Tarheelboy214

i saw him once.  he's a nice guy but wouldn't repeat.  If you're into twinks though he's a good one.

Ah the perils of a shared language with different words! Vest is 🎽… something I’d wear at the gym.
I saw a client from the US recently where another clothing misunderstanding happened. He arrived and we are talking before the massage begins…I asked him if he’d like to shower before the massage?  He says “yes”, so if that’s the case I usually ask the client to strip down to his underwear and then show him to the bathroom. There’s a good reason why I don’t want them to undress in the bathroom but we won’t bother with that here…I’m just wearing my shorts at this point. 
On this occasion I said “ok John if you just want to strip down to your pants I’ll show you through to the bathroom”. John takes off his shirt and then just stands there. I assume he’s nervous or something so I ask him if he has any injuries etc while I busy myself preparing the table and oil, trying to be as calming and routine as possible so that he feels comfortable to strip to his underwear….but John simply stands there shirtless, waiting for me to take him to the bathroom.
I then say to him again “ok if you did want to use the bathroom please just leave your pants on and I’ll show you the shower”…..but he continues to stand there looking confused at me, making no attempt to remove his trousers. And I stand there looking confused at him….is he too shy to just be in pants with me?…should I get naked to help make him comfortable? Does he want me to undress him (actually that’s something I do…great way to start!)…
Then I realise…he is in ‘pants’ because in US English ‘pants’ are trousers 👖 whereas here in UK they’re underwear 🩲…. 🙄…Turns out he wasn’t shy about stripping down atall, just confused by my language. Should have gone all cockney on him and said “alright mate let’s get a butchers at ya pins then we can get you in the khazi”….

 

 

The tease for me is the best part. I love a guy to be fully clothed, preferably in a tank top and shorts. I want him to allow me to feel around and grab and have him pull off as he gets more into it. Nothing better than reaching into a nice pair of briefs halfway through to get your prize 😏

Massage vids are my fave! Great thread!

Massage by Jeff - massage/bodywork in Washington, DC - masseurfinder
WWW.MASSEURFINDER.COM I've used Jeff several times when I travelled to DC for work.  Nice friendly guy - great space and if memory is correct you can shower there too.  Good skills and left relaxed and happy.
 

When I arrived there Thursday 20:50, there were 4 patrons. When I left at 23:15 - circa 50, about a third women. [They weren't grouped, shouting, or getting too much attention by the dancers.] 
The program started just as I arrived. The first dancer was in undies, but afterwards all were fully clothed gradually removing the shirt. About 13 dancers. At the second round everyone was in underwear. There was no hard-on round, unless it started after I had left. Only one dancer appeared on stage proudly sporting an impressive erection. Two others exhibited full nudity, but no hardons. 
Dancers circulated among patrons. 4 introduced themselves to me: 3 were nicely soliciting; one was cheeky and assertive. 
I enjoyed the eye candy and the athletic ability on the pole, but didnt find the 'dances' arousing. The moves were repetitive; nothing creative or un-amateurish. One real bodybuilder (Jackson), 3 tall hunks, one twink, the rest athletic guys next door. 
There was very little lapdancing going on backstage. When I finally got there, we were the only couple. I chose the hard-on guy, also because of his looks. Per my question as we were walking in, he said he takes his undies off at the second song and I could touch his dick. I enjoyed losing my lapdance virginity (I became fully aroused), though it was obvious he preferred his own hands on his dick rather than mine. I asked if I could suck; "no, just kiss the balls"; so I stopped at 2 dances. I don't think we really spent there full 6 minutes, but I wasn't clock watching. Added $5 as a tip. [M not sure it's ok to post his name here.]
$6 entrance, same for my Sprite. The usual VERY loud music; used my earplugs.
As I collected my coat at the reception, I chatted with the receptionist. For some reason he decided to give me a free entrance coupon for the next time, explaining that I'm a nice person (my mom would agree). 
I stopped for a minute at Campus. Was told that Daddy's Corner was already operating afternoons, but due to the loud music - couldn't understand if there was anything differentiating it from usual going-ons (other than the hours). 
Will b back on Saturday night. 

Im Back in the Raleigh/Charlotte area 

Perhaps the single biggest waste of time ever.  Do not waste your time.

Thank you for the guidance.  He is now in Raleigh.  As others have said, you saved me $150 today.  

Indeed!  reading this thread, most suspicions were confirmed. Flakey, dated pics, stoned, dirty, etc….

He calls himself a "masseuse." That's always a bad sign for me. 👩‍🎤

A few weeks ago I posted a question in the '"ask a provider" forum, if that's the place to ask also providers of lapdancing. I was PMed by one; I notified about it in the thread in order to 'close' it; and two guys PMed me asking about what he had to say. So I got his permission to post our dialogue here. Might be useful for naive newbies such as myself.  Any additional guidance wld be appreciated.
 
I intend to lose my lapdance virginity soon. I follow threads about the topic, but m still unclear as to how to behave without being rude or presumptuous on one hand, and being taken for a sucker on the other hand.
How explicit may I b with a dancer in the pre-dance phase? Shld I ask "may I touch u?" "Fondle?" "Grope?" "Jerk?" "Suck?"
"Will u b totally naked?"
Will he b touching me with his hands (beyond dancing moves")? Grope / fondle / jerk / suck ?
Any kissing?
M I alowed to take it out? 
Usually posters write it's up to negotiations, and I guess dancers have prbbly heard everything. However, I like to b respectful and I dont want to b stupid.
 
