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I know for fact all of my regulars (who advertised as a T only) do bottom (for the right guy or right price). Doesnt negatively affect my experience with them (me as a B). I think key point should be their technical skill. So long as he perform great, I couldnt care less what is his preference in his personal time. If any, I always try to get them to bottom in a 3s for me to watch.

Second this. Had many of these perks, in various forms. And for obvious reasons, I would never speak of them in details to others. IMO membership/loyalty program works best in a non-interpersonal relationship.

This usually lands me in all sort of drama. Had to cut off 2 of my regulars. Arranged a 3s with them (say A and B - both advertised as a T only), notice heavy chemistry between them that evening. Fast forward couple weeks, met with A who told me that he had actually went back to B's place after the 3s and B had bottom for him. A went on to spill tea on B. Being curious myself, I book B for the week after, surely right on cue B start babbling about A (including that A had bottom for him). All fun drama until B snitch on A for whatever he told B about my personal life (go as far as showing me A's texts). One other instances, arranged a 3s with my new regular (C) and this one other provider (whom I have never met (D), recommended by C). Again, heavy chemistry between C and D, though expected as D was recommended by C. C was booked for 3hrs and D only for 1hr (his booking ends on the 2nd hr of C). C ended the evening early (at the same time as D) saying he is double booked with other client and C promised to replace that 1hr for the next day. Annoying but since I was spent and tired that evening, fine with me. Fast forward weeks, I booked D and to my surprise D let it slip that he had actually went home with C that evening (hence C ended his booking with me early). Had to cut off both of them.

IMO (as a client), depending on your financial condition, do consider requiring a deposit (noting ofc such practice might undeliberately deter legit customers). Pick your battle I reckon.

Word of caution. A subscriber once share my posts to the provider who is the subject of those posts.

Better ask him for recent picts 😅 he is not hairy to me

Porn creates unrealistic expectation, so does provider. They are professional for a reason. Hire them long enough you will get a peek of their true thought. I wouldnt do it but if you were desperate enough, lower your standard. Date any joe however they look.

I would pass if you were looking for a top. Stunning to look at, a dissapointment in bed. Reckon he is more of a bottom. A good kisser tho.

Business worthiness varies. Its not uncommon for thriving business to not chase potential client for myriad of reasons. That aside, your last response ia deff a conversation stopper. I would have propose alternative timing instead of waiting for a proposal from him. He is unlikely to 'move mountain' for a potential one hour booking.

I enjoy straight porn at times but would strongly steer away from any provider highlighting their sraight sex on his RM ads. I found sex with gay-for-pay only work for 3s (or more) where I am looking to get my gut rearrange, preferably heavily on substance. No intimacy, just hard pounding.

If your main aim is to impress a provider, THE sure way is by giving him excessively massive cash tips - or a high end jewelry or a watch. No one will say no to a Patek. Otherwise, its him, the provider, who should strive to impress you - your job is to be respectful and pay for his service. His job is to peform within agreed parameter. That said, I would always go for places with great food, doesnt have to be a michelin, just gotta be great food. Or new resto that I wanted to try. Went to dessert bars couple times - had even bought ice cream to eat whilst walking on beach, spent hours just waking and talking. Its all about the connection. My reguler would sometime meet me on super casual clothing, tee and gym short at public park. As far as accomodatiob, now this is where I would splurge. Pick your accomodation based on what you plan to do in the evening....do you need a bathtub? Jacuzzi? King size bed (for obvious reason)? Balcony (for late night talk before bed or smoke)? Extra spacey room (for 3s)? 24hr room services? Good sound proofing (especially for rough play)? Good room service (for extra towels)? Full set kitchen (I once cook late night snack after play with provider)? Or private pool (for overnight)? IMO for consideration, a suite in a 4 stars might be a better option than a standard room in a 5stars. A service apartment (that operates like a hotel) is also often a great option.

He is indeed quite mechanical - not one for passionate BFE.

If $$$ is not a problem, just fly in whoever you fancied. It really is not a novel idea. Hiring someone local will prolly bring down total costs (eg flight tickets). Providers rarely advertise multiple days hire rate (RM only provides up to 'overnight' option), but that is not to say they will not be opened to it. Just ask them. I have had multiple days hire with local, fly provider into my state/city, fly out to visit provider at his state/city, went on multi days trips with provider out of city/state - IMO, there is no right or wrong ways. All depend on how much $$$ you would be willing to splurge. Unlike overnight or hourly, multi days hire can get pricey very quickly.

TRT is for life...there is no 'stopping' it - more like cruising on PCT whilst off TRT.

Afraid you might be in the wrong hobby......the only fool proof solution is a compete stop. Second best is to oral with condom on. There are really no other options unfortunately. PS: you are a married men, have your priority right mate.