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I have taken a break from Daddy’s for several years now, mainly for financial reasons, and tonight I just decided to check it out again. I was so saddened to learn of the passing of Daddy. He meant so much to so many.
Daddy’s Reviews helped me, a retired fairly successful businessman who was a shy as I could be when it comes to dating, at least have “Boyfriend Experiences.” It helped build my confidence and reduce my shyness (somewhat). I am indebted to both Hooboy and to Daddy.

I have taken a break from Daddy’s for several years now, mainly for financial reasons, and tonight I just decided to check it out again. I was so saddened to learn of the passing of Daddy. He meant so much to so many.
Daddy’s Reviews helped me, a retired fairly successful businessman who was a shy as I could be when it comes to dating, at least have “Boyfriend Experiences.” It helped build my confidence and reduce my shyness (somewhat). I am indebted to both Hooboy and to Daddy.

I have taken a break from Daddy’s for several years now, mainly for financial reasons, and tonight I just decided to check it out again. I was so saddened to learn of the passing of Daddy. He meant so much to so many.
Daddy’s Reviews helped me, a retired fairly successful businessman who was a shy as I could be when it comes to dating, at least have “Boyfriend Experiences.” It helped build my confidence and reduce my shyness (somewhat). I am indebted to both Hooboy and to Daddy.

I have taken a break from Daddy’s for several years now, mainly for financial reasons, and tonight I just decided to check it out again. I was so saddened to learn of the passing of Daddy. He meant so much to so many.
Daddy’s Reviews helped me, a retired fairly successful businessman who was a shy as I could be when it comes to dating, at least have “Boyfriend Experiences.” It helped build my confidence and reduce my shyness (somewhat). I am indebted to both Hooboy and to Daddy.

I have taken a break from Daddy’s for several years now, mainly for financial reasons, and tonight I just decided to check it out again. I was so saddened to learn of the passing of Daddy. He meant so much to so many.
Daddy’s Reviews helped me, a retired fairly successful businessman who was a shy as I could be when it comes to dating, at least have “Boyfriend Experiences.” It helped build my confidence and reduce my shyness (somewhat). I am indebted to both Hooboy and to Daddy.

I have taken a break from Daddy’s for several years now, mainly for financial reasons, and tonight I just decided to check it out again. I was so saddened to learn of the passing of Daddy. He meant so much to so many.
Daddy’s Reviews helped me, a retired fairly successful businessman who was a shy as I could be when it comes to dating, at least have “Boyfriend Experiences.” It helped build my confidence and reduce my shyness (somewhat). I am indebted to both Hooboy and to Daddy.

I have taken a break from Daddy’s for several years now, mainly for financial reasons, and tonight I just decided to check it out again. I was so saddened to learn of the passing of Daddy. He meant so much to so many.
Daddy’s Reviews helped me, a retired fairly successful businessman who was a shy as I could be when it comes to dating, at least have “Boyfriend Experiences.” It helped build my confidence and reduce my shyness (somewhat). I am indebted to both Hooboy and to Daddy.

I have taken a break from Daddy’s for several years now, mainly for financial reasons, and tonight I just decided to check it out again. I was so saddened to learn of the passing of Daddy. He meant so much to so many.
Daddy’s Reviews helped me, a retired fairly successful businessman who was a shy as I could be when it comes to dating, at least have “Boyfriend Experiences.” It helped build my confidence and reduce my shyness (somewhat). I am indebted to both Hooboy and to Daddy.

I have taken a break from Daddy’s for several years now, mainly for financial reasons, and tonight I just decided to check it out again. I was so saddened to learn of the passing of Daddy. He meant so much to so many.
Daddy’s Reviews helped me, a retired fairly successful businessman who was a shy as I could be when it comes to dating, at least have “Boyfriend Experiences.” It helped build my confidence and reduce my shyness (somewhat). I am indebted to both Hooboy and to Daddy.

I have just seen this topic. I still don't want to believe it...
 
It was 2009, San Francisco, and my first ever review was published on Daddysreviews by a long-standing member here. I had no idea what this site was so I went to check it out and shortly after my cell phone rang. A gentleman introduced himself as "Daddy" and told me that my review got published on his website. He asked me a few non-intrusive questions that were geared towards finding out whether the money I make through this means is being invested for my future. Again, and I must emphasize this, he did that in the most non-intrusive way as one possibly could have. I felt that he just genuinely wanted to ensure that I am on the right path to creating financial independence for myself in the long run. We covered a few other aspects of the industry and he offered me a helping hand in case I ever needed a piece of advice.
 
