Would you tell an Escort that he has "let himself go"?

[+ WilliamM]

My opinion is that you don't get into a looks-based job if you have a fragile confidence level. I'd be thankful if one of my guys told me I was looking rough.

 

As you know, Benjamin, sometimes looks are not the only reason. After two year I thought my regular hire was spending too much time in the gym. Also, I was in Europe on Sept. 11, 20o1 and stayed in France longer than expected, so money became an unexpected issue as well.

[marylander1940]

I have a relationship with an escort I saw every couple of months when I was in his town for my business travel.

 

On our first meeting, he was in perfect shape - worked-out, lean and very muscular. Over the past year, each time I have seen him, he has put on more weight. His abs are gone - and a once-great chest is getting flabby.

 

He is very nice and he ontacts me regularly asking when I will be in town again. I have no problem telling him I'm unavailable - but he has no idea it's because he has let himself go.

 

Would you tell him the truth?

 

tell him:

 

"your body has changed a lot, are you having problems with your family?"

 

I did host an escort after he had liposuction back in 2009.

[marylander1940]

It's interesting that most of the clients who have responded wouldn't want to say anything, but both escorts who have responded say "Bring it on."

 

Sometimes a stranger (or a client) needs to tell you the ugly truth.

[Deadlift1]

Don't tell him anything. Its his livelihood. And none of your business.

[Despardo]

I would not say anything unless he brought it up first. On 2, maybe 3 occasions an escort suggested steps I should take to lose weight, advice I might welcome from a close friend. However, the point of an escort/client relationship is to make me feel good (physically and emotionally,) and I did not particularly welcome the physical critique or gratuitous suggestions, even if they were well intended. Since I was the one paying, I didn't need the escort to lecture me on what I already knew. It felt like going to a restaurant and being advised (unasked) by a waiter what I should order to improve my health. My point is that I would extend the same social courtesy to the escort.

[Deadlift1]

Spend another 250 discussing his weight gain and see if he wants to talk to u about it.

[Steve9332]

Since you already have a relation with this escort i would say be honest! You pay to get something special, and when that turns into something just average then

it aint worth it any more..... dont mean to be rude but why should you pay for something that isnt special any more....

 

I had a escort that i was a regular with for a while, with several multi nights get aways, my financial situation changed and i had to slow down

on hiring, and he used to call and text me now and then and it was very nice to talk/text, and he used to point out that we had something special

between us, and was wondering why i would have him come over. I told his as it was, we have something special yes, but he is only interested as i am willing

to pay full price , I said he is always welcome as a friend but I can afford to pay right now, and he admitted that it was true, no hard feelings at all, just fact of life.

 

so tell him you are happy to see him as a friend, but you dont want to pay for something that isnt what is was when you first started hiring...

[+ purplekow]

I have a relationship with an escort I saw every couple of months when I was in his town for my business travel.

 

On our first meeting, he was in perfect shape - worked-out, lean and very muscular. Over the past year, each time I have seen him, he has put on more weight. His abs are gone - and a once-great chest is getting flabby.

 

He is very nice and he ontacts me regularly asking when I will be in town again. I have no problem telling him I'm unavailable - but he has no idea it's because he has let himself go.

 

Would you tell him the truth?

I would tell him the truth. It does not have to be abrupt or uncaring but it should be clear. There are tactful ways to say things like this. As someone who was recently told in a not very tactful way, I can vouch for the fact that it is painful, but life is painful at times. I would be truthful rather than just brushing the guy off.

[rvwnsd]

...I am waiting for the inevitable 'Let It Go' youtube link.

Just for you, my good sir:

 

 

But seriously...If an escort let himself go to the extent @InterestingGuy has described and I was no longer attracted to him, I would stop hiring him. Were he to ask why, I would tell him. If he did not ask, I wouldn't say anything.

[caliguy]

Another way to make the point.

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[rvwnsd]

Another way to make the point.

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-rW98Ua_-Xm8/UP2rxDAuIKI/AAAAAAAAGeE/1Qe3QELNd94/s1600/lucille-bluth.gif

If the escort is calling:

 

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[MassageDrew]

I have a relationship with an escort I saw every couple of months when I was in his town for my business travel.

