Nightowl

The “damage” if you want to call it that, is either that the situation identifies Karen as someone who hires sex workers and/or identifies the provider as a sex worker. The only difference between c) and b) is that c) doesn’t imply anything about accepting life lessons, attitudes toward the chatroom peer or anything else. Ignoring it might just be a way to move on and remove the spotlight from any further scrutiny of the situation.. As for the continuation of your scenario—and I mean no offense—my brain hurts just reading it.

c) Ignore it. The damage has been done.

I wouldn’t say I’m addicted but about two days after a session I start thinking about scheduling the next one…

Good question. I’d like to know too. My gaydar isn’t very accurate.

I only do incall and carefully research the provider’s name, phone and the address he gives me. If anything appears out of whack, I cancel. Providers presumably research me as well. So far, every guy I’ve hired has turned out to be exactly who he said he was and I’ve never felt unsafe. I might be a little anxious before the first meeting with a new provider but when things go okay, the next meeting is fine.

I’m sorry 😢

It doesn’t start when he starts poking his dick against the side of your head?

I think it might have been a combination of him agreeing to your requests on the phone just to get your business, and him assuming that someone looking for a 1AM booty call was obviously horny and would accept pretty much anything he was willing to give you.

Selfies taken in the bathroom mirror with the phone clearly visible are pretty standard and boring. Professional photos that look natural and inviting might make you stand out.

Uh, no.

No reviews, no details on massages offered, no prices? I’d steer clear.

If I could get paid like that, I’d become an escort.

Good luck! If he turns out to be a disaster, make sure to warn us here on the site.

I’d hire Lawson James. I’m very surprised that he appears to be predominantly a bottom.

I’ve seen several masseurs in their 50’s and 60’s and have had great massages and a great time. I recommend it.

Reminds me of a song from the 70’s: “It’s not the meat, it’s the motion.”

The thing that usually gets me aroused is when I’m face down and his hands start working my upper inner thighs. If his hands slide through my thighs up toward my abdomen, I’m usually at attention.

Good analogy.

Had the surgery on both eyes and after the first eye was done I spent my time marveling at the different ways I saw colors in each eye. Worth every penny.

If you wear the clear plastic eye cover they give you after surgery you can have all the facials you want.

I have the opposite problem. How to tell the provider I want to be dominant. Whether I’m the top or the bottom, most of them insist on sitting on my dick or entering me while they’re on top. I’m sure it’s a trust and control issue. I wrestle with how to find a way to tell them “I want to fuck you in the ass. Bend over or lie face down.” I’m just too fucking polite.

Musical 🎵 They call him Flipper, Flipper, faster than lightning…. 🎶

By blocking you despite your profuse apologies, he made the situation awkward for both of you. You could try reaching out and apologizing again but if he ignores or rebuffs you, you’re going to feel even worse. I personally would move on to someone else.

The more sessions I have with someone, the greater the trust and intimacy, both emotional and physical, for both of us. With only one guy have I found myself thinking “I wish he would still let me do X like we used to” but he has also shared more about his personal life that I know he doesn’t share with everyone. So I guess I’d have to say the sessions are usually better but different.

His silence could be any number of things. Health issues, a death in the family, or something else serious might have forced him to put focusing on massage clients and related correspondence on the back burner. If the hair loss, weight gain, and reduced hardness happened in the last year, he probably wouldn’t yet be aware of them anyway, would he? You could always reach out again just to ask him if everything’s okay, without trying to set anything up. If he ignores you, all you can do is move on and find someone else.