KinkyNEguy

That's their problem. NOT OURS!
It is part of the cost of doing business in their chosen profession. If they can't take the heat.......
Why would anyone send a deposit up front or pay for an UBER for a provider in a town where there are others offering the same or similar services without those demands?
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It's easy for COM members to sit back and proffer up suggestions such as demanding UBER rides and/or advance deposits in order to set up a meeting with this provider. However, this is a double edged sword, especially in a large market like Boston. Though it may give the masseur an additional sense of security (real or imagined), it will also SIGNIFICANTLY reduce his potential client base. Sending a deposit in advance is risky for the client and a DEFINITE deal breaker for many, if not most, of us. The same with paying for his UBER ride.  Why send this masseur a $$ deposit in advance or pay for his UBER when we have scores of other masseurs willing to provide the same service without having to meet those demands?
Yeah, a few of us are going to chime in saying they don't mind sending the upfront deposit or paying for the UBER. For sure, you guys are in the minority.
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There are bottoms for whom it is important.  It feels different, reaches different spots, or maybe fulfills different psychological desires.  I know what I prefer, and if I'm going to hire, I want to satisfy my desire (not someone else's preferences or worldview).  

It's fine that it isn't important to you, but it's very clearly important to others -- there's a reason it's a sorting stat on RM or Sniffies.
Declaring that an interest in size is "disrespectful" is like a feminist arguing that porn is disrespectful, or arguing that TERF lesbians are anti-trans because they don't want to fuck a pre-op transwoman -- we can intellectualize it all we want, but sexual desire is what it is.  Don't yuck my yum.
This forum is a great place for men to be candid about their desires, and discuss them, but there's no need to impose our own preferences on everyone else.  

Such an incredibly sexy man...with a seriously carved physique ! It seems so disrespectful to be so constantly focused on the exact size of his penis. 
Its like enjoying a wonderful piece of cake and asking your host how many teaspoons of sugar they used. Who cares? Just enjoy how delicious it was in your mouth. 😋

If you were paying him what he asked for, why would he be disappointed?
If you were to pay a lower fee to another provider, will he then lower his fee?
Tell him to grow up or find another client.

If you're getting $10,000 a pop and not financially secure after 9 years of it, that's juat EXTREMELY poor money management.

"According to the 33-page complaint, the couple met in 2016 on the website SeekingArrangements.com, “where men like Geffen shop for the vulnerable.”
Their relationship was initially transactional as Geffen paid Michaels $10,000 for sex on their first night together, per the lawsuit. The arrangement led to Michaels becoming Geffen’s trophy boy, “a private sexual object and a public prop – a symbol of Geffen’s self-proclaimed altruism to impress his powerful network"
That poor innocent boy.  Fell in love with an older creep not even realizing it was through a hooker site. No doubt someone sex trafficked him or something.  

Pure comedy.
 

I think this image, also taken from LPSG, is more appropriated for this thread.

I'm sure clients could come up with a pretty good list of "don'ts" for providers as well. 😉

I don’t understand the issue with this exchange. The client - at your prompting no less - is just asking if you’re available, and you respond by reading him the riot act. How about responding with something like “yes, when would you like to meet?”

"You around this evening" reads to me that he'll come to you - that night. 
As I mentioned recently, when a cavalcade of cities are listed by providers, understanding knowing you, studio38, aren't like most providers, they aren't where they say they are. It isn't out of line for a prospective client to ask you just to be sure you're not "testing the waters" like so many others do.
I've had providers in the past no-show me, not answer their door when they looked through the peephole, and shorten my time with them. Race makes no difference when it comes to people being assholes to strangers. It happens to us all. 

And the other thing: stop asking “are you in (insert city). Didn’t you just see my ad in the city you’re asking about? If I wasn’t there, I wouldn’t be posting there. If you are wanting to know if or when I’m there: you should volunteer that you too are in the area and want to meet there. It’s almost like they second guess the idea that a person of color who’s a RentMan, could be in the town they are in 🤦🏽‍♂️ 
 
idk how some people lack basic introduction skills, but yet expect me to feel like we’re supposed to be a match in the same room together.

