about the NYC meetup

[+ Eric Hassan]

A few days ago I posted a thread to solicit some ideas/advice on setting up an NYC meetup. Many folks gave me valuable feedback and I am grateful for that. The thread took a turn and eventually needed to be shut down by an administrator. Yesterday I had promised I would have a day/time/venue ready to announce today. After what happened, I have chosen to put my plans to organize a meetup on hold. I will follow up on planning when I'm ready to undertake the task. Thanks again to everyone who responded with ideas and feedback.

[+ Truereview]

I'm embarrassed for us all! My apologies @Eric Hassan for putting you thru this. Your intent was good and deeply appreciated. I look forward to meeting you in person.

[+ RyanDean]

Sad to hear this.

But thanks for your clarity & generosity throughout...

[mattr]

That sucks... and not in the good way. I am very disappointed that some of the nasty trolls on here can't control themselves and have ruined what could have been a fun event for the rest of us.

[nynakedtop]

and special props to Eric for having handled this all is the absolutely praiseworthy way in which he did.

 

thanks, man!

[+ ArVaGuy]

@Eric Hassan given the circumstances you have made a wise decision to pull the plug on this event. Thank you for undertaking the noble effort to organize an event for our forum community.

[down_to_business]

[+ WhamIAm]

Fully understand, but very disappointed. So sad it went belly up due to a handful of guys who need to adjust their meds. Hope you'll try again in the future.

 

You are a gentleman and a scholar. And, smokin' hot. Hope to plan our own meet-up next time I'm up your way.

 

Happy 4th!

[+ José Soplanucas]

Ditto to all the words of appreciation, @Eric Hassan . Do not let a few (I actually blame only one newbie) off track people sink your enthusiasm. If you are still in the mood, and I hope you are, try to get a local partner to help you up, round up a first proposal for the event/s, contact Daddy to check if he can endorse the event and pin it as official, and let's roll. Hopefully next time instead of closing the thread the trolls will be timed out.

Again, thank you so much, Eric.

[mattr]

Maybe its just better to meet the gays from your area, or on those dating apps, you know these people on this message board are a little cooky

 

Plus so many people are not from nyc, or are busy with work/personal lives, so when your expecting 20 people at a large venue and only 5 people show up it won't be good lol.

 

You said you wanted to be part of the gay community then go the lgbt center on 13th street thats where I went when I was younger, lots of nice groups to participate in. Or go to bars and mingle with your social circle congrats.

 

Were just too much of a dysfunctional family on here to set a time for an event to happen

 

Sorry. I disagree. I think it is possible to have a meet up. Negative people, and people who don't want to attend just need to butt out and let the rest of us connect.

[+ WilliamM]

Do not let a few (I actually blame only one newbie) off track people sink your enthusiasm

 

I usually agree with you. But, I do not think it is fair to blame just one person.

[liubit]

I usually agree with you. But, I do not think it is fair to blame just one person.

I agree: it takes two to tango.

[rvwnsd]

I'm sorry that your attempt at organizing a shindig in NYC got impaled on a speedbump, @Eric Hassan . You tried and, hopefully, when you choose to resume your effort it will not be hijacked.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I usually agree with you. But, I do not think it is fair to blame just one person.

That's fine William, we can disagree once and then.

[Zapped]

Many, many thanks to Eric for attempting this.

 

We are all complicated beings. From watching this discussion, I've learned that organizing an event by committee via a web forum makes for too many cooks. It's not surprising that the pot boiled over. We get attached to our opinions.

 

After everyone has cooled down, it would be great if someone (Eric, if he's willing) simply selects a date, time and place and announces it.

[+ WilliamM]

That's fine William, we can disagree once and then.

 

I exchanged PMs with the one person. I liked him and am sad that he no longer accepts PMs. Of course, we all see things differently, so it may have been my PM that made his decision final.

[rvwnsd]

If I may be so bold, may I suggest we table the discussion about how the previous thread went sideways before this thread joins it?

[jawjateck]

Regrettable, but understandable.......<sigh>

[+ ArVaGuy]

If I may be so bold, may I suggest we table the discussion about how the previous thread went sideways before this thread joins it?

 

Agreed.

 

If anyone wants to rehash that mishegoss please start another thread.

