Nightowl

As a man who lived as straight for decades, suspecting I was bi and only in the last few years realizing I am gay, I don’t recommend the team switch. Now that I’ve discovered the marvels of playing with the male anatomy, the female anatomy holds no attraction. You’d probably be disappointed.

There’s reason to be optimistic but nothing is guaranteed.

I lived in Yorkshire for a while and really struggled to understand the accent at first. When I first got there a shop owner asked me if I was having trouble understanding him. “Oh no” I lied. It wasn’t until I walked out of the shop that I realized he was essentially telling me I was not understanding him. I came to love the Yorkshire accent and still consider myself to be part Yorkshireman.

My situation is similar to yours. I had my first experience with a boy when I was about 12 and didn’t try it again until I was over 60 when I hired for my first erotic massage. In the past 4 years I’ve hired both masseurs and escorts, averaging about once per month. I wish I had started earlier. I don’t do what you call “quick interactions” either. I research potential hires really thoroughly to minimize the risk. Fortunately, I’ve found a couple of guys whose company I enjoy and hope to keep patronizing.

The OP didn’t say it but several of those commenting did. Read the whole conversation before going on the attack.

I’ve always wondered whether the decision to become a provider was because the guy wanted to capitalize on having a big dick…

Nope. 30 years is bad enough. With refinancing an option if interest rates drop, there’s no need for a 50 year option.

It’s interesting to see the comments that most clients aren’t good at oral or at giving handjobs. I imagine it’s true but surprising in that you might expect that guys know where their own pleasure points are and would replicate them when “giving.” Speaking for myself, though, I know that when given the opportunity to play with the provider’s penis, it isn’t always easy to tell where he is on the pleasure scale as I go about my work. When the provider pulls away you kinda realize that whatever you’re doing isn’t working. A man can keep trying though….

I can’t blame the OP’s client if he’s confused. I’ve hired from RM, RMass, and MF and have gotten and/or given anal and oral with guys on all three of them. It’s a jungle out there….

My main communication turnoff is phoniness. Don’t compliment me, use affectionate nicknames or say anything else unless you mean it.

Another downside of shirtless gyms is sweat on the equipment. Not all guys bother to wipe it down.

Coed, of course.

I’m going to remember this if I get a chance to see you when you’re in my area!

The only time anything like this ever happened to me was when I was very young, at my previous gym. I was in the shower and another guy was in a stall within eyeshot of mine. There were no shower doors or curtains. He was staring at me, noticeably erect. Though he knew I was watching him, I was too chicken to do anything but stare. Were that to happen now, I probably would signal my interest more overtly though the lack of curtains/doors would still be a deterrent. Life is full of missed opportunities….

Socks and gloves? I sometimes lie on my hands during a massage to keep them warm until an opportunity to play with the masseur comes up. My feet don’t get cold so I can’t help you there. I had an experience with one of my favorite masseurs a few months ago and his studio was so cold, we both were shivering. While we waited for the room to warm, he took off his clothes and lay on top of me. Can’t beat that.

Just try using the other hand.

I had a mac pro many years ago and loved it.

I know, I know….

My request is pretty mundane: As a client, I want a masseur I’ve been with over a dozen times to film me topping him to climax, with me in control. I’ve tossed out hints but haven’t asked directly. My polite upbringing and the fact that he advertises as a masseur rather than an escort deters me from being that direct.

I have a Lelo Hugo prostate massager, which has a hands-free option with multiple pulsating options that can be varied with a hand-held controller. I love it. The only problem I have is that it sometimes slips out at inopportune times.

Being friends on FB with a provider would probably change my relationship with them. I like that the only things we know about each other are the things we do and talk about when we’re together.

I wonder if it was fake

Brave man!

What happened with the DC events? Were they unsuccessful?