DznNYC

Ahhh! I know him from the gym. He's so sexy, and looks just like his photos.

THIS! He's absolutely right. There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts. And that doesn't mean you have to hire them. When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away. That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out. A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy. But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc. Yes, I decide whether or not we meet. But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for. Not based on any of your externals. Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions. I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby. This isn't meant as a brag or a flex. This is just to say that we're out there. There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. It just means you have to keep searching.

This is absolutely okay, even encouraged. First of all, if you knew the fucked up things that providers get asked on a regular basis, you wouldn't worry! But truly, as a provider, it can only be helpful to have a clear erotic sense of your client in advance. And chat is usually the way to learn that. I never ask demographic questions beforehand (age, race, body type, cock size, etc) because that can lead all too often to a sense of the client feeling judged by be. Definitely not the dynamic I'm after. But I will ask lots of questions about their sexual interests. It helps me know how to prepare for the session in advance. But also, it helps ensure that the client is actually communicating his desires for our time together. And guys will often open up more over chat than they will face to face. I put a lot of effort into making guys feel safe to open up and communicate what they want, but sometimes you can't fight years of repression and homophobia just by commanding someone to feel safe. If sending a porn link feels easier that just explaining what you like... why not? By all means, show me what you like!

God I don't hear that nearly enough. LOL

This was actually a pretty complicated question for me when I was setting up my profile, and it took a bit of trial and error to land where I ended up identifying: versatile/bottom. The truth of the matter is that I'm genuinely a case-by-case versatile guy. I love both. I do both as much as I can. Left to my own devices, sexual position is determined by situation and chemistry, which means I usually end up topping. But losing either from my life would be a genuine loss. The real complicating factor for me is that this isn't my full time job. A very full week for me is four bookings. So for me, I feel like it makes sense to be a bit more intentional in connecting with guys whose needs best align with my skill sets, more so perhaps than guys who are seeing clients daily. And one of my favorite things - I might even say a skill of mine - is the versatile flip session. Come to find out, there's a real population who thrives on that. Similarly there's a population who leans one way or the other and wants to explore the other side too. I still love a strict top and and a strict bottom always! But it would be a big personal loss - not to mention a waste of some skills - for me to miss out on those vers flip guys. Well, come to find out, the hiring population is so heavily slanted towards bottoms... (is this shocking news?) ... that listing as versatile is still the functional equivalent of listing as a top. Meanwhile guys who are actually versatile or tops don't seem to find you without the word "bottom" in your profile. Long story short, I've settled into a somewhat inaccurate identifier as a way to navigate the reality of the landscape as it is. And even with that, I'm still definitely topping more than I'm bottoming. Suffice to say, consider when you're looking at providers that their chosen position identifier might involve more nuance than you think. Anything with the word "versatile" in it requires a conversation. The broad demographic assumptions above are mostly true, but be careful applying those assumptions to individual providers!

The steam room at Equinox Rockefeller Center is excellent. But they do patrol it periodically, so it's not entirely a safe space. You have to keep your wits about you.

I think you’d be surprised how many of us - regular old Rent Men escorts - are actually well educated, with real degrees from reputable higher education institutions. Some of us wear suits well and move comfortably among sophisticated crowds, even without being on the arm of a generous gentleman. Many of us even read books! I think you have more options for this than you may realize. I can easily name a handful of escorts I know in person who fit this description. Including myself! 😏 Happy hunting! I’m confident the guy you’re looking for is out there.

😍😍😍 If only! I’d see you every week if we could swing it. 🤣

I have wheels! And depending specific logistics, not a big deal for me to hop in the car and go anywhere in the tri-state area. Depending on where you are in CT, not a big deal for me to come to you. It takes maybe a bit more planning, but I've seen clients in CT, NJ, PA, and upstate NY.

Ah, thank you so much for including me on this list. Love my COM guys, and always happy to engage. Always happy to share references. Also happy to say I've just updated my profile with photos from a brand new shoot. It'd been a minute!

I echo this. I wanna go to a performer party!

Just a hair under 6'3" here, if you're looking for tall providers. 😇 Available in NYC again in January.

I definitely maintain a 9-5 work life and a strong part time escorting life. It can be challenging. I’m exhausted 24-7. But I make it work! Typically I limit mid-week after work bookings to one in a week. And I limit those to known regulars who prefer to bottom only. That way I go directly from work to gym to shower to client. I try to keep Fridays through Sunday as available for extended client situations as much as I can. But realistically, I can only fill Friday, Saturday, OR Sunday. Ambitious as I might get, I still do need day to myself. I usually end up taking about 3-4 bookings a week. There's admittedly all kinds of drawbacks to this situation. If you’re like me, you want to help out every guy who reaches out to you, even if you know it’s logistically impossible for you. I think it's probably part of my provider brain wiring, I want to show up and provide for everybody. I literally hate saying no. But I end up having to say no a lot. There are entire client populations who are only looking during business hours. Or weeknight business travelers. Or I get endless recurring message from the same guys: "Available Tuesday over lunch?" Unfortunately, never. I think part of what drives me toward providing is the genuine desire to say yes to everyone. So the repeated nos do become draining. One of the benefits of a part time situation is that I don't run the risk of burnout. If I show up at a booking, I know it's my only one of the day. I'm charged up. I'm horny for it. I've got the mental and sexual energy to be who I need to be. I have a confidence that my client is getting the best version of me in a way that I might not have if I was seeing multiple clients in a day. Do I imagine my life as a full time sex worker? Absolutely! Is that remotely possible for me given the nature of the US health care system. For sure not! How do full time providers solve the health insurance dilemma? No idea. Suffice to say, the flexibility of sex work is a major bonus in my life, and I'm not looking to give it up anytime soon.

I love wearing a ball weight! I have one - or sometimes two - that I'll wear around the house when I'm just hanging out. I don't usually keep mine on during sex. My erection tends to have a strong upward stance, and the ball weight has a way of weighing it down, go figure. And go figure, I love the sensation of my hard cock pointing up more than I love the ball weight. But I love the sexual charge it gives me in regular life. And I love low hangers, so I love the effect.

I have literally always wondered this question. And for the first time in my life on RentMen, I've let my profile expire. I have unrelated seasonal work that makes it all but impossible to see clients - apart from the occasional existing regular - during November and December. I've struggled with how to manage this. Do I keep my face and name out there for when I'm back at it in January? Or is that just promoting a brand around the idea of Unavailable? Also, RentMen is an expensive racket for a provider. Between gold memberships and platinum boosts, it's a lot! So it feels like an unjustifiable expense at this point. The point being: for the first time ever, I'm a viable recipient for this gift! 🎉 That said, the question of this topic remains. Why would anyone ever do that for me? Literally no idea. A tip/bonus from a happy client? Makes perfect sense. A material gift from a happy client? Makes perfect sense. This one... I honestly can't imagine it's a thing. But definitely expect my ad on your front page in January, New York. Paid for by yours truly...