Simon Suraci

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If anyone tries the Holy Services, please do let me know how it goes. Let’s hope if there is a priest involved, that it’s only consensual role play.

I agree that it's important to remember that this is a provider/client relationship. That said, I think there is some degree of acting but the best providers - whether you specify a BFE or not - are people who really enjoy meeting people, getting to know them, and providing them with pleasure. That part of it probably isn't an act per se. But they are definitely playing a role. 

I don't care. As long as I have a good time, it doesn't matter to me what the provider thinks.

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I've mentioned it here before, when I started escorting at 26 I immediately saw guys in their 80s and 90s, older than my living (at the time) grandfather immediately (and still do.)  Point is there are escorts to whom age does not matter.  I would add, as others have said, if an escort has difficulty working with someone only 10-15 years older than him, he's in the wrong field and won't last.  That doesn't help you once he's in your apartment, so what you need to do is use this forum to find escorts who are a good fit for you, whether there's a 10 year or 60 year difference.  Happy Hunting.

I know a guy in his 70s who hires only twinks! You're totally fine. If they did have a problem with guys over 35 they are not going to last long as a provider.

They're not going for you, they're going for the job. That isn't to say they won't enjoy activities with you, there are some guys who just love sex and/or get off on being paid. But, you shouldn't be worried about whether they're "into" you. If they're a good provider, they will be into you for as long as long as your appointment lasts.

While I understand that being in your late 30s is considered ancient in gay years, you'll find that quite a lot of people well above that age are doing the hiring.

There are some really good actors out there.  Personally I prefer the ones that won't let you get too close emotionally.  I have been hiring for BFE for about 35 years and was always guarded until the past couple of years.  He is so good looking, beautiful green eyes, very passionate, great kisser. We both fight some of the same internal demons and we shared those struggles many times.  Great connection. Lots of fun and cute texts from him.  He always enjoyed my company even though I am 30 years his senior. A month ago he told me he was moving to be the third with a couple that had been together 20 years and who are between he and I in age.  I didn't think I had fallen for him but I guess I had because my heart is really broken.  This is the first time I let my guard down.  I actually am a pretty good judge of character and I don't think that was always 100% about the money or that he was always acting.  I think there was a lot of genuineness.  
So be careful and remember no matter what else you feel or he says or does, it is a financial arrangement at its core.

If you like this person and continue to hire him for regular meets, then you do sometimes have a friendly connection develop that adds to the enjoyment of the encounter. ( For both of you. )
No guarantee but definitely possible.

Thank you.  I guess I should realize that for them it is likely only about the benjamin$ and just try to enjoy what I am paying for.

Always remember that you are paying someone to play a role. While having some type of connection can enhance the experience, it’s crucial to never forget that it's a fantasy you’re paying for. Don’t worry about how much is genuine and how much is an act, just enjoy it for what it is. If you lose sight of this, you might end up paying both emotionally and financially.

You are paying for him to be your boyriend, so I imagine that it involves a lot of pretending and acting. He's providing you with the experience of someone giving you close attention. Only the provider can tell if it's real interst or not. Chances are that since it's a for-pay situation, it is acting.
Nothing wrong with enjoying it, but I'd suggest not to get sucked into a fantasy that can cost you your money and self-esteem. Be careful about how far you should go with that. It's their job to make you feel wanted, accepted and desired. Don't lose sight of that.

Well...if you're HIRING someone for a boyfriend experience. I would confidently say that you shouldn't have any expectations of an actual connection.
By definition a GOOD escort should be able to provide a session that makes you FEEL desirable.
It's unimportant as to how much of that is gonna be an act and how much of that might be somewhat genuine attraction. Because you're NOT dating, you're PAYING.
 

It is a financial transaction at the end of the day, so I think managing expectations is important as well. I don’t expect a provider to fall in love with me, but I do expect him to fuck me like he loves me …
Spot on - sometimes the chemistry just doesn't take off; not necessarily anything bad on either person's part, but when it works this is it!

