Buff & beautiful "High End Escorts" in New York City: Non-existent?

[+ newguy]

The only two alternatives are to continue to have a very lonely life or to increase your bandwidth. Be careful about romanticizing or fetishing your predicament. You might turn out like John Marcher in "The Beast in the Jungle."

I know this suggestion was sent with kindness in mind. However, to the receiver, it is just more predicaments.

How exactly does one "be careful" when it comes to romanticizing or fetishing? I'm not crossing a busy street!

How does one "increase" one's bandwidth when it comes to being naturally attracted to one type or another? Is it like turning a radio dial? I'm sorry, these prescriptions for happiness don't work. If I have a lonely life--then such is life for me. Believe me, I'd love to be attracted to ALL the non-buff, pudgy escorts that everyone else seems to enjoy. It's just not a turn-on for me. I certainly try to help others in my life as best as I can, but learned to hold back when it comes to giving prescriptive advice to others. And NO, I am not trying to continue an endless thread, I'm speaking my mind, as others are allowed to do.

[+ sniper]

The point, newguy, is "natural" attraction, like taste in food, is largely anything but. It's conditioning. You grew up looking at certain ads, certain models, and they imprinted on you. You may have to do some work to broaden your tastes, and you may find it harder or easier than some other person, but to some extent it can be done. Or can just happen. But if you spend all your time focusing on an extremely narrow subset of people, that's less likely. Suppose you met your Mr. Right tomorrow and got married. He's not going to look like that forever. Are you going to dump him the second his hairline recedes or he gets a wrinkle and trade him in for a new model? Odss are you aren't.

Nobody's saying you have to take all comers here. Just that you would probably do well to try to take a look at a few more of the other 99% of the pool out there.

[Rudynate]

I know this suggestion was sent with kindness in mind. However, to the receiver, it is just more predicaments.

How exactly does one "be careful" when it comes to romanticizing or fetishing? I'm not crossing a busy street!

How does one "increase" one's bandwidth when it comes to being naturally attracted to one type or another? Is it like turning a radio dial? I'm sorry, these prescriptions for happiness don't work. If I have a lonely life--then such is life for me. Believe me, I'd love to be attracted to ALL the non-buff, pudgy escorts that everyone else seems to enjoy. It's just not a turn-on for me. I certainly try to help others in my life as best as I can, but learned to hold back when it comes to giving prescriptive advice to others. And NO, I am not trying to continue an endless thread, I'm speaking my mind, as others are allowed to do.

 

Maybe at some time in the future, it will make more sense than it does now.

[caliguy]

If I have a lonely life--then such is life for me.

Me too. These fools and their common tastes can never know the anguish and loneliness we endure in the pursuit of perfection. Wait. Let me go get my miniature violin. Poor, poor us. Lol

[Rudynate]

Me too. These fools and their common tastes can never know the anguish and loneliness we endure in the pursuit of perfection. Wait. Let me go get my miniature violin. Poor, poor us. Lol

 

You've perfected the are of romanticising your predicament.

[jimboivyo]

this whole thread deserves an award

[+ newguy]

this whole thread deserves an award

Award for the worst thread ever?

[jimboivyo]

Award for the worst thread ever?

 

ding. we have a winner

[rvwnsd]

Perhaps after "Finding Prince Charming" ends its run we will finally see a buff, beautiful, "high-end"...Oh, wait a minute. Never mind.

[+ newguy]

Perhaps after "Finding Prince Charming" ends its run we will finally see a buff, beautiful, "high-end"...Oh, wait a minute. Never mind.

 

Hahahahaha. I "wonder" what you meant...

[+ newguy]

Maybe at some time in the future, it will make more sense than it does now.

Praise Jesus! It just happened. Lord, Lord, thank you. Seriously, guys with evangelical mental health

prescriptions...

[+ newguy]

I think what Newguy may be referring to is a gay version of the high end female escorts that cater to the very rich, or high profile or married men, where discretion is a high priority. Sort of like a gay "Mayflower Madam" from years ago and the fees were thousands of dollars for the evening. I have never heard of such a service. There are websites where you can meet guys for an ongoing relationship, but it is implied that money or an allowance is part of the arrangement.

This is exactly correct. Thank you, Billsboy4!

[+ newguy]

Hahahahaha. I "wonder" what you meant...

Oh, below is (if someone else has this same "mental health problem") someone to

stay away from...bleh!

 

NB

 

https://rentmen.com/DexterXXX

[Rudynate]

Praise Jesus! It just happened. Lord, Lord, thank you. Seriously, guys with evangelical mental health

prescriptions...

 

Aw, gee!! Hit a nerve, I guess.

