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At least in this case, he’s clear about what he does and doesn’t offer when you text him. That said, I agree with you, advertising something as “sensual” while only providing therapeutic services is misleading at best.

1 hour ago, Mhs said:

I recently had a disappointing and frustrating experience…wanted to see if anyone has words of wisdom.

I’d seen a pair of guys for 4-hand massage several times. Always a great experience. They took a break, my schedule got crazy, etc etc…but recently our calendars aligned and I met up with them again after about a year and a half. 

Oh, man. It was like a totally different duo. They’re using baby oil now. While they had previously given a really great mostly-therapeutic massage, this time it went into escort territory barely 10 minutes in. (And even that was like borderline uncomfortably forceful.) I’d requested a hour, and I was back in my car exactly 40 minutes later. And the worst part was that my coat reeked of the incense they were burning. 

I’m not including their names on purpose - I know everyone has off days, chemistry doesn’t work, etc - but it’s just annoying because they used to be very good. 

Thanks for letting me rant.

 I’ve had quite a few experiences like this myself, I’ve been hiring for too long. In some cases, they stop putting in the effort to retain clients and settle into doing the bare minimum while still getting paid. In others, it seems more like burnout than anything else.

From what I’ve seen, once things reach that point, they rarely turn around. It’s usually better to move on and find someone who’s more engaged and consistent.

On 3/31/2026 at 9:08 PM, francisssgorg said:

Just curious, why is it that the least attractive guys for gay community in western world are asians? Like 60-70% would already back out if they learned that the person is asian, especially with gay guys. 

I was on reddit earlier this morning, just killing time, when I responded to a topic about gay guys who love watching cfnm instead of cmnm, which is a weird topic, I know. But to make it short, I do watch cfnm sometimes and I like it better than cmnm in some instances but I always concentrate on the guy. So then I got a message in the chat section from an anonymous redditor and he initiated the conversation about liking cfnm despite being a gay guy. I said I live in the States and he said he's from Spain. We weren't hitting on each other and it's gonna be awkward if we do since we're both anonymous users. We just found a common ground. As I was telling some of my kinks other than cmnm, in my responses, I always mention "back in my country" and when he asked, which country, I said Philippines. That's when he stopped chatting. Lol.. This is probably the third or fourth time it happened to me on reddit, and one time I got blocked even, after I mentioned I'm Asian. Sometime ago, when I was on vacation in Seattle, I was looking for cruising spots in the area, and whenever I mention where I'm originally from, it's like an instant auto block. I respect preferences. But sometimes, it hurts our confidence and our insecurities are heightened. Disclaimer, I won't consider myself as a physically attractive asian guy, but there are millions of really hot asian guys in the world and they are missing out 🤣. Gay guys from western countries, their common asset is that they're packing down there. Yes, bless their genetics lol! But you know, being an asian sized guy, I believe that we have to double our efforts to showcase our "skill sets". There's a lot of verse asian guys for starters. Also, we satisfy a lot of kinks that some big dicked western guy are clearly lacking. No offense, but I've experienced a lot of lazy tops, whether it'd be whites, blacks, latinos or whatever... They thought, "oh we have a big equipment, we don't need to put on a whole show, they would just worship me and work around it" oh please. But anyway, I'm not saying all of them are, but mostly. 

Anyway, those are just my two cents. If they don't wanna, it's fine. And for those who I had an encounter with, thank you, I hope you are satisfied with my vacuum powered, washing machine like mouth 🤣 I have a killer head game, I believe. If I could just eternalize those guys words and moanings 🤣

I’m sorry you’ve been having these kinds of negative experiences. I can relate in my own way. I’m personally very attracted to most Asians and I’ve definitely had moments where people reacted as if that preference was unusual or hard to understand.

I think it’s important to separate the idea of having a personal “type” from the broader issue of bias. Everyone has preferences and that’s completely natural. At the same time, those preferences don’t develop in isolation. They’re shaped, at least in part, by the culture we grow up in, the media we consume, and the stereotypes we’re exposed to over time.

