ShortCutie7

Heartbreaking! He was a great person in every way by all accounts I have ever heard.

I have an addictive personality and would absolutely become addicted to hiring if I had the time and money to indulge regularly. I find that for anything I’m trying not to become addicted to, I have to give myself specific parameters or goals to hit before I engage. For example, before my next hire, I must: 1- have and set aside the free time to do it (this is surprisingly the hardest part as it can be months between opportunities to have a few hours to myself). The more in advance I know my target date, the longer I have to make arrangements with an escort and ensure that my below goals are met. 2- have above a specific amount of money in my checking account (I won’t be able to afford to pay $X for an hour if I don’t have at least $10X in the bank). 3- hit below a specific (but realistic) weight on the scale (this is extra encouragement for me to manage my weight, plus I know I’ll have a better time if I feel sexy, myself).

One of the main elements I look for when I peruse an escort’s profile is if I can tell WHY he escorts. If he seems like he does it because he can make a lot of money or is desperate to make ends meet? Wrong reason. If he seems like he does it as a favor to those less hot than him? Wrong reason. If he seems like he does it because he genuinely loves sex and making others happy? Right reason!

I used to see Nick out and about and he looks even better in person!

Strikingly hot guy!!!

I re-downloaded Grindr a few days ago and had to delete it again because it is now making sounds on its own even while my phone is locked (and my settings are to not receive notifications). When my phone is making the refresh sound and a new grunt sound at random times even hours after closing the app (and there was no possible notification it could have been), something has to be wrong with the app.

That sucks for both of them! The family I’m referring to in my post is both of my parents (who I take care of)… I’ve never actively pretended to be straight (never dated etc) but don’t need my doctor and parents to know that I like cock.

If being in a convent prevents me from getting an STI, you can call me Sister Mister.

That is one of my main reasons for not being on PreP and being a “condom n*zi”- I have the same doctor as my family, and my (very infrequent) sexual activity is nobody’s business. I’m on one med (for an unrelated condition), and that’s one more med than I’d like to be taking.

Yep, I did tell the escort in advance and he was rock hard, so it’s possible he did take a Viagra. I guess it seemed at like a “big ask” at the time because oral with a condom was something I had never seen/experienced before. I would definitely not hire a provider who refused a condom during anal… that would be the biggest dealbreaker!

Glad to hear that the clients enjoyed being on the receiving end! I didn’t receive oral during my last encounter (we were busy with other things 😈) but I will try it next time and report back!

Yep, which is basically exactly what I wrote here 😊:

@moonlight No new experiences since that was my last sexual encounter, but I would absolutely prefer to give oral with a condom going forward. My only new thought is that whether I insist on it or not would depend on the dynamic (ie whether I’m paying a provider for exactly what I want or having a more equitable hookup).

Exactly, it’s not the science I don’t trust; it’s the margin of error in people taking it… how many of us know a woman who took birth control “as directed” and got pregnant anyway? I would guess all of us… there’s an innate margin of error to literally anyone doing anything, even if they think they’re doing it right.

@lseactuary90 as a fellow 30-something in NYC I feel you (and have also never been in a relationship), and I really don’t think it has as much to do with you as it does the game itself. When I think of all of the gays I know who are around our age and in committed long-term relationships, I don’t think most of them met on apps or dating sites; they met through friends, work, activities, etc. When I was in the stage of my life that I was open to dating/a relationship (I genuinely don’t have the time for that now, but that’s another story), I went on a couple dates and had a few “mind-blowing” hookups, but they never went anywhere. My philosophy is that love will find me when the time is right.

And this is why I don’t trust PreP on its own and will always rely on a combination of condoms and vetting/very rarely fucking. I saw more than one “starred” Grindr guy’s status change from “on PreP” to “undetectable”.

Hot!!! Are the five stars just based on his profile or from meeting him?

It’s not, hence the discussions about “kosher-style” etc lol. I have and do like it a bit better than regular ketchup, but still don’t think it pairs well with the vast majority of dishes.

Totally! If I have a choice, I’ll usually go with honey-mustard for nuggets and A1 for a burger.

I don’t have any specific recommendations as a) I’m also new to seeing escorts b) I’m not interested in getting topped by an escort but, based on your description of yourself and what you want, you would probably be best off seeing a provider who identifies as bisexual or even straight. Do you have any preferences other than age and position that could help us narrow down the field?

I’ve done a significant amount of sexting via Facebook messenger in the past and never had an issue… I think you should be safe on there as long as you don’t bring up any illegal activity.

The pic where he’s lifting his shirt turns him from a “maybe” to a “yes” for me… has anyone here met him?

I eat ketchup only when there are no other sauce options with fries (on the rare occasion I eat them), nuggets/tenders, and burgers. I can’t fathom having it on eggs, steak, vegetables, etc.

I met AngusStevensxxx (linked above) a couple months ago and had a wonderful time. Very sweet and sexy in a “boy next door” way. He’s around 5’7 so was taller than me without towering over me (which most guys do).

Very surprised to hear that- I contacted him on Scruff (for a regular hookup) and he told me he was an escort, which is actually one of the things that led me to this website.