Bullied into writing review

[jock]

I just got a sample of how an aggressive escort can get naive guys who are new , to write reviews that the escort doesn't deserve. This has only happened with this one escort, so I know it can't be a popular practice among other escorts.

I am pretty new to this website but I don't consider myself naive. I was recently with an escort who I decided to see because he had an incredibly large number of reviews. There are many guys who seem to be escorting just as long as this guy, but when I saw that he had x times the number of reviews here and on Rentmen, I figured he must be just an all-around great escort because so many people had felt moved to write. I had an okay time with the guy and from the minute I arrived at the hotel that I paid for (yet he insisted on booking in his name cuz he wanted the hotel points), I could see that he was bossy and inconsiderate. I was semi-okay with the bossy persona during the 2+ hours session--even though I kept telling him to tone it down cuz I was looking for all the nice qualities that some of the reviewers had mentioned. Because I'm pretty athletic and in good shape and bigger than him, I was not at all physically threatened by the guy. But I saw the menacing side within an hour after I left (and he insisted on staying in the room--presumably to see another client. I was fine with that, but not with what followed:

 

For the next three days, I received at least 4 text messages and two phone calls from the escort asking me to write him a positive review. I told him that although I had flown down to see him and although I paid for the hotel room and although I gave him a small tip, I didn't have a good enough time to write a review. Not only did he want a review on RM, but he wanted a detailed review on Daddy's and he said he wanted to see a draft of it first. He said he always had his clients send him a draft, and I guess because his style is being a very sexual dominant and bossy non reciprocal guy, he naturally gets guys who are willing to do this. I guess I wasn't his regular type, and I told him that. He then revealed that he knew some stuff about me, my job and my longtime partner (and his job too! I clearly talked too much during our session)and he made it clear that he could get very nasty if I didn't do the review. The irony of this is that this same guy during our session had told me an emotional story about how a bad client had gone public on him years ago. It's either that he tells that story as a way to disarm me, or that he has just decided to turn the tables. Am I being shortsighted? Should I just write the review and make this problem go away?

[+ Keith30309]

I just got a sample of how an aggressive escort can get naive guys who are new , to write reviews that the escort doesn't deserve. This has only happened with this one escort, so I know it can't be a popular practice among other escorts.

I am pretty new to this website but I don't consider myself naive. I was recently with an escort who I decided to see because he had an incredibly large number of reviews. There are many guys who seem to be escorting just as long as this guy, but when I saw that he had x times the number of reviews here and on Rentmen, I figured he must be just an all-around great escort because so many people had felt moved to write. I had an okay time with the guy and from the minute I arrived at the hotel that I paid for (yet he insisted on booking in his name cuz he wanted the hotel points), I could see that he was bossy and inconsiderate. I was semi-okay with the bossy persona during the 2+ hours session--even though I kept telling him to tone it down cuz I was looking for all the nice qualities that some of the reviewers had mentioned. Because I'm pretty athletic and in good shape and bigger than him, I was not at all physically threatened by the guy. But I saw the menacing side within an hour after I left (and he insisted on staying in the room--presumably to see another client. I was fine with that, but not with what followed:

 

For the next three days, I received at least 4 text messages and two phone calls from the escort asking me to write him a positive review. I told him that although I had flown down to see him and although I paid for the hotel room and although I gave him a small tip, I didn't have a good enough time to write a review. Not only did he want a review on RM, but he wanted a detailed review on Daddy's and he said he wanted to see a draft of it first. He said he always had his clients send him a draft, and I guess because his style is being a very sexual dominant and bossy non reciprocal guy, he naturally gets guys who are willing to do this. I guess I wasn't his regular type, and I told him that. He then revealed that he knew some stuff about me, my job and my longtime partner (and his job too! I clearly talked too much during our session)and he made it clear that he could get very nasty if I didn't do the review. The irony of this is that this same guy during our session had told me an emotional story about how a bad client had gone public on him years ago. It's either that he tells that story as a way to disarm me, or that he has just decided to turn the tables. Am I being shortsighted? Should I just write the review and make this problem go away?

 

I think that you HAVE just written a review.... Ensure everything is factual, minimize conjecture then Copy/paste/submit.

 

[EDIT: Is this the same guy you mention in this thread?]

[Mo Mason]

Submit a negative review - it sounds like he's more than earned it.

[Guest]

Yikes. Sorry you had to go through that, @jock

 

I've had escorts be upfront about writing a review, and I tend to do it on RM because it's quick and easy. But I've never been through what you have! And I'm sorry that happened to you.

[gallahadesquire]

Giving in to your extortionist: That's a tough one. on the one hand, it might get rid of him. On the other hand, it might fuel his ire.

 

I think I come out on the side of the others here. Write an accurate review.

[mike carey]

I hope you have managed to reject the pressure for you to do what this escort wants, no-one has the right to do that to you. I have never read of anyone doing this sort of thing, but I have a sinking feeling about who it might be.

[dcguy20]

Gee, I wonder who it is?

[marylander1940]

I just got a sample of how an aggressive escort can get naive guys who are new , to write reviews that the escort doesn't deserve. This has only happened with this one escort, so I know it can't be a popular practice among other escorts.

