Buff & beautiful "High End Escorts" in New York City: Non-existent?

[beachboy]

In the words of Maya Angalou "People will not remember what you said, people will not remember what you did, but people will remember how you made them feel" when your dick was inside them.

So true. As a client how an escort made me feel is what I remember & is what prompts me to book again, when his dick is inside me & during the whole encounter.

[pubic_assistance]

I concur. Zachary Brown or Killian James are both men who have the looks and personality that guarantee a wonderful time. Money well spent.

[Kuriousity]

It sounds like you are talking about a sort of service provided by someone like Madame Claude. That sort of thing does not exist anymore, although there are lower-rent variants that exist in Southern California, but those involved keep their activities well out of view....and you need to be fairly high up on the food chain, as it were.

[+ newguy]

Exactly!

 

Plenty of muscular guys in NYC, I think the OP just want to start another endless thread: affordable young Jewish escort, or escort for my boss, etc.

Not true. I had no desire to start another endless thread. I am recounting "my" experiences,

as idiosyncratic as they may seem to others. I beg Marylander and kind souls for more endurance and

their consent that some of us have difficulties finding the "right match" with escorts. This is not meant at all to sound picky or problematic. On the contrary, I am amazed and even jealous of some clients on this Forum who report--seemingly effortlessly--one wonderful experience after another. Having a "narrow bandwidth" like this leads to a very lonely life. In short: the desire to create another "endless thread" was the farthest thing from my mind. Thank you again for your understanding. To those who have given some nice and thoughtful suggestions: thank you, thank you, and thank you again!

[marylander1940]

Not true. I had no desire to start another endless thread. I am recounting "my" experiences,

as idiosyncratic as they may seem to others. I beg Marylander and kind souls for more endurance and

their consent that some of us have difficulties finding the "right match" with escorts. This is not meant at all to sound picky or problematic. On the contrary, I am amazed and even jealous of some clients on this Forum who report--seemingly effortlessly--one wonderful experience after another. Having a "narrow bandwidth" like this leads to a very lonely life. In short: the desire to create another "endless thread" was the farthest thing from my mind. Thank you again for your understanding. To those who have given some nice and thoughtful suggestions: thank you, thank you, and thank you again!

 

Do you realize your standards for an escort encounter (physical and emotional) might be too high and hard to meet?

[Rudynate]

Having a "narrow bandwidth" like this leads to a very lonely life.

 

The only two alternatives are to continue to have a very lonely life or to increase your bandwidth. Be careful about romanticizing or fetishing your predicament. You might turn out like John Marcher in "The Beast in the Jungle."

[MikeBiDude]

increase your bandwidth

Which is a polite way of something my brother used to tell me, "if you want more sex, lower your standards"

[+ Lance_Navarro]

Which is a polite way of something my brother used to tell me, "if you want more sex, lower your standards"

 

I know you're being "tounge in cheek" but it brings up several points. First, do we want more sex or better sex (though there's nothing wrong with having both.) Also, what qualities in someone makes them a good lover or sexual partner. While the visual esthetic is certainly important, it doesn't necessarily equate to strong skills of connection and pleasure. I'm sure we've all had experiences connecting with a physically beautiful specimen who was a dud in the sheets.

 

I encourage everyone to start looking at others differently. When you walk into a bar, are at the gym, or just walking down the street, look at people and CHOOSE to find the beauty in them, rather than focus on what's lacking or imperfect. We have conditioned ourselves (or been conditioned, though I like to take ownership) to look internally and externally and be entirely too critical. If you begin to look for the beauty in others you will see more of the beauty in yourself.

[caliguy]

I know you're being "tounge in cheek" but it brings up several points. First, do we want more sex or better sex (though there's nothing wrong with having both.) Also, what qualities in someone makes them a good lover or sexual partner. While the visual esthetic is certainly important, it doesn't necessarily equate to strong skills of connection and pleasure. I'm sure we've all had experiences connecting with a physically beautiful specimen who was a dud in the sheets.

