Am I being narrow-minded ?

[nycbystander]

When I see "Ask Me" or "Anything Goes" in the Safe/BB I assume they will bareback and take them out of consideration.

I realize you can request a condom when someone is topping you, but with oral, giving a bj with a condom is awful, a non-starter.

Am I being too conservative ?

Thoughts ?

[+ glennnn]

Are you satisfied with your more cautious sex life? If so, why take BB chances? It seems to me there are plenty of superior escorts who only play safe. "Anything goes" is a dangerous and slippery slope. The passing excitement of a bare cock in your ass may seem minor if STI's become involved. No! I don't think you are too conservative, having gone through a chlamydia scare due to a passionate, but unforgiving moment with an escort. Highly inconvenient and embarrassing. Stay safe.

[LookingAround]

The majority of "safe only" guys I hire offer bb when they are here.

[marylander1940]

The majority of "safe only" guys I hire offer bb when they are here.

 

Sad but true... all of the sudden "condoms hurt", that's what I've heard from some bottoms...

[+ oldNbusted]

One guy I talked to said he put "Ask Me" in his fields to create a sense of mystery and to increase engagement. I have to assume he believes that is effective for him. I realize the reactions here are very negative about this kind of ambiguity, including about the people who deploy it, but I strongly suspect forum participants are not a very representative sample of the total market and it may be an effective strategy for some.

[Mydavid]

Sad but true... all of the sudden "condoms hurt", that's what I've heard from some bottoms...

It is strange to me, because I can never really feel condoms with my ass.

[+ José Soplanucas]

does a bottom feel the difference?

[Mydavid]

does a bottom feel the difference?

That's what I want to ask too. I always think it is the top who feels the difference.

[marylander1940]

It is strange to me, because I can never really feel condoms with my ass.

 

 

does a bottom feel the difference?

 

Me too. yet so many guys I've met since PrEP keep saying that condoms hurt, one even told me: (getting fucked by a guy wearing a condom) "is like being tortured".

Maybe our butts @latbear4blk @Mydavid have no sensitivity. LOL

[+ Keith30309]

[+ José Soplanucas]

I am a top, my experimentation with bottoming was before the epidemic.

 

Me too. yet so many guys I've met since PrEP keep saying that condoms hurt, one even told me: (getting fucked by a guy wearing a condom) "is like being tortured".

Maybe our butts @latbear4blk @Mydavid have no sensitivity. LOL

[creoleblanche]

I used to think giving a blow job w/out a condom was perfectly safe. Apparently I was quite wrong. I've gotten bjs when the guy asked me to wear one, & really it wasn't so bad.

[caliguy]

I used to think giving a blow job w/out a condom was perfectly safe. Apparently I was quite wrong. I've gotten bjs when the guy asked me to wear one, & really it wasn't so bad.

I used to think being around people was perfectly safe. Apparently I was wrong too. I mean you could catch the damn Zeke Virus these days. I pretty much stay away from everyone now and it really isn't that bad. I think everyone should try it.

[Rudynate]

I used to think giving a blow job w/out a condom was perfectly safe. Apparently I was quite wrong. I've gotten bjs when the guy asked me to wear one, & really it wasn't so bad.

 

 

The risk of HIV transmission and bloodborne diseases is extremely low. However, other STDs are readily transmitted through oral sex.

[marylander1940]

The risk of HIV transmission and bloodborne diseases is extremely low. However, other STDs are readily transmitted through oral sex.

 

Yes, you are absolutely right bu other STDs are easily treatable unfortunately sometimes people don't have symptoms. I got oral gonorrhea once and I wasn't aware of it. I got chlamydia twice and I had a red dot on the top of my penis.

[Guest]

One guy I talked to said he put "Ask Me" in his fields to create a sense of mystery and to increase engagement. I have to assume he believes that is effective for him. I realize the reactions here are very negative about this kind of ambiguity, including about the people who deploy it, but I strongly suspect forum participants are not a very representative sample of the total market and it may be an effective strategy for some.

I've heard this before. I hired an escort who listed "ask me" and so, I asked! He said that he actually plays safe 100% of the time but that listing Safe Only hurt his business prospects because he was being filtered out.

 

On the other hand, if a client is looking for BB and the escort doesn't, that might hurt his business too.

