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I have an appointment with one escort soon. However, I got a flu one week ago. Util now I am not fully recovered from the cold.

 

Should I cancel to avoid passing to the escort, though I feel I am nearly recovered. The most important thing is that the escort is visiting my city for only 3 days and I really do not want to miss the chance.

 

Hope to get your advice.

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Strafe13 Mentor

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I was in the same boat last week, when one of my favorite men ever (pro or not) was in town, and I got sick just a few days before. I let him know about 3 days before our appointment, so we changed the session to tentative, allowing him to have the spot open in case another client contacted him. I then let him know the day before that I couldn't do it (I'm still recovering now, nearly a week later). He was completely cool about the whole thing, but I've also been a longtime client.

 

Your guy may deal with it differently, but I'd think most would appreciate you letting them know with as much advance notice as possible, and giving them the choice to continue if you're feeling better while knowing that there's a chance they could get sick if you're still contagious. Keep in mind that this is a known hazard in this line of work, and it's also the middle of winter and the cold/flu season. You never know, if your guy has already had his flu shot then he may willing to go ahead even if you're not 100%. Good luck!

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Eric Hassan Mentor

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If you're ever feeling ill and think you may not be able to keep an appointment, it's wise to inform the guy as soon as possible. As @Strafe13 shared, you could switch to a "tentative" status or reschedule for a better time when you'll be fully recovered. And yes, you are most likely to be contagious towards the beginning of something like a cold or flu (which is part of why they spread so easily - you're often contagious before you're sure you're sick) but still, it's not (at least for me) the sexiest feeling to be sniffing and coughing a bit when you're trying to have a good time with another guy.

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but still, it's not (at least for me) the sexiest feeling to be sniffing and coughing a bit when you're trying to have a good time with another guy.

Agreed, and it's not so good for the person with the cold either, they typically feel unwell and not so hot! And I wouldn't want to impose myself on Eric in such a condition!

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Plenty of fluids, rest, and see if you can push the meeting towards the end of his stay. At ten days out, very, very unlikely to be contagious. It wouldn't hurt to mention it, and is probably the most considerate thing to do, but he shouldn't have a problem with it from a medical standpoint (I've been in school a longggggggg time.... ....)

 

You mention both "flu" and "cold," which are different viruses: influenza virus versus (most commonly) rhinovirus. It probably doesn't make a difference in this overall scenario, but in case anyone was wondering...

 

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In addition to being considerate of the gentleman (definitely tell him you've been sick, and that you will understand if he chooses to opt out), please give some honest thought to how well you think you'll be feeling -- how fully recovered -- by the time of your appointment.

 

Both you and the other fellow may be inclined to proceed, and you may be past the contagious stage, done with coughing and sneezing, but the flu can leave you weak, achy, dehydrated and less able to enjoy yourself than when you have your usual stamina.

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There is no treatment for the common cold - it is caused by a virus. Fluids and rest and symptomatic management (Tylenol for fever / myalgia (muscle aches) - cough suppressants / expectorants)

 

Influenza treatment is widely inadequate and with tamiflu taken early on, reduces sickness on average of 1 day. Symptomatic mgmt, fluids, rest.

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Rudynate Grand Master

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I have an appointment with one escort soon. However, I got a flu one week ago. Util now I am not fully recovered from the cold.

 

Should I cancel to avoid passing to the escort, though I feel I am nearly recovered. The most important thing is that the escort is visiting my city for only 3 days and I really do not want to miss the chance.

 

Hope to get your advice.

 

This happened to me early last year. Weeks in advance, I had set up on appointment with an escort, and I was going to travel to see him. I then came down with one of those bad colds that lasted weeks and weeks. It got to be a week before the appointment and it seemed like I might still be sick, so it seemed like the only fair thing to do was to cancel. Even though he had a week's advance notice, he was somewhat unpleasant about it. I knew that was a possibility, but I was disappointed that he didn't see that I was cancelling at least as much for his benefit as I was for my own.

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beachboy Grand Master

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This can happen in reverse too. Last week I had an appt set up with an escort & he came down with a cold. He very graciously offered to meet but was concerned about passing it on to me. I did not want to pressure him into continuing so suggested 2 alternative dates but was unable to commit to either at the time. Again he very graciously said he would keep both dates open for me even if I couldn't confirm until the last minute. Now that's an attitude deserving of respect & such an attitude on either part is the best way to go. Anyway, I now have a meet to look forward to rather than it being a past memory! BTW he's a forum member, so if you read this fella, much respect & thanks to you!

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I had to cancel a much anticipated afternoon delight with a Forum fuck buddy (not a pro) due to a soar throat. He was, as expected, wonderful about it and I just want to tell him how much I appreciate his understanding. I cancelled for both reasons- I wasn't up for a cock reaming a sore throat, and I didn't want to infect him. We will reschedule soon and my throat will be ready and waiting. Just common sense.

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MscleLovr Grand Master

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I feel that if you have to ask online whether you should cancel, you already know the answer. If it is 'true' influenza - not a heavy cold, not man-flu - it is very debilitating and you can be rather infectious for a long time.

 

Now the guy you had planned to meet may be young and fit with a very strong immune system. He may not get infected by you. But as other posters have suggested, you must inform him and let him decide for himself whether he wants to keep the appointment. After all, if he does get infected, he will have a very unpleasant 1-2 weeks.

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