 

I encourage everyone to start looking at others differently. When you walk into a bar, are at the gym, or just walking down the street, look at people and CHOOSE to find the beauty in them, rather than focus on what's lacking or imperfect. We have conditioned ourselves (or been conditioned, though I like to take ownership) to look internally and externally and be entirely too critical. If you begin to look for the beauty in others you will see more of the beauty in yourself.

[Rudynate]

Which is a polite way of something my brother used to tell me, "if you want more sex, lower your standards"

 

 

That's not what I mean at all.

[+ quoththeraven]

Which is a polite way of something my brother used to tell me, "if you want more sex, lower your standards"

 

I read it as "be more open-minded," which really has to do with those standards getting in the way.

 

I get that it feels as though your partner needs to have a certain look or body in order for you to be aroused enough to get crazy between the sheets, but once things start happening, if you're in good hands you won't care. The best sex I've had was with guys who were not the type to make me turn my head at first glance, but damn, they were good. Not all escorts, either.

[+ Eric Hassan]

I know you're being "tounge in cheek" but it brings up several points. First, do we want more sex or better sex (though there's nothing wrong with having both.) Also, what qualities in someone makes them a good lover or sexual partner. While the visual esthetic is certainly important, it doesn't necessarily equate to strong skills of connection and pleasure. I'm sure we've all had experiences connecting with a physically beautiful specimen who was a dud in the sheets.

 

I encourage everyone to start looking at others differently. When you walk into a bar, are at the gym, or just walking down the street, look at people and CHOOSE to find the beauty in them, rather than focus on what's lacking or imperfect. We have conditioned ourselves (or been conditioned, though I like to take ownership) to look internally and externally and be entirely too critical. If you begin to look for the beauty in others you will see more of the beauty in yourself.

 

Beautifully said. I concur completely.

[+ newguy]

Do you realize your standards for an escort encounter (physical and emotional) might be too high and hard to meet?

Yes. I've had this failing since youth. I have an "idealized" version of the handsome, perfect male.

In reality "it" ("he") doesn't exist.

[+ newguy]

Do you realize your standards for an escort encounter (physical and emotional) might be too high and hard to meet?

...also you shouldn't say "high standards." They are too "narrow." Other forum members certainly

have narrow desires in the sense of specialized fetishes. Perhaps the error in my original

message on the forum was that it should have simply asked for suggestions, as opposed to a

cry in the wilderness which sounded like whining. Is that better (for you)?

[+ Truereview]

I have so many thoughts about this thread and I'm glad that it is part of this Forum. Stream of consciousness alert:

• I think @newguy has every right to define his "right match" whichever way he likes
  
• I've repeated myself a few times on this thread that my hope for anyone who chooses to narrowly define high end in escorting is that they
  

1. Understand the definition of
   high end
   is subjective and will vary by client and escort. There is no industry standard.
   
   
2. Own the fact that their definition can feel exclusive and can have unintended negative impact on others
   
   
    
   
   
3. Be aware
   high end
   may be more than just looks, creating a BF experience, and conjuring up fantasies
   
   

• I agree with @Lance_Navarro that in real life, it would make our own happiness easier if we looked for the beauty in others. Unfortunately, that's a personal choice that requires brain and heart reprogramming. It ain't easy. Not all of us have the luxury, the life experience, or the stamina to reframe our lives that way.
  
• Real life philosophy and the fantasy of this hobby can indeed co-exist. You can be an open-minded lover in real life and an exacting, narrow-minded client (and escort) in the hobby.
  
• I grew up with a specific perspective of what "hot or beautiful" was. It needed to be white, blond, blue-eyed. It was pervasive and racist - my view only. My life circumstances forced me to escort and that experience opened my eyes to the fact that the right matches, high end, and beauty come in all sorts, but it didn't reprogram me completely. My brain had been rinsed, but my unconscious biases were not washed away.
  
• When I started hiring, I stuck to my ideal Nordic type - and if they were good in bed and cost me a lot, I invariably called them "high end." What a crock of shit. It wasn't until a dear friend challenged my narrow perspective that I began diversifying my hiring. I think my friend's feedback helped, but honestly, I think I was just ready - in my own time - to expand my own definitions and approach to the hobby.
  
• Today, I regularly challenge myself to get out of my comfort zone. I enjoy it bc, most of the time, I'm pleasantly surprised - and it is fun, for me.
  
