Hints for a successful Threesome?

[+ glennnn]

I can't sit and mourn the election results. Although I know a "return to normal" is premature, I need distraction badly, and I'm so done with the news, so....... (With apologies)

 

I will soon be reaching another of my lust bucket goals when I get to join a threesome. Each of us has fucked the other more than once, and so we think we are compatible as a trio. I know that, as always, communication is key, but it seems wrong to plan it too much. What do you think? Have you been in a trio? How did it go? Any suggestions to make it great for all three? We are two clients and one escort, who are meeting for lunch before to talk over any ground rules. I plan to say I would like to be spit roasted and swallow some cum during the session- always my number one goal. I plan to ask each of them about their biggest needs, too

 

Of course, I hope some sucking, rimming and lots of kissing will happen, too. My major concern is I really like these two men and want to remain friends when we finish. I want to completely satisfy them. I live to serve. What do you think?

[Jbdesc]

Communication, and making sure everyone is satisfied must be the end goal if it is to work. I've only been in a couple threesomes before and one of them ruined a relationship for quite some time.

 

After high-school my designated 'fag hag' who claimed she wanted to be the mother of my children, really wanted to get me in bed - she knew I would never. So she decided to get me drunk and offer herself and he bf at the time. So we did, for hours - it was great. Then we all decided to get some sleep and laid in bed. Well a couple hours later her bf woke me up and wanted to go again, but he didn't want to wake her up. . So we did, needless for say she ended up waking up during. Hurt our relationship and took a while to recover.

 

That is my third point - honesty. Be honest with each other. If you're to remain friends after don't hide anything - aside from maybe hiding a dick in an ass.

 

Have fun!

[+ glennnn]

@Jbdesc

 

A perfect response with good advice, a caring tone, a positive attitude, and a pat on the ass. Thank you, buddy. You are awesome.

 

Gods! I need some fun. We all do! Be loving with yourselves. We've had a major shock. Hire someone to fuck or at least jack one out in the shower.

[Jbdesc]

@glennnn I already have my weekend planned. A nice trip to NYC, Hell's Kitchen area with a very sexy and sweet Australian man. That should hopefully take my mind off things - for a while at least.

[instudiocity]

After high-school my designated 'fag hag' who claimed she wanted to be the mother of my children, really wanted to get me in bed - she knew I would never. So she decided to get me drunk and offer herself and he bf at the time. So we did, for hours - it was great. Then we all decided to get some sleep and laid in bed. Well a couple hours later her bf woke me up and wanted to go again, but he didn't want to wake her up. . So we did, needless for say she ended up waking up during. Hurt our relationship and took a while to recover.

Um, she wanted your babies and not her stud boyfriend? Note he had to be a stud to keep it up in bed with you, right?

 

Oh, yeah, stud boyfriend wanted to bake maybes with you more than protest your baby makers in her. Got it! (Sarcasm)

[Jbdesc]

Um, she wanted your babies and not her stud boyfriend? Note he had to be a stud to keep it up in bed with you, right?

 

Oh, yeah, stud boyfriend wanted to bake maybes with you more than protest your baby makers in her. Got it! (Sarcasm)

 

He was openly bi but only wanted to date women. Mind you I had known her for maybe 8 years prior to this, they met months before. As for the actual events at no point in time did I 'try to put my babies in her'. It was a fun experience and life lesson.

[MscleLovr]

I've had many, very successful threesomes. They fall into two groups: a good friend and I have played with 1 escort or a non-working guy; and I have played with 2 escorts.

 

I've always been very open and direct about what I expect to happen in each threesome (my friend is rather shy and enjoys me being dominant and taking the lead). I like to host and I set a relaxed tone by first opening a bottle of wine and having us all talk to get acquainted and discuss what we are going to do.

 

When the threesome has comprised 2 escorts, I discuss beforehand what I enjoy, what I expect to do and what I like to have done to me. On the evening, again I like to set a relaxed tone with wine and chat first. I do this for no more than 15 minutes before leaning in to kiss whichever escort seems more keen to start. I find that setting an example and being confident always help.

 

You are of course right to say that communication is key. I would add, however, that it is essential to have a very large bed with good sheets and pillows. And it helps to have on hand bottles of cold water in the bedroom along with plenty of condoms, lube and towels.

[+ Funguy]

[quote="MscleLovr, post: 1183915,

 

You are of course right to say that communication is key. I would add, however, that it is essential to have a very large bed with good sheets and pillows. And it helps to have on hand bottles of cold water in the bedroom along with plenty of condoms, lube and towels.

 

Yes....communication! and many pillows!

[Hungmixedboi88]

Just like everyone else I would agree just be as open as possible it's the best. Threesomes are a favorite thing of mine and I cannot stress enough how much easier and fun and free it is when everyone is open and honest about everything. YES water that's actually been the death of one threesome before haha. It already sounds like you've gotten the right idea about how to approach this so most importantly just let loose and have fun

[+ Axiom2001]

My few 3somes have all gone exceedingly well. When I lived in Melbourne, Australia for two years-- I would occasionally visit a couple, both hot and studly who would highly and sufficiently

satisfy my need. Another memorable experience happened in Buenos Aires where one of the two men had given me my very, very finest fuck in my life. When we three managed to get together

after going out to dinner, that time will also be indelibly printed in my memory.

