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I completely see how someone could get into this cycle and it be a terrible long term behavior.
You realized it.  You moved on.  That's fantastic.
However, don't discount that there are millions of mentally healthy people out there who simply want something other than the missionary position.  They function 'normally' otherwise, but in the bedroom are fucking freaks (and I say that with a lot of love and respect).
Like I said before, we can't paint with too broad a brush.  Everyone is different.

It was not right FOR YOU. 
It was based in abuse FOR YOU. 
That's certainly not the case for everyone.
Don't paint with too-wide a brush. It never tends to end well.
 

In a perfect world, you'd be exactly right.
However, this isn't a perfect world and truly anonymous, unplanned sex turns a lot of guys on.  While letting their dick do all the thinking, I've heard some incredible (both sexy and stupid) stories of situations people have gotten themselves into. 
With many guys, that edge of fear is what makes the experience work.  It heightens a situation.  An overplanned 'scene' is what ruins it for them.
 
 

This sort of fantasy requires more than a couple of big asks from your top. 
Earned absolute trust. (Prior meets)
Excellent acting, including experience with non-damaging physical combat. (A stage actor?) 
Significant turn on - hot for you and for the scenario.
 

I have not found that perfect rape fantasy experience yet.  Don't mind having a dominant top manhandle me and have his way. 

Nothing is wrong if it's between two consenting adults.  It's just fantasy.
Newsflash:  Don't allow woke PCism in your bedroom unless you want it there. 
If something off the beaten path makes your dick hard, I guarantee there's someone out there with the EXACT same fetish (or an escort willing to oblige).  With trust in someone, or at least an understanding, the sky's the limit.
Explore away.

(I tried searching for an existing discussion, but they seem to be back in the early 2000s.) Is it wrong to want this? For myself, mind you, or perhaps as a third party with a top and consenting bottom. "But that's not rape," you'll say. Okay... Simulated rape.
I talked to a provider I trust and he's willing to go along with idea, whenever we can get our calendars in sync.

The AOL chat rooms, very hot memories. I spent way too much time there….

Most of my travel stories involve checking out new escorts or venues in a new city; not so much cruising for locals. I visited a bath house in Florida on a work trip. It was a very open layout, the sauna was in a building in a courtyard. There was one other guy in there with me, very much my type, a furry little cub, but didn't seem that interested in me. A HUGE rainstorm hit while we were in there, I said something like "looks like we're going to be trapped in here for a while, want to fool around?" and we had a fun time.

Inspiring! I have been toying with the idea of a 3-way, which seems like a baby step compared to this orgy!

I wanna party with THIS guy!

This thread has also inspired me to plan a three way with eyes on a four or five....
For the 3 or more scenario.....Don't think I want them all at once....
My favorite (and most caring guy) will be there the entire time watching over me and helping things along... the other tops will likely be two hour sessions overlapped so I have a constant supply of hard dick in both ends....one guy, two guys, three guys, two guys, one guy....Pyramid timing!
Recovering from ankle surgery, moving back to the northeast in August has given me plenty of time to think and plan this!
Thanks for the inspiration.

This is so incredible!   Life is short....live it!   And sounds like you have planned perfectly, should go smoothly. 
A few things to have on hand:
- a few packs of baby wipes
- plenty of lube, both silicone and water based (ppl have preferences)
- condoms
- bottled water, ideally chilled  (cooler/ice)?
- bring plenty of towels if you don't want to alert hotel staff; and a few sheets if you want to put them on the furniture
- alcohol if you want to serve drinks and some snacks (fruit?); 420 if that's your thing
- massage oil ?
- jar candles or low-wattage light bulbs if you want to set your own mood lighting (hotel lighting sucks)
- bluetooth speaker if you want to stream your own music
- viagra if you have some to share
- Bring your own shower gel if you want to have fun in the shower, spend money here not cheap stuff
- toys - cockrings, dildos, harness, handcuffs, cock sleeve, jockstraps, etc
Bring a sheet or shower curtain (+ scissors) and put it over the closet or bathroom door (use pushpins) if you want to set up a glory hole 😲
Just ask Hazel, she thinks of everything

So it's happening this weekend. Ended up hiring three guys instead of four. I took your advice and went for a nicer hotel downtown with two beds. They actually were fine having four people stay in the room so no worries about that. The room has this little couch seating area and a huge walk-in shower too so I think it'll have some fun areas to hang out in. I have me regular staying the night and the other guys coming for three hours each so we should have a nice long, fun session together. 
Going tonight to the adult store to buy a few things. Really looking forward to tomorrow night! No live-blogging or video updates sadly but will let you all know how it went.  Thanks for your advice!

I rent a house in the Hollywood hills a couple times a year for this. It’s an Airbnb. The owner lives right next-door. I told her we are nudists that get together a couple times a year and she loves having us LOL she makes us take bags of lemons from her lemon tree. As you say, locale is super important. At my house, where I am hosting this weekend, I just had a row of trees planted to bolster the fence for privacy. If anyone sees us, it’s because they want to.

You’ve been given good advice @keroscenefire. 
 
FWIW in my more frisky past, I often organised small groups for fun. Here’s what I wrote 5 years ago in response to someone asking about how to setup a group. I feel my advice applies to groups of 4 or 5 but not to a huge orgy…but then I’m greedy and always wanted to play with each guy.
“I've had many, very successful threesomes. They fall into two groups: a good friend and I have played with 1 escort or a non-working guy; and I have played with 2 escorts.
 
I've always been very open and direct about what I expect to happen in each threesome (my friend is rather shy and enjoys me being dominant and taking the lead). I like to host and I set a relaxed tone by first opening a bottle of wine and having us all talk to get acquainted and discuss what we are going to do. 
 
When the threesome has comprised 2 escorts, I discuss beforehand what I enjoy, what I expect to do and what I like to have done to me. On the evening, again I like to set a relaxed tone with wine and chat first. I do this for no more than 15 minutes before leaning in to kiss whichever escort seems more keen to start. I find that setting an example and being confident always help. 
 
You are of course right to say that communication is key. I would add, however, that it is essential to have a very large bed with good sheets and pillows. And it helps to have on hand bottles of cold water in the bedroom along with plenty of condoms, lube and towels.”

I had a regular back in the day who would come into my house on a Sunday while I was watching football and would suck me off without saying a word and then leave.  We had other encounters as well, but this Sunday activity was a favorite.   

This is definitely a “thing” for some guys. I had a guy who wanted me to watch sports while he sucked me off. I was especially into the game too so I couldn’t really focus on his sucking but it also made me last longer which he enjoyed. 

It gets me hot thinking of getting on my knees, in between a guys legs, and sucking him while he’s sitting on a couch casually playing video games or playing on his phone. Anybody else into this?

Hi,
Viagra isn't safe to take every day. If you can I would first try it on your own so you can find out how long it takes to work for you, have fun.

Some of these guys don't seem to understand that a sugar daddy arrangement is different from a by-the-hour rentboy.
Although there are guys who get thousands of dollars a month from wealthy gentlemen, they aren't getting that in pay4play installments.

But not for this guy....

Having sugar daddied before, I can assure you there are men out here paying those rates.