Nightowl

I’m responding to @seattlebottom’s comment, not @Gar1eth

I’m the same way. I don’t see the point of small talk when I don’t care about the other person, have no interest in him/her, and probably will never see him/her again. It’s why I tend to avoid parties.

Bliss Bodywork, outside of DC. He’s a very talented guy.

With a masseur I ask for sensual when I schedule, then, when I’m on his table, I ask if he does erotic. I figure that signals to him what I want. What happens next is what he’s comfortable with. If I hire an escort, the expectation of sex is pretty clear so being direct is easier.

The locker room at my HS had an off-limits-to-students coaches’ area that was elevated above the locker room and had a long window that overlooked the dressing area and showers. The coaches/ PE teachers often stood in the windows and watched what was going on below. In hindsight, it was a little creepy ….

My memory is different and involved a coach who was instructing a HS freshman on how to shower after gym class. The coach was dressed but the poor kid was naked but both were in the shower area. I don’t recall if the coach ever touched the kid but I remember that I was uncomfortable with the the whole situation and glad it wasn’t me. Back then in the 70’s, everyone showered together after gym class but I never felt awkward about it until then.

I suspect that those who are saying “just my opinion” are trying to head off anticipated negative comments from self-proclaimed experts on CoM who delight in setting others straight with their vast knowledge.

I find that my ass likes a nice Eckrich polska kielbasa

Once I find a few providers I like, I stick with them, and try to hire them wherever finances allow. Every now and then I’ll try someone new but I always come back to my established regulars. Right now I’ve got one gentleman whom I’ve hired about 15 times and another that I discovered here on CoM and have hired four times. Unless one of them leaves the business, I probably won’t be shopping around anytime soon. To me, hiring is very intimate, both physically and mentally, so once trust is established, I’ll hire the guys I’ve come to know. My selfish hope is that I’ll help keep them in business…

Some guys don’t get any charge out of having their nipples touched. Odd that they’d declare them off limits if their clients get off on touching them though.

I’m with @SometimesBi. I just want the masseur to do whatever he wants with my body. He has carte blanche.

I prefer a man with a fedora…

My first hire was a masseur I found on Masseurfinder. I had no idea what a “gay” massage was but I took the chance and set up an appointment with the hope of finding out. When the day arrived I nervously drove 40 minutes to his home, where he greeted me warmly at the door and led me back to his massage room. I’d had many massages at spas and hotels in the past but I knew this was going to be different when he instructed me to undress but didn’t leave the room, just watched me strip down. There was no draping offered so I lay on the table, fully exposed, and he proceeded to give me one of the best massages I have ever had. I wasn’t sure what to expect but was hopeful that it wouldn’t be strictly therapeutic. It wasn’t. His hands explored areas that are usually off-limits and when I turned over, obviously aroused, he gave me the first happy ending I’d ever had from a man. I remember that, as things progressed, his shorts disappeared and I felt his erection near my hand. At that point, I just fondled what I could reach and explored areas within reach. Over the course of several years, oral and MT became the norm. I probably visited him a dozen times and each time was incredible. Unfortunately, he is no longer working but I’ll always remember him as the one who got me hooked on erotic massage and gay sexual exploration.

If you only want to receive oral, who cares that you’re a top?

Although a lot of the discussions on CoM aren’t exactly general…

Shaved balls and shaft, and a trimmed bush are fine. Totally bald—ugh—too much like a child.

I thought that looked like Massachusetts

I’d add totally shaved pubes and a Prince Albert to that list.

Welcome! I’ve learned a lot from the guys on this forum. Some of it’s even useful!

I’ll be in York in a few months and would like to see someone while I’m there. Can you share any details about your session? If you’d prefer, DM would be fine.

I use my own first name and my real phone number, and truthfully answer any questions they may have of me. I’ve noticed, though, that most providers don’t ask me much, either because they’re not interested or are being discreet. Like you, everyone I have hired has been a decent person and I’ve never regretted sharing information about my personal life. I sometimes wish they were more interested in me as a person but I understand why they are keeping distance between us. I don’t usually share much until we’ve met a few times and built up a level of trust, but once that is there I am fairly open. When they start to open up, particularly if they bring me into their home, I share freely.

If you told him you weren’t feeling well enough to work, that should have been enough. If he doesn’t care about his own health he should still respect that you care about yours.

You did the right thing. You could also have told him you felt like shit and didn’t want to work.

half teaspoon of raw sugar, splash of heavy cream.

His RM profile is gone.