MaximoFP

Love guys in flip-flops, but hate that most of them don't do anything to take care of their feet
 
Cardinal rules of wearing Havaianas: Get regular pedicures and a pumice stone is your friend. I spend a lot of time going barefoot when I'm down in Key West, but always make sure that I scrub down daily and keep my feet in shape.

Corbin Fisher caters to the foot fetish market more than Sean Cody, IMO. They go beyond showing close-ups of the guys' feet, and actually include worship as part of the foreplay. I am incredibly into feet, and for this reason I prefer subsribing to CF than SC.

I like the ‘get acquainted’ approach. Sounds good. Most of my clients are massage clients. Those that are anxious or new to make to male experience appreciate the opportunity to treat the session as just a naked massage. That way they can tell themselves nothing need happen unless they choose it during the session. We go at their pace. 
I find that working with anxious or ‘exploring’ clients probably the most rewarding and interesting sessions. It’s so fulfilling when they say they had a great time. One of the best parts of the work. 
 

Client POV: First of all, it's great you ask clients their perspective. That puts you way ahead of the game of many providers. I was definitely nervous the first few times I did hiring. But I wasn't a newbie to gay sex, so that helped a lot. I guess I had a drink or two to relax, thinking back on it (don't drink now). But just enough for a buzz. I don't like to be too far gone for an encounter like that.

I still get nervous sometimes meeting someone for the first time, especially if he isn't reviewed or is a particularly large guy (body size or cock size). But the nerves are just standard -- they don't interfere with the session. Sometimes I've had providers who were nervous, and I just try to make them feel unthreatened and take things at an easy-going pace.

No, but I've had him cancel a booked meet with just a couple of hours notice. To be fair to him, he immediately refunded the deposit he insists on.
His RM ad often reads as quite demanding/passive-agressive.
My experience of Chris is that he's difficult and flaky to make arrangements with, minimally chatty when you meet him but very good at the physical aspects of the meet.
He's one of the few escorts I've been interested in meeting again but his unreliability over making arrangements made me give up on that. Pity, because physically he's very good.

My personal stance is that people shouldn't fool themselves into thinking it's anything more than a good time that's being paid for. A business exchange with some personality. I think problems arise because people have unfulfilled emotional needs, and that kind of thing can turn sad or ugly, quick. I'm sure there are escorts out there that have formed relationships or friendships with some clients, but I also suspect that some of those clients may be fooling themselves into thinking those relationships are more than they actually are.

^This. And consistency. I’m fully aware most clients can’t afford to do all the things @Coolwave35 does, and certainly not on a regular basis. BUT the basic principle applies.
Do your research. Post on the forums when there is no existing thread (use the search function first), or find the appropriate thread by searching and ask there. Try a few providers for shorter sessions. There is some degree of risk in doing this. You won’t click with everyone, and that’s normal. That’s just part of the process. Don’t give up.
When you find a provider you like, cultivate the relationship by hiring him with some regularity, and if you can afford it, for longer sessions should you really like something akin to a boyfriend experience.
Anything you can do to incentivize your regular guy financially will make him loyal to you and prioritize you over other clients. This is a business. Our time and attention is best spent on repeat clients. The best clients are regular ones.
Amazon wishlists and all the perks you can think of are great, but money paid directly is the greatest motivation.

Here’s my tip. 
Money talks. 
If you can afford it, finding a regular is easy. If you don’t yet have the disposable income to taste A LOT of chocolate, I think it is much harder to find a regular. I have several incredible regulars, and we prioritize each other. It took a bit to lock them in and be a priority to them. What did the trick though?  Money. 
This is going to sound arrogant and pompous but it isn’t meant to. I thought everyone hired like me. I budget north of $150k a year for escorts and indulge a few times a week. When a session with a new guy goes south or is subpar, I don’t pay it much attention and just get excited for my the next one. When I click with a regular I wanna go the distance with, I don’t give up.
Only in the past two+ years from reading here, did I come to understand that that isn’t the norm, it’s the exception.  I truly had no idea because who did I have to discuss hiring habits with?  No one. 

