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Any info on this guy? I love a big hairy guy and his profile seems sincere. Seven 5-star reviews on RM.
anything you’d be willing to share is appreciated. If you want to go into details, just DM me, ha.
thanks guys. 
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Hey—first of all, take a breath. You’ve already done the hardest part. You reached out, made a plan, and now it’s happening. That’s a big deal.
And yeah, it’s totally normal to be nervous. Everyone is the first time. Honestly, the only real mistakes I’ve made in situations like this were because I let nerves take over. So try not to. Relax. Take a walk, throw on some porn if that helps you get in the mood, and remind yourself—you want this. That’s why you’re doing it.
This guy’s a pro. Discretion is part of the job. He’s done this a hundred times. He’ll know how to come and go without anyone blinking. He doesn’t want to draw attention to himself either. He’s there to make things smooth, simple, and low-key.
You’ve already told him what you’re looking for—which is great. If there’s anything else you want—or don’t want—just say it clearly. Before things get physical. That’s what good communication is, and pros respect that.
Now, about the hotel—totally get it, not being out and having coworkers around. You’ve got options. When you check in, ask for a room away from the rest of your group—ideally even on a different floor if possible. I do it all the time. Hotel front desk staff absolutely understand discretion. A quiet, direct ask like, “Could I be somewhere a little more private, away from the group?” with a bit of eye contact has worked for me 100% of the time. And if it seems like others in your group might overhear and start asking questions, no worries—just let everyone else check in first, then step up to the desk on your own. I’m telling you—I’ve done this before.
As for the actual meetup, you can give the provider clear instructions on how to get to your room—most hotels don’t require any interaction at the front desk. If you’re nervous about him knocking, ask him to text when he’s outside so you can open the door right away—no hallway lingering. You could also leave the door slightly open like you’re waiting on room service, or if it feels easier, just meet him outside and walk in together like two people getting back from dinner. Your coworkers aren’t paying attention unless you give them a reason to. Keep it casual, keep it calm.
Also—don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, I’m a little nervous—any ideas for keeping it low-key?” He’s the pro. He’s there to make it easy. He might have tricks you haven’t even thought of.
Last thing—don’t overthink it. Be smart, stay safe, but let yourself enjoy this. You’re in control. This is about you feeling good. And you’ve got this.
KEEP US UPDATED! We all want to know how it goes!  

Any info on this guy? I love a big hairy guy and his profile seems sincere. Seven 5-star reviews on RM.
anything you’d be willing to share is appreciated. If you want to go into details, just DM me, ha.
thanks guys. 
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This is a wonderful reminder. Thank you so much. 

His STI status isn’t listed. Damn. 
 

Um….you guys; Raffaelbarros is the real deal. As HotNYCDan mentioned, he is top notch in every way. Sweet, adorable, beautiful, talented…I could continue, but suggest you find out for yourself. Enjoy….DM for details. 

Hey—first of all, take a breath. You’ve already done the hardest part. You reached out, made a plan, and now it’s happening. That’s a big deal.
And yeah, it’s totally normal to be nervous. Everyone is the first time. Honestly, the only real mistakes I’ve made in situations like this were because I let nerves take over. So try not to. Relax. Take a walk, throw on some porn if that helps you get in the mood, and remind yourself—you want this. That’s why you’re doing it.
This guy’s a pro. Discretion is part of the job. He’s done this a hundred times. He’ll know how to come and go without anyone blinking. He doesn’t want to draw attention to himself either. He’s there to make things smooth, simple, and low-key.
You’ve already told him what you’re looking for—which is great. If there’s anything else you want—or don’t want—just say it clearly. Before things get physical. That’s what good communication is, and pros respect that.
Now, about the hotel—totally get it, not being out and having coworkers around. You’ve got options. When you check in, ask for a room away from the rest of your group—ideally even on a different floor if possible. I do it all the time. Hotel front desk staff absolutely understand discretion. A quiet, direct ask like, “Could I be somewhere a little more private, away from the group?” with a bit of eye contact has worked for me 100% of the time. And if it seems like others in your group might overhear and start asking questions, no worries—just let everyone else check in first, then step up to the desk on your own. I’m telling you—I’ve done this before.
As for the actual meetup, you can give the provider clear instructions on how to get to your room—most hotels don’t require any interaction at the front desk. If you’re nervous about him knocking, ask him to text when he’s outside so you can open the door right away—no hallway lingering. You could also leave the door slightly open like you’re waiting on room service, or if it feels easier, just meet him outside and walk in together like two people getting back from dinner. Your coworkers aren’t paying attention unless you give them a reason to. Keep it casual, keep it calm.
Also—don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, I’m a little nervous—any ideas for keeping it low-key?” He’s the pro. He’s there to make it easy. He might have tricks you haven’t even thought of.
Last thing—don’t overthink it. Be smart, stay safe, but let yourself enjoy this. You’re in control. This is about you feeling good. And you’ve got this.
KEEP US UPDATED! We all want to know how it goes!  

