Might also be a marketing thing- the allure of potentially finding and fucking a pornstar one adores is what drew me to the site in the first place 

Agreed- definitely about security reasons. 

He is an amazing man, better than the pics, that really knows his job. He is definitely worth his rate and I believe he is truly unique.

I never share details unless I’m hosting. I use a fake first name, and I also use a second phone for hires.
 
I’ve gotten close with one or two guys in Miami and NYC, and they know my first name. 
 
You don’t want to give a provider any sense that they can try to blackmail you with something. Especially not a provider you’ve just met and who doesn’t have excellent reviews.