52 but still naive and need advice for having escort travel to me, please

[PeterF]

Hello gentlemen, I am new to pretty much all of this. I hope my request doesn't annoy you. If it does, please accept my apologies and move on. If on the other hand, you have any advice to offer I will be very grateful.

 

To fulfill a long-building fantasy, I very much want to have a handsome, masculine, kind male escort spend a few days and nights with me at my home in Denver. I cannot find a suitable escort locally, so I am searching elsewhere.

 

The website I am primarily using is Rent.men, and I have also looked at Apollon21, GP$cort, M4RN, and Rent Masseur. To me, most but not all of the men on Backpage look a little shady. Any recommendations for other sources? I have looked at some other sites, but the ads look old and sometimes questionable.

 

What I really wish is that I could 'advertise' my wishes to a legitimate escort community, so that those men could decide if they are interested in exploring the opportunity. But I know of no such vehicle. Do any of you know where I could do this?

 

Okay, moving on. Say that I find my man. How do I work the logistics? How do I go about buying his plane ticket and providing it to him? Will he ask for a 'deposit'? Of course, I am afraid that he will take the money and disappear. What if I pick him up at the airport and he is not at all as pictured/described? I assume that I would ask him to turn around, go back into the airport, and use his return ticket a few days earlier than planned. What if we get to my home and he is a jerk, or he decides that he doesn't want to perform as we very clearly agreed?

 

For personal reasons, this experience is very important to me, and I want it to be awesome. I am a super kind and respectful man, so there is no reason why the escort should be unkind or disrespectful to me.

 

Any and all advice will be greatly appreciated. Escort recommendations wouldn't hurt either.

 

Again, I apologize if this thread bothers anyone!

[down_to_business]

You are swimming in very dangerous waters my friend. Hiring for an extended engagement without ever having met someone before is a very risky endeavor. Even encounters with some of the most highly praised escorts with others can just be a luke-warm encounter with you when you factor intangibles. I always recommend meeting an escort for an hour before agreeing to hire them for an overnight, let alone a weekend or longer appointment.

 

If you insist on exploring this windy road, however, here are my suggestions:

 

Look for an escort that meets your requirements that might be traveling to your area already on their own. If no such luck then..

Look for an escort that meets your requirements in a major market that has a short and inexpensive established regular airline route with your home base ( For example Los Angeles , often under $100 round trip). In this case, research them extensively on Daddy's Review's and the message forum. Make sure they have reviews from people for overnights. The good reviews should assure you, even if the sex part doesn't wind up working out, that he is a kind and respectful companion at the minimum. Hopefully, you will get both things.

 

Logistics are to be worked out between you and the escort you hire. The protocol I use is as follows. I only book non-refundable, non-changeable air for the escort. This requires a show of faith by both parties as the escort must trust you with his identity for you to book the flights and you by purchasing the flights in advance are providing the escort security that the appointment is real. As the fares is purposely booked non-refundable in my case, he cannot take the ticket and cash it in and bail on you as it has no value to do so. he can, however, not show up, and you are out the airfare.. of course, he would be out the much more lucrative appointment fee. I do not negotiate on this system, personally, as I have been cheated and stolen from once too many times from escorts with prepaid travel and deposits... so the pre bought flight is all I am willing to personally risk any more.. I have been burned a few times on this as well, but most of the time it works out fine, and if they truly want to steal what becomes in effect a worthless airline ticket for themselves, then I am probably better off that they didn't show up! It really does work out most of the time.

 

As to meeting your expectations, the better and clearer that you are able to express yourself and communicate with your escort, the more chance you will have for a successful encounter. I really can't stress how much I recommend that you meet someone for an hour, however, before you decide to make a long overnight+ hire. You may find that you have nothing in common and are stuck for a long time in an awkward situation.

 

By no means is this the right way or the only way to do it. It's just my way.

 

Good luck!

[+ DickyF]

I too highly recommend you go to them basically to find some one you are compatible with. LA seems like a logical choice. Review the reviews and ads and hire a few hourly to see if they are your type. Be sure to ask if they would consider traveling to Denver.

There is still a risk but it is too risky to arrange such a trip with someone you don't know.

Good luck!

[+ Truereview]

Welcome to the Forum @PeterF

You got great advice by DtB & Dicky already. Could not agree more that an overnight should only occur after you have spent time with the guy to ensure full compatibility. I really like DtBs idea of finding an escort who has a direct flight with low airfare. That mitigates upfront expense. Communicating thoroughly upfront is also key.

 

Tell us your type, maybe one of us will have a good recommendation for you. We could private message (PM) you with leads.