One of the magical things about your first time, is the realization the moment you lay eyes on each other and instantly know each other. Its immediate. It’s sexy. Wink at him or give him a fun smirk….its the best. Enjoy it.  

One of the magical things about your first time, is the realization the moment you lay eyes on each other and instantly know each other. Its immediate. It’s sexy. Wink at him or give him a fun smirk….its the best. Enjoy it.  

Thanks. I appreciate the detailed reply. I like the point about getting a room away from the group. 

From what I can see online, my hotel requires a keycard to come up the elevator to the guest rooms. I will either have to meet him in the lobby or leave a keycard for him at the front desk (I imagine he might not want to engage with the hotel staff if he doesn’t need to plus I don’t want him to know my government name in case the ask)

Thank you! Absolutely will keep my room number to myself. 

Thank you. Will keep that in mind. 
This provider is well reviewed. Hoping he is professional about it. But you are right, I need to hold him accountable 

You probably know this, but if you’re bottoming, make sure you douche beforehand.
Let us know how it goes. We love hearing how first times go since we’ve all been there!

Thanks. You are right about the hotel requiring a keycard. My plan is to ride down the elevator then up with him. 
I guess I’ll have to describe what I look like so he will know it’s me lol. I haven’t seen his face either but I bet I would recognize his body 😈
 

Hey—first of all, take a breath. You’ve already done the hardest part. You reached out, made a plan, and now it’s happening. That’s a big deal.
And yeah, it’s totally normal to be nervous. Everyone is the first time. Honestly, the only real mistakes I’ve made in situations like this were because I let nerves take over. So try not to. Relax. Take a walk, throw on some porn if that helps you get in the mood, and remind yourself—you want this. That’s why you’re doing it.
This guy’s a pro. Discretion is part of the job. He’s done this a hundred times. He’ll know how to come and go without anyone blinking. He doesn’t want to draw attention to himself either. He’s there to make things smooth, simple, and low-key.
You’ve already told him what you’re looking for—which is great. If there’s anything else you want—or don’t want—just say it clearly. Before things get physical. That’s what good communication is, and pros respect that.
Now, about the hotel—totally get it, not being out and having coworkers around. You’ve got options. When you check in, ask for a room away from the rest of your group—ideally even on a different floor if possible. I do it all the time. Hotel front desk staff absolutely understand discretion. A quiet, direct ask like, “Could I be somewhere a little more private, away from the group?” with a bit of eye contact has worked for me 100% of the time. And if it seems like others in your group might overhear and start asking questions, no worries—just let everyone else check in first, then step up to the desk on your own. I’m telling you—I’ve done this before.
As for the actual meetup, you can give the provider clear instructions on how to get to your room—most hotels don’t require any interaction at the front desk. If you’re nervous about him knocking, ask him to text when he’s outside so you can open the door right away—no hallway lingering. You could also leave the door slightly open like you’re waiting on room service, or if it feels easier, just meet him outside and walk in together like two people getting back from dinner. Your coworkers aren’t paying attention unless you give them a reason to. Keep it casual, keep it calm.
Also—don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, I’m a little nervous—any ideas for keeping it low-key?” He’s the pro. He’s there to make it easy. He might have tricks you haven’t even thought of.
Last thing—don’t overthink it. Be smart, stay safe, but let yourself enjoy this. You’re in control. This is about you feeling good. And you’ve got this.
KEEP US UPDATED! We all want to know how it goes!  

Hey—first of all, take a breath. You’ve already done the hardest part. You reached out, made a plan, and now it’s happening. That’s a big deal.
And yeah, it’s totally normal to be nervous. Everyone is the first time. Honestly, the only real mistakes I’ve made in situations like this were because I let nerves take over. So try not to. Relax. Take a walk, throw on some porn if that helps you get in the mood, and remind yourself—you want this. That’s why you’re doing it.
This guy’s a pro. Discretion is part of the job. He’s done this a hundred times. He’ll know how to come and go without anyone blinking. He doesn’t want to draw attention to himself either. He’s there to make things smooth, simple, and low-key.
You’ve already told him what you’re looking for—which is great. If there’s anything else you want—or don’t want—just say it clearly. Before things get physical. That’s what good communication is, and pros respect that.
Now, about the hotel—totally get it, not being out and having coworkers around. You’ve got options. When you check in, ask for a room away from the rest of your group—ideally even on a different floor if possible. I do it all the time. Hotel front desk staff absolutely understand discretion. A quiet, direct ask like, “Could I be somewhere a little more private, away from the group?” with a bit of eye contact has worked for me 100% of the time. And if it seems like others in your group might overhear and start asking questions, no worries—just let everyone else check in first, then step up to the desk on your own. I’m telling you—I’ve done this before.
As for the actual meetup, you can give the provider clear instructions on how to get to your room—most hotels don’t require any interaction at the front desk. If you’re nervous about him knocking, ask him to text when he’s outside so you can open the door right away—no hallway lingering. You could also leave the door slightly open like you’re waiting on room service, or if it feels easier, just meet him outside and walk in together like two people getting back from dinner. Your coworkers aren’t paying attention unless you give them a reason to. Keep it casual, keep it calm.
Also—don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, I’m a little nervous—any ideas for keeping it low-key?” He’s the pro. He’s there to make it easy. He might have tricks you haven’t even thought of.
Last thing—don’t overthink it. Be smart, stay safe, but let yourself enjoy this. You’re in control. This is about you feeling good. And you’ve got this.
KEEP US UPDATED! We all want to know how it goes!  

