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My experience with parents and siblings who were somewhat less than fully functional adults, and ingrained Catholic guilt requiring me to pick up some of their slack to the detriment of my goals kind of soured me on the idea of voluntarily taking on the responsibility of a child. Honestly I'm still kind of pissed at my family about that.

I thought I did when I was younger but I also never exactly arranged my life to accommodate them, and also wound up caretaking for my mother and later my sister which pretty much kept me from doing that.. Then I got to 40 and was like, "While technically I'm not too old, I don't feel physically with back issues/etc. I can keep up with a child" So my position now is - if I meet Mr. Right, AND he's significantly younger, AND he really wants kids, I'll do it. Should my younger sister and her husband kick the bucket, I'd take in their two. But I wouldn't do it with someone my age or older unless the child were over 10 -too much possibility of the kid being burdened with caring for aging parents when he/she should just be starting out. Also, I have 9 nieces and nephews, two of them are autistic, one of them profoundly so, and at least 3 and probably 4 of the others are general fuckups who I'm likely to cut out of the will for the way they treat their parents. So I'm acutely aware of what can go wrong. I do have to admit I'm envious of Basketballer, not that he's had it easy by any stretch.

I'm not an escort but I've definitely seen some ads over the years from escorts who pretty much restricted themselves to clients they were attracted to. It's not always a full-time gig, you know. A lot of them have day jobs and use the escort money to get ahead.

I thought it was fairly settled that something like a third of men will dabble when confined in all-male environments for extended periods, then only pursue women if they are available. It's essentially masturbatory in my opinion versus actual desire. I have zero interest in women myself but I can imagine if somehow all men disappeared tomorrow I might do something with a woman. I'd still consider myself exclusively gay in orientation.

Colby Jansen played/coached(and may still, I haven't kept up) for one of the gay rugby teams, I've seen him a couple of times at tournaments.

I've long joked that it would be cheaper for me in the long run to have a marriage of convenience with a chiropractor or physical therapist.

He seemed a lot more self-assured than Evan Hansen.

Saw Udom once about two years ago. He's very good. And located on the Strip so convenient if you are there.

So is Ben Platt officially "out" or was he simply never "in" in the first place? I haven't seen anything on it, but he certainly reads gay. I first ventured tentatively to gay bars in my late 20s. I'd come in at 6 pm, see nobody there but the 80-year-old alcoholic in the corner, think to myself, "I guess I AM the only one" and go home. I didn't realize everybody was waiting for their wives and children to fall asleep so gay bars didn't get going until 11 pm even on a weeknight.

Then that's an age range where really they're pretty much your peers, at least the top half of that range.

You know, before the MS progressed too far I remember her expressing support for Dr. Kevorkian because she would want the option should it get too bad. But then a few years ago when she came to live with me and we were doing medical directive stuff, she wanted to be kept alive in pretty much every scenario listed. I think she's just adjusted to each new stage, better than I would have certainly. For me personally anything beyond losing the use of my legs would be where I would draw the line. I believe I could deal with being in a wheelchair if I had the use of my arms. I couldn't deal with needing to be fed/changed/etc.

"always the daddy" at 37? Seriously? Are you only hanging out with college kids? I mean if you put "25 and under only" in your profile that's a recipe for feeling ancient. I always find that odd when people angrily put in their profiles that they will only consider ages 18 all the way up to one year younger than they (claim they) are. I'm wondering if all the 60 year olds you know are heavy smokers or something. I mean don't get me wrong 40something is not the same as 20 something, but the majority of 60 year olds are getting around fine, just not doing jump boxes at CrossFit.

What people fail to realize is at some point extra weight is extra weight, be it muscle or fat. If your bodyweight is 40 lbs higher, that's more blood your heart has to pump, more work your internal organs have to do, extra burden on your joints, which can wear out sooner, etc. There are tradeoffs no matter how many precautions you take. You may still find them worth it. I mean, if you told me I could look and feel like a superhero but I'd simply drop dead ten years earlier than otherwise, feeling good up to that point, I might do it. But if you told me I was going to feel great for a period but wind up in a walker or chair sooner and then be on dialysis, I'd say no.

