Do you have sex with both men and women?

[+ FreshFluff]

A few people have already posted about this, and I'd love to hear from them or anyone else. I left out the word "bisexual" since you may consider yourself straight or gay.

 

How does that work for you? Do you go through phases in which you are attracted to one or the other? Or, if you're attracted to both at the same time, how do you manage any romantic relationships if you have them?

[MikeBiDude]

Yes...

 

The "bi" label is a tough one, often dismissed by the straight and gay communities. If there is a Kinsey scale, you'll find me in the middle. If one end is black and the other white, I'm gray!

 

I can think back to grammar school, being attracted to girls at school, and guys on camping weekends. Really!

 

I lost a great relationship with a great woman not being honest about my bi side. Now, I try and bring it up and mention it as early as practical in a relationship, guy or girl. I've had good success with that honesty. (and a few thrilling sexual escapades)

 

Honestly, long term relationship-wise I seemed more wired to women. That said, someone who taught me so much about love was a guy...

[+ poolboy48220]

Nah. Had sex with only two women in my life, when I was much younger. No interest since then. Not much interest then, actually, just yielding to societal pressure.

[bigvalboy]

NO...100% gay...But this is an excellent thread FF.

[MikeyGMin]

Yes...

 

The "bi" label is a tough one, often dismissed by the straight and gay communities. If there is a Kinsey scale, you'll find me in the middle. If one end is black and the other white, I'm gray!

 

It is a tough label. I think the reason it is so often dismissed is because of the number of young guys who ease their way out of the closet by saying they are bi and then admit to being 100% gay once they are out for a while. If a 19 year old kid, fresh out of the closet, tells me he is bi... I'm probably going to doubt it. But if a grown ass man says he is bi, then who am I to doubt it?

 

I can see why relationships would be a little more complicated no matter which sex you are dating. Most of us are jealous beings made worse when anyone -- male or female -- is a potential rival. I know how to handle my jealousy of other men, but wouldn't know what to do about a woman.

[jjkrkwood]

Hmmmm, that's a complicated Question. Does having sex with men that ARE women count ?

 

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[Epigonos]

When I was young, dumb and not wanting to be different I had sex with a few different women. It wasn't fun, it was work and I didn't enjoy any part of the experience. After awhile I came to the conclusion that I was, plain and simply, a 100% faggot. Once I came to that conclusion life became a hell of a lot simpler. Now I'm a happy 75 year old faggot who is having a great time hiring wonderful escorts.

 

P.S. Right I'm sporting a great hardon just thinking about setting up an appointment with yesterday's (6/20) Coverboy

[+ bashful]

Have enjoyed women and men (in chronological order).

[+ purplekow]

While attracted to both men and women, there has been a variability in my interest over time. I have times when I am more interested in women and then others when I am more interested in men, but at all times there is some level of interest in both. I might be out to dinner with an extremely handsome escort and a pretty woman will catch my eye and I will find myself staring.

Attraction is attraction and I do think that if you have certain qualities you find attractive, you will find then attractive no matter that your major interest at that time, is in the opposite sex.

[BasketBaller]

As a boy and young man I denied and denied my attraction to men, mostly denying it to myself. I dated girls and slept with women and honestly, did enjoy it. I got married and had kids and we had a reasonably good sex life. I loved my wife but soon had to admit to myself that I was more attracted to men. I fantasized but never cheated with anyone. At that point, my mid 20s, I'd have called myself bi, but faithful to my marriage.

 

When she died after a short illness, I was a single dad with three little boys, and I had no social life to speak of. But I watched porn, and soon it was exclusively gay porn. I hesitated for a long time, but finally hired an escort and had sex with a man for the first time. We'd barely begun when I felt a kind of euphoria- this was what I'd been wanting, and avoiding my whole life. Since then I've hired and very occasionally hooked up, but while the boys are home I haven't pursued a gay social life. When they're in college we'll see. I'm not really out but I'm also not denying anything. The boys used to urge me to start dating but they've stopped lately.

 

So in my 30s I realized that while I might not be 100% gay on the spectrum, I'm definitely somewhere on that end.

[MiamiLooker]

NO...100% gay...But this is an excellent thread FF.

Hmmmm....I thought you were at least 20% alcohol?

:eek:

[+ purplekow]

As a boy and young man I denied and denied my attraction to men, mostly denying it to myself. I dated girls and slept with women and honestly, did enjoy it. I got married and had kids and we had a reasonably good sex life. I loved my wife but soon had to admit to myself that I was more attracted to men. I fantasized but never cheated with anyone. At that point, my mid 20s, I'd have called myself bi, but faithful to my marriage.

 

When she died after a short illness, I was a single dad with three little boys, and I had no social life to speak of. But I watched porn, and soon it was exclusively gay porn. I hesitated for a long time, but finally hired an escort and had sex with a man for the first time. We'd barely begun when I felt a kind of euphoria- this was what I'd been wanting, and avoiding my whole life. Since then I've hired and very occasionally hooked up, but while the boys are home I haven't pursued a gay social life. When they're in college we'll see. I'm not really out but I'm also not denying anything. The boys used to urge me to start dating but they've stopped lately.

 

So in my 30s I realized that while I might not be 100% gay on the spectrum, I'm definitely somewhere on that end.

