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He may have had a bad experience with the substances that make up the “date r*pe” portfolio. Some have passed out for a few seconds or minutes, others for much longer. And if he had been drinking alcohol before coming to see you the bad effects could be amplified. Not a good idea to push hospitality however sincere.

I can't imagine any intelligent escort thinking this way.  That entirely too much trust in someone you likely don't know well.
Bottom line, you protect YOURSELF first and then make judgement calls from there.
We always have to think about consequence:  It's weighing how much risk you're willing to put yourself in with how easy/accessible it is to treat what issue might crop up.

I had a rookie escort bodybuilder text something like, "I promise you you'll have a great time." However, that's a warranty that can't be exercised.

More than once I’ve found a surprise guest. More than once I’ve had the offer they stay, for a fee. On two occasions I had reason to leave before the session was over and was nervous for more than a split second about being outnumbered in a situation I wouldn’t want the world to know about. 

What is this? Never been offered one …

What is this? Never been offered one …

And, with what we have at our disposal now, it doesn’t really matter - we can protect ourselves in most scenarios (eg with Prep) regardless of honest disclosure or lack of awareness from our partners. Has only been a thing recently, another burden the young generation might not appreciate that older folk still carry with them. 

Make the whole sugar daddy thing illegal If you want legal constistency. Rents in Hell’s Kitchen and WeHo would collapse,  youngsters would likely read more in the evenings, and gay men above the age of X would have better retirement account balances. 

Make the whole sugar daddy thing illegal If you want legal constistency. Rents in Hell’s Kitchen and WeHo would collapse,  youngsters would likely read more in the evenings, and gay men above the age of X would have better retirement account balances. 

generalising isn't good or wise.
This doesn't mean that bi guys are inherently flaky due to merely being bi. 

Escorts may not ask such questions, because they’re smart enough not to expect the truth from complete strangers. 
 
No one should. 

PrEP has been a game changer and has saved many lives not only because of the prevention of HIV but also catching other kind of STD on time and also detecting any changes in liver, kidney, etc.
I disagree, the stigma is what keeps folks from getting tested. Legalizing a private behavior most gay men already find acceptable would be a good thing. 
 

Well … yes … I was agreeing with you  

Make the whole sugar daddy thing illegal If you want legal constistency. Rents in Hell’s Kitchen and WeHo would collapse,  youngsters would likely read more in the evenings, and gay men above the age of X would have better retirement account balances. 

Agreed 100%.  I know a few folks who feel they are taking an activist position by forcing a provider to confront prejudices face to face on first sight and they don’t think the door will be slammed in their face but it happens a lot, because it can.
Fight your political and social battles in the appropriate place but why not just enjoy spending your hard earned money with someone who deserves it because they are invested in creating a great experience for you.

This could make for an interesting SAT question.
If you are older than the providers who couldn’t get you where you needed to go …
And if most people think like you …
What is the likelihood that without a transaction involved …
Be thankful you have the means to obtain what sees you through, but realize what it is and what it is not. 
 
 

I think the overall problem is lack of empathy. It’s not restricted to providers. 
And how many older gentlemen, when turning down those they don’t want to be with, do so with the respect they crave or relax their criteria to accept a proposition - as they wish / expect from the younger ones.
Bottom line: you can’t force people to like what they don’t like, but you can expect them to be respectful. I don’t know if todays youth is worse than prior generations. 

Come on, let’s not ostracize or expel, whatever we may think individually or as the major part of our demographic. Isn’t that what the fundamental fight was / is / always will be?
Let the man have his say, agree / disagree, and remember if he’s gone the bar for unacceptability starts falling to the point where we as individuals may also eventually be targets. 
 

Grindr years vs real years?
One guy in my geography claims to be 39 for the past decade and I know he has to be over 55 based on some things he’s told me socially - and he’s beyond the point where he can get away with it 
And there’s that ex porn star living between Philly and NY who used to claim his pics (visibly spanning several years) were all no more than 3 months old which and given whatever age he claimed he was he would have been active in the industry when 12 or 13
 
 
 
 

We have got to get away from the stigma surrounding the hobby for both providers and clients. Otherwise why are we here on this forum?
With the tech / apps available to us now the average gay male can have as much sex as the most active provider and more, if he chooses, without any money changing hands. 

The average provider may actually be better behaved ,needing to  keep himself presentable to clients with the ability to pay for a luxury experience. And certainly better protected (informed) than the more DL / inexperienced among clients.
 

Agreed 100%.  I know a few folks who feel they are taking an activist position by forcing a provider to confront prejudices face to face on first sight and they don’t think the door will be slammed in their face but it happens a lot, because it can.
Fight your political and social battles in the appropriate place but why not just enjoy spending your hard earned money with someone who deserves it because they are invested in creating a great experience for you.

People will discriminate based on anything and everything.  This isn't new.
It's why I always suggest clients put any hot-button issues out there, up-front.  
If it's something that might adversely affect the time you spend with a guy, it's easier to just lay it out and save yourself from wasting time.

I assume that’s a rhetorical question 
 

I think the overall problem is lack of empathy. It’s not restricted to providers. 
And how many older gentlemen, when turning down those they don’t want to be with, do so with the respect they crave or relax their criteria to accept a proposition - as they wish / expect from the younger ones.
Bottom line: you can’t force people to like what they don’t like, but you can expect them to be respectful. I don’t know if todays youth is worse than prior generations. 

This could make for an interesting SAT question.
If you are older than the providers who couldn’t get you where you needed to go …
And if most people think like you …
What is the likelihood that without a transaction involved …
Be thankful you have the means to obtain what sees you through, but realize what it is and what it is not.