[Sandlapp]

I have totally gotten

Sad but true... all of the sudden "condoms hurt", that's what I've heard from some bottoms...

I have totally gotten that. "Of course I'll play safe. No problem." Cut to the moment when I'm about to die for some dick. "I can't really keep it hard in a condom. Let me bareback you."

[MikeyGMin]

Yes, you are absolutely right bu other STDs are easily treatable unfortunately sometimes people don't have symptoms. I got oral gonorrhea once and I wasn't aware of it. I got chlamydia twice and I had a red dot on the top of my penis.

Damn! Either you have been particularly unlucky or I have been lucky. If I recall correctly you came out late in life. I have been sexually active for 35 years -- exclusively with men -- and the only thing I've ever gotten was a digestive bug from rimming.

[marylander1940]

Damn! Either you have been particularly unlucky or I have been lucky. If I recall correctly you came out late in life. I have been sexually active for 35 years -- exclusively with men -- and the only thing I've ever gotten was a digestive bug from rimming.

 

 

I hope you don't work as a pollster and you're certainly not good at math

 

Never got that one and I'm quite the "rimmer".

 

I've been sexually active for almost 6 decades!

[wklucas]

I (a bottom exclusively) absolutely know my current (& ongoing) status - negative....

With a few of my regulars (all tops) I absolutely know their truthful, current status - negative.....

With those guys - natural, lambskin condoms....as an incidental item they can get costly but the comfort is beyond compare - for both of us.

(lambskin = almost like wearing nothing....some guys who have said that they can't cum w/a condom, can do so w/lambskin)

Any / all other hires - latex without exception.

[filmbuff78]

That's what I want to ask too. I always think it is the top who feels the difference.

 

I'm almost strictly a bottom and yeah, personally I can tell the difference.... especially if the lube starts to wear off. Skin on skin is one feeling... latex being dry rubbed in and out of your hole is really uncomfortable. Plus it's a mental thing as well. There's a more intimate connection that dissipates when there's a condom. It's an extra barrier to closeness, so to speak. Even if it's anon, I like that feeling.

[+ bashful]

I (a bottom exclusively) absolutely know my current (& ongoing) status - negative....

With a few of my regulars (all tops) I absolutely know their truthful, current status - negative.....

With those guys - natural, lambskin condoms....as an incidental item they can get costly but the comfort is beyond compare - for both of us.

(lambskin = almost like wearing nothing....some guys who have said that they can't cum w/a condom, can do so w/lambskin)

Any / all other hires - latex without exception.

 

Everything I've read is that lambskin condoms are effective to prevent pregnancy, but not really effective for STDs.

[marylander1940]

I (a bottom exclusively) absolutely know my current (& ongoing) status - negative....

With a few of my regulars (all tops) I absolutely know their truthful, current status - negative.....

With those guys - natural, lambskin condoms....as an incidental item they can get costly but the comfort is beyond compare - for both of us.

(lambskin = almost like wearing nothing....some guys who have said that they can't cum w/a condom, can do so w/lambskin)

Any / all other hires - latex without exception.

 

I'm almost strictly a bottom and yeah, personally I can tell the difference.... especially if the lube starts to wear off. Skin on skin is one feeling... latex being dry rubbed in and out of your hole is really uncomfortable. Plus it's a mental thing as well. There's a more intimate connection that dissipates when there's a condom. It's an extra barrier to closeness, so to speak. Even if it's anon, I like that feeling.

 

Yinz are brave men!

 

So many bottoms called themselves versatile instead of just bottoms.

 

Is like bragging on grindr about being masculine, when someone asks me: "Are you masculine?"

I always reply: "yes, except when it comes to going to bed with men instead of women".

[MartyB]

It is strange to me, because I can never really feel condoms with my ass.

I certainly don't feel the condom...bullshit. What your feeling is his dick.

[rvwnsd]

When I see "Ask Me" or "Anything Goes" in the Safe/BB I assume they will bareback and take them out of consideration....

I would not assume that someone who answers "Ask Me" will bareback. I asked an escort who answered "ask me" to clarify and he said that he did not engage in anal sex at all and did not require a condom for oral. He didn't feel "safe only" was appropriate, so he chose "Ask Me." Another escort said that he used a condom for anal and not for oral and by answering "Ask Me" it forced that discussion.

 

If someone answers "Anything Goes," you don't have to assume. They just told you that they will.