ShortCutie7

In addition to what everyone else has mentioned, it’s important that he doesn’t have every “into” selected, as it shows that he put thought into what is or is not selected- for example, I’m less likely to contact a guy who has “PNP” and “fisting” selected, and more likely to select a guy who has “kissing” selected. But more importantly, as I wrote in another recent thread: One of the main elements I look for when I peruse an escort’s profile is if I can tell WHY he escorts. If he seems like he does it because he can make a lot of money or is desperate to make ends meet? Wrong reason. If he seems like he does it as a favor to those less hot than him? Wrong reason. If he seems like he does it because he genuinely loves sex and making others happy? Right reason!

Exactly, the whole point of paying is that the client gets to call the shots- in an unpaid hookup, if one guy is out of the other’s league, the roles would be more likely to be reversed. And generally speaking, people don’t go into professions they hate. If your least favorite/worst subject in school was math, you’re probably not an accountant. The same premise applies to being a provider... if a provider doesn’t enjoy sexual activity with a variety of types of guys at least to some degree, it would not be a viable career.

Yes, that is basically what I’m getting at.

“Flexibility” meaning a lack of commitments/responsibilities and constraints. They have the time and money to afford the laissez-faire attitude. Their lives revolve around sex because they can. I don’t think I’m being clear lol.

The envy is not of the BB sex itself, but of the flexibility these people have in their lives that allows them to have it.

Absolutely incredible, underrated musical! One of the few scores from which I wouldn’t cut a single note… glad this music is getting the treatment it deserves!

My life has changed significantly in the last few years. I was much more sexually active from circa 2012 (aka before PreP was common) to 2019, and had plenty of hookups albeit very rarely anal. The handful of times I did anal I always used a condom, but had never thought of using a condom for oral before reading on this very site about experiences getting STIs from oral. I was fortunate enough to have never gotten an STI, but I now know that that was more due to luck than my own safety measures. While I now hook up very very infrequently (more due to my lifestyle/circumstances than fear), I understand the cohort LookingAround is describing, and they regularly go clubbing/bar-hopping, go to sex parties, are on PreP, and have BB sex. I don’t think it’s obliviousness as much as it is a mindset that they’ll just cross the bridge of treating an infection if they get it. While I don’t judge those who do that at all and am honestly a bit envious, I don’t have space in my life for all that and don’t think BBing would be worth the risk of other STIs even if I were on PreP.

Gorgeous guy, but what does the lips-on-ass tattoo signify? I feel like I’ve seen that on a few guys and it frankly makes me laugh

That’s because many of those of us who are pro-condom are not the inhabitants of that world. Yes, I am gay and a New Yorker, but I am not the kind of person you would meet while out clubbing… I have commitments that prevent me from living that life, as well as other interests.

Exactly, this is why I don’t get the anti-condom rhetoric.

FYI outcall only 😢

As a Brooklynite who works in Manhattan and has had to travel to both Jersey and the Bronx, Jersey is SHOCKINGLY easy (like to the extent that I was angry how much faster the commute is between NJ and Manhattan than Brooklyn and Manhattan).

I don’t speak for others, but for me, as a New Yorker, location is SUPREMELY important. I quite literally chose my first escort because his location was the most convenient one for me to stop at on my way to work. As others have said, if you plan on hosting, your best bet is in or very close to midtown. Honestly, I think guys would pay more for convenience. If you plan on doing outcalls, transportation accessibility is imperative, so better to stay somewhere very accessible like Jersey City or Astoria than somewhere like South Brooklyn or Long Island.

Really surprised that it could even be possible for a homeless person or recent immigrant to have a credit card- I’m in my 30s, have lived here my whole life, have a full time job and two debit cards, but can’t get approved for a credit card because I don’t have enough credit history! Anyway, back on topic, you can easily avoid homeless escorts if that’s an issue for you by doing incalls only with escorts who are based out of the city you are in.

I had similar thoughts when I saw it on Broadway- I enjoyed it for the performances and a handful of good songs, but the show as a whole left me cold. I did not get the hype at all (and saw it right before the Tonys which I knew it would win just due to the overwhelmingly positive word of mouth/reviews).

I do all of my communication via RM messaging. If a provider I haven’t met insists on texting me, I let him know that as a general rule I do not give my phone number to people I haven’t met in person.

I unfortunately have never been able to find a picture of it, but ballet/theatre dancer Harold Lang’s ass was the stuff of legends. https://images.app.goo.gl/x92bDj9LHpnQjaBP8

I do manage my schedule; that’s why my appointments have either been in the morning or on a day off. I’m not saying it’s ok to show up unclean; I’m saying that if someone does show up unclean, it’s probably not due to them being generally unhygienic, and is more likely to be circumstantial. We have to give people benefit of the doubt. ETA: to be clear, I am not making excuses for myself; I have only ever had two appointments and arrived squeaky clean to both. It’s just one of my pet peeves when people have unrealistic expectations of others.

I really don’t give a crap about dick size as long as it gets hard. It was when I started hooking up that I discovered some parts of the face/body that I am particularly drawn to, but I’m definitely a “whole package” guy, to the extent where I don’t need a lot of information or even see a clear picture of a man’s full face or body to tell if I’ll be attracted to him.

People don’t always have control over these things. For example, if I’m going to an appointment after work, it’s not physically possible to be shower-fresh upon arrival. That said, I would absolutely not be offended if asked to shower (and may even request one if available). Anyway, I do often wonder if the rates I get quoted are lower or higher due to my stats, but unfortunately it’s nearly impossible to gauge if I am a provider’s “type”, which would make for a better session, anyway.

Heartbreaking! He was a great person in every way by all accounts I have ever heard.

I have an addictive personality and would absolutely become addicted to hiring if I had the time and money to indulge regularly. I find that for anything I’m trying not to become addicted to, I have to give myself specific parameters or goals to hit before I engage. For example, before my next hire, I must: 1- have and set aside the free time to do it (this is surprisingly the hardest part as it can be months between opportunities to have a few hours to myself). The more in advance I know my target date, the longer I have to make arrangements with an escort and ensure that my below goals are met. 2- have above a specific amount of money in my checking account (I won’t be able to afford to pay $X for an hour if I don’t have at least $10X in the bank). 3- hit below a specific (but realistic) weight on the scale (this is extra encouragement for me to manage my weight, plus I know I’ll have a better time if I feel sexy, myself).

One of the main elements I look for when I peruse an escort’s profile is if I can tell WHY he escorts. If he seems like he does it because he can make a lot of money or is desperate to make ends meet? Wrong reason. If he seems like he does it as a favor to those less hot than him? Wrong reason. If he seems like he does it because he genuinely loves sex and making others happy? Right reason!

I used to see Nick out and about and he looks even better in person!

Strikingly hot guy!!!