Looking at my gym which is frequented by Wall Street types and seeing just how many more jacked 50ish guys there seem to be today versus 20 years ago, I'd say it's not just escorts using testosterone by any stretch. I presume these guys though are being more careful and are under a doctor's supervision. I'm debating giving that a shot myself for weight loss purposes.

I have some spine issues which as they progress have meant that my erections are not what they were, though still just fine for oral. As I got a late start with sex, by the time I tried anal my topping was simply not that good. If it was one of those bottoms who can open their own hole it was okay, but I couldn't really work my way into anyone who was tight.

I'm assuming there's touching just no anal or oral, much like the NYJacks party. So basically the same level of interaction as a massage with HE, which people pay for. Seems reasonable.

I have a friend who tried anal each way once way back in the 90s when he was just starting out, without a condom(may have been high or drunk, not sure), was so freaked out about waiting for his HIV test(which turned out negative) that he decided he had already "used up his get out of jail free card" and has never done anal either way since. He sticks to oral and some playing with the ass but no penetration. He is still exclusively gay though. Some people have their hangups about particular activities. I very rarely do anal(like less than 10 times in my life total) and consequently I never really got that good at it, so I don't particularly miss it. Were I in an LTR I suppose I would make the effort to get better at it.

I think it's fair to guess after reading the review that the client has some self-confidence/anxiety issues that make him one who requires some "special handling" - that seeps out in his writing. It also sounds like he likely has some difficulty speaking up about what he wants when in the moment; that means he's not likely to do all that well with an escort that isn't really really good at picking up nonverbal cues. While I found Derek engaging cheery and enthusiastic, I didn't get the feeling it was a custom-tailored performance, just that he's generally upbeat in demeanor and I'm not sure how good I'd expect him to be with someone who was uncomfortable/unsure/not able to fully articulate what he wants - I think he'd do "the usual" and hope for the best. I'd even go so far as to say as the reviewer might want to try a sex surrogate first. None of that excuses the needless cruelty of Derek's response.

I saw him exactly once and he was fine. I wasn't quite feeling it, but I will say that I am 6'3" and was ~310 lbs at the time and he gave no indication that was an issue(I have some muscle and carry reasonably well, but no mistaking I was fat.). But I do get the feeling his partying is taking a toll. And this response was just atrocious.

While anything can happen, everyone should be aware that cancer aside, modern medicine is pretty good at keeping even fairly unhealthy people from dying. When I hear people saying they don't save for retirement because they won't live that long I tell them about my brother-in-law's mother. 80+, diabetic, had her first heart attack at 55, still kicking. Most heart disease can be managed or avoided if you take cholesterol meds and get checkups, and that's the thing that usually takes people young.

It really depends on what shape I'm in. My sister is disabled and lives in a nursing home. Her roommate is 99 and while she uses a wheelchair, that's only because of balance issues. She can still stand and go to the bathroom etc herself and has her marbles. I'd be happy to live that long as functional as she is. My sister, who is not yet 60, has a catheter, wears a diaper, can't walk, and now her arms are starting to go. And she is fully aware of it. I would not want to live like that. Though I suppose if it happens gradually you learn to put up with it.

I tried to join Derek Atlas's but it wouldn't take my credit card for some reason. Haven't tried since.

I used to watch ABC's Extreme Makeover Weight Loss edition. One of the women they had on was about 6 feet tall and a former competitive athlete. They got her down to something like 180 or 200 which, given her frame, really didn't look bad at all(and she was coming down from over 300). Then they told her to keep it off she was going to have to keep up the very intense workout schedule PLUS restrict herself to something like 1400 calories a day. 1400 calories a day for a 200 lb person? That's insane.

Regarding his age, I think he got into the business older than many others did. They don't all get into porn on their 18th birthday and his size was something people that age simply can't attain. I find that now that cigarette smoking is much rarer, people are looking younger considerably longer than in the past. That plus more men are using some sort of moisturizer.

Either way, it's an "external" mechanism that is not about your sheer force of will. So saying "he just should have controlled himself more" is unrealistic and unfair.