Size? Skill? Stamina?

[BasketBaller]

Having just had a very satisfying session with an escort, I began to muse on my not-too-numerous experiences since I began to have sex with men, as a bottom. Thinking about how satisfying or not different encounters were, and what made the difference. Assuming that there's a compatible personality, what makes a man a great top, and a memorable one?

 

Before I actually had had sex with a man, size was what intrigued me. Watching porn with guys getting fucked by very hung guys turned me on, and so my first hire-- and first experience-- was a big boy. It may have been a bad idea to start with someone so big but he was patient and sensitive, and I had a great time after some initial panic about THAT being inside me.

 

As I gingerly continued to gain experience, I tried other escorts as well as a few craigslist hookups. Some of the latter were nice guys, even hot, but I was often disappointed in their staying power. It simply was over too quickly for my enjoyment-- I started to sympathize with straight women about that. One extremely good looking guy entered me, pumped three or four times, and was done, and he exclaimed how "great" it had been. His poor wife.

 

I've learned that I have times I'm in the mood for being topped by a more average hung guy, and times I want a whopper. The experience is different in many ways and I enjoy them for different reasons. But the way the guy fucks, his technique, is what makes it enjoyable or not. Some men seem to have no rhythm to their lovemaking, or never vary it. All reasons that have led me to escorts rather than hookups at this stage of my journey. If I begin to follow a gay social life, we'll see what happens in meeting and connecting with other men.

 

So what matters most to you other bottoms? Size, skill, stamina? For me it's turned out to be skill first, with size a matter of mood, and staying power much desired. Thank goodness for reliable reviews which help me find what I want!

 

(And tops, are there similar strengths/weaknesses among bottoms that matter to you?)

[jawjateck]

Answer: None of the above

 

The other S......Sensuality does it for me. If he hasn't worked his way sensually into my mind, he aint gettin in down there either.

[BasketBaller]

Answer: None of the above

 

The other S......Sensuality does it for me. If he hasn't worked his way sensually into my mind, he aint gettin in down there either.

I agree, but that to me is a combination of personality and skill. But it it's considered a separate category of its own, it's damn important.

[jawjateck]

And when I'm feeling toppish, I love another S.....Submission. The bottom's attitude is "I want you now....right now." And of course, the sight of a needy bubble butt aimed in my direction brings out my aggressive side. Grrrrrrrrr.........

[Zman]

I don't bottom through the back door. I like deep throat fucking though. Skill plays a huge part in that. It's hard to find great face fucking. So the top has to be willing and able to do that.

 

That said, I love big dick. The deeper and harder the top can go the better.

[MikeyGMin]

You could lump it under skill, but for me it's attitude. It's hard to define. I think it boils down to a quiet confidence in his topping skills. Even though I don't bottom anymore these days I still love a man with a "toppy" attitude.

[+ Funguy]

Skill (which includes knowing how to prepare the bottom) is always first on my list BUT the "sensuality" issue is very important as well as simply exploring the body and to find the does and don'ts - after all, there are other things going on at the same time as the f---king: kissing, nipples, ears, neck, etc. The skill is in putting it all together in one package. So, in that respect, size does not matter as much for me. Stamina is also not as important - if he finishes before me, fine - he can spend more time paying more attention to me. I have a bad back so I like the more sensuous stroking rather than pounding; when just going slower and more centered on stimulating my sensitive places, my sense is that they last longer and me just long enough.

[+ Axiom2001]

Having just had a very satisfying session with an escort, I began to muse on my not-too-numerous experiences since I began to have sex with men, as a bottom.

 

So what matters most to you other bottoms? Size, skill, stamina? For me it's turned out to be skill first, with size a matter of mood, and staying power much desired. Thank goodness for reliable reviews which help me find what I want!

 

(And tops, are there similar strengths/weaknesses among bottoms that matter to you?)