...read your post with interest but decided NOT to write about my first experience, for it transpired way too many back.  But one thing that caught my eye was that you're NOT OUT to your associates and that they will be staying in the same hotel.
Many hotels now provide a key in order for one to access his floor.  Ask the provider to send you a text when he's arrived and to go to the elevator to wait for you.  You'll come down and let him get on, and both of you can go up together.  
Or, you let him on and ride up together and go to your room separately if the corridor is not clear.
Please report back here once the experience has concluded and let us know how everything went.
It'll be fun, especially your opening up to him to be 'DICKED DOWN!'  My favorite position is lying on my back and letting a man who has "a large blessing" to give me his all--reaching my last ring!!

Also remember that there are providers that will look for opportunities to take advantage of you. Relax and enjoy yourself, but don’t be a push over.
Make sure you are clear about what you want, for how long and the fee. Some providers will try and cut time short or charge extra for staying longer without explaining that to you … others will do the minimum (which may or may not be what your agreed to) and expect full fee.
I don’t know your provider so my advice is more general. There are some good ones out there for sure, just don’t allow yourself to be taken advantage of. Providers are providing a service for a fee, so don’t feel like they are doing you a favour.
 

This may be something to consider, especially when you need absolute privacy.  Not sure how the hotel rooms are booked.  If it's done by your office admin, adjacent rooms may be booked together.  Are the rooms sound proof enough then?  You know some hotels have paper thin walls.
If I were you and if possible, I'd avoid letting your coworkers know your room number at all costs.  There may be some clingy coworkers who want to hang out and/or ask you for work related help after work hours.  Sure, you can silence your phone, but if they know where you are, they may knock on your door in the most inopportune time.  Chances of this happening are slim, but you want that chance to be zero.

Hey man, tell the provider you're a little nervous. He'll know you are, and it helps you relax as well. Always found that providers will be friendlier and more accommodating if you say this. Fair warning though: This little hobby is addictive. Lots of fun, but it's like potato chips. One is never enough.

I'm beginning to feel like a talent scout. I can't find anything on this dude. Anyone had the pleasure of his company?
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Hold up! I’m not so young 🤪. I wouldn’t worry about putting off providers who baulk at your age. You’re best to avoid those guys and to find out before you meet them! Decent guys will not be bothered. I’ve clients who are in their 70’s. I love it that they hire me. Fantastic guys. 
My issue with ‘hey’ is that it comes alone. ‘Hey’ …then nothing until I reply. Then it’s ’how are you’ 🙄. My heart sinks. It’s going to be a long exchange until we get to what he wants. I know he thinks he’s being polite etc but when you’ve responded to the same kind of approach 100’s of times it gets a bit challenging. It’s polite enough to just say ‘hello I like your profile/ad (or whatever) and I’d like to book a session on day / time’. We can take it from there. 
 
 

Maybe I’m the anomaly here, but I definitely read client profiles.  And I appreciate it when they have enough information to skip over the basic questions.  Any shortcut through the vortex of endless chat is helpful.  
Typically, I let potential clients make the first move.  But if I see a particular profile visiting mine over and over, I’m not above sending them a hello.  If they have a profile, it’s much easier to discern whether or not that’s worthwhile.  
Even a general reference to your sexual preferences helps me to know if you might enjoy what I have to offer.  If you’re looking for Dom top bears, that’s not me.  If you’re looking for twinks, also not me!
On a practical note, the number one deal breaker I encounter is hosting.  I don’t live alone, and as part of that I’ve agreed not to bring clients into the home.  Clearly stated in my profile, but 99% overlooked.  (SO many times, we’re ALMOST ready to book it, when the client is SHOCKED to learn I can’t host.) If you mention your hosting preference in a profile, that could save a lot of wasted time.
A client profile doesn’t need to have a photo!   (See literally a hundred other threads here about clients sharing photos.)
And if advanced age is an issue for a provider, they’re in the wrong business!  Not sure how a provider provides without a genuine love of older men.  That should not be a concern  
More client profiles please! 🙏🏻 

I can't speak for Jamie21, but me and my husband are in our 50s. Very similar to your vibe. We're good not fantastic shape, we take care of ourselves, and our experience is that most providers enjoy us as clients. 

“I think we are both into activities you mentioned in your profile”
He’ll likely ask “what specifically?”
Tell him. Be clear about who is doing what to whom in your ideal encounter.