I was in the same situation in a monogamous relationship with my wife for 10 years. While married, I had found some men attractive, but I did not consider having sex with them anymore than I considered having sex with women. Attraction is not something that needs to be acted upon. We make choices in life for ourselves and the people we love.

Once my wife had passed, I began having sex with women, but when those relationships felt lacking, I started to have sex with men.

Right now, the gender of a person I find attractive, is one of many aspects of attraction. Gender is sometimes essential to the attraction, hairy chest men, a plus, hairy chest women, not so much. Nice ass, a plus on a man and on a woman. Great smile, that goes for either sex. Thick lips, both as well, Muscular arms, well it works for both but they do not look the same.

I do not really enjoy porn, but gay porn is more appealing. I find heterosexual porn disrespectful to women and most of the women are not attractive to me. Gay porn has a few more redeeming sexual characteristics, but mostly, for me, the men are more my style than the women are in heterosexual porn.

I suspect that being a dad is your number one priority, but do not totally sacrifice an active sex life for your kids, especially if you think you may prefer only gay sex. Age is not usually a friend to the gay man's sexual adventures while older men may have success more easily with women as the men age. At least, this is my experience. I pay for gay sex, straight sex is much more readily available, though at this particular juncture, for me, a bit less desirable.

[bigvalboy]

Hmmmm....I thought you were at least 20% alcohol?

:eek:

 

 

[TruHart1]

Technically, I do have my Gold Star since, although I dated and made out with women through college, I never actually got as far as full on intercourse with any of my girlfriends. Lots of foreplay, but I stayed a virgin until I sucked my first cock!!! I was always attracted to men but I thought I would eventually get married to a woman to please my family and society. Thank goodness that never happened and I am (and always have been) 100% gay! Some of my gay friends have joked that I am a closet heterosexual because I find a number of women very attractive. There has never been any real sexual chemistry between myself and any woman I've ever met though!

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TruHart1

[Bearofdistinction]

Nah. Had sex with only two women in my life, when I was much younger. No interest since then. Not much interest then, actually, just yielding to societal pressure.

 

+1

 

I have been in love with boys going back as far as I remember - rubbing wee-wees with boy cousins at 4 yo and the same at camp

when 5-6yo -- I have loved cock since then and only fucked women on 2-3 occasions to prove to myself that I was not just "going through a phase" Well I was - but that phase was fucking girls -- while I fantasized about hot hard furry men with tight holes and low hanging balls and big hard cocks for me to grab onto for leverage while I pounded hot man ass

[alexslaveboy]

I think I answered this in another thread but when I was 14 - 15 Heather Locklear was on Dynasty and TJ Hooker and I found myself drawn to her......but then I saw her male costars shirtless and my dick jumped and then I started watching Tarzan movies and saw a young bodybuilder named Bob Paris and I began jerking off to bodybuilders and muscle guys and 30 years later I'm now jerking off with and for muscle escorts!!!

[BasketBaller]

I suspect that being a dad is your number one priority, but do not totally sacrifice an active sex life for your kids.

 

Thanks for that supportive reply, it's nice to know others have travelled this road. Yes, the boys have been the priority, but one's in college and the other two, twins, will be next year (God willing!) So I'll see what feels right then. I have essentially never lived alone, parents to roommates to wife to family to children, so it will be a big change!

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I've put my dick in a vagina but I've never had sex with a woman. Now, solve that riddle.

[MikeyGMin]

+1

 

I have been in love with boys going back as far as I remember - rubbing wee-wees with boy cousins at 4 yo and the same at camp

when 5-6yo

 

I wasn't as precocious as you. I didn't start rubbing wee-wees until the ripe old age of 9. Now I'm all grown up and call it frotting, but I loved it then and I love it now!

[Bearofdistinction]

I've put my dick in a vagina but I've never had sex with a woman. Now, solve that riddle.

 

Was the vagina attached to either Nancy Reagan or Barbara Bush? Because that would explain it perfectly!

[+ WilliamM]

When I was young, dumb and not wanting to be different I had sex with a few different women. It wasn't fun, it was work and I didn't enjoy any part of the experience. After awhile I came to the conclusion that I was, plain and simply, a 100% faggot.

 

I did not even get as far as Epigonos with women. Even though his experience sound fairly grim, I was (and continue to be) incapable of performing sex with a woman.

[+ pdxleo]

For me, it's not the vessel, but the soul it carries. I can work just fine with anything between the belly button and the knee- a friend calls it "onmi-sexual", but the equipment is just the means to the end. I guess there have been more males I have cared for, but really I don't run scared from the wiles of the female. An open soul, with just a few scars to show a life well-lived, the elixir this lion has to lap up!

[+ Truereview]

Sexually, I'm about 80% men, 20% women. For relationship purposes, 100% men. Women that I sleep with know that I identify myself as gay and that I'm not looking for romantic connection.

[+ nycman]

Blue ribbon faggot here.

 

Never even kissed a girl.

[MikeyGMin]

Sexually, I'm about 80% men, 20% women. For relationship purposes, 100% men. Women that I sleep with know that I identify myself as gay and that I'm not looking for romantic connection.

 

That's one of the things I think is really interesting. Who you fall in love with versus who you have sex with. I've only known a couple of bisexual men, so it's not much of a sample, but they are both more fluid sexually than emotionally.