 

 

 

I've only had two extremely great fucks in my life: the first occurred twice while I was in Buenos Aires; the second one happened about a month or so ago when this handsome otter had me experiencing internal orgasms, panting, calling out his name, reaching nerves that I knew not that I had; he reached my "G" spot! He was an exemplary top. The second time was not as great, but if we are able to see each other again, I'll definitely allow him to fuck me into oblivion because he was so, so, so, so, so good! The first experience with him will be remembered forever.

 

So, in response to your query, the strengths that you listed ("size, skill and stamina" are ones that I seek, too. I do hope that I'll be able to connect with the man/escort who left me wanting to see him often!

[Hornplatz]

Earlier this year I had a man (that word definitely fits him) for the first time and when I realized that he had 8.25" and very thick I wasn't sure if I wanted

to bottom. I offered him a condum but he brought his own as the standard ones are too tight on his cock. That man really knew how to prepare me. He massaged my rosebud which really gets me super hot and got it so relaxed and open the I did not realize he was in until he said "it's all in". He was just as skilled in his fucking ability. He was also a very good kisser and gentle love maker. I hope he returns sometime.

[+ Axiom2001]

Skill (which includes knowing how to prepare the bottom) is always first on my list BUT the "sensuality" issue is very important as well as simply exploring the body and to find the does and don'ts - after all, there are other things going on at the same time as the f---king: kissing, nipples, ears, neck, etc. The skill is in putting it all together in one package. So, in that respect, size does not matter as much for me. Stamina is also not as important - if he finishes before me, fine - he can spend more time paying more attention to me. I have a bad back so I like the more sensuous stroking rather than pounding; when just going slower and more centered on stimulating my sensitive places, my sense is that they last longer and me just long enough.

 

DITTO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I've only had two extremely great fucks in my life: the first occurred twice while I was in Buenos Aires; the second one happened about a month or so ago when this handsome otter had me experiencing internal orgasms, panting, calling out his name, reaching nerves that I knew not that I had; he reached my "G" spot! He was an exemplary top. The second time was not as great, but if we are able to see each other again, I'll definitely allow him to fuck me into oblivion because he was so, so, so, so, so good! The first experience with him will be remembered forever.

 

So, in response to your query, the strengths that you listed ("size, skill and stamina" are ones that I seek, too. I do hope that I'll be able to connect with the man/escort who left me wanting to see him often!

[Nvr2Thick]

Baller, I've very much enjoyed reading about your whos, whats, and hows of enjoyable bottoming. Thank you.

 

For me size is always important. I'm both proud of myself and disappointed in myself for being such a size queen. It seems so superficial, and I've actually tried to be less so by hooking up with less well-endowed men. It seems that so much of the thrill is gone for me, however, when being impressed, overwhelmed, and abused by a big dick is not part of the experience. It's probably an aspect of sexual addiction that I've nurtured for decades, so I can't imagine the type of therapy I'd need to go through in order to "fix" it.

 

I can appreciate what you've said about tops who have no rhythm or who offer no variety, but then I think of counter-examples. I have a tendency to insert multi-paragraph stories into these responses, but for now I'll just say that some of my favorite fucks have been absolutely rhythmless conquests while others have been relentless pounding where a top created tension and excitement by not breaking stride.

 

I've said it a dozen times before, but I'm a pleaser. A top who uses skill to please me directly will end up failing.

 

The one thing I require for a satisfying time is presence. A top who is clearly participating ends up getting me engaged. A man's actions indicate his interest and his responses indicate his satisfaction. If he's moving me around and changing position I enjoy the impression that he's having a good time and he's varying the action and sensation for his own enjoyment. The way he grabs at me, the words and sounds he makes, the expression and eye contact validate for me that he's seeking his own pleasure. It's not so much how he engages; it's that he engages.

[+ glennnn]

Skill! I like variety in depth, speed and direction of stroke. I like an intimate, sensual feel rather than hard pounding. I like to feel he is thinking of how to make me cum with just his cock in me. I like love making rather than just fucking. I want him to show he is enjoying my ass.