1 hour ago, tall top dad said:

So most think I’m cheap…..but most did not read the point of the post. Also….for reference, have also tried to hire local, as we are in Pasadena Ca, we wont bite for West Hollywood or farther distance. We try to stay with in @ less then 10 mile radius to eliminate the hassle of traffic. Also never negotiated after a price was given. Always asked upfront, in advance. Also, if your going to hold your price, just state that, “sorry me fee is xxx”, that I can except. But don’t call me a cheap and call me out when it was just a legitimate question.

 

 

It’s a bit ironic. You asked for honest opinions in a public forum and that’s exactly what you received. Being frustrated that people didn’t validate your perspective misses the point of how open forums work. You put a question out there and people respond with their interpretations.

No one is saying you negotiated after the fact. The feedback is that the questions themselves came across as attempts to lower the price. If most people interpreted it that way, it might be worth reflecting on that rather than assuming everyone misunderstood your intent.

You asked whether it sounded cheap and people answered yes. That isn’t an attack, it’s simply a direct response to the question you posed.

It does come across as cheap. I’m not sure where you’re located but in many places an outcall typically runs around $200–$250. You’re trying to negotiate around someone’s pricing structure in multiple ways instead of just accepting the service as it’s offered. Outcall pricing isn’t just about the table, it’s about travel time, scheduling limitations and the inconvenience of leaving their workspace. Asking to split sessions or reprice things puts the provider in an awkward spot and undervalues their time. It’s understandable to want good value but in this case the requests lean more toward minimizing cost than respecting how the service is structured.

Bump, Any recent experience?

I can tell you what I do, though I’m not suggesting it’s a universal approach. After I finish, I usually pause for about 10 to 15 seconds, then continue at a much slower rhythm for a few minutes. If I’m asked to stop and stay still after finishing, I’m perfectly fine with that.

To be honest, the only thing holding me back from going the semiannual injection route is the cost.

I don’t believe men have a hormonal cycle comparable to the female menstrual cycle. There isn’t a predictable 28-day or similar pattern in male hormones that most men experience consistently enough to track or use for adjusting something like a daily tadalafil dose.

Men’s primary sex hormone, testosterone, follows a daily circadian rhythm. It typically peaks in the early morning, within a couple of hours of waking, and gradually declines throughout the day, reaching its lowest levels in the evening.

Tadalafil is a PDE5 inhibitor, works by relaxing blood vessels to improve blood flow, and its effectiveness isn’t directly tied to daily or monthly testosterone fluctuations.

In my own experience, fluctuations in libido tend to be more related to factors like stress levels, sleep quality and exercise rather than any kind of hormonal cycle.

2 hours ago, Rod Hagen said:

I think a lot of masseurs don't get massages in spas (cuz they are fucking expensive)  and so are unaware of the growing list of areas skipped routinely in Spa Massages.  A friend took me to Burke Williams regularly when I was young, so when I would do private massages before the escort session, or, grudgingly, stand-alone massages, I was sure to focus on feet, stomach and uncovered butt (maybe ears too), those areas the spas deem too intimate.  Particularly the stomach.

To your question, ask.  It's super frustrating to spend a massage thinking repeatedly, "is he going to do the _____?"

Now that you mention the stomach, I’ve always found it a bit strange that at a Spa I visit regularly, they avoid touching it during a massage, yet when I get a body scrub, they will scrub the hell out of it. Go figure.

I’ve learned from experience to always ask whether they’re okay with the things that matter to me, even if those are listed on their profile. Keep in mind that providers, like anyone else, won’t excel at everything they offer. Some may be great kissers, others not so much, and the same goes for everything else. As long as they make an effort, I’m more than willing to guide them on how I prefer things to be done.