I am pretty new to this website but I don't consider myself naive. I was recently with an escort who I decided to see because he had an incredibly large number of reviews. There are many guys who seem to be escorting just as long as this guy, but when I saw that he had x times the number of reviews here and on Rentmen, I figured he must be just an all-around great escort because so many people had felt moved to write. I had an okay time with the guy and from the minute I arrived at the hotel that I paid for (yet he insisted on booking in his name cuz he wanted the hotel points), I could see that he was bossy and inconsiderate. I was semi-okay with the bossy persona during the 2+ hours session--even though I kept telling him to tone it down cuz I was looking for all the nice qualities that some of the reviewers had mentioned. Because I'm pretty athletic and in good shape and bigger than him, I was not at all physically threatened by the guy. But I saw the menacing side within an hour after I left (and he insisted on staying in the room--presumably to see another client. I was fine with that, but not with what followed:

 

For the next three days, I received at least 4 text messages and two phone calls from the escort asking me to write him a positive review. I told him that although I had flown down to see him and although I paid for the hotel room and although I gave him a small tip, I didn't have a good enough time to write a review. Not only did he want a review on RM, but he wanted a detailed review on Daddy's and he said he wanted to see a draft of it first. He said he always had his clients send him a draft, and I guess because his style is being a very sexual dominant and bossy non reciprocal guy, he naturally gets guys who are willing to do this. I guess I wasn't his regular type, and I told him that. He then revealed that he knew some stuff about me, my job and my longtime partner (and his job too! I clearly talked too much during our session)and he made it clear that he could get very nasty if I didn't do the review. The irony of this is that this same guy during our session had told me an emotional story about how a bad client had gone public on him years ago. It's either that he tells that story as a way to disarm me, or that he has just decided to turn the tables. Am I being shortsighted? Should I just write the review and make this problem go away?

 

Maybe you should name him on here or write a negative review (like the one you pretty much already wrote about him on your OP post) but this time naming him to warn us about him and promote him because I'm sure many guys do like a bossy guy like him.

 

I hope you have managed to reject the pressure for you to do what this escort wants, no-one has the right to do that to you. I have never read of anyone doing this sort of thing, but I have a sinking feeling about who it might be.

 

The OP posted a negative review but he's not naming the escort on here.

 

Gee, I wonder who it is?

 

Exactly, a warning without a name...

[marylander1940]

Yikes. Sorry you had to go through that, @jock

 

I've had escorts be upfront about writing a review, and I tend to do it on RM because it's quick and easy. But I've never been through what you have! And I'm sorry that happened to you.

 

There are some escorts who offer half off after a review is published... but that's a different story.

[mike carey]

The OP posted a negative review but he's not naming the escort on here.

Quite so, Marylander, and although I can speculate (but won't do so in public), I have no idea who the escort may be.

[+ dutchmuch]

I recently saw a massage therapist, who after the session tutored me in how to write a Yelp review, obviously for him.

Won't be going back, and he was very good.

[Epigonos]

The truth is that those of us who hire escort must ALWAYS be prepared for the possibility of public exposure. If the fact that we hire escorts would or might destroy our source of income or our relationship with others then we probably SHOULD NOT be hiring escorts. That type of vulnerability makes us excellent candidates for blackmail. There is absolutely NO WAY we can make exposure an absolute impossibility. There was a time in my life when exposure would have destroyed my economic future thus I COULD NOT safely hire escorts. At this point in my life that fact might be an embarrassment to my family and friends but I could and would survive thus I hire escorts

 

You really have only three options here:

1. You can write the review he wants. You should then consider whether or not you want to continue hiring escorts if you can be blackmailed into writing a false review.

2. You might want to do nothing and hope that he get tired harassing you and goes away.

3. You might want to write a review stating essentially what you have in your current post and let the chips fall where they may.

 

NONE of us on this site, including me, can really advise you here. Only you know your current circumstances and what would best serve you own interests. Good luck

[marylander1940]

Quite so, Marylander, and although I can speculate (but won't do so in public), I have no idea who the escort may be.

 

it sounds like a Stockholm syndrome case, is the OP enjoying all this attention with many of just asking him to write a review and he refusing to do it...

 

Who's behind the curtain on here?

 

http://stream1.gifsoup.com/view6/2618300/the-man-behind-the-curtain-o.gif

 

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3. You might want to write a review stating essentially what you have in your current post and let the chips fall where they may.

 

He already wrote a review and published it on his OP post, unfortunately is nameless.

[mike carey]

@marylander1940, I didn't think it was a Stockholm situation, just pressure to write a review.

[Epigonos]

No unless he names the escort it isn't a review. I would agree that if he now writes a positive review many of us will be able to make the connection but many others won't bother.

[Brian Kevin]

There are some escorts who offer half off after a review is published... but that's a different story.

 

I would never. aren't we DEFEATING the soul purpose of the reviews??? You submit a review because YOU want to, not because the next session is XX % or $ off.

 

Note If you're escort whom does this you have no integrity, your lazy, sloppy and probably also seek validation.

