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Well I never use this forum as the primary source of browsing page. Instead would go to RM to search for providers in my area, identify providers i am interested in and only then run those providers' RM's handle names using the 'search' feature in this forum simply to check if any thread on those providers posted here for references. Seems to me that would be much more efficient than going through this forum to identify providers in my area.

Wouldnt it be easier to search by their RM's handle name?

Unless I misread your situation (and noting there is no other alternative timing feasible) I prolly would have just stay and enjoy the 60mins session. Room is booked for the night so thats a fixed cost nonetheless. I will pay his rate for 60mins + (depending on service rendered) tips. Seems to me that scenario actually cost less financially. Something is often better than nothing.

Vids "bottoming" vids are much better than his "topping" ones.

Just be upfront that this is your first hire and you would like to ask some qns. Clear communication is key. Never assume, always ask and clarifies where needed.

Mate if all my fee quotes were accepted, I will earn 5/6 figures monthly. I earn quite signifiant amount and live a comfortable life, do I want more monies....heck yeah. That said, i am deff not disfrenchised in any manner whatsoever. If me saying better to donate than to throw monies to non-performing provider hurts your ego, i suggest you to look deep inside.

In such scenario, its really not customer job to safeguard provider's or business owner's feeling. As customer you simply do what you gotta do. Same goes to business owner.

This hobby is banking on pure fantasy and if you cant recognise it, this is not for you. Given the nature of this hobby, you will meet a lot of providers who excell in emotion manipulation to hustle $$$ out of you. Learnt to recognise and deal with such situation. If you ever think a provider is 'jelous' bcs you hire other provider, that is not bcs he has feeling for you....its simply bcs lose of potential income. If a provider tells you on repeat all the gifts he received from his others clients, thats his way of asking you to buy gifts for him. Customers might think they have the upper hand as the payor but thats just not the case. Most if not all customers are not a relationship savvy but them providers are professional in this field. They knw you hire then because you are to some extent attracted to them. So its just a matter of figuring out your bottom line as to how much you are willing to pay for them to create this fantasy of them being interested in you. Now i am not saying all providers will try to hussle $$$ out of you. There are some ethical professionals out there who wont do that. But i truly believe anyone who is thinking to get into this hobby should first have the ability to identify a hussler. Only then you can protect your self (or heart).

Y'all are overthinking it. They see you as their customer, thats it. Any relationship between you and any of them is a pure business one. Your fear that by seeing the BF would create tension between you and the regular is rooted in an illusion that the regular would get jelous. Mate they are professional, its you who is delusion to overestimate the nature of your relationship.

Would you not change your doctor/lawyer/accountant if he was not performing well? He is not for you. Move on. I understand the urge to stay because his outlook matches your dream etc but if he cant satisfy your needs why keep throwing $$$? If you were feeling particularly generous, donate those monies to disfrenchised ppl instead. And no providers arent disfrenchised ppl, many of them make much more than your average joes. Even if they didnt, they still arent disfrenchised in any way. Give to homeless, children with cancer etc.

He ought to have a grade 10 🍑/ 🍆 for you to take that abuse......... A provider once asked for a rolex, I replid with a story where I cut off contact with provider who repeatedly asked for a nike.

Take every compliment with a grain of salt and sense of reality. Save for those compliments which are matter of fact in nature (ie colour of your eyes), they are simply flirting and hussling to keep business. Pretty much similar to what ppl in other line of business do in any networking event, minus the flirting. But by all means, stroke your ego and enjoy that moment. Just dont bring the feeling home.

I am honestly lost.......what am I reading 😅

Ghosted: yes. Ignored: yes. Under performed: yes. Never rejected upfront tho.

Echoing this logistic. Exactly what I been doing. Not necessarily an economical mode of hiring but often most convenient. Also to provide uber fare from and to airport. Always add him on the the reservation for smooth logistics.