starman05

Total Dad type. 👍

there is such power in calmly explaining why you came to the conclusion you did and you were merely inquiring; great response. thank you

You know, just in case. I want to see someone but a little voice in my head is saying let someone know where you’ll be

I had one other -- Dean -- who was gorgeous and so skilled. I was always draped but our massages felt more intimate than times I've had sex for some reason. He moved across the country and got into another line of work. I miss him.

I saw a guy for six years, less the last two years. His touch was gold. He was sexy and while I wasn't a kid anymore, I still felt like I was. Late bloomer. I lied to myself that someday he'd return the feelings, and all the attention and help (not $$ -- beyond the massage fee) was going to win out for me in the end. He started to get into some weird ETS (sp?) stuff and friends helping friends (remember that one?) I didn't feel safe anymore so, it was over. We've bumped into each other once or thrice over the years and I have some fond and some sad memories of our times together.

I mean, to each his own l, but I asked a guy once to take me out bowling for my birthday and he did. sure, it was on the clock but I had fun and got what I wanted.

He’s shy but really good, goes deep

He's not far from me and I have been stressed beyond belief. Sounds like I'd be MORE stressed if I went to see him.

can he do a more vanilla scene? I'm afraid he'd break me in half!

Anyone else with recent experiences? tia

I learned 'riz' came from chaRISma but where does drippy come from

Ha! Well, a little more than that… but thx for you sympathies

he's back; slight name change, I think. anyone have experience with him? that chest! Swoon! Anttuane on RentMasseur RENTMASSEUR.COM View my profile on RentMasseur.com

I mean it depends on what your type is and what part of LA you'll be in. Candle Spa in the Valley is really good.

In my head, I know I'm the one paying for a service and if the provider can't provide it any longer, I should be grateful for the times it did work, and I KNOW I should move on and find someone else. Someone better. In my heart, I play over and over the times we each shared personal info, and I can't help but think it's all my fault. The fact that I spend most of my time naked and am physically and, often, emotionally, vulnerable to him causes me to react more with my heart than my head. Feeling safe -- which I do when I'm with certain providers -- is the launching pad to developing feelings. Love, a crush, fondness -- whatever you want to call it. When you're on that table feeling safe and nurtured (H/E or no), there's nothing better. And knowing it's over and not knowing why? Well, that can be the worst feeling ever.

I held my breath in between "his whole arm" and "up and down your crack"

I think some providers block without thinking too much about it. I know fans who complain about actors blocking them on X, formerly Twitter. They've written about how confused they are and how they have no idea why they were blocked. I think providers are dealing with a lot of inquiries that don't lead to many clients so they just get block happy. OP's provider looks incredibly hot; I wonder what he does in his 'boyfriend experience.'

Another time I got hung up on a trainer; he called me buddy, stretched me, appeared gay friendly (closeted guys can be that way) and I was making progress with my physique. He was the perfect buffer between me and assholes on the gym floor. Or so I thought. He had to be heaven sent! More like Hades, he turned out to be raging narcissist and I spent way too much time trying to convince him that I deserved to be treated like a human being. A shrink kept telling me there are other trainers out there. I got STUCK. Happy ending: he's out of my life, I blocked him and, sadly, a few mutual acquaintances just to be safe. I have a new trainer now and I keep my distance and am in the best shape of my life.

THIS!

Casual, there won't be some clear answers here. One person's being professional and considerate is another person's trying too hard. I never thought I'd get to the point where I'd think 'oh, geez, don't call back' with the guy I was hung up on. It can take years and years, but you move on. I would block the provider's number (screen grab some key conversations if you feel you should) and unfollow on any social. I wish someone had given this advice to me years ago. I try to do that now. I can see old patterns forming and I cut things off before they take a wrong turn.

More or less. I got a little (okay, a lot) attached to a guy when I was in the process of coming out; a massage was a safe way to feel nurtured. It shouldn't have gone further than that. Though, in fairness to me, he shouldn't have slapped on a condom and fucked me so passionately, tenderly and beautifully. To him, it was a casual fuck. To me, it meant feeling safe and cared for at a time when I needed it. The lines blurred. There was a lot of other shit. I walked away. Years passed and I called to wish him a happy holiday -- to my shock, he called back and said we should get together (as pals). I said sure but hoped he'd never follow up. He didn't. This is far from your situation. I would just try to move on quickly if you can. Tell yourself it has nothing to do with you -- and it doesn't. He's going through something that you're not meant to be a part of. Find another regular. Lots of fish in the ocean.

bump; anyone with recent experiences? TIA!

well that sucks. I'm sorry that happened. We are so freaking vulnerable naked on their tables. I'm afraid for how fragile I am emotionally around some of these guys. Can't they just effing provide a fantasy for an hour before we head back out into the cold cruel world where it's a given people aren't going to accept us.

this is great advice; I hire for massage; I crave intimacy and touch not sex per se. I think creating firm standards is a great idea. This site has saved me from so many scammers. This post helps clarify things further.

I tried a reverse image and hottie BRANT DAUGHERTY came up! that's not him but they could be brothers.