Going to jump right into it:
 

 
What the fuck is up with people? I asked a question and you pose another question completely different than I asked. Then it’s vague sentence, hours later. 
 
I have specific instructions all throughout my ad. One is, don’t email if looking for a same day appointment. Respond to the auto reply with the questions asked, directly to the number listed. 
 
I know the holidays tend to bring out the idiots in the business when it comes to inquiries, but some of these guys aren’t even trying to make anything happen. Like, why are you bothering me with bullshit? If you not going to book, get the fuck off of the site. It’s really ridiculous. You can’t actually be looking to meet if you’re doing the bare minimum. Then I reply, and they don’t reply back 🤦🏽‍♂️ 
And the other thing: why so many contact the day before they are planning to go to a different city? I post my ads in advance before going anywhere. Some will hit me up expecting a same day visit, yet if something comes up where the text or email isn’t received the same night: it ends up being a case of, “I’m not in town anymore or, I’m leaving town now”. Some of them have hit me up more than once.
 
It’s like bruh, if you KNOW that I come thru the area, why not just send a message ahead of time. You know my ad is running everyday for the past fucking 365 days a year, why not ask when I may be in the area or you want to meet when I’m in the area. 
 
I’m grateful for the good clients who follow directions and don’t give the run around, but too many out there make the process so much harder. 

I always offer to mow his lawn for a blowjob.  If he agrees to bottom for me, I’ll come back and shovel his driveway in the winter.  Services for services.

My policy - if an escort says he wants 300/350 an hour, and doesn't give his two hour rate, I offer 500 for two hours, with the understanding that a lot of it will be cuddling and watching TV during the refractory period between orgasms.
Otherwise, I never haggle. Especially when escorts say they want to "get to know my budget."

When I contact a provider, I tell him about my interests, give him my stats (age, height, weight, etc), and tell him what the donation will be.  80% of the time this works; perhaps at a price lower than he would have asked and perhaps at a price more than he would have asked.  This avoids the haggling and the ill will it can generate even if he ultimately accepts your offer.

I highly recommend you put this in your RM bio. 

I never negotiate on their fee. For me it shows appreciation for their efforts and service to pay them what they ask.

I think the "God Bless" line was their dead giveaway. 

I use sex with my gardener in lieu of payment. 
If he mows my lawn and I refuse to give him a blowjob, then am I the one being sexually assaulted or is he? 
These hypotheticals are ridiculous, because I would:
A. Never refuse to compensate the man who mows my lawn, and
B. Never refuse to blow the man who mows my lawn.

Your safety and time are worth more than the opinions of people here who won’t even send a small deposit.  
What you describe is basically a sexual assault and thief. You never would have consented to have sex with this person without payment.
People commenting on these forums (for the most part) might not act this way, and they have ZERO idea of the way we are treated by others who do. Don't let the people here tell you anything otherwise dude. Protect yourself first. You have put yourself out there - shown you are real, committed and prepared by giving your face, name, you have verified reviews they can contact and get even more confirmation. Until you met them - they are nothing but a phone number and a promise from a stranger. 
You are green and you have learned a very valuable lesson here- NEVER leave a client alone. Even if he has paid you. Ever. I have friends who the client went in his pocket and took the money back when he was in the shower. You shower together, or if the client wants to shower alone - you wait in the room and leave for dinner together. I went to the bathroom once and come out and the guy was looking through my drawers. 
Be friendly but not vulnerable. They all pretend to be kind at the start, it's how they trap you. 

Some providers don't require a deposit. We met with two of them yesterday. It will just limit who you can hire. 

So you're saying that even polite clients who don't sext or ask for nudes are somehow wasting your time? How exactly? Not doubting you, but I'm surprised experienced providers can't smell this a mile away. 
Are these the guys booking appointments and not showing up/being there? What's in it for them? Just doesn't make sense to me.