How long