• However, I would never expect others to tackle this hobby the way I do today. Each of us gets to decide how we engage in the hobby, and if by chance, some of our approaches help someone reframe their perspective, well, then that's way cool.
  

[marylander1940]

Yes. I've had this failing since youth. I have an "idealized" version of the handsome, perfect male.

In reality "it" ("he") doesn't exist.

 

you've never met anyone you thought HE was perfect?

 

...also you shouldn't say "high standards." They are too "narrow." Other forum members certainly

have narrow desires in the sense of specialized fetishes. Perhaps the error in my original

message on the forum was that it should have simply asked for suggestions, as opposed to a

cry in the wilderness which sounded like whining. Is that better (for you)?

 

The OP (you) started this thread under the tittle:

 

"Buff & beautiful "High End Escorts" in New York City: Non-existent?"

You're looking for "high end escorts" because you have high standards, I don't know how to call it...

 

I'm sorry but I don't know you or your circumstances, maybe you're a billionaire and you get the best of life at all levels but if you can't find something you want in NYC, where can you find it?

 

What are the parameters you're searching: ethnicity, age, endowment, top/vers/bottom, height, hair color, eye color, educational level, etc?

 

Do you want your "high end escort" to be: slim, defined, jock or muscular?

 

Whatever you want do a search on RM and I guarantee you you'll find at least 20 guys in NYC who fit all the parameters of your search.

 

I wonder if this is an attitude you have toward other circumstances/feelings in your life?

 

 

http://uncommonchick.com/wp-content/uploads/definitely-half-empty-fish.jpg

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I have so many thoughts about this thread and I'm glad that it is part of this Forum. Stream of consciousness alert:

• I think @newguy has every right to define his "right match" whichever way he likes
  
• I've repeated myself a few times on this thread that my hope for anyone who chooses to narrowly define high end in escorting is that they
  

1. Understand the definition of
   high end
   is subjective and will vary by client and escort. There is no industry standard.
   
   
2. Own the fact that their definition can feel exclusive and can have unintended negative impact on others
   
   
    
   
   
3. Be aware
   high end
   may be more than just looks, creating a BF experience, and conjuring up fantasies
   
   

• I agree with @Lance_Navarro that in real life, it would make our own happiness easier if we looked for the beauty in others. Unfortunately, that's a personal choice that requires brain and heart reprogramming. It ain't easy. Not all of us have the luxury, the life experience, or the stamina to reframe our lives that way.
  
• Real life philosophy and the fantasy of this hobby can indeed co-exist. You can be an open-minded lover in real life and an exacting, narrow-minded client (and escort) in the hobby.
  
• I grew up with a specific perspective of what "hot or beautiful" was. It needed to be white, blond, blue-eyed. It was pervasive and racist - my view only. My life circumstances forced me to escort and that experience opened my eyes to the fact that the right matches, high end, and beauty come in all sorts, but it didn't reprogram me completely. My brain had been rinsed, but my unconscious biases were not washed away.
  
• When I started hiring, I stuck to my ideal Nordic type - and if they were good in bed and cost me a lot, I invariably called them "high end." What a crock of shit. It wasn't until a dear friend challenged my narrow perspective that I began diversifying my hiring. I think my friend's feedback helped, but honestly, I think I was just ready - in my own time - to expand my own definitions and approach to the hobby.
  
• Today, I regularly challenge myself to get out of my comfort zone. I enjoy it bc, most of the time, I'm pleasantly surprised - and it is fun, for me.
  
• However, I would never expect others to tackle this hobby the way I do today. Each of us gets to decide how we engage in the hobby, and if by chance, some of our approaches help someone reframe their perspective, well, then that's way cool.
  

 

So many amazing points and perspectives, thanks for that!

[Rudynate]

I read it as "be more open-minded," which really has to do with those standards getting in the way.

 

I get that it feels as though your partner needs to have a certain look or body in order for you to be aroused enough to get crazy between the sheets, but once things start happening, if you're in good hands you won't care. The best sex I've had was with guys who were not the type to make me turn my head at first glance, but damn, they were good. Not all escorts, either.

