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Is it just me or does the wrist in the pic where he is holding his cock look different than in the other pics? It looks smaller to me.

I just tried the link you posted above and it worked.

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That isn't a small list of products.

The entire article is hard to read. Microsoft Word has grammar-check and whoever wrote that article needs to turn it on and pay attention to its recommendations.

It is good to hear Oklahoma has nothing better to deal with than this nonsense.

Linus (on the left) and his brother Lucien. The Humane Society said one was a boy and the other was a girl, so I named them Linus and Lucy after the Peanuts characters. Turned out, Lucy was not a girl and so he is Lucien.

You are not the a-hole, @Gar1eth. In fact, there is no a-hole. You are a caring person. If you weren't, you would not be giving this matter so much thought. Be kind to yourself. It is hard to do when we a loss, but it's important.

Guys have given me their GPS coordinates when they are hosting, so this isn't new to me. I don't think this is a suspicious request. You can give him the GPS coordinates from the next block over from your home and the distance/travel time will be virtually the same.

I host first-time playdates in my home all the time without issue.

A couple things: As a premium RM member, I can see the same pics I saw prior to the changes RM made. To me, there have been no changes. On a routine and regular basis, the mods have to edit posts containing RM links because a preview of the provider's ad displays an explicit pic (such as an erection) in the public forum. Ergo, the pics are still visible. As @BOZO T CLOWN stated, RM is a business, and like any other business they need to pay salaries, hosting fees, server costs, ISP fees, and utilities plus all the other expenses a business incurs. I don't remember when RM last raised their prices, but it has been years. When a business keeps prices flat for an extended time, any price increase will be steep. If RM customers don't like RM, then pool resources, hire UI/UX architects, business analysts, project managers, scrum masters, product owners, database and web developers, legal counsel, photo and ad verifiers, privacy administrators, compliance specialists, accounting and bookkeeping staff, fraud prevention specialists, and the other support staff required to maintain a web site, secure a domain name, acquire server space (don't forget to have development, test, troubleshooting, and production environments to avoid production issues. Users will complain if you have them!), incorporate the business overseas, secure a payment processor, obtain banking relationships, develop the website, test it, and deploy. It's really that cheap and easy! OK, it ISN'T cheap and easy. On the low end, based on my own experience leading software projects for the last 31 years, it would probably be a $4 - $5 million, multi-year project to develop a service that contains a bare minimum of the features members have said they want. $19.99/month ($9.99/month or $99/year for long-term members) is starting to sound like a bargain.

Good for you for acknowledging the issue was that your perception and fantasy did not match the way he dressed when he showed up. Based on what you stated, I would have paid the entire fee, given he is wearing both a beard and the necklace in at least five of the pictures and a beard in all but one of them. He is also wearing the beard and the necklace in the boxing video. Of his eleven pictures, two show nothing but his cock, one shows nothing but his legs, seven show him shirtless or naked, and one shows him wearing a tank top and shorts (which are removed when he took a subsequent picture in the same place). In the eight photos that show his upper body, he is wearing the necklace in seven of them. It seems unreasonable to expect him to show up shirtless or wearing a tank top on a New York City October evening when the temperature was between 67 and 69 degrees (that's what Microsoft Bing says was last evening's temperature). It's too chilly for that. Unless I asked him to remove his necklace, I wouldn't expect him to show up not wearing it, given he is wearing it in most of his pictures. Since he didn't have a chance to remove his clothes, we don't know whether his body matches the photos. This isn't a case of a provider who isn't who he said he was. Instead, a client wanted a provider to show up wearing workout gear or sweats and the provider showed up wearing what one would wear to a nice restaurant. Since we don't know whether the client asked the provider to show up wearing workout gear/sweats, we don't know whether the provider ignored what the client asked for or he failed to read the client's mind. A good rule of thumb is to ask for what you want. If the provider doesn't do what you want, it's on him. In the future, do what I do - when I want a provider to show up looking a particular way (for example, looking like a jock) I ask him to wear whatever it is I want him to wear. For example, I'd have said something like "Hey, I love that boxing vid. Please wear something like that when we meet."

No, I wouldn't. Again, that would be an insult to his ability to run a business.

If his rate is £200 and he charges you £200, then you aren't taking advantage of him. You are paying his stated rate. If you feel strongly that he deserves more, then pay him more by leaving him a generous tip. "Sitting him down..." is a bad idea. Frankly, by doing so you would be insulting his judgement. He knows what other escorts are charging and he chooses to charge what he charges. Be grateful that he doesn't charge £2,000.

Welcome to Company of Men. You are in the right place to ask questions and seek advice. I'm going to be direct and get to the point: Are you sure you are ready to do this? Your post strikes me as being tinged with a sense that you are doing something shameful and wrong and will be punished for it. You aren't doing anything wrong or shameful and the likelihood of law enforcement running a male escort sting in a major US city is pretty low. Like near 0% probability. When I hired a guy for the first time (1996, I think - I was in my low 30's) I thought very hard about what it was I wanted and set out to get it. For me, I wanted to worship a guy's muscles, suck his dick, eat his ass, sniff and lick his armpits, kiss, and get each other off. So...I looked for providers who seemed to be into this, contacted them, expressed what I wanted, and asked if they were into a similar scene. This was pre-internet, so it was a bit of a challenge, but the approach worked. So, I'll ask you: what is it you are looking for? Is just a massage what you want or do you want more? This isn't about what you think you "should" do (there are no "shoulds" in this hobby), it's about what you desire to do. Also, are you looking for a regular provider with whom you can ease into what you want? If that's the case, then make sure the provider lives in the city in which you would hire him, else he won't be there the next time you want to see him. My advice is to make a list of all the things you want to do with another man. Yes, a physical list. (You don't have to use pen and paper - MS Word or your favorite notepad app will do just fine.) Then, tick off the things you want to do on your first playdate. Lastly, when you identify guys who interest you state in your first message what you like/want to do and ask if they could get into them. Also, mention you are a first-time client and want to go slow. Having said all that, the most important piece of advice I can give you is "relax."

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Welcome to the Company of Men. I'm glad you found us. The Delaware County website has a page of LGBT+ resources. Some are located in Philadelphia, but by the looks of it, Delaware County isn't very far from Philadelphia, so perhaps they are doable for you. You mentioned not having been to Philadelphia in years, so maybe now is a good time to venture into the city. When I came out in the mid-1990's at age 32 (older Gen-X here) I was concerned about losing family and friends. I lost no one. Granted, my situation was different than yours (never married, no kids) but the fact is being gay doesn't mean you lose people. Several of the older (70+) men in the coming out group I co-facilitated had the same concern and, frankly, it just didn't happen. There is hope! The older gentlemen in our group would recommend two organizations to our older first-time members. One is Prime Timers Worldwide, a social group that has local chapters in many cities. It looks like the Northern New Jersey chapter is the one closest to you. The other is an advocacy and resource group called SAGE. If I was recommending a group to try first, it would be SAGE. At first glance, it might look like you would not benefit from their services, but I think they could help point you in the direction of what you are looking for. EDIT: The gents in our group would quickly mention to the younger guys that they were welcome, also. A couple of the twenty-somethings joined them and found it very enlightening. Lastly, I couldn't help but notice you started and ended your first post with commentary about negative feedback: First, let's call negative feedback what it is: rude, hurtful, vindictive, and mean behavior. Those who engage in that are jerks. Don't even bother with them - they won't listen to what you said and will be hurtful anyway. Second, and this is from personal experience, when you lead with negativity, negativity has a habit of finding you. I spent a pretty good chunk of my life doing that and I was miserable. Once I let go of that (and it wasn't easy) I was much happier and became more open to other people. Hang in there! There is hope. This forum right here is a good place to be. We have people (yes, we have a few women who are members) of all backgrounds. Generally speaking, folks are helpful and supportive. When they aren't, other members will keep them in check. I look forward to your continued participation in the forum.

Not much of a TV watcher here, but when a good show comes along, I binge-watch the hell out of it. That was the case with "Unstable," starring Rob Lowe and his son John Owen Lowe. Rob Lowe is a quirky genius scientist who almost loses the company due to his bizarre behavior after his wife dies. John Owen Lowe plays his son who is summoned from NYC to save his dad. While it isn't exactly Masterpiece Theatre, it is very cute, goofy, and funny. You even get to see Rob Lowe shirtless. Anybody else watch it?

Exactly! That's why it's called "single-payer."

Gotta admire his honesty.

Sliding back toward the topic... This is a great lesson in the importance of knowing one's market. Given the comments, no one here had heard of "drip" and "drippy" used in this way. I'll go out on a limb and say this also applies to a large proportion of the hiring population. It's never a good idea to confuse and/or turn off your intended clientele. Thank you, @keroscenefire for enlightening us about this new slang term.

There are a few missing steps here. See below: Go to his ad on rentmen.com (or wherever you saw it). Copy the URL at the top of the page. Click the "link" icon on the toolbar to display the "link" pop-up Paste that URL in the space marked "URL" Click "Insert the Link" Press Submit. When you paste the URL directly into the body of the message the forum software will usually display the link accompanied by an image from the RM ad. RM tends to cycle through the images in the ad, so when the ad includes explicit pics, one of them will eventually be displayed. Explicit pics are not allowed in the public areas of the site. That is why I posted and pinned the "please read" topic at the top of The Deli. Link to topic about posting links.

A few things: Cash App is not a Google product. It is a product of Block, Inc which was formerly known as Square (now one of Block's divisions). The best place to learn about safeguarding yourself and your funds when using Cash App is their Support page. There you will find a plethora of information.

Moderator's note: The pizza has been ordered. We also picked up a couple of salads. Plenty for everyone.

I use Alexa at home, but since I chose the male voice and you can't use "Alex" as a wake word, I call him Echo. Regarding Siri, I use him to get directions and make calls in the car.