 

Ive never asked anyone for a review. Never have, never will!! I've hinted towards sharing our experience with the forum but in a professional indirect way.

 

Your follow up TeX after the session should be thanking him for his business and time, not trying to swindle him.

 

None the less, I guess the escorts with integrity are dwinlding away.

[mike carey]

None the less, I guess the escorts with integrity are dwinlding away.

Absolutely not, Brian, there are plenty of escorts who have integrity, many of them chat in here. Very few will 'demand' a review.

[+ bigjoey]

I faced this situation about 20 years ago when the old site existed. I wrote an honest review but changed just enough of the facts he did not know who I was (during our communication and time together, I never told him I was "bigjoey").

 

For example, instead of the overnight we had, I wrote up the meeting as a hour together. I changed the month of the meeting. I dropped false "clues" about my description. However, what I wrote about his behavior and sexual abilities was spot on.

 

Sure enough, he responded with wild accusations about my wanting to destroy his business, etc. It was clear he had no idea of my identity.

 

Fortunately, I have had the good fortune of finding mostly great men who escorted. That escort was one of the very few who were less than great. The men I have been with all deserve the great reviews they have gotten.

[+ purplekow]

Perhaps this escort has so many reviews because he insistently calls people, harassing them, perhaps suggesting that he will say that things happened that didn't. Perhaps even suggesting that you forced him to do things that he did not want to do. This escort is a bully. He may enjoy that persona, but my guess is many, many, many, many, many people do not. Writing a favorable review would make you culpable of enabling this man to continue this pattern.

Perhaps if you search for his name on this site, you will find other postings besides the reviews. Maybe that will help you decide how you should proceed.

Perhaps those people who fell prey to his tactics and wrote him favorable reviews owe you an apology.

[JayNY]

Don't hire an escort based on how many wonderful reviews, the escort has on RM or DaddysReviews.

[+ purplekow]

Don't hire an escort based on how many wonderful reviews, the escort has on RM or DaddysReviews.

Well do not do it exclusively on that basis, but generally it is a good place to start.

[LivingnLA]

I was robbed by a perfectly rated and regularly featured rentmen guy last year. It was the first time I hired an escort and I foolishly trusted him. He hosted. I drank the drink he offered. I blacked out about an hour later. I woke up 7 hours later. My phone was gone. He was pissed about a wasted night when I'd only paid for 2 hours. I gave him more money and left even though I know he must've had my phone. Since I have no idea what happened while I was blacked out, I can't write a review of him. I found this site a few days ago and found him discussed on here. It seems at least one forum member had a good experience with him. I guess he only drugs and robs brand new clients who are trusting. Such is life. All we can do is learn from our mistakes and move on.

 

Do whatever you feel you need to do that protects you. It's your life after all. Why let this asshole hurt you?

[mike carey]

Perhaps if you search for his name on this site, you will find other postings besides the reviews

Good point PK.

[jock]

i have read your input and want to say thanks because this has taken up way too much of my time and given me some sleepless nights because I didn't want to tell my partner until I got some experienced advice on how some of u would handle it. Sounds like only one of u got some pressure once from a massage guy. One of u asked if it was an overnight guy, and no it was not overnight. And I don't know what EOY reference means

I'm leaning toward just keeping the guy blocked and not writing a review because he's clearly such a busy escort (based on the many reviews), I'm hoping that he will eventually stop caring that I wouldn't write. My partner knows that I hire, but he doesn't yet know that I stupidly and accidentally revealed our job info (because of a call that I had to take during our time and the escort excused himself and was in the bathroom allegedly not listening and with the water running, but he clearly must have heard enough), so I will tell my partner and let him decide. You all had great responses and advice, but I hoped one of u would have some magic silver bullet solution to make this guy go away satisfied, without my having to be positive reviewer #999 and write some lie. I don't want to do that. Not just because he is demanding it, but also because I didn't have an experience that deserved a great review. I Better stop now and just go deal with it. I don't want to say anymore, but thanks all of u guys for taking time to advise

[whipped guy]

I have been asked to write reviews. With only one exception where the guy kept begging the asking was done in a very polite and sincere manner. In fact one guy was almost ashamed to ask. It was actually quite funny because he thought that I had no clue about Daddy's website.

 

In any event, what really disturbed me about this incident was that the escort wanted to approve the review. I have offered to have escorts approve a review since I feared that the description of what we did might not be the type of publicity that vanilla clients might be interested in hearing about and as such might hinder an escort's business. However, in every case the escort insisted that I be truthful in writing about my experiences. I all the cases they said that they would trust my best judgement and actually thought a review of a more unconventional side to their personas would actually be an enhancement and not a detriment. Still, I was always very careful regarding how things were worded so as not to overstep any bounds.

 

The one exception was a guy who harassed me a bit for a good review. I told him that I moved out of the area (as in 1,000 miles away) and would not be hiring anymore due to a change in my circumstances. That ended things.

 

Incidentally what @bigjoey suggests might be a way to get even. I would personally ignore the guy and wait a while and if you still felt the need to let things be known then go for it. However, something tells me that by that time it will not matter and will have been water long over the dam...