It’s really hard to find a provider that can truly deliver on a BFE. A lot talk the talk, but cannot walk the walk. 
If you find a provider that is delivering a half good BFE - whether real or acted - that is a huge win in my opinion.
It is a financial transaction at the end of the day, so I think managing expectations is important as well. I don’t expect a provider to fall in love with me, but I do expect him to fuck me like he loves me …

Whilst chemistry plays some part in elevating the experience and make job easier for the provider, its business transaction at its core. Like any other profession, a pro provider has a 'business persona' that he sells to his client. You might get a glimpse of his true self overtime but his business persona will be at the front. That is not absolute tho. Have regulars that turn into friends, our intimacy level swifts in and outside of bedroom (ie in or outside of business hours). He often see me for lunch/ dinner free of charge - during these occasions, he trully behave like a friend, no bfe hints just mates hanging out talking bout life and whatnot. But whenever he is on the clock, he swifts and play the bfe part well. Its the small things that changes, that intimate acts that one would normally show only to their partner.
Other things that many pro providers excel at is off-hour marketing/ customer service eg checking in on you day(s) after play, using pet names, throwing in a freebie here and there in multiple days/ week long hire etc. Tho just like any non-hiring relationship, my believe that one is likely be geniune if they remember (substansial/ personal) things you said even weeks after. 
There is no reasons why you should care whether he is acting or not. Would he be seeing you (and act they way he did being intimate etc) if monies is off the table - not taking into account those off-hours marketing freebies.  This hopefully would help one grounded in partaking in this hobby.
That said, whether its an act or not, do not overthink it. Just enjoy the moment. But always always guard your heart - falling for provider is (far) too easy. 

One of the valuable things I learned here (I believe in a post from @Jamie21) was that profiles on websites aren't just for providers. MY client profile is a great place to share what I think is important about me and our potential encounter. I list right up front what activities I am looking for.
It's been great for efficiency! Often with initial communication the provider immediately opens the topic to "I can do X," OR "I do not do X."

Effective communication is key to a successful provider-client relationship. A good provider will expect you to ask for exactly what you want. There's no need to be shy; I can guarantee you won't ask for anything they haven't heard before. While good providers are skilled at reading clients and guiding the session accordingly, leaving them to guess your preferences isn't the best approach when hiring.

^YES. This. 

It’s really helpful to post info to your profile. It shows you are serious. You don’t need to post a photo or stats but those are nice and do give a sense that you are more serious. The basics of what you’re looking for are the most helpful. You may want different things at different times, with different providers, so that only goes so far. Be clear about what you want when you contact your provider.
Post your “intos” if you tend to have the same or similar range of interests in most of your encounters. For example, your kinks or fetishes, or kissing is really important to you, you like longer sessions with a dinner date, or you want to be dominated, or you are a strict bareback top, or what have you. The more you share, the more we get a sense of what you want, and we use that info to better serve you.

lol you picked the perfect Angelica Huston meme to tempt me, but…
I won’t name names. I don’t want to be another target for his crazy. If he comes up in a thread, I may share privately to warn a client considering hiring him.

I know of one provider who’s been around for a couple decades with several hundred 5-star reviews on RentMen. The length of time makes sense why he would have gathered so many, but when I inquired here on CoM about him, I learned in private messages that he is known to badger his clients into leaving positive reviews, and he harasses or even threatens them until they leave one (or remove a bad one). Presumably he gets RM to remove the bad ones anyway, perhaps anything less than 5-stars.
Nothing surprising here, but you would never be able to tell on the surface if he’s just really well regarded in the industry or if he is taking extreme measures to manufacture and maintain his reputation. It will catch up to him eventually. It always does.
Ask here for references and verifications both publicly and privately. What may not show up in public reviews will likely surface here. Reviews are just the tip of the iceberg. For every one good review, I have dozens of client appointments that went really well and in person the clients sing my praises, but you will never see their feedback in a review. 
 

@Hot4latin Haha, we did not video the session for content or anything like that. We barely took one bad photo as an afterthought. Linking these masseur ads for you below. You will find some chatter on them here on CoM, which you can continue if you wish in the Spas and Masseurs threads that mention them. Didn’t mean to distract that much from the topic here.
Peter is on the road, traveling frequently, so you will see him in different cities. He mentioned moving back to New York at the end of a months long tour. MasseurFinder banned Peter because he started a competitor site called Gay Wellness. The other guys are in San Diego. I’ve mentioned Tal Sharone before and his competitor site, Allformen, which is similar to Gay Wellness. Anyone interested in these guys feel free to PM me.
André:
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Brant:
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Peter:
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