DunwoodyGuy

Had a 90-minute sensual massage with him this afternoon, and he's wonderful!

Here's something I posted a few months ago that may be useful to you. Good luck--and ENJOY! === Over many years, I've developed a sensitivity to allowing mutual touch to be, well, mutual. In other words, I try not to get grabby right off the bat, and allow myself to relax and let the masseur do what it is he does well. If I've chosen someone who has a good reputation and I like the way he describes his massage and I like his reviews and any communication with him, I'm intrigued to experience what HE does. I always try to choose someone who can combine therapeutic techniques with sensual and erotic touch. I try not to choose someone who is therapeutic only--OR someone who has no therapeutic skills at all and is using the massage as a means of finding escort clients. No offense to escorts--some of my best friends are or have been escorts. But I'm looking for guys who have developed their individual ways of combining massage with sensuality and eroticism. So here's what I do--and what I DON'T do: I generally try NOT to grab and pull or interfere with his rhythm and technique. As he massages my back, I let my arms hang down the sides of the table, but I hold off touching his leg until he's done serious back and shoulder work. I just breathe into his touch. That creates a physical connection between us that is entirely in his control. It establishes that I respect him as a practitioner. And he of course can begin to "read" my body without his touch being overtly sexually charged. Once that mutual trust and respect has been established and he can see that he's got me moaning and groaning a little bit, I let my hand touch his leg. I might give it a little squeeze, but I definitely do NOT grab it--I still want HIM to be in control of where on my body he's touching me and how the massage progresses from therapeutic to to sensual. Relinquishing that kind of control is part of why I'm there. I try not to break the spell he is casting over me. I also try not touch his dick until he moves it near my hand. But once he does, I touch it and maybe hold it--but again, it's touching WITHOUT grabbing or breaking the mood. At this point he's probably massaging the inside of my thigh, maybe between my cheeks, maybe sliding his hand beneath my hips, maybe touching my balls and cock. If at that point he presses his crotch near my head, I might break the spell a little, raise my head and suck him--but just for a bit, again being careful NOT to signal that you want the massage to be over and all you want to do is cum and leave. Remember--he's not a trick and he's not just an escort--he's an erotic masseur. He's also a human being with a lot of joys and sorrows. And he's had experiences you can't even imagine. It's like a dance--but you have to let him lead. He can probably teach you a helluva lot about connecting physically, sensually, and erotically with another man. Whether it progresses further is up to the two of you. As they like to say on this board, your mileage may vary. But if you travel far...tip accordingly. All that to say that my advice is: Don't try to control it. Choose well. And allow yourself to let it happen.

Which public figure?

Physically, he's my ultimate Georgia-jock fantasy and he seems like a nice guy, but both times I messaged him, I ended up going with someone else.

You mean this one?

Okay. Deleted the pic and edited my post. But since you quoted my post, the picture is still visible in your comment. You need to edit your comment to delete it there.

He sent me a headshot but Community Guidelines say I can't post it publicly. PM me if interested.

I would check out the Body Electric Workshop. They have a separate program from their erotic tantric massage classes for people to explore what they call "Conscious Kink": Power, Surrender, & Intimacy - Body Electric School BODYELECTRIC.ORG Ready to explore the depths of your erotic self? The "Power, Surrender, & Intimacy (PSI)" workshop offers a safe and expertly guided space to delve into

OMG YES!

Yes. Many previous threads about him.

You gave him your cell#?

On the other side of the pejorative side, one unexpected benefit of the apps in recent years is that older men are no longer "invisible" to younger men, as was the case for decades. Quite out of the blue, as I have gotten older, I have noticed the large percentage of men in their 30s and 40s (even their 20s) who profess an attraction to older men. At first being called "daddy" seemed offensive and insulting to me, but the first time I realized it was not being said to put me down but because the younger man was attracted, I was shocked. So it makes sense that it means something specific to you, given your actual parent status, but take a moment and consider what it might mean to the younger man who is calling you that. You might find a very positive mutual connection there.

Make sure you have a pre-nup before the big day--and sign up for some couples therapy ASAP. (Some individual would be a good idea too!) Good luck!

This one's even worse.

Which photos?

Ugh. I would hate this. It's the polar opposite of erotic. The minute I discovered a provider was using AI in any way, I would block.

I don't see any.

There's clearly a generational divide.

What are you talking about?

If I wanted tantalizing teases, I would have hired a masseur...

Not true. You could have posted the RentMasseur link (as BaronArtz did) without the Instagram link.

I wasn't being sarcastic.

Without a link, why should we believe you?

Glad to know I'm not he only one. Apparently this has been a scam for heterosexual women for several years now, and it's only recently become a thing on gay sites.

Yeah, it's not.