Different clubs have different basic rules.   Some states allow full nude dancers, some don't - which clubs are you planning on?  
At the most basic, the dancer would be in underwear, grinding on you and with you fully clothed. The dancer can probably touch you but may not - for example I would start with sitting grinding in a guys lap, with my arms on his shoulders.  
So you could just have fun with that to start. 
Its possible to do more, but that depends. For example at one club I can go full nude, but then I can't touch the customer.  At that same club, customers can touch me but not anywhere covered by my underwear.  Some customers don't touch, some put their hands somewhere like my arms and if I guess they want more, I will move their hands to my chest or legs to let them know its OK (or they can ask and I explain the club rules for them) and then let them touch me over my underwear. 
Best way to find out basic rules: A dancer will probably approach and ask you if you want a lap dance - just ask how much, and if they can go full nude, and if they're OK with touching and they'll probably explain rules.  That what I do.  Sometimes I get asked 'are you hard when you're naked' and I say 'yes' because make sure to be erect when I go full nude.  
Its easier to ask about more once you're in private, so that no one can hear if they say yes to more thats beyond the rules.    As a dancer if a customer is buying  multiple dances and their hands are around my underwear, personally I'm OK if slipped their hand in and they grab my cock, but some dancers might not be, you could just move your hands close and ask 'may I' or something like that but probably don't assume they are OK.  I might ask for a tip extra.  
Usually you're not allowed to take yourself out. Never had anyone try with me.  The private areas were somewhat visible and monitored by cameras so I dont think anyone would try it there.   
Asking respectfully is being respectful.  I stood up once off a guys lap and he put me in his mouth and I gently pushed him back to let him know its not OK, but it would have been respectful if he asked first and i could tell him 'no instead of feeling his mouth. Altohugh I was kind of horny so I mostly said 'no' because I didn't want to get in trouble with the club.  
 
I know about clubs rules and about prsnl red lines. If I can get a full answr only after we r alone, that might b too late...
I didnt know the area is monitored, but since it is - how can a dancer "say yes to more that's beyond the rules"? 
I've learned from u: not to take it out; not to expct dncr to grope or fondle me; small chance for sucking; ask evrythng.
 
You could probably ask in the open 'have you ever let a guy touch you' or 'have you ever let a guy suck you' - so you're not even asking for it directly, just seeing what they say. 
 
 

Ive really enjoyed this one. I like watching the client’s fingers explore who,e the masseur continues to focus on the massage.
 
https://www.gayforit.eu/video/421368/giving-massage-turns-to-getting-fucked

Well 'Vegan' returned to my state today, and I finally met with him. All I can say is - he was worth the wait ! 
The massage was outstanding (tailored to my liking), and he's a real charmer. Incredibly sexy, he looks better in person than in his photos, though a little more slender (but stull muscular). English is his second language, yet he's still a great conversationalist. I can't wait until he returns. 

I've been chatting with him the past few minutes to set something up for tomorrow - I don't think English is his first language, so there may be some communication hiccups with some clients. 

I don't get the impression that he has ADHD, however the fact that his profile says he's visiting one location and then he's not there seems very common in my area with providers.  More than once I've reached out to a provider who is advertising in my area - only to find their response is they never came to my city at all, and forgot to change their ad. It's annoying at best, but what can you do ?  As I said, it happens way too often. 
 
AS for Vegan, I will reach out to him and see where it goes based on his reviews in the RM site. He looks very much like a friend of mine I've had a crush on for a long time: same body, same face, same longish hair (except my friend has blond hair) so it might be a fantasy come true (in a way). I will report back if I meet with him. 

I saw him a couple of years ago when he first showed up in Atlanta.  Very nice, good looking Asian and welcoming guy.
It was a very good massage with lots of sensual techniques and mutual touching encouraged by his positioning...not by anything I did.  
He left the Atlanta area for a time and since he has returned, it seems he is travelling most of the time and his ad seems to always show "unavailable"  I'd consider hiring again it he would ever stay in Atlanta. 

The #PNP on his profile is a red flag for me - but that's just me

Thanks for having me! 

Well I hope that certainly is the case. Every time I go to Chasers I think, Why did I choose to come out here again? I'll hold out hope that Chasers chooses to invest in some dancer entertainment...

Davis in Charlotte includes showering together at the end of the session as part of his massage service:
 
https://rentmasseur.com/davismassage

I'd need a Pell Grant to afford this collegian!

I do it have any details, but I have long wondered about him.  His ad only lists therapeutic but he posts some rather sensual (to me at least) photos. He did list sensual as a massage type but recently dropped it. If I lived closer to Charlotte. I’d give him a try, but I haven’t wanted to make the drive without having any more details from a first hand experience.  

Raleigh goes through boom and bust cycles on escorts, however.  A few years ago it was booming and now the selection is slim, for me at least.  I've have flown guys in occasionally when visiting Raleigh and they always seem to do great business (in addition to mine).  
 

Check out Mark Alvee’s videos on YouTube before they get taken down.