TokyoNewbie

Yes, I'm in Tokyo this week. I specifically got a hotel that's in Shinjuku, which is where they gayborhood is supposed to be. My hotel is also within walking distance from 24 Kaikan. However, since I've been here, I've been getting matches from Grindr that I couldn't say no to and I've been drained daily so far. Hence, The load and/or urge to go to 24 Kaikan has been gone. I'm starting to accept the fate that I may not end up in 24 Kaikan for this trip, but we'll see if this holds true since I still got a few days left.
 

Taking the plunge - I off to Tokyo next week.  
I plan to sample Tokyo - Kids, Heros, King of College
Any current experiences - tips - you are welcome to share or PM me

Your guesses are right.

Most providers will value a potential regular customer over a one-off.
Thus opening the door to a more natural human interaction, and possibly affection.
Champagne is nice too. 🍾

Thank you so much for so many comments.
 
I gave another try with the same provider and this time it was very hot. Thank you so much for your advices.
Maybe the biggest difference might be that at the first occasion we could not open the wine I brought because there was no opener, second time I brought a sparkling one, so no opener was necessary??? 

Thank you so much for so many comments.
 
I gave another try with the same provider and this time it was very hot. Thank you so much for your advices.
Maybe the biggest difference might be that at the first occasion we could not open the wine I brought because there was no opener, second time I brought a sparkling one, so no opener was necessary??? 

Thank you so much for so many comments.
 
I gave another try with the same provider and this time it was very hot. Thank you so much for your advices.
Maybe the biggest difference might be that at the first occasion we could not open the wine I brought because there was no opener, second time I brought a sparkling one, so no opener was necessary??? 

Thank you so much for so many comments.
 
I gave another try with the same provider and this time it was very hot. Thank you so much for your advices.
Maybe the biggest difference might be that at the first occasion we could not open the wine I brought because there was no opener, second time I brought a sparkling one, so no opener was necessary??? 

I’m older, and I think the youngest provider I’ve seen is over thirty. I prefer over 40. More life experience and professional experience too, which for me makes a better fit. If one is into an age group remote from their own, conversation may be limited, but can be enlightening for both. I never travel or dine out with them on the clock, so I never have to worry about clarity of that time - I also do not host, but travel to them. 

Providers get paid to spend time, and while specific acts may be left aside, I do expect presence, and love it more when I feel desired by them, (Acting!!) which gets reflected in the tip.
 
There is no substitute for chemistry, whether looking for love or just a couple hours of exercise.  Like lotto, the more tickets you buy, the greater the chance of winning. 
 

Your expectations aren't out of line, but clearly research on picking the right escort might need some tweaking in the future.
The sentiments you shared here, share with future guys you want to spend time with.  Be super straightforward about your wants and needs.  A quality guy is going to appreciate that and make sure you have an experience, not just a fuck.
In the beginning, it's some trial and error.  Not every escort is able to quickly form bonds with their clients.  That's a real talent.  
 

It happens.  Sometimes you two are not a match.  Sometimes they're not at their best.  Sometimes we're not at our best.    

Because it was .
The only way to your goal of an emotional connection is to work toward an emotional connection with someone.
That means meeting up with someone more than once, tipping generously and forming a comfortable relationship that isn't just - *I pay you cash / you suck my dick*

Recently I had an opportunity to hire a provider, and after that I have been contemplating what we can expect from a professional provider….
 
He is really good looking, better than the photos in his rentmen profile, very responsive, not overrated etc. etc. also good conversationalist. He supplied what was expected, but I was kind of disappointed…. I felt like it was more like mere business transaction and my partner was trying to get to the goal as economically as possible.
Probably that is a right way as business, and also probably I was not his type…. But still I wished some qualities such as passion, horniness, lust etc. would be more present in our session, though I understand even for professionals, to pretend/act those would be not easy…
I wonder if I am to optimistic, naive or greedy…. If you would share your experiences/ ideas, I would be very grateful.

Let's just say there are a lot of frogs out there and not so many princes. Also the princes don't sign up for this line of work as much the frogs do. And a lot of the frogs look like princes! Hang in there and when you do, treat him like what he is, a prince. 

Your requirements are NOT out in left field although it is more rare and will depend on the “connection” in general. I’ve experienced what you are asking with exactly 2 out of 11 providers I have hired since early last summer when I started doing this, so it’s out there but it isn’t easy to know up front. 

Thanks a lot for reply.
As client, as my last hire was so good I would like to leave a review, but then I need to get a premium status (though I think it is a bit odd… it would be better for the site to get more reviews.), but because I don’t hire a lot(in Tokyo there are not so many providers anyway) so I wonder how other elements such as photos or videos are. 
 
thanks!

There is a huge demand always, also so many people like sex and good at it. Is it not a dream job to do what you like? Great body, equipment, face, health issue, emotional difficulty etc. so many requirements, so definitely not an easy job…. 

Your guesses are right.

Seeing videos is useful as some guys will edit their photos, with videos they can still smooth things out but they can’t change the size of their dick. Some will retouch their dicks or are masters at making it look huge in photos. I like to see videos of the face too and some provide that in their video galleries. 
In addition you can leave a review. When escorts know you are premium, they make sure you are satisfied because they know you can leave a review. For me the $10 are worth it if I can see more of the guy, especially videos. 

Well, with ”periphery” I meant to be sarcastic about US centralism….. 
 
For me Tokyo’s crowd is somehow comforting. Though it is huge, somehow we know how to be together there, so not so stressful, once you get used to.

I paid, and I feel like it was a good decision. 
Though we can find so much porn on other venues, to watch potentially accessible guys’ videos/photos excites me quite a lot. Maybe I sound a bit desperate? 
 
anyway thanks a lot for responses.

I paid, and I feel like it was a good decision. 
Though we can find so much porn on other venues, to watch potentially accessible guys’ videos/photos excites me quite a lot. Maybe I sound a bit desperate? 
 
anyway thanks a lot for responses.

Your guesses are right.

Tokyo is definitely not the best place for sec,  it here is a short list of Brothals where English seems like available.
 
https://www.dojo-spa.com/top/
 
https://kids-jp.com/en/tk/s/
 
http://lang.dgdgdg.com/index.php
 
https://topboy.tokyo/index.php
 
https://core-escort.net/
 

I think OP mentioned he was in Tokyo, hardly far from the maddening crowd, lol.