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All great suggestions on this thread. I'm much more likely to hire someone whose profile has three elements. First, a smiling face picture. People just look better smiling and for me it's easier to judge their looks and demeanor. I don't understand why so many providers post dozens of pictures with their faces with no smiles but many frowns and blank looks. Second, a couple of full body pictures in a swimsuit or gym togs or something else that reveals their body type. I don't need body part closeups (except see below) or twenty different poses, and I don't need the tourist snapshots. I don't care if you visited Times Square or took a selfie in front of the Eiffel Tower. Third, a dick pic. It doesn't have to be explicit. An indicative outline in a pair of shorts or under a sheet is enough to give me an idea of what the provider is packing. I'm not obsessed with size and I hire guys with normal or even small dicks if I like the rest of the profile, but I'd like to know before I hire. Of course, the posted sizes are often unreliable. One last comment is that these pics should be publicly available, though I understand a discreet provider holding back on a face pic.

For the same reasons of confidentiality mentioned by many posters above, I always pay in cash and will never pay by another method. If you don't take cash, I'm sorry but I'll move on. In my experience, younger providers are fine with cash, though my guess is they'd also take Venmo if I asked them. Just a couple of months ago, I went to an ATM to get cash and it only dispensed twenties and tens instead of hundreds, so that evening I gave my provider a ridiculously thick stack of bills. "Just like the old days" was his response.

Well, never mind. I messaged him on RM asking to meet on Saturday and to see his private pics. He wrote back "Saturday is good" and unlocked his pics, but an hour later (during which I had not been on RM) he blocked me. Can't imagine what made him change his mind so quickly. Maybe one of you guys will have better luck with him or maybe he's just a total flake.

Yes, I DM'ed a retired (well, a no-longer-advertising) provider after he posted something. We kept chatting and, after a while, I hired him. He's now my regular. So it's been a great success.

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Can't speak for anyone else, but I live in Manhattan and can't host. Neither can most escorts. Even with the market being limited by that, in the 20ish years of this hobby, I have gone to close-in parts of Queens or Brooklyn or north of 96th Street in Manhattan for no more than four or five providers. I also have a car and in theory I could drive to the boroughs or further to meet a provider, but I never have. That's how significant convenience is to me.

Yes, those bars are long gone, for good or bad. I am well past the age of going to clubs and it's been years since I've worn suits, haha, but the "how much money does he have" analysis going on in a provider's head was pretty obvious. That's just good marketing, I guess. I never thought about whether how late it was had an impact on price, but I'm not a night owl so I was more likely to be offered the early-bird special than the late-night discount.

The ad is already gone.

IF ONLY my college friend looked like Russell Tovey . . .

You just reminded me of a decent-looking guy I knew in college who had huge ears that stuck out almost perpendicular. He was straight and I was closeted, so nothing ever happened, but I fantasized often about bending him over a table and fucking him while staring at those ears. What a sick fuck I was when I was younger.

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I hired him earlier this month. Better looking than his pics, he's friendly and enthusiastic. I enjoyed my time with him and will definitely hire him again the next time I get to SF.

This guy's pics look like his dog just got run over. Not to go off on a rant here, but why do so many providers fail to smile in their face pictures posted on their profiles. I'm hiring them for fun after all, not to join me at my great aunt's funeral, so I'd like to see someone show some cheerfulness. Also, many guys just look better (hotter, more handsome, more relatable) in photos when they're smiling. End of rant.

I'm glad the reports on this guy are positive; the world can use more good providers. But he's not my type, so all I want to know is whether he's really in med school. Managing med school plus escorting plus travel suggests time management skills beyond my comprehension, and I salute that achievement. What that salute looks like I'll leave to your imagination.

While not applicable in most RM interactions, I assume the provider also adjusts his rate if he has any knowledge of how wealthy the customer is. When meeting someone at a club or bar, I found that I got quoted consistently higher rates when I was wearing a suit and tie than when I was wearing jeans and a tennis shirt. I found the same thing was true when I went shopping for cars.

The above posters are right. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I myself am a gift to (or a crash dummy for) the medical establishment. I've had more conditions and syndromes and surgeries and other medical interventions than you can imagine. My sexual performance is unreliable and evanescent, as much as I enjoy it myself. This is exactly the reason I hire, to be free of the concerns you describe. (Well, that and to meet much hotter guys than I could otherwise.) In my experience, most escorts take their clients as they find them and adjust accordingly. Hire someone who looks hot to you and go with it. If you can get out of your own head, you'll enjoy it.

I suggest you give Seeking a try. It's a real mix of delusional kids who think some billionaire is going to adopt them and sex workers who are either on RM or who do it as a side gig and don't want to spend the money for RM membership, but there are also guys (some relatively educated and sophisticated) who are just looking for a taste of a nicer lifestyle. One of those might respond positively to an offer of being your companion on a week's trip to Las Vegas or wherever. All their expenses would be covered, of course, but the money you pay them and the amount of sex is open to discussion. They come with a different set of expectations than the professionals on RM, so my guess is the cost will be a lot less and so will the sex, but it sounds like that's fine with you. The fact that the trip is coming up means you can get on Seeking for only a month or two, reach out to anyone who seems suitable and to your taste and see if you find someone. If not, you're no worse off other the cost of the membership. Good luck to you.

It looks like a glucose monitor, but it might not mean he's a diabetic. Some athletes are starting to use them for biofeedback in training and performance situations. A trainer at my gym has been wearing one for the last few weeks as he prepares for an Ironman triathlon.

It certainly seems that way (except for the explicit videos), but with the tension between providers wanting to make as appealing a presentation as possible (unless they're trying to discriminate between premium and non-premium members) and RM wanting to encourage as much premium membership as possible, you'd think SOMEONE was making a calculated decision.

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So I'm a non-premium member of RM, meaning I can't see the premium pics. Here's my question. Who decides which pics are premium and which are generally available? I can't seem to make any sense of what's put behind the paywall. Some providers' ads have all PG-13-rated pics generally available and (from what I can tell through the blurring) all X-rated pics and videos behind the paywall. Other providers have ads with plenty of dick pics for all to see. I would imagine that if providers make the choice, they would want to show everything. They have no incentive to hide any pics unless their plan is to limit their marketing only to premium RM members, which I think is a dumb idea. If RM is making the choice, though, it's not done very consistently, at least based on my seeing the pics on one side of the paywall. Can any providers on here share how it works? And, no, I'm not going to spring for premium membership just to find out! I know it's not that much money, but for reasons of privacy I won't give them my information. Thanks.

He was another guy I saw before COVID and then lost contact with. I saw him twice and I enjoyed the sessions very much. He was engaged and accommodating. If you look at the dates that his pictures were posted, you'll see his look has changed. He was more muscled in the 2019/20 pictures and more shredded in the current ones. Not an improvement in my book, but I would be happy to repeat with him if I were in the market.

It's a very user-unfriendly website and there's a lot of chaff to sort through to find the wheat. I reached out to, I think, four advertisers in the past. Two never responded and one was totally sketchy. I had a lengthy exchange with one -- he was very normal and had a full-time job but escorted from time to time for a little extra cash. He wasn't on RM because it was too much of a financial and time commitment. We couldn't put it together for logistical reasons, but for that I'd have been happy to give it a go.

I'm so sorry to hear about everyone's current experiences with Sebastian and Boy_Fit. As I posted above, I had good experience with each of them, especially Sebastian, pre-Covid. That's a lifetime ago, I guess, but I would have considered Sebastian again when/if things end with my current regular. (I'm a . . . mostly . . . monogamous hirer of escorts.) C'est la vie.

It must be true love. How romantic.