 

I never host at my home, but here are a couple of other thoughts that occur to me:

• See if the escort of your choosing would be willing to FaceTime or Skype you so that you can get a better feel for each other - even if visual connection is not possible, definitely talk by phone a few times to get a feel.
  
• Keep in mind power dynamics - if you don't feel chemistry for the escort, remember this is not like returning an object you bought @ the store. You should consider (with him) what is a fair restitution for his lost biz.
  
• Make sure you plan a date that provides you with things you both can enjoy. Also, make sure you build in breaks so that your time with each other is quality time.
  
• Hosting an escort at your home is like hosting any other treasured guest, make sure you and your home are fully prepared. The more comfy he feels in your home, the more likely things will go smoothly and possibly guarantee returns.
  

Good luck! Keep us posted!

[Despardo]

Never be afraid to ask any respectful question on this forum. As you have noticed, you get great advice from people more than willing to share.

 

Planning several days with an escort you do not know is a HUGE risk. You could wind up stuck hosting and entertaining a guy with whom you have zero chemistry, in which case both of you will be miserable. That scenario is perhaps the least horrible of several possible negative scenarios. Your best bet would be to find someone suitable in Denver, but you mention that there is nobody local whom you like.

 

I favor the above suggestion that you go to them. Let me expand on that idea. Why don't you treat yourself to a short vacation--if you live in Denver, perhaps to someplace warmer. Pick a resort city that has a big selection of escorts--LA, Palm Springs, Las Vegas, San Francisco on the West Coast or Miami/Fort Lauderdale in the East. Find a guy who floats your boat on Rent.men (I don't have much faith in any of the other sites.) and establish a running conversation. THOROUGHLY VET THIS PERSON!--great reviews on Daddy, personal recommendations from Forum members, etc. Go with a known commodity, preferably someone who specializes in companionship--offers services as a tour guide, dinner companion, travel companion, etc.

 

Then, you book a nice room/suite at a resort style hotel. That way, if the guy you have hired for several days is a bust or a no show, you can cut you losses, potentially find someone else and still have a good time. Or, hire someone open to overnights and weekends for a nice dinner plus a couple hours. If you hit it off, then offer to pay for his companionship over the next few days. If your offer is sufficiently lucrative, he might be willing to rearrange his schedule to accommodate you. You can tactfully explore his availability in advance, but keep things tentative and open ended so you can back out gracefully.

 

Again, find a guy who specializes in boyfriend, travel, dinner, theater, sightseeing, and longer term companionship--i.e. an "escort" in the classic sense of the word. Talk to him on the phone or Skype, find out his interests, determine if you have any kind of rapport. Even then, I would not make a firm long term commitment without meeting him first in person to determine personal and sexual compatibility. One never knows.

 

Quite recently, I hired a famous and wildly well-reviewed escort for one hour of fun and games. Physically, the guy was 100% as advertised, professional and respectful, and he quite competently provided the services requested. We had ZERO CHEMISTRY. He either couldn't or didn't want to carry on a conversation and was totally distant throughout our encounter. He seemed to be in a parallel universe just going through the motions (and they were good motions,) but there was no real connection between us. I have spent time with much less spectacular looking guys who were great fun to hang out with and infinitely more entertaining. My point is that I would never consider hosting someone in my home for several days unless I knew that person WELL.

 

So, I think you may be putting the cart before the horse. You need physically to spend time with a guy BEFORE you decide that you know, like and trust him enough to fly him in as your house guest for a week!

[Kevin Slater]

How about you travel to one of the major markets (LA, NYC, SF...) yourself, sample a few of the wares on an hourly basis, see who you really connect with, and use that to inform your decision?

 

Kevin Slater

[liubit]

First of all, @PeterF, never be shy to ask questions here, no matter how stupid or trivial they seem to you. We are here to help you. You have received excellent advice on your query by more experienced men, @down_to_business, @DickyF, @Truereview, @Despardo or the great @Kevin Slater. The common thread, which I wholeheartedly share, is: hire the guy of your dreams for a shorter appointment before you plunge into the trickier waters of a multiple-day engagement. Those are words of wisdom that match my personal hiring experience, which spans for more than twenty years now.

[PeterF]

You men are AMAZING. Thank you all so much. You have almost certainly saved me from any number of disasters. Fortunately I have made no commitments and only a few exploratory advances. Thanks to this excellent advice I will step back and take a different - safer - approach. I cannot thank you all enough.

 

I do think that the suggestion of traveling to a 'major escort market' is a great one, and I will likely pursue it.

 

Nonetheless, I will ask, does anyone know of any masculine, handsome, 18-36, clean-cut, well-groomed escorts in the Denver area that perhaps don't consistently advertise. Of all of the Denver escorts currently advertising, the gentleman I find most appealing is Muscle Mark. This is not so much because of his muscles, but because of his masculinity and his clean-cut look.

 

Lastly, if anyone has escort suggestions for Chicago, Philadelphia, Phoenix, Portland-Seattle, Florida, or Texas (or any area other than New York, Los Angeles, and San Francisco), I'd be even more grateful. (The latter three cities are overwhelming for me; I cannot imagine working with an escort in such places.)

 

Thanks again, I wish I could express my gratitude personally (no, I don't mean that). Best, Peter

[+ purplekow]

Be very wary of setting up a prolonged encounter without meeting the person first. If you have ever been on a trip with a friend, you know that after a few days you just want some alone time. Well now imagine that is a stranger with whom you wanted to have sex and now are hating your time with them There are at least two get togethers happening on this forum. Once in Washington in January and one in Palm Springs in April. These will give you a chance to meet escorts socially and then make arrangements to hire them should you so desire. You might also meet other forum embers who might have some insight for you. On both of those occasions, there are other events going on which could be interesting for you. MAL in DC and there is a gay party in Palm Springs the weekend of the meeting.

If you have someone in mind, ask about him here. If you just want some suggestions, tell us what you like and how you like it and I am sure we will have some ideas.

Welcome aboard.

[+ goosh69]

Right. Even if they live in Denver - meet them before committing to a long term meeting! And speaking purely based on looks and superficial things - a trip to LA will yield you a much better choice versus a trip to SF, bas d on what you want.

[Scorpio]

Nonetheless, I will ask, does anyone know of any masculine, handsome, 18-36, clean-cut, well-groomed escorts in the Denver area that perhaps don't consistently advertise. Of all of the Denver escorts currently advertising, the gentleman I find most appealing is Muscle Mark. This is not so much because of his muscles, but because of his masculinity and his clean-cut look.

 

 

I can recommend Wynn. He is all the things you say that you seek. You are unlikely to meet a kinder man. (If the scruff isn't to your liking, I'm sure he'd come closely shaven; and he looks good in a suit--I've seen pictures.)

 

https://rent.men/Wynn

 

And contrary to the advice above, I contacted him the first week that he started advertising earlier in the year. Invited him immediately to Florida for a long weekend without having met him previously and without a history of reviews. It was one of the best decisions I've made (escort wise) in recent years. He will be here again in January.

[MikeyGMin]

Dear lord. Scored! He's gorgeous!

[+ goosh69]

I can recommend Wynn. He is all the things you say that you seek. You are unlikely to meet a kinder man. (If the scruff isn't to your liking, I'm sure he'd come closely shaven; and he looks good in a suit--I've seen pictures.)

 

https://rent.men/Wynn

 

And contrary to the advice above, I contacted him the first week that he started advertising earlier in the year. Invited him immediately to Florida for a long weekend without having met him previously and without a history of reviews. It was one of the best decisions I've made (escort wise) in recent years. He will be here again in January.

 

I have had MANY bad experiences- even with well reviewed guys. Guys highly recommended by one person May for whatever reason NOT be worth along weekend to another.

 

You are playing Russian Roullette . Why? If the guy lives in Denver, meet him for an hour or two in a hotel room first. Why tell the guy to commit to like $1500 up front? Sounds weird.

[pubic_assistance]

I concur with many of the above statements. Check the sites for recommended escorts who appeal to you. Inquire as to their ability to travel...but very important that YOU do the traveling on the first meet ! What I did not see mentioned previously is a very important point: Transporting someone across state lines for the purpose of prostitution is a violation of the MANN ACT and therefore a FEDERAL OFFENSE. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mann_Act Any travel arrangements should be made AFTER you have established a relationship with this person and the travel can be discreetly arranged as a get together between two consenting adults.

[Jock123]

Once upon a time there was a Boy from a small town, Who was Innocent and Naive

 

.....until He became an Escort.

 

 

 

http://i42.tinypic.com/fx497a.jpg

[+ José Soplanucas]

Once upon a time there was a Boy from a small town, Who was Innocent and Naive

 

.....until He became an Escort.

 

And now he is a secretive mother hugger who does not post a link to his ad.

[Jock123]

And now he is a secretive mother hugger who does not post a link to his ad.

 

 

Damn right. Happy Holidays!

 

 

[TopTierTop]

How about you travel to one of the major markets (LA, NYC, SF...) yourself, sample a few of the wares on an hourly basis, see who you really connect with, and use that to inform your decision?

 

Kevin Slater

or DC...

[+ Axiom2001]

I too highly recommend you go to them basically to find some one you are compatible with. LA seems like a logical choice. Review the reviews and ads and hire a few hourly to see if they are your type. Be sure to ask if they would consider traveling to Denver.