 

During my play time in 3somes-- the three of us just went with the flow without any planning, and fortunately for us, we naturally enjoyed the time and each other's company!

[+ Funguy]

I've been in 5 trios. the first 2 were with partnered escorts who were individually outstanding . i was their entire focus! sounds great BUT not what i wanted. i am also a bit of a voyeur and i wanted to see them sucking and fucking themselves along with me. didn't happen with either, tho discussed.

Net time with 2 escorts discussed at length before meet - much better!

Number 4 and 5, again discussed BEFORE meet and worked well.

I think some of it can be simply choreographed in real time, esp. if opportunities present for optimum positioning. and yes, lots of noise...ahs, moans, etc. i want up close and personal involvement, even if it is laying on of hands, tongues, etc.

[jawjateck]

You already "know" them. Great! Don't over think or over plan it. Call 'em up. Set the date. And soak the bed with sweat....and well you know....other stuff too!

[+ glennnn]

I've been in 5 trios. the first 2 were with partnered escorts who were individually outstanding . i was their entire focus! sounds great BUT not what i wanted. i am also a bit of a voyeur and i wanted to see them sucking and fucking themselves along with me. didn't happen with either, tho discussed.

Net time with 2 escorts discussed at length before meet - much better!

Number 4 and 5, again discussed BEFORE meet and worked well.

I think some of it can be simply choreographed in real time, esp. if opportunities present for optimum positioning. and yes, lots of noise...ahs, moans, etc. i want up close and personal involvement, even if it is laying on of hands, tongues, etc.

 

God's! I love hearing from an expert! I just know my trio is going to be great with time for both watching and participating, just as you suggest!

[jawjateck]

i want up close and personal involvement, even if it is laying on of hands, tongues, etc.

 

Well that's news to me! So this is what the pentecostal church is all about. Damn, it's time to go get some religion.

[+ WmClarke]

During my play time in 3somes-- the three of us just went with the flow without any planning, and fortunately for us, we naturally enjoyed the time and each other's company!

This ^^^

 

If there is one thing you absolutely want to happen, discuss it beforehand. But, generally just go with the flow, respect everyone's limits, and ENJOY!

 

My three-ways (and one four-way) all used this approach and were great fun.

[whipped guy]

Go with the flow... Though one guy might be left out in the cold. Like the time the escort and I tied the third party to a bench... But heck that's what turned the guy on and what he really wanted! We eventually released him from his bondage... Eventually...

[+ Tom Isern]

I've been in so many group sessions with various numbers of guys (once planned and hosted a gangbang for 12 tops and one lucky bottom—6 hours of gangbang) I couldn't even begin to remember, including 3sums with my ex boyfriend—countless threesomes. I have only two pieces of advice that I believe haven't been mentioned: 1. if you're paying for sex, always make your expectations clear. don't assume ANYTHING. 2. the biggest source of friction in groups is frequently finding or perceiving that two of the individuals are more into each other than they are interested in "you." or some variety of that jealousy/anxiety.

 

my advice runs counter to how many people feel about these things, but I believe, quite strongly, that expecting everyone to be equally into everyone else is a prescription for disaster and a recipe for hurt feelings. it's better, in my opinion, to allow people to be themselves and expect there to be variations in intensities and desires. my ex was, for instance, a dancer with one of the most amazing asses in NYC. I had to get very comfortable with other tops being all over that. just as he had to get comfortable with the fact that bottoms were frequently drawn to me. and sometimes there were variations on those themes. variety is the spice of life, so they say...

[Mikegaite]

Threeway? Thanks, but no thanks. If I wanted to disappoint two people in the same room at the same time, I'd have dinner with my parents.

[pubic_assistance]

Threesomes always work best when everyone is leaning to the side of VERSATILE. All holes available at all times and roles completely flexible and flipped throughout the play time. Always make sure everyone is included in some way...not just laying there watching two of you have "a moment".

[Rudynate]

I've never been in a paid three-way - I don't think I have any interest. I have been in 3-ways with FBs that were nothing short of cosmic. I've also done some really disappointing ones too. I'm mostly a one-on-one guy.

[+ glennnn]

Lots of vivid and spicy advice to my original question. I've been checking out "three way gay sex" on Tumblr, also. I'm predicting a lot of good sex and some laughter, too, as we try to "assume the positions" required. Only one of us is under 60! Sometimes it's hard to tell who is doing what to whom! My only expectation is to have both ends being fucked simultaneously at some point. Another important life goal reached!!

[+ quoththeraven]

Just make sure you're the center of attention. Then it will be fine.

[+ Truereview]

A threesome is best served cold.

 

No preparation, no angst, just pure & unadulterated spontaneity.

 

Oh, and @quoththeraven is right, if every party makes it about "himself,"

 

everyone will walk away satisfied.