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It's funny on this kink... I see it listed on a LOT of guys profiles, including my own. Few things make me feel as submissive as a spanking scene. And am definitely not afraid to be reddened and bruised. But it's been a VERY long time since I've had any inquiries about it in either direction. Seems it's a very mainstream common kink on Recon, but not on RentMen. Am I wrong? Are there spanking top clients out there?

THIS is a situation I've never encountered before, but sounds super hot!

I love working with couples! It’s honestly my favorite scene, especially if it’s a vers situation for me. Since I charge for my time, I’ve never asked for a couples surcharge. My rate is my rate.

I actually really get off on serving bigger men and older men. Very early in my escort life, I had a client in his 80’s. I was admittedly a little unsure beforehand of how I’d react. I’d always gotten off on age difference, playing with older guys, but this was extreme even for me. Come to find out, this guy was one of my hottest experiences. The gravitas he brought, and the breadth of life experience, made for a really intense sex appeal. I still actively hope I maintain his level of sex appeal when I’m his age. Ever since, I’ve actively pursued every opportunity I could to play with senior seniors. As for the bear aspect? That wasn’t such a discovery. I’ve ALWAYS been into big guys. All the more to explore. More places to bury your face. 😈 I really believe you shouldn’t have any problem finding providers who are genuinely into daddy bears and grandpa bears. And please holler if you’re ever in NYC! 👋🏻 😏

I’ve done this kind of play with clients. Happy to answer your questions privately.

I have partnered with other escorts on occasion, enough to be able to arrange something.

Indeed! This was some loose lipped posting, almost two years ago. The near-weekly regular is a unicorn. We should all be so lucky. Gratitude only!

In my experience, this scene is best in a wet space, so the release can be part of the experience.

I feel called out by this topic! LOL I am for sure guilty of being the chatty escort after. I think part of that is just connection. I try to bring my real self to bear as much as possible in building actual connectivity with a client. So that when a client is feeling an actual real connected experience, actually so am I. So naturally it can be hard to just bring the curtain down on an interaction just because the clock says so. We all know the famous Charlie Sheen quote: "I don't pay them for [their time], I pay them to leave." And there can be truth in that! So obviously you read the room and make an effort to hustle out if that's the vibe. And you learn over time to avoid unsexy over-shares about your personal life. And sometimes you do have to acknowledge you know the session is officially over, and it's not some kind of scheme to prolong the clock. But honestly... one of the best rewards to being an escort is the variety of fascinating compelling men you meet. I've built genuine ongoing friendships with a lot of guys, and I'm grateful for the time after a session to get to know them. All that said, we talk a lot in this forum about the provider/client space that we create and how important it is for a client to feel safe and comfortable to speak up honestly about what he wants and needs. As part of that, it's always 100% cool if the client says: Okay, probably time for you to head out.

Thank you for saying that!! I will happily line up to receive this particular tip of the hat. And I’ll happily accept that label, among others, as being central to my sexuality. There are many avowed breeding enthusiasts out there, and we’re extremely lucky to live at a time when we can enjoy that with reasonable comfort and safety. Many of us who came up in the 80’s or 90’s have fastidiously avoided that kind of thing for years on end and still feel the power of that taboo. But if you do your homework and invest time and effort in the necessary precautions, it can be an act that brings two men closer than any other. And it can be a truly meaningful thing to provide, in either direction. And if you’re squeamish about hearing that from a provider, then condoms are still a very sensible option. Still available at a pharmacy near you.

Just as a frame of reference here for this conversation: I've had a grand total of one experience ever where a client has asked that a condom be involved, and that was last month. With prep and doxy pep and regular testing, I've tested positive for an STI a grand total of zero times since I started escorting. The fact of the matter is that the tools for safety have evolved, enabling escorts to be more generous with our bodies than we used to be. No, it's not risk free. Yes, it's a calculated risk for all parties. Yes, it's incumbent upon all of us active escorts and clients to educate and protect our own selves. The best escorts - when asked - will put on a condom. The best escorts - when asked - will have a frank conversation about safety if bare sex is your preference. All that said, if you're engaging in sex with escorts - or anyone really - you have choices to make as to how to protect yourself. It could be prep and doxy pep. It could be condoms. It could be abstaining altogether. Or - as suggested above - it could be staying home and jerking off to Only Fans.

Clearly we providers, as a population, have a wide array of communication platform preferences with a wide array of motivations for them. For instance, I don't want SMS texting or iMessages, while I prefer WhatsApp or Telegram. For me it's compartmentalization. Escorting isn't my entire life. I have other jobs, and I have a personal life. Being able to separate messages into different inboxes is a godsend. Mixing day job related texts with escorting texts is too confusing for my limited juggling abilities. Also I want to manage where and when I'm opening text threads that may or may not have explicit photos of me. Phone calls are challenging for me, not because I have an issue speaking on the phone with a new client, but because it can be difficult to find the private time for a delicate conversation. All that said, I'm happy to give out my information to potential clients, if they're looking to chat. Not an area of discretion that has me super concerned. What you're describing sounds like extreme discretion. He's not looking to share his actual information with any potential clients. This strikes me as excessive if you're actually looking to meet clients, but if it works for him, that's his prerogative. Though certainly sounds limiting. I'm sure many would look at my preferences and have trouble making sense of it. We all come to this from a wide variety of life situations, all just trying to make it work!

I should have been more prepared with a pseudonym when I started sex work. But I don’t do well with them! I always fuck it up and use my real name by accident. So Damian it is!

I’d actually love to hire! Unfortunately, it’s financially counterproductive for me. I do very much love the work and the time I spend with clients. But the financial aspect of it is a real factor. Rent, groceries, etc. Also, if I’m being honest, my life such as it is doesn’t allow for a lot of time to indulge in my own personal recreational sexual pursuits. I'm sure it would be an amazing experience for me, and probably make me better at what I do. But sadly not practical for me anytime soon.

I love this thread already. So much of this forum is dedicated to complaining about providers and criticizing providers and warning about providers... Thank you @sky for offering the opportunity to put some positivity out there! As a provider, I don't get the chance to hire, but I want to take the opportunity to recognize @Simon Suraci. He's a natural community leader. And he's always willing to offer an empathetic ear and thoughtful advice. Providers can often be competitive, or even just protective of the details of what they do. This guy has far too much generosity of spirit for that. Most of my friends know that I'm a sex worker, but few of them actually understand. Simon is always willing to offer that understanding. Also, if you have a real RentMen membership, then you need to peruse his photo gallery. He's very generous with erotic images of himself, and they are fully EYE POPPING. I would never reduce another provider to his sex parts, but... Simon's are truly 360 degrees beautiful. If I were to hire, I'd hire him. Happy Sex Workers' Day! SimonSuraci - Male Escort, Gay massage - San Diego | Rent.Men RENT.MEN SimonSuraci Gay Escort in San Diego, California, available for Gay Escorting,Modeling,Erotic Massage. | Find all the best...