JamesB

I'm not sure I fully understand the OP's post, but it reminds me of a situation I had with a provider I hired a few times. During our last session, after I handed him an envelope with his usual fee plus a tip, he suddenly told me he needed to raise his rates. I didn’t have an issue with the rate increase until he said it would apply retroactively to the session we had just finished. The strange part? His new rate was actually less than what I had already been paying him with the tip included. So I simply told him that the envelope already covered his new rate. Needless to say, I never hired him again. A couple of months later, he texted me asking why I hadn’t booked him since. I didn’t bother responding.

I really don’t mind sharing my experiences or even my opinions through DMs. I see it as an important part of what makes this forum valuable, and I’ve received some great responses to my own inquiries that way. That said, I usually check how long someone has been a member and how active they are on the forum before deciding how much detail I’m comfortable sharing. I also make an effort to clarify what I think is part of the typical experience versus what might fall into the YMMV territory. I also really appreciate it when people follow up with feedback after they’ve had their own experience.

You already know the answer to your question. That said, as a paying client, don’t you see how many things are wrong with this statement?

In my opinion, the core issue here isn’t necessarily that he works as an escort, people can have all kinds of professions or make personal choices for a variety of reasons. The real problem is that he chose to keep it from you. In any committed relationship, transparency and trust are essential. When one partner withholds something this significant, it creates a deep rupture in the foundation of that trust. From my own experience and from what I’ve seen in others' lives, once that trust is broken, it’s incredibly difficult, if not impossible, to fully restore it. You begin to question everything: what else has been hidden, and what can you believe going forward. As painful as it is, I agree with the advice others have already offered: consult a lawyer, get a divorce and move on. It may not feel like it now, but protecting your emotional well-being and long-term peace is worth making that difficult choice. You deserve honesty, respect, and someone who values the truth as much as you do.

I personally enjoy a bit of conversation after the session, it feels natural and part of being human. However, I’ve been seeing one particular provider regularly for the past two years who isn’t chatty at all. I suspect it’s due to his limited English skills, but who really knows.

Providers who ask for payment upfront are usually the ones who deliver a subpar experience and/or cut the session short.

Ohh got it, thanks for clarifying. I’ve never hired in London, so maybe that’s just how things work there. Thank you for the heads-up; I’ll need to keep it in mind if I ever look to hire in London, especially since Brazilians are among my top choices.

Maybe this is a location specific issue, because that hasn’t been my experience with Brazilians. The only time I was asked to pay in advance was by a provider from Colombia. Since that wasn’t mentioned during the appointment setup, I simply turned around and left.

I’m not arguing that he could be a scammer or that it's a potential red flag, but it’s funny that you suspect the guy might be a “bot or scammer”, yet you take “originally from Florida” at face value, as if it automatically means he was born there. It’s clear that his English is limited, so he might be misusing the word “originally”. Maybe he just meant that he used to live there. Maybe he just feels that telling a random stranger he's not from the U.S. isn't the best idea right now. In any case, you’d be surprised how many people who were actually born in Florida aren’t fluent in English. Some grow up in households where only another language is spoken, like Spanish, Russian, or French. Others are raised in tight-knit cultural or religious communities where English isn’t the dominant language, even if they’re white and born in the U.S.

Yes, it's increasingly common for people, especially the younger, to not consider vaping the same as smoking, even though both have health implications. The distinction is more cultural and perceptual than scientific.

You’ve got to be kidding! When was the last time you were actually in Florida, especially Central or South Florida? LOL!!!

Simply hover over the member’s profile, you’ll find the option in the bottom right corner. If that doesn’t work, you can also use the following link to add them manually. https://www.companyofmen.org/ignore

That is what the “Ignore” option in the forum is for. If you feel a member has been consistently nasty, you can just place him in your Ignore list. It works wonderfully. In my opinion the moderators here do an excellent job intervening when the rules are broken.

Apparently, I don’t give off cop vibes, I've never been asked if I am one.

I'll echo what many have already said: your health is your responsibility, no one else’s. Relying on a stranger’s claim about their health status isn’t a smart way to protect yourself. Let me give you an example. There’s a local provider who’s been around for a few years. His ads on both RMass and RMen used to state his status as: Positive, undetectable on ART. Suddenly, his RMass ad stopped mentioning his status and the one on RMen changed to: Negative, on PrEP. I guess miracles do happen. The point is: don’t shift the responsibility for your health onto someone else. That’s a risk that may not end well. P.S. No, I will not name the provider.

Never pay up front. Never pay a deposit.

I honestly have no idea. I haven’t had any communication with either of them. What caught my eye is that their ad descriptions are nearly identical. Makes me wonder if this is going to become a new trend on RM.

Here’s another profile with almost the exact same description. https://rent.men/Gulivert_sour

Let’s break it down: Including a hyperlink to a provider’s RentMen profile (e.g., rentmen.eu/username) that leads to publicly accessible content does not constitute copyright infringement under current U.S. law. Hyperlinking simply directs users to the original source and does not reproduce any protected material. The embedded image, however, could be a different matter. Embedding the provider’s profile photo could potentially constitute infringement, IF the provider actually owns the copyright. I emphasize “if” because platforms like RentMen typically have terms of service that grant them a license or even ownership over uploaded content, which complicates individual ownership claims. Additionally, the forum could argue fair use (17 U.S.C. § 107) if the image was used for criticism, commentary, or review (e.g., discussing the provider’s services). Factors favoring fair use include: Non-commercial, critical review (if the forum is non-profit or user-driven) and the amount used. A single profile picture is a small portion of the provider’s profile. As you mentioned, the real motivation behind the claim seems to be suppressing negative feedback. This makes the copyright argument appear more like a pressure tactic than a solid legal claim, especially without proof of ownership. Requesting that the forum moderator edit the post to remove the embedded image while keeping the hyperlink to the RentMen profile is a reasonable and sufficient response.

https://rentmasseur.com/JOSEPHRELAX I believe I have seen these pictures before. Any 411?.

It was an incall. I always try to keep first meets that way. If the provider can’t host, I’ll get a hotel room. In this particular case, he was traveling so I went to his hotel. Didn’t even get past the door. He fed me some nonsense about privacy, so I walked away. The worst part? Besides 45 min. drive each way, he was actually pretty good looking.

Just once. The provider was using someone else’s photos. Naturally, no payment was made.

I keep it simple: if their username includes a name, I use that. If not, I just ask how they’d like to be addressed. Whatever they prefer is fine with me, even if I happen to learn their real name while checking them out.

Here is a past thread: https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/137699-why-is-it-the-same-rentmen-of-the-day-guys-week-after-week-but-each-time-i-check-can’t-seem-to-find-availability/ Also from the RMen website: