When an escort isn't a good fit

[+ Charlie]

To be fair to Roberto, he was uncomfortable enough about how he handled the situation, which he seems to have described honestly, to at least ask us for advice. I think we have castigated him more than enough.

[Sandlapp]

I would have paid in full. I would also have gone through with it. I've had encounters that began awkwardly but warmed up nicely.

[caliguy]

I think we have castigated him more than enough.

I'll bet there's some more left. Any last words Roberto?

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[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I'll bet there's some more left. Any last words Roberto?

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You have taken the land which is rightfully ours. Years from now my people will be forced to live in mobile homes on reservations.

 

Your people will wear cardigans, and drink highballs. We will sell our bracelets by the road sides, you will play golf, and enjoy hot hors d'oeuvres. My people will have pain and degradation. Your people will have stick shifts. The gods of my tribe have spoken.

 

They have said, "Do not trust the Pilgrims, especially Sarah Miller."

[+ poolboy48220]

To be fair to Roberto, he was uncomfortable enough about how he handled the situation, which he seems to have described honestly, to at least ask us for advice. I think we have castigated him more than enough.

I'm with Charlie. This has gone from me too to me two-hundredth. Point made. "The energy wasn't right" is now an official meme.

[+ poolboy48220]

To be fair to Roberto, he was uncomfortable enough about how he handled the situation, which he seems to have described honestly, to at least ask us for advice. I think we have castigated him more than enough.

I'm with Charlie. This has gone from me too to me two-hundredth. Point made. "The energy wasn't right" is now an official meme.

[Guest RexB]

I made arrangements to meet with a visiting escort last year after a long time of "courting" from afar, but always doubting if I should go ahead, but his pictures were enticing to me so I made the date. When I met him in the lobby of his hotel he asked me to wait a minute while he bought cigarettes. I should have run off while he was in the shop. From first sight I already knew I didn't want to hook up with him but I was trying to act "honorably" so I waited and then went up to his room with him. He was very jittery and frenetic, and frankly, I didn't find him to be at all appealing appearance-wise or in his manner, so I made a stink about the cigarettes. He said he would blow the smoke out the window. I really wanted to get away from there, so I apologized and said it just didn't feel right and I left the room and headed home. As I was approaching the subway station I got a text from him saying to come back, that he wouldn't smoke. I replied that I was already in the train (a little lie), and that anyway because of what I hired him for would not work because I find the smell and taste of nicotine unappealing. The question of payment never came up somehow, and going by the consensus here that might be considered "wrong" but I know I did the right thing for me.

[Guest RexB]

I made arrangements to meet with a visiting escort last year after a long time of "courting" from afar, but always doubting if I should go ahead, but his pictures were enticing to me so I made the date. When I met him in the lobby of his hotel he asked me to wait a minute while he bought cigarettes. I should have run off while he was in the shop. From first sight I already knew I didn't want to hook up with him but I was trying to act "honorably" so I waited and then went up to his room with him. He was very jittery and frenetic, and frankly, I didn't find him to be at all appealing appearance-wise or in his manner, so I made a stink about the cigarettes. He said he would blow the smoke out the window. I really wanted to get away from there, so I apologized and said it just didn't feel right and I left the room and headed home. As I was approaching the subway station I got a text from him saying to come back, that he wouldn't smoke. I replied that I was already in the train (a little lie), and that anyway because of what I hired him for would not work because I find the smell and taste of nicotine unappealing. The question of payment never came up somehow, and going by the consensus here that might be considered "wrong" but I know I did the right thing for me.

[+ poolboy48220]

He said he would blow the smoke out the window.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Smoke doesn't bother me but I know it bothers others a lot, and that's a HORRIBLE excuse. Takes me back to when my parents told me "just pick off the green pepper on your piece of pizza".

[+ poolboy48220]

He said he would blow the smoke out the window.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Smoke doesn't bother me but I know it bothers others a lot, and that's a HORRIBLE excuse. Takes me back to when my parents told me "just pick off the green pepper on your piece of pizza".

[KennF]

For me, smoking is a vetting question. I really can't stand the smell of smoke. I used to date someone who smoked and it always tasted like I was licking an ashtray. And, when I worked at a place, where every night I would come home smelling of cigarettes/cigars, I used to come home, strip at the washing machine and start the laundry.

 

Nowadays , I immediately am turned off by the odor or taste. Not just the active smoke, but the lingering smell/taste.

[KennF]

For me, smoking is a vetting question. I really can't stand the smell of smoke. I used to date someone who smoked and it always tasted like I was licking an ashtray. And, when I worked at a place, where every night I would come home smelling of cigarettes/cigars, I used to come home, strip at the washing machine and start the laundry.

 

Nowadays , I immediately am turned off by the odor or taste. Not just the active smoke, but the lingering smell/taste.

[hornytwells]

For me, smoking is a vetting question. I really can't stand the smell of smoke. I used to date someone who smoked and it always tasted like I was licking an ashtray. And, when I worked at a place, where every night I would come home smelling of cigarettes/cigars, I used to come home, strip at the washing machine and start the laundry.

 

Nowadays , I immediately am turned off by the odor or taste. Not just the active smoke, but the lingering smell/taste.

Am totally with you on that one, and could never date a smoker-its not a judgemental thing, its a chemical reaction I have to the smell, biggest boner killer ever for me, alas>

[+ WilliamM]

In the case of the OP, there was not a problem with the provider.

 

You do not know what the problem was that made him decide to leave.

[+ purplekow]

You do not what the problem was that made him decide to leave.

In the words of the OP: "I drove 45 minutes to meet a well-reviewed escort but when I entered his apartment I felt that the energy wasn't right and that we wouldn't connect. I told him so right away..." As he told him right away, there wasn't much that may have happened, except that the energy was not right. That might be enough to have him call off the meet. If they were in a gangster movie, they would have said that he got "hinkie", but a gestalt feeling by the client does not abrogate his agreement to pay for the escort's time, IMO. Now if the review read: I drove 45 minutes to meet a well reviewed escort but when I entered his apartment, I felt that his gun aimed at me wasn't right.... well then, different story.

[+ azdr0710]

well @Roberto ....I can see you were looking at this thread just a few minutes ago.....and you haven't replied at all since your first post......

 

we really dragged you over the coals with this one.....you did ask for our "thoughts".....

 

let us know YOUR "thoughts" now after all this......

[+ WilliamM]

In the words of the OP: "I drove 45 minutes to meet a well-reviewed escort but when I entered his apartment I felt that the energy wasn't right and that we wouldn't connect. I told him so right away..."

 

I believe I started hiring before u. "[T]he energy wasn't right" is a nice way of saying there was a bigger problem. I started hiring at Rounds on the east side in New York City in 1991.

[+ WilliamM]

If I were in the provider's shoes, I personally would have mandated at least half the session fee to be compensated since it was an incall

 

The OP did pay him half the money.

[lookin4hotties]

I have hired people anyway that I don't care for, because of their incredible looks.

 

I'm not proud, lol.

 

Other than fakes, if the person was a complete jerk or if you were concerned for your safety,

I could understand. I have had to deal with people tweaking before too and that is another

big deal breaker. Unfortunately, a stressed out or inexperienced escort will sometimes act

a bit out of sorts.

 

The one that I remember I really disliked right away had zero affect. He was cute, but he

showed almost no emotion or reactions and was just whatever to anything I said. Turned

out he was younger (19), very shy around people he didn't know, and just needed a few

drinks.

 

It's wierd but there are a lot of people out there who have zero personality until they have

about 4-6 cocktails in them. Then there are smiles, talking, warmth but if they are sober

they show no emotion and have a wierd stunted cardboard personality.

 

If it is really important for you to establish a rapport with someone before you screw them,

add in going out for a few drinks, food or coffee before you go back to your hotel. I advise

that you let them know this is what is going to happen before you meet. Then you can talk,

get to know more about them, have a bite to eat, a drink, some coffee, etc. and build up a

certain level of rapport before you go and do business. Smokers and drinkers especially

appreciate a few of whatever, before you both get to everything else. This will help them

relax and let their hair down,

after you first meet up. I wish all escorts could start the date in "I'm really glad to see you"

mode. Some of them do, some don't. I have a good friend that says, if you really don't like

someone, just turn up the music.

 

Lookin4hotties

[+ purplekow]

I believe I started hiring before u. "[T]he energy wasn't right" is a nice way of saying there was a bigger problem. I started hiring at Rounds on the east side in New York City in 1991.

Sorry I did not know the code, I simply took him at his word.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Sorry I did not know the code, I simply took him at his word.

 

I do not think it is a code. I do not understand why @WilliamM is defending the OP when he clearly abused the escort's time.

But I agree that we spanked him enough.

[+ WilliamM]

Sorry I did not know the code, I simply took him at his word.

 

Not a code, just common sense.

[+ WilliamM]

I do not think it is a code. I do not understand why @WilliamM is defending the OP when he clearly abused the escort's time. But I agree that we spanked him enough.

 

I am defending him because I know what clients and escorts say/write in public is not always the full story.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I am defending him because I know what clients and escorts say/write in public is not always the full story.

 

We all know that. But the OP is an adult and he can defend himself. Based on the information he shared, he is indefensible.

[+ WilliamM]

We all know that. But the OP is an adult and he can defend himself. Based on the information he shared, he is indefensible.

 

Sorry, I am not convinced that "We all know that" if only because of the responses in this thread.