Soon after my first published review came the second, third --- 20th, and 30th, and my business has exploded and I was full of quality inquiries. Surely, providing a great service doesn't hurt but without the ability for people to research their next "date" on a platform like his, how would anyone know about my abilities?
 
But business (while obviously in our lives is key) was truly NOT what Daddy was all about. He was in it to help people. Genuinely.
 
I had the pleasure to meet him on numerous occasions at a variety of restaurants and many times at his apartment in Las Vegas. We even met during the pandemic (the chair was waiting for me at the entrance to sit on) while he distanced himself from me by being in front of his computer on the other side of the apartment and we were both wearing masks. The "HOW" never really mattered, but every meeting with him was always highly insightful and entertaining.... and very genuine. Many of you probably didn't get the chance to truly know who was behind this nickname/website and I am very grateful that I had the pleasure of conducting more than just superficial chit-chats with him.
 
For those of you who don't know, he was a computer whiz and had incredible talents at forensics and used to be retained as a forensic expert in multi-billion dollar lawsuit cases back in the day. This speaks volumes of the in-depth knowledge he had about certain fields in computers.
 
Talking about talent, he used to be an escort himself (waaaaaaaaaaay) back in the day. He wasn't always overweight and was rather hot. He told me so many funny stories about providing services in LA/Beverly Hills to some of the Hollywood elites. They were extremely entertaining stories.
 
He never cared about the money. He went as far as to flat-out decline highly lucrative promotional/marketing/advertising offers if he disagreed with how the company conducted its business in the gay world, whether we are talking about advertising practices, treatment of others, or the mission the company stood for. He was a principles guy, yet - needless to say - non-judgmental.
 
Every time we talked - without an exception - he had his "routine" questions:
- Are you happy?
- Do you put a certain percentage of your money aside and invest it?
- Do you take time out to have fun and enjoy life too?
 
This should tell you about the type of person Bill was.
 
(With names redacted), he showed me all kinds of escort inquiries where the guys offered him free sessions in exchange for promotion/bad review removal/self-review postings. He NEVER abused his position and always maintained his integrity.
 
He was a big fan of Latin guys with muscles and cute butts. Who can blame him, right?! Yet... never ran out of compliments for me when we met.
 
We talked about a few side projects of his too. Some of you may not know, but a few years back he was running a website that was teaching the transgender community about proper accessorizing / makeup / wigs and how to start out. He was also running it on his own dime and received no compensation for it.
 
On my last in-person visit during COVID, we actually started discussing either a joint business venture or a certain promotional opportunity about a website that would have served as an extension of DaddysReviews. We have never finalized the details and sadly, that will not happen anymore. It would have been great to work with him I am sure.
 
I just want you gentlemen to understand how this person sacrificed most of his life to help our community. He never asked for anything in return and I know exactly how much of his life he sacrificed for others. He changed my life, and probably many of your lives I am certain or the very bottom line, his work made your life a little easier in this crazy world.
 
I hope that he is in a good place now, his contributions, his helping hand, his guidance, and the amount of care and love he put out for all of us will be remembered (at least by me) for a LIFETIME.
 
When @Cooper reached out to me, I was shocked to hear that I was probably the only person who knew his address. He was so loving, welcoming and open that I thought he kept company often times at his home. I also would like to take this opportunity to thank Cooper for taking immediate actions and for keeping everyone posted. I am so truly sorry it ended this way. :-(
 
THANK YOU BILL/DADDY/GUY FAWKES WITH ALL MY HEART! ❤

My escort career and all the joy that came from it would have been impossible without both Hooboy and Daddy and the websites and community they nurtured. I never got the chance to thank Hooboy to his face. I'm glad I did with Daddy. And I got to know him and help him celebrate some birthdays and successes. God bless him for everything he did. I will always be grateful for this labor of love that he built.

>There were similarities with the virus that caused the 1918
>flu pandemic, in which more than 40m people died, WHO noted.
 
People think that an epidemic like the one caused by the "Spanish Flue" in 1918-21 couldn't happen today with our modern medicine. But back then, some people would leave work when they first felt sick and would be dead before they arrived at home. There were storied of four women playing cards one night, and three of them became sick and died before the night ended. How could today's medicine combat that except with a vaccine?
 