[LookingAround]

Oh this phenomenon definitely exists. You won't find them on rentmen but you'll find them on Instagram and once in a rare moment on Grindr. They are models or what are called "fuck boys." They are "sponsored" by extremely discreet wealthy gay men and travel the world to please their hosts and themselves. I personally know two full time "fuck boys" one of whom is now in Cannes and the other just arrived in Fire Island. Drop dead good looks and sexy as hell.

[Rudynate]

Oh this phenomenon definitely exists. You won't find them on rentmen but you'll find them on Instagram and once in a rare moment in Grindr. They are models or what are called "fuck boys." They are "sponsored" by exfremely discreet wealthy gay men and travel the world to please their hosts and themselves. I personally know two full time "fuck boys" one of whom is now in Cannes and the other just arrived in Fire Island. Drop dead good looks and sexy as hell.

 

 

Many years ago I glimpsed the margins of that world on Mykonos.

[+ sniper]

When I was in my late 20s and much fitter and better looking than I am now(though not really, in my opinion, in the league of who the OP is talking about) I was approached on gay.com by a married doctor and his partner who were seeking this sort of arrangement.(My profile picture was a head and shoulder shot that was very good and frankly misleading about what I had going on further below).

I've often wondered how life might have been different had I met them and been selected. It likely would have ended poorly a couple of years later when my hair started to recede and my back issues forced me to exercise less vigorously. OTOH they could have afforded all the surgeries I'd have needed lol.

[+ newguy]

Oh this phenomenon definitely exists. You won't find them on rentmen but you'll find them on Instagram and once in a rare moment on Grindr. They are models or what are called "fuck boys." They are "sponsored" by extremely discreet wealthy gay men and travel the world to please their hosts and themselves. I personally know two full time "fuck boys" one of whom is now in Cannes and the other just arrived in Fire Island. Drop dead good looks and sexy as hell.

That's exactly what I mean: "Drop dead good looks and sexy as hell.." What is so wrong

about being heavily attracted to "that type"? If bondage and domination fetishes are accepted, why not a fetish for beautiful, buff, muscular stereotypes? - NG

 

(PS: I am not being farcical, nor attempting to prolong this thread endlessly, nor wish to invite snippy, inhospitable retorts. Many thanks to those on this forum who have contributed positively to this topic.)

[+ newguy]

Do you realize your standards for an escort encounter (physical and emotional) might be too high and hard to meet?

It's not a "standard." It's more of just a fetish. It does not control my life. This

thread is just part-confessional, part-recommendation seeking.

[LookingAround]

That's exactly what I mean: "Drop dead good looks and sexy as hell.." What is so wrong

about being heavily attracted to "that type"? If bondage and domination fetishes are accepted, why not a fetish for beautiful, buff, muscular stereotypes? - NG

 

(PS: I am not being farcical, nor attempting to prolong this thread endlessly, nor wish to invite snippy, inhospitable retorts. Many thanks to those on this forum who have contributed positively to this topic.)

 

Totally agree

[marylander1940]

It's not a "standard." It's more of just a fetish. It does not control my life. This

thread is just part-confessional, part-recommendation seeking.

 

Can you please post a picture of someone you would consider at least by his looks a " high-end escort"?

 

I promise to you that will find an equivalent to his looks at least in New York City.

[marylander1940]

Totally agree

 

 

You too!

 

Post a picture of your ideal man and we'll find someone who looks similar to him in New York City and advertises on rentmen.com

[rvwnsd]

I think what Newguy may be referring to is a gay version of the high end female escorts that cater to the very rich, or high profile or married men, where discretion is a high priority. Sort of like a gay "Mayflower Madam" from years ago and the fees were thousands of dollars for the evening. I have never heard of such a service. There are websites where you can meet guys for an ongoing relationship, but it is implied that money or an allowance is part of the arrangement.

 

The outcome of the "Mayflower Madam" might be why there is no gay equivalent today. Alternatively, if one must ask about such a service (assuming they exist) one might simply be insufficiently "high end" to be privy to them.

[+ newguy]

Can you please post a picture of someone you would consider at least by his looks a " high-end escort"?

 

I promise to you that will find an equivalent to his looks at least in New York City.

I've never met one from the NYC area. I met once with the costly Simon Dexter. He was drop-dead gorgeous (in my humble opinion) but a complete disaster in terms of his narcissistic and "look-at-me-but-don't-touch-me" personality. Any suggestions?

[Rudynate]

That's exactly what I mean: "Drop dead good looks and sexy as hell.." What is so wrong

about being heavily attracted to "that type"? If bondage and domination fetishes are accepted, why not a fetish for beautiful, buff, muscular stereotypes? - NG

 

(PS: I am not being farcical, nor attempting to prolong this thread endlessly, nor wish to invite snippy, inhospitable retorts. Many thanks to those on this forum who have contributed positively to this topic.)

 

 

Nothing. You're the one who said how lonely it was to have the attractions that you do.