I have since come to understand that the vast majority of clients hire a few times a year, budget for sessions and save up for them. They meticulously evaluate profiles and interview providers and gather additional information. Most can only hire when they travel. They carefully evaluate what a fair tip is and balance the quality of the session with the additional reward. Some expect a bit of aftercare. All of these factors affect your ability to find and secure a regular. Honestly, I have no idea how you would do that on a budget so I’m not going to be much help if that’s your situation.
I will share a little bit about how I do it with no regard for what it costs. When I’m into a guy, I go hard on the courting process.
I often meet guys at the Adonis nude party in NYC. If I am liking the vibe, I offer to match whatever they make at the party to go home with me afterwards. Sometimes a guy will make $700. Sometimes $2k. Psychologically, a guy knowing whatever he makes that night will be doubled by going home with me locks them in for the overnight.  Now I get to try them out for an extended session.  If we have a great time together, I’ll text them a week before the next nude party. If they’re coming I’ll ask them if they have a hotel. If not, I’ll offer to let them stay in mine the night before, the night of and the night after. I tell them I’ll get a two bed room and only be there the night of the party so they can use it to recover their travel costs and have a nice place to host. No one has ever declined this offer, and no one has ever not shown their gratitude by climbing in my bed after the nude party.  We all know what we’re doing.
The next month, the guy I am into commits himself to fly in knowing I’ll cover the room with the same offer and instead of me texting them if they’re coming, they text me and ask if I’ll be going. Really it means “are you gunna get my room” but I’m ok playing the game too. We banter a bit and I ask what flight they’re coming in on. Then I upgrade their flight. All of these guys fly the most basic economy ticket they can find. Often they’re tall and muscular and flying cheap sucks. I do this with the expectation that while the guy is in NYC, he will try a little harder to make time for me. They almost ALWAYS give me some bonus time as a thank you. They’ll invite me to dinner before the party or usually breakfast after, again knowing I’ll foot the bill and I’m ok with that. I get a quasi BF experience out of it and now we’re getting to know each other out of a king size bed. 
In between parties I’ll offer Venmo and cash apps for them doing silly things or sending me unsolicited pics and videos. It keeps them engaged throughout the month and the conversation flowing. We are getting to know each other and developing a relationship over text and I am keeping them engaged by sending a couple hundred dollars a week or sending shit from their Amazon wishlist.  Now the planning starts. They are more willing to come to nyc knowing they’ll make money with me. I’m excited to go to the nude parties because I don’t have to worry about kissing a bunch of frogs because I already have a hot guy that I’m into ready to spend the weekend with me. 
From here I offer a weekend trip. Once a guy gets to travel in a bit of luxury, they’re committed. Then the invitations get much easier and it goes to “regular” status. 
I am not sure ANY of this is helpful, but it is how I identify, cultivate and lock in the guys I want to consistently keep appointments with me and be regulars. 

Hey! In my opinion, the first step is going to be to just hire one of the guys you like. If you vibe with him, see if he’s interested in setting up an overnight. And if so, test the waters with the relationship you want. If not with him, with someone else. 
 
But ultimately, you won’t know until you get over the initial step of hiring someone first. 

I'd start with hiring a bunch of guys for an hour or two. See who you enjoy spending time with the most. Never go for an overnight or weekend first in case you don't vibe. Plus then you might get a better rate for a longer session from a guy you've hired once or twice before then as well.

You either make the decision to have a work/life balance or you don't.
For years, I lived and breathed escorting.  I worked 28 of 30 days a month, most of that flying from one client to another.
It worked through my 20s and 30s.  I bounced back quick, never got tired, kept a smile on my face.
Now I'm 40.  I listened to my body and pulled back.  I take more time for me.  I vacation from my vacation.  I pick my battles.
Money is great, but at some point you have to prioritize your well-being. 

the basics are pretty obvious.....be very clean, sharp, "all there", sober, friendly, relaxed, calm and collected......
I also don't like cologne, antiperspirant, floral scents, etc.....please just be soaped up and rinsed off.....
if walking thru a hotel, public space, lobby, be discreet and low-key....no crazy clothes.....don't draw attention to yourself.....
talk slowly and just hang out like a good buddy.....

I want my men to be clean!
 

I've had a couple that have smelled of cigarettes or weed and one that was clearly off his face on drugs.
Another was on a comedown from a weekend of partying.
I like to ask providers to not use antiperspirant or aftershave (after showering of course) because I want to appreciate them in their natural state, not tasting of chemicals. There's nothing worse than sliding your tongue up the side a guys abdomen, around his chest, up towards his armpit only to be confronted with a thick layer of chemicals ending up in your mouth.

I should have pointed out my sexual experiences were pretty limited. I stayed with the first guy I slept with for four years and the next guy for 25. I had been out of that relationship for less than a year and still not very experienced when this happened.
 
It certainly opened my eyes to a better understanding and appreciation for fetishes in general.