Over 25% of Americans were ill with the disease. Worldwide, 20 million people died in four months. In one Eskimo settlement in Alaska, 80% of the adults died. Although none of my direct ancestors died, many of their families died. One of my ancestors with a family with 18 children had all but 5 of them die due to the Spanish flu!

Don't Argue with a Troll[/b]...They are very set in
>their ways, They get very angry very fast. When they get
>angry they play. on.
 
I once hung around a forum for Macintosh users which had more than it's share of trolls. We found arguing or even replying to them only made them worse. Someone finally suggested we just change the subject. So, it was announced that whenever someone began flaming, someone should just begin discussing pizza.
 
It was incredibly effective, however it confused the holy heck out of anyone who was in on the joke. ;-)

Only if it'll make him more comfortable or confident going into the session. If it doesn't matter to him, it doesn't to me either, and I'm sure we'll have loads of fun.
 
Kevin Slater

Yes I am a fat boy; 61 year old pudgy...no I'm not going to be politically correct, I'm a 5'6" guy at 250 pounds. That being said, I make that known to any request for services I ask. There are some that say no problem and also some that are hustlers that don't care unless they get the money; but I look forward to someone who wants to have some fun and not be afraid of my largeness or some would say you're not that large.

????

Jealous? I'll be there on the other side making sure that other cheek is getting equal treatment.
 
 
(Opps, wrong clown... ... ... Never mind!)

Geez, what made you think I was referring to you? I guess you must have a lot of self-confidence or something. Anyhoo, yes I am lucky.
 
Reading this thread is kind of weird. Somewhere along the way it got reversed. It started as a simple question: should a client disclose he's overweight? I answered yes. At some point it got reinterpreted into sounding like it was a demand on the escort's part.
 
I'll stick with my original yes. I have been hired multiple times by overweight clients who made a point of stressing they were overweight in their initial contact with me, usually written. Not everyone has the self-confidence of PK. When i asked them about it, the particular clients I'm thinking of told me it was demoralizing for them to have been repeatedly rejected by escorts at the beginning of an appointment because of their weight. They responded to those experiences by going almost overboard in stressing to me before we met that they were overweight. It was their disclosure, not my demand. They did it to avoid another rejection. It was their choice. From my perspective, what they did made sense. While I don't think it makes sense for anyone to think such a thing should be a requirement, I would recommend anyone who lacks PK's self-confidence to consider it, because you likely won't feel good if some hot twentysomething won't even let you pay them to roll in the sheets with you.
 

 
Somehow the idea got mixed into here that an escort's "prejudice" = their inability to perform = blaming the client. Given that set of assumptions, I agree completely with the statement: it's completely shitty for an escort who is prejudiced to blame their inability to "perform" on the client that is the object of their prejudice. That's a no brainer. But that's not even close to what the original question asked. It was a simple question that said nothing at all about any escort's performance.
 
If the issue is about the interaction of being overweight and self-confidence, I actually really don't see how having lots of escorts plaster words like "no fatties" over their ads does anything to help anybody. The quote above actually equates this kind of statement of "preference" with "prejudice", which is in fact how I view it. I personally don't view "no fatties" or "no blacks" as disclosure. I view it as discrimination. It doesn't make sense to me that saying "no minorities" or "no fatties" can in any way be equated by anyone as "a badge of honor." It's actually kind of fucked up.
 
Does anybody really want to argue that the sign "No Irish Need Apply" ever made Irish people feel good?
 
I actually feel sorry for escorts who are largely intolerant of imperfection, because they are in the wrong line of work. Obviously they must feel a conflict between what they want - money - and what they can barely tolerate - imperfection.
 
At the height of my career, I had such an experience in a Brazilian sauna I went to with the intention of hiring. I hired the hottest stud there, who was obviously straight and probably very new to selling himself. It honestly felt like touching me made him want to crawl out of his skin. It is interesting to be considered one of the best escorts around, and to have another man feel like it is a disease to touch you. He didn't get within a mile of an erection, and I pretty quickly decided it was better for both of us to just pay him and put him out of his misery. So I get what the issue is, even though I wasn't lacking in self confidence. I actually considered the experience a good lesson in humility. Being as stubborn as I am I decided to go back the next day, and try again, except the next day I made it very clear to several escorts I rejected that I was only interested in hiring an escort that was Gay. In fact, I didn't even have to make it that clear to the guy I hired, since he made it incredibly clear as soon as he saw me that he'd be quite happy to get paid to fuck the shit out of me. Which he did. Then we went to dinner, and he fucked me again just for the fun of it after dinner.
 