Just as an example, about a month ago I contacted a provider who was new to me and didn't have his “into” section filled out. I asked about the things I like and he said no to one that’s a dealbreaker for me, so I thanked him and left it at that. Two days later, he updated his profile and listed that same thing as something he offers. So yes, it’s always best to ask, be specific and get clear confirmation on anything that’s important to you.

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1 hour ago, Frankcal said:

Any updated recommendations for bottoms in Orlando?  

https://rent.men/SkinnyHot

Roniel is a sweet guy who’s very eager to please and I had a good time with him. His place is near the airport, though it’s quite messy. Also, be aware that he likes to vape during sessions.

https://rent.men/XL_horny

As for Enrique/Felipe, he’s actually fully versatile and equally eager to please. His English is quite limited so using a translation app can help ensure he understands what you’re looking for during the session.

Also here for cross reference.

https://rentmasseur.com/Andresdommm

3 hours ago, Delter said:

Incredible that you’ve never been asked for a deposit. 

Why would you find it “incredible”? I’ve been doing this longer than I care to admit and I’ve only been asked for a deposit once. The fact that one member keeps bringing it up in what feels like an attempt to frame it as a universal requirement doesn’t make it so.

Rent.men working just fine for me.

Rent.men working just fine for me.

4 hours ago, rickster said:

Does the eSIM they provide get you a different number or just data in other countries?

Saily is data only. Airalo, depending on the location, can offer phone, text and data.

4 hours ago, Pd1_jap said:

https://saily.com

Saily is best for international travel. 

I prefer Airalo. I’ve run into issues with Saily piggybacking on low-coverage networks with limited speeds.

https://rent.men/Xnachoo

Name change

https://rent.men/LetMeTOPuNow

There’s already a thread for him, so there’s no need to start a new one.

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/155206-411-on-jose_colombia-in-orlando/#comment-2352013

2 hours ago, DznNYC said:

 

This is absolutely okay, even encouraged.

First of all, if you knew the fucked up things that providers get asked on a regular basis, you wouldn't worry!  

But truly, as a provider, it can only be helpful to have a clear erotic sense of your client in advance.  And chat is usually the way to learn that.   I never ask demographic questions beforehand (age, race, body type, cock size, etc) because that can lead all too often to a sense of the client feeling judged by be.  Definitely not the dynamic I'm after.   But I will ask lots of questions about their sexual interests.  It helps me know how to prepare for the session in advance.  But also, it helps ensure that the client is actually communicating his desires for our time together.  And guys will often open up more over chat than they will face to face. 

I put a lot of effort into making guys feel safe to open up and communicate what they want, but sometimes you can't fight years of repression and homophobia just by commanding someone to feel safe.  If sending a porn link feels easier that just explaining what you like... why not?  By all means, show me what you like!  

And this, my fellow forum member, is the difference between a true professional and someone just looking to make a quick buck. My hat’s off to you, sir.

14 hours ago, ShortCutie7 said:

I wouldn’t call myself “sexually active” since I do it like 3 times a year, and always use a condom for anal, but I’m not on PrEP because (among other reasons) I don’t want to be on any medications that aren’t 100% necessary. I had been a “mask and vaccine police” of sorts during the pandemic and do think that the vaccines and prolonged mask wearing negatively impacted my long-term health. I’m definitely not opposed to getting on PrEP eventually, but I would have to be in a situation where I at least have the time and resources to be sexually active, and by that point PrEP will have been around long enough for there to be more research on long-term side effects, efficacy, etc.

I wouldn’t consider three times a year to be sexually active either and I should have clarified in my post that I was referring to unprotected sex; that’s on me. That said, you might be a good candidate for on-demand or event-driven PrEP, especially if you bottom, since condoms can fail and you’ll end up with a full load inside you. Don’t ask me how I know. In any case, it’s best to have an open and honest conversation with your doctor and then decide what level of risk you’re comfortable with, keeping in mind that the only completely risk-free option is abstinence.