 

On our first meeting, he was in perfect shape - worked-out, lean and very muscular. Over the past year, each time I have seen him, he has put on more weight. His abs are gone - and a once-great chest is getting flabby.

 

He is very nice and he ontacts me regularly asking when I will be in town again. I have no problem telling him I'm unavailable - but he has no idea it's because he has let himself go.

 

Would you tell him the truth?

 

I wouldn't for the fact that you do not know him at a very personal level. I've been wanting to tell someone at work to go see a dentist but it's just not my place to say. However, I am very candid with my closest friemds as they are with me. I expect nonetheless.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I've been wanting to tell someone at work to go see a dentist but it's just not my place to say.

 

Offer him a mint.

http://31.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mdlslg5Fxc1rngmtco1_500.gif

[ChristianCronin]

If I were you, I wouldn't say anything about his muscularity; or lack thereof. I would just stop responding. That escort will move on and hopefully get the hint too...I wouldn't want to be the one to break the news to him. :/

[+ WmClarke]

I once told an escort I had hired multiple times that he was not in quite as good shape as when I first met him.

 

He acknowledged the changes and it didn't impact our session and it never hurt our relationship--I have hired him since.

 

But I wish I had never said it.

[MassageDrew]

Offer him a mint.

http://31.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mdlslg5Fxc1rngmtco1_500.gif

 

Believe me, I wish it was just a breath issue.

[Mydavid]

I don't think I will tell him directly. I might just reduce the frequency I meet him gradually, or I won't change - I can ignore their physique problems if there is a good atmosphere between us.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Believe me, I wish it was just a breath issue.

http://68.media.tumblr.com/98bb9144d58ccc018449309e996b58fa/tumblr_o5ja20olGa1rp0vkjo1_500.gif

[+ Worthington45]

I have a great relationship with my usual guy. I consider them a friend as much as my provider, and it appears through words and actions they may feel the same way.

 

At one point in our relationship, I noticed some of the same things that the OP noticed in their provider. It caused me concern, and after some deliberation after our meeting I brought up that concern with him, as I care about my friends. I said I was worried about him, was he okay, can I help? He told me what was going on in his life that caused the physical issues, and thanked me for caring. I've seen him since then, and those issues appear to be fully resolved. I was relieved and glad to see that.

 

Just my own experience.

[MassageDrew]

http://68.media.tumblr.com/98bb9144d58ccc018449309e996b58fa/tumblr_o5ja20olGa1rp0vkjo1_500.gif

 

Stop, you're too funny. Now, I'm feeling guilty for even bringing it up.

[Kunal]

As long as he hasn't gained like 15 pounds or more but still had great skills, nice dick and ass, I am all good

[Scott Virginian]

Here's a question that works well in any circumstance: are you telling him for your benefit, or his? If you want to tell someone something truly for their benefit and can do it with kindness, concern, and love, then it may be worth it. Is he ok? Is he letting himself go because he's relaxing and giving himself a break from the stress of always looking perfect? Or is he doing so because there's been trauma or sadness in his life?

 

If you can help someone with honesty, maybe worth it. If not, it's best to live and let live.

[Rudynate]

Yes, I'd tell him

 

As an escort, it's our job to be attractive to people: Eating right, hitting the gym and taking care of yourself can be work in itself, but that's just part of this business.

 

First impressions are important... As are impressions two, ten and fifty five

 

I had a friend who was unusually candid, and he didn't hesitate to tell me, for example, if I'd been a little lazy about the gym, that I was looking a little smooth.

 

It was never done abusively and was meant as constructive criticism, and that's just the way I took it.

[JBrian72]

Nobody is without a mirror to be able to tell if they aren't in as good a shape as they used to, so it's insulting no matter how much you sugar coat it to bring it up. My only experience with change was someone who told me in detail about the cock size increase devices they used since my prior visit. Personally, I preferred the original one because while larger, the "new and improved" one couldn't get excited as well .

Sometimes I think we see what we want to see in the mirror, or see what we don't want to see. I don't think that a mirror is as objective as it might seem.