Everything about my experience suggests that being able to communicate about what you want and are into, respectfully, is a set up for success. Being unable to communicate about it or being insulting when you communicate about it is a set up for failure. Everyone has different communication styles, but I think those generalities are pretty true across the board.

My actual experience for 15 years suggests the opposite.
 
The anecdote I already posted above says it all. It's just my perceptions, but what you are talking about here is basically whether you can disclose you are imperfect AND come off as self-confident. And you're right, self confidence is sexy.
 
In one case as I described above I felt like a client with a perfectly hard cock that functioned very well was desperate to cover up his lack of confidence in himself due to his age. In another case I felt like a client with a cock he himself described as nonfunctional (regarding erections) was full of self-confidence and fun and relaxing to be with. These were just my perceptions, but what we're talking about here are perceptions of sexiness. Clarity and confidence are not mutually exclusive things.
 
There's at least one poster on this site I have been hired repeatedly by who manages to combine what would clearly be considered an overweight body with a self-confident "that just means there's more of me for you to love, if I let you" attitude. I find that sexy, too.

If your of an escort who enjoys what he does, and enjoys his time with his clients - it shouldn't matter if the client is overweight or not.
 
A "true and humble" escort doesn't and shouldn't discriminate over size, race, or creed of any kind.

'warn' implies that it is a negative ... I would rather 'inform' than 'warn'.

You are definitely a professional.

Yes.
 
Here's one anecdote I can kind of remember from years ago. I showed up at a door of a client who was pretty seriously overweight. He explained to me that he realized at some point it made sense to tell escorts about his weight before they showed up at his door, because several times he had been rejected by escorts who showed up, took a look at him, and said the appointment was not going to work. In some ways I give credit to the escorts, who could have chosen to simply try to stay and rip him off without really providing what the client wanted.
 
To broaden the answer, here's another anecdote. I had a client who was in really good shape for his age - 70's - and liked to pride himself on looking like he was "young 60ish." Having said that, it seemed like he felt compelled to act like a 20-something sexually. He also told me that his expectations for long sessions of flip/flop anal sex so intimidated some well known escorts that they couldn't get erections around him and wouldn't let them hire him, usually after they had tried and failed to meet his expectations (at least by this client's account).
 
During this same period, I recall being hired by a client one night at his hotel who was overweight and could not get an erection due to surgery, but liked to be fucked. He said something like this to me at the start of the session: "Steven, I want you to know that I am not going to get an erection, and you are not going to see me have an orgasm, but I will really enjoy getting fucked by you." He was warm and fun and relaxing to be with, and it was a very fun appointment for me and I think him.
 
I recall thinking at the time that as I age, I hope I age as gracefully and with as much self-acceptance as the second client. And I felt sorry for the first client that he put enough expectations on himself that he often felt let down. And I do mean put expectations on himself, not the escort, because it seemed like at some deep level he really wanted to feel like he was much younger than he actually was.

How about the love of my life, Steven Kesslar....
 
http://www.boytoy.com/boytoy-male-escort-review/106110591/398
 
http://www.daddysreviews.com/review/steven_kesslar_sf

It's funny to think about "The Men Who Got Away." This is probably different for every escort - especially ones who have partners - but the same thing happens the other way around, at least for me. There was a client years ago who hired me several times that would meet every standard on the Gay Mr. Manners checklist. Mature. Intelligent. Thoughtful. Same age. Handsome. Successful. Muscular. Loaded with talents. Sexually exciting. Single. At the end of our first overnight, I asked him something like this .... "If you don't mind me asking, why aren't you out, and why aren't you dating?" He really didn't know how to answer the question. I think by the time I flew home I had a long email from him answering it, and saying nobody had ever asked the question. He hired me several more times. We never had the kind of relationship you describe, Jawja. But at least on a superficial level, I thought if there was ever a client to jump at, this is the one Central Casting would chose. I didn't jump, and within a year or so he was in love and married with another guy. Chalk up another one for the Steven Kesslar School Of Sexual Finishing - even if I am actually still very much a work in progress.
 
I have no regrets. I haven't kept in touch, but I suspect he doesn't regret his choices either. We all make our own beds, and sleep in them. Together, alone, or some of both.