 

I had a great experience of that type a couple of weeks ago. I got together with a guy that I had first made contact with on a hookup site. I got to his place and, to my consternation, the pics in his profile were really old. I was annoyed, but I went in anyway. He was getting me something to drink and I was looking at him and suddenly he looked so good to me that I wanted to do him right there on the kitchen floor. We got in bed, played most of the afternoon, and I left with sort of a "What just happened, here?" sort of feeling. it was really amazing.

[Rudynate]

...also you shouldn't say "high standards." They are too "narrow." Other forum members certainly

have narrow desires in the sense of specialized fetishes. Perhaps the error in my original

message on the forum was that it should have simply asked for suggestions, as opposed to a

cry in the wilderness which sounded like whining. Is that better (for you)?

 

 

Perhaps you're not clear on what sort of man you're looking for.

[marylander1940]

Perhaps you're not clear on what sort of man you're looking for.

 

young Tom Cruise... hold he's 5'6 he wasn't perfect not even in the 80's...

 

http://www.thewrap.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/Top-Gun.jpg

[caliguy]

Yes. I've had this failing since youth. I have an "idealized" version of the handsome, perfect male.

In reality "it" ("he") doesn't exist.

[+ FreshFluff]

The exquisitely high-end escorts don't advertise. They all work out of a top secret location in Brooklyn.

Here's the location

[+ newguy]

I have so many thoughts about this thread and I'm glad that it is part of this Forum. Stream of consciousness alert:

• I think @newguy has every right to define his "right match" whichever way he likes
  
• I've repeated myself a few times on this thread that my hope for anyone who chooses to narrowly define high end in escorting is that they
  

1. Understand the definition of
   high end
   is subjective and will vary by client and escort. There is no industry standard.
   
   
2. Own the fact that their definition can feel exclusive and can have unintended negative impact on others
   
   
    
   
   
3. Be aware
   high end
   may be more than just looks, creating a BF experience, and conjuring up fantasies
   
   

• I agree with @Lance_Navarro that in real life, it would make our own happiness easier if we looked for the beauty in others. Unfortunately, that's a personal choice that requires brain and heart reprogramming. It ain't easy. Not all of us have the luxury, the life experience, or the stamina to reframe our lives that way.
  
• Real life philosophy and the fantasy of this hobby can indeed co-exist. You can be an open-minded lover in real life and an exacting, narrow-minded client (and escort) in the hobby.
  
• I grew up with a specific perspective of what "hot or beautiful" was. It needed to be white, blond, blue-eyed. It was pervasive and racist - my view only. My life circumstances forced me to escort and that experience opened my eyes to the fact that the right matches, high end, and beauty come in all sorts, but it didn't reprogram me completely. My brain had been rinsed, but my unconscious biases were not washed away.
  
• When I started hiring, I stuck to my ideal Nordic type - and if they were good in bed and cost me a lot, I invariably called them "high end." What a crock of shit. It wasn't until a dear friend challenged my narrow perspective that I began diversifying my hiring. I think my friend's feedback helped, but honestly, I think I was just ready - in my own time - to expand my own definitions and approach to the hobby.
  
• Today, I regularly challenge myself to get out of my comfort zone. I enjoy it bc, most of the time, I'm pleasantly surprised - and it is fun, for me.
  
• However, I would never expect others to tackle this hobby the way I do today. Each of us gets to decide how we engage in the hobby, and if by chance, some of our approaches help someone reframe their perspective, well, then that's way cool.
  

Almost exactly my experience. I like the way you describe your ideal as the "Nordic" type (as opposed, to, umm,

a more "German" description. It is a gentlemanly and honest outline about the way I think many of us feel.

The popularity of "Queerty" would not be so enormous otherwise. Their typical depictions of

handsome blond Nordic Hollywood hunks are daily fodder for many, guilty pleasure for almost all.

NG

[caliguy]

handsome blond Nordic Hollywood hunks are daily fodder for many, guilty pleasure for almost all.

NG

Queerty is a bitchy gossip site and their choices of pin up guys is limited to hairless twinks usually.

[+ FreshFluff]

This topic comes up periodically. Someone (Gman?) mentioned that younger escorts of Northern European extraction are relatively scarce.