[+ Truereview]

I believe sensuality is an innate talent, but for some, it can be a learned skill.

Sensuality is a must for me.

 

If I'm bottoming. I look for a top who knows how to handle my ass. For me, my top should treat my butt as a unique treasure that needs to be admired, explored, and then devoured. In other words, don't treat me as just another fuck hole - unless I ask you to do me that way. Most of the time I should feel like I'm a treat, a cupcake, a decadent dessert. He should partner with me for us to go on an intuitive journey where we are both giving each other pleasure and finding out what makes us tick tock until the cuckoo bird tweets.

 

If I'm topping. Don't you dare tell me what you want. I'm gonna find out what's gonna make you moan and squirt. PERIOD. end of story.

[+ Funguy]

I believe sensuality is an innate talent, but for some, it can be a learned skill.

Sensuality is a must for me.

 

If I'm bottoming. I look for a top who knows how to handle my ass. For me, my top should treat my butt as a unique treasure that needs to be admired, explored, and then devoured. In other words, don't treat me as just another fuck hole - unless I ask you to do me that way. Most of the time I should feel like I'm a treat, a cupcake, a decadent dessert. He should partner with me for us to go on an intuitive journey where we are both giving each other pleasure and finding out what makes us tick tock until the cuckoo bird tweets.

 

If I'm topping. Don't you dare tell me what you want. I'm gonna find out what's gonna make you moan and squirt. PERIOD. end of story.

 

+ 1,000

[Rudynate]

There is no better top than Eric Hassan - he has it all: size, skill, stamina, sensuality, confidence.

[+ purplekow]

The thing i like best in a top, my cock. I love fucking a man who is usually a top and who gets into bottoming for me. I do not have the stamina which i once did nor do I possess remarkable size, but if a man is usually a top but is giving me the pleasure of fucking him, he will definitely get my attention

[BasketBaller]

Besides the other S words already mentioned, might I also add how cool it is when there's a Sense of Humor? Smoldering passion is often hot, but so can playfulness and fun be. There's something special about sharing a smile and laughing during sex.

[+ purplekow]

Besides the other S words already mentioned, might I also add how cool it is when there's a Sense of Humor? Smoldering passion is often hot, but so can playfulness and fun be. There's something special about sharing a smile and laughing during sex.

Yeah my partners usually start laughing as my clothes come off.

[BasketBaller]

Yeah my partners usually start laughing as my clothes come off.

I have not ever posted much about my late wife beyond saying our marriage was a good one, and so was our sex life. But one of my best memories of us is from about six months after the twins were born. We were 23, and had three kids, and were generally bleary-eyed and exhausted. But we were also young and horny enough to make time for sex even if we were run ragged. So one night, after car shopping with three little ones that day, we were having leisurely, slow intercourse. Kind of sensuous but also low-energy, with her on top, eyes closed. After a bit she stopped and so did I, she opened her eyes and said, "You know, I think I liked the blue Toyota better after all." I burst out laughing, and after a second she did too, saying "I'm sorry" over and over. We laughed so much I think we gave up on the sex for that night!

[+ pitman]

Baller, I've very much enjoyed reading about your whos, whats, and hows of enjoyable bottoming. Thank you.

 

For me size is always important. I'm both proud of myself and disappointed in myself for being such a size queen. It seems so superficial, and I've actually tried to be less so by hooking up with less well-endowed men. It seems that so much of the thrill is gone for me, however, when being impressed, overwhelmed, and abused by a big dick is not part of the experience. It's probably an aspect of sexual addiction that I've nurtured for decades, so I can't imagine the type of therapy I'd need to go through in order to "fix" it.

 

I can appreciate what you've said about tops who have no rhythm or who offer no variety, but then I think of counter-examples. I have a tendency to insert multi-paragraph stories into these responses, but for now I'll just say that some of my favorite fucks have been absolutely rhythmless conquests while others have been relentless pounding where a top created tension and excitement by not breaking stride.

 

I've said it a dozen times before, but I'm a pleaser. A top who uses skill to please me directly will end up failing.

 

The one thing I require for a satisfying time is presence. A top who is clearly participating ends up getting me engaged. A man's actions indicate his interest and his responses indicate his satisfaction. If he's moving me around and changing position I enjoy the impression that he's having a good time and he's varying the action and sensation for his own enjoyment. The way he grabs at me, the words and sounds he makes, the expression and eye contact validate for me that he's seeking his own pleasure. It's not so much how he engages; it's that he engages.

 

You like what you like......no need to fix it.

[seaboy4hire]

As someone who bottoms more than tops if attitude and compatability are there it's all about SKILL. I've had a few guys who were average but dear lord sweet baby jeebus! They had my eyes rollin to the back of my head, me gripping the sheets, me speaking in tongue and toes curled for days! I wont even go into how it was difficult to sit or walk for a couple days lol. Fuck! That reminds me I am just about a born again virgin! It's been since mid June since I've had any kinda sexy time! Who's gonna be the lucky chap to pop this cherry? As soon as I get my picc line removed I'll be back on the market.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[TruHart1]

For me it is always about the BFE, whether I am bottoming or being the top, or, as with quite a few excellent escorts, it is only oral. Some tops who have me seeing fireworks just know exactly how to scratch that itch! Some are very endowed, but a number are much closer to average. One escort told me he doesn't make appointments, he always makes "dates" and believe me, I always look forward to a date with him! :) One guy I can name (since he's retired) as an exciting top for me was Alec Andrews.

 

He was always very careful to prepare me, so by the time he entered, I was desperate to feel him fill me up completely! Yet another escort who furnishes a tremendous BFE excels at rimming me thoroughly before he enters, so I'm always wide open for him. All those S's mentioned upthread make up a part of the BFE I am constantly in search of. That's the reason I have favorite tops I hire repeatedly. I could say a lot of the same about guys who are excellent at bottoming for me, but that's another discussion!

 

TruHart1

[Hornplatz]

For me it is always about the BFE, whether I am bottoming or being the top, or, as with quite a few excellent escorts, it is only oral. Some tops who have me seeing fireworks just know exactly how to scratch that itch! Some are very endowed, but a number are much closer to average. One escort told me he doesn't make appointments, he always makes "dates" and believe me, I always look forward to a date with him! :) One guy I can name (since he's retired) as an exciting top for me was Alec Andrews.

 

He was always very careful to prepare me, so by the time he entered, I was desperate to feel him fill me up completely! Yet another escort who furnishes a tremendous BFE excels at rimming me thoroughly before he enters, so I'm always wide open for him. All those S's mentioned upthread make up a part of the BFE I am constantly in search of. That's the reason I have favorite tops I hire repeatedly. I could say a lot of the same about guys who are excellent at bottoming for me, but that's another discussion!

 

TruHart1

 

It's a rare occurrence when you find a very skilled top who understands how to prepare his playmate bottom to be penetrated. Earlier this year, I met a very nice man who wanted to top but when I discovered he had a bit over 8" and was very thick I wasn't sure if I wanted to continue. Fortunately we continued in some hot love making and his tongue found its way to my butt where he slowly and successfully opened me up and he comfortably entered me for a wonderful gentle fuck.

[+ poolboy48220]

There was an article floating around a few years ago by a pro masseur, a big bear guy, about how to prepare your bottom for being fucked. I'm having no luck remembering his name or finding the article. Does this ring any bells for anyone?

[Hornplatz]

There was an article floating around a few years ago by a pro masseur, a big bear guy, about how to prepare your bottom for being fucked. I'm having no luck remembering his name or finding the article. Does this ring any bells for anyone?

 

NO but I would find it very interesting.

A good fuck is more than a "bend-over, spread 'em, slide in and pump off a load.