There is still a risk but it is too risky to arrange such a trip with someone you don't know.

Good luck!

 

In addition to what DickyF posted, I'd suggest that you cite what you're looking for in the man, and perhaps we who have hired over the years for an hour or more could give you a few choices to seek out.

 

One very, very well reviewed and highly respected man/escort on this site has gone on extended international trips with clients. Apparently, all has gone well, for I receive some things about these experiences via my Facebook page on which he posts rather frequently but quite discreetly.

 

He is one hell of a sincere, genuine man, one who I think would be willing to come to Denver to satisfy your desires and wishes as well as enjoy this city and its surrounding area with you!

[PeterF]

Once again, thank you men, for all of your excellent words of wisdom. There is no doubt that you all have saved me from a great deal of suffering.

 

To Axiom2001's point, here is what I am looking for in a man: genuinely masculine, fit, handsome, clean-cut with sort hair, kind, kind, kind, gentle, strong, honest, communicative, patient, singularly focused on me when with me, super-clean, disease-free, sane, smart, an amazing kisser and holder, a decent sense of humor, no hot stud attitude. Does such a man even exist?

 

I have a specific fantasy in mind. I am not rich, but this fantasy is important to me and I definitely can and very much want to make it happen. Looks like it is going to happen in some city other than Denver, which is fine, and as you have pretty much all pointed out, much safer.

 

Much gratitude, have a great week, Peter

[down_to_business]

I'd potentially go Griffin Donovan with that wish list. Whoever you choose, I hope you have a wonderful time!

 

https://rent.men/GriffinDonavon

 

Another option, Alain Deberry if versatility is not of utmost importance and location is.

 

https://rent.men/alaindeberry

 

The most important thing you do is pick someone who floats your boat.. not just someone who we might recommend. After all we are recommending someone only trying to guess what you might like.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Once again, thank you men, for all of your excellent words of wisdom. There is no doubt that you all have saved me from a great deal of suffering.

 

To Axiom2001's point, here is what I am looking for in a man: genuinely masculine, fit, handsome, clean-cut with sort hair, kind, kind, kind, gentle, strong, honest, communicative, patient, singularly focused on me when with me, super-clean, disease-free, sane, smart, an amazing kisser and holder, a decent sense of humor, no hot stud attitude. Does such a man even exist?

 

That is a nice list, and hard to fulfill even when recommendations. Now that you are more specific I double and triple on the above advice suggesting you to start with 1 or 2 hours meetings.

After a couple of years of more intense participation in here, I now have friends in the forums who hire the same guys. I came to learn that the same escort performs differently with different clients. I mean, a well recommended escort will probably give you excellent service, but perhaps not always checking all the items in your list. Or checking all the items, but performing not always with the same passion and engagement. It is natural and human, sometimes chemistry just does not work.

Start your research and experimentation with short hires as our friends suggest above. Take it as part of your fantasy, you are interviewing. I would be extremely thrilled during the whole process. Be patient, do not pick a guy until you have the clear and unequivocal feeling that you found the right one.

If you were rich, I would suggest hiring me for your casting process.:rolleyes::rolleyes:

[liubit]

I'd potentially go Griffin Donovan with that wish list. Whoever you choose, I hope you have a wonderful time!

Griffin is a total hottie I would love to kiss those luscious lips!

[+ quoththeraven]

I concur with many of the above statements. Check the sites for recommended escorts who appeal to you. Inquire as to their ability to travel...but very important that YOU do the traveling on the first meet ! What I did not see mentioned previously is a very important point: Transporting someone across state lines for the purpose of prostitution is a violation of the MANN ACT and therefore a FEDERAL OFFENSE. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mann_Act Any travel arrangements should be made AFTER you have established a relationship with this person and the travel can be discreetly arranged as a get together between two consenting adults.

 

Since the basis of the Rentboy case was the federal Travel Act, and since using the internet, phone or email to locate and contact someone is a use of interstate commerce (thus potentially federal jurisdiction) whether you're crossing state lines or not, worrying about the Mann Act seems a trifle pointless to me.

[pubic_assistance]

Since the basis of the Rentboy case was the federal Travel Act, and since using the internet, phone or email to locate and contact someone is a use of interstate commerce (thus potentially federal jurisdiction) whether you're crossing state lines or not, worrying about the Mann Act seems a trifle pointless to me.

OK. Travel Act or Mann Act. They both exist as laws that can be used against you. They took down Governor Spitzer with the Mann Act...not because they were upset he was hiring escorts from other states...but because someone wanted something to "GET him" on. Whatever the law...it's best to keep oneself above reproach, when riding the fine edges of a law. I would never put myself in the position where it was possible to arrest me for the appearance of having committed a Federal Crime.