 

Thanks

[whipped guy]

Well ditto to Eric regarding what has already been said. It is always a shame when one's good intentions are sabotaged. If I were in Eric's position I would have made the exact same decision. What is sad is that there was absolutely no reason for any of the nastiness, and it definitely was not just one person. Plus, I have a hunch that those responsible would not have attended anyway and most likely never had any intention of doing so. So let's cool off a bit. Perhaps Eric (and possibly in conjunction with his associates who live in the City who are most familiar with what it has to offer) can work behind the scenes and eventually formulate a plan. Plus as Eric stated there was indeed "valuable information" among the chaff of the original thread. Given that it will be impossible to please everyone, I would think that there would be enough info to select a reasonable date, time, and place.

 

PS: By the way, if Le Bernardin is the ultimate choice count me out! Not my "cuisine" and definitely not my style.

[+ Truereview]

PS: By the way, if Le Bernardin is the ultimate choice count me out! Not my "cuisine" and definitely not my style.

I vote for Le Whip...their specialty is tender and rare.

http://www.elkgrove-laguna.net/forums/images/smilies/2/whip.gif

[mike carey]

Hey @Eric Hassan, thanks for instigating this, to me it has established that there is interest in such a meeting. The discussion of the relative merits of different themes and venues was much the same as discussions of other meetings. Perhaps the way ahead is for any future discussion between you and any other planners you want to link with to be off-line, then post 'date, time, location, who's coming' with no debating of the details, just yes or no.

[AndreFuture]

@Eric Hassan, I also want to thank you for trying to put this event together. I'm down in DC, but was watching the thread in the hopes I could come up and join you all, so I'm sorry your efforts got sabotaged.

[jjkrkwood]

I hate apologies. To me they are simply words on paper usually intended as damage control. I prefer a face-to-face apology so your intended audience can see the sincerity of it in your eyes.

 

If you could see my face now, you would ALL know that I am truly, truly sorry for my participation in the events that led to management closing the NYC meeting thread and subsequently Eric's decision to suspend plans for it.

 

It was something that should not have happened and it wouldn't have had I know who I was dealing with, a person that was a member for a brief period, felt undervalued and left out, made the decision to leave in a Grand exit, and requested his profile be deleted. But he held a grudge, especially towards ME, as he perceived me as some "ring leader" here, thus reinventing himself and coming back, debuting in the NYC thread where he immediately called members out for being a clique and excluding him. I knew something was off with him, but couldn't put my finger on it, and gave the benefit of doubt and engaged him, but no matter how I tried to convince him he was not being excluded, he continued to feel he was and blamed ME and my merry band of supporters... Once I saw things were off and getting out of hand, I publicly addressed him and said I would no longer communicate with him. This seemed to set him off and he transformed from the self proclaimed, shy, meek awkward loner, into the ballistic, vulgar buffoon he was the first time around, unleashing profane comments on me in his final posts, forcing admins to close the thread. He then attempted to start another thread to continue his attack on me, but admins shut it down immediately.

 

But this is not about him, its about ME and my blame in the event, which I accept 1000% With that said, I sincerely apologize to Eric Hassan for detouring his plans. He is a great guy with a greater heart and meant well.. To EVERY member of the site who viewed the event and was made to feel awkward, uncomfortable or outraged, to anyone who may have participated in the event and are now missing the opportunity, and to the admins: Daddy, deej and Cooper for forcing them to make yet another uncomfortable and unnecessary decision to lock a thread because its participants cant behave themselves. Whether you like me or not, are a fan of my posts or not , I OWE YOU this apology. And I do appreciate being allowed to participate here. I am embarrassed that I once again allowed myself to go to that place with a person with whom I just couldn't get along, and for behavior unbecoming to Daddy's site. I thought I was past that, but apparently I wasn't. Live and hopefully Learn.

 

I truly hope that once the dust settles you can all once again accept, and allow my participation here.

 

Sincerely,

 

JJ / Alyn

[BaronArtz]

Hi Eric - sorry to read that the plans got derailed. It is a missed opportunity for many of us. I was having coffee with another forum member yesterday and of course we discussed it. In any event, thank you for trying.

 

Here is a thought. Could you make it a 'by invitation only' event, and not announce the date/time/place in a public forum? I think we all know who shouldn't be there.