starman05

I'm so sorry this happened to you. it's easy for anyone else to say 'it's just money' but when I've had crap like this happen to me (we ALL make mistakes) I wonder if God was just pushing me out of the way from something far worse; what if you'd met them and they were on drugs and something worse occurred. thanks for warning us; you're helping others and I wish you luck in getting $$ back. When I lose or waste money, I try to cut back on simple things like going out for coffee and just have instant for a few months. It adds up $$

glad I don't live in NY; he's just my type; big beefy jock type.

$700? He'd need to be an overnighter and hold me till I fell asleep after lots and lots of fun.

I had a great massage from him. was it the best I'd ever had in my life? probably not but I would see him regularly if I lived in SF. I was going through a bad period and when I got his table, I just felt incredibly safe. He was very kind.

And yes, If a dog I loved didn’t like someone I’d take notice

I love dogs too but it was the way he said it. Kind of like this will be a dealbreaker. I was there for an hour for a massage. It wasn’t a friendship

One guy told me he could never be friends with anyone who didn’t love his dog his dog stayed in the. Room with us and licked my hand a few times i love dogs but didn’t want him in 5he room but I was afraid to ask him to put the dog out

no, it's not a bad thing. It made me feel better about the 'relationship' I had -- such as it was. It was never going to be anything more than what it was but what it was wasn't so bad. I'd do overnighters and from the minute I got there till the minute we parted, I felt ...this is nice. This is what it's like when someone cares. I was able to get out of my own way and not get hung up on why it would never be anything more. I was, as I've often been advised to be, 'in the moment.'

you're a psychiatrist? or an accountant

I was messing around with a guy one time and I didn’t think I wanted to get fucked but I felt so safe and was so turned on and I trusted him and I said ok I’m ready! he chuckled, kissed me on the forehead, and said, ‘oh baby I’m not going to fuck you.’ looking back, he didn’t say why but I got the impression it was because he felt I couldn’t handle his size - huge! I let out a ‘oh, thank God!’ and we sent back to making out.

A masseur sent me a GIF of roses 🌹 on feb 14 once which was sweet another provider I saw on my birthday; he bought dinner and gave me flowers and bought me a gift. I wasn’t expecting any of that we’ve shared a few holiday texts its not real in the way I’d like it to be but it is what it is someone famous told me once that every relationship is transactional thats true, I suppose

looks like a nice, legit guy; might try him for a stretching session. That seems to be the big focus these days, being limber and be able to move.

the more I look at his pix and read the description...I have to agree.

that third pic -- showing his massive chest -- makes me weak in the knees. I'd pay for an hour just to rest my head on it. But I'd need to see some positive reviews for a bit before taking a plunge.

listening to your gut might have saved your life that night. how unnerving; you clearly did the right thing. stay safe.

Valentines Day is coming up any recommendations for masseurs in L.A. who lean into TLC and/or BFE? tia

Feb 14 is just another day but it reminds me of not having romance in my life I used to get down on myself for seeking out comfort, really hating that I could not find someone for ‘real’ — whatever that means then covid hit ha! life is short. I just want to feel something does anyone have any BFE recommendations in LA? seeking someone who can give the BFE TIA means

6'3" 250 lbs? THAT is a daddy!

second link is stinky linky; love this forum for keeping us all safer from scam artists. I hire for massage but even then it's hard to find someone real.

lots of moisturizer. I love dogs but dogs and masseurs have never worked for me.

sadly, I think you're right. I recall him being a bit rushed at the beginning like he was trying to hurry up and that feeling never went away throughout. I guess more time would be more of the same feeling.

you mean clients or providers?

looking back, my only gripe was feeling a bit rushed at the end and the disconnect. I wonder if booking 90 minutes or 2 hours might make he slow down a bit.

he seems like a big teddy bear; massage technique is great and all but there's something about an added nurturing element that really allows me to zone out and relax anyone have ht. and wt. on this guy?

I can't imagine having Geffen's kind of money; on one hand, I wouldn't give a hoot what anyone thought of me; on the other, I'd probably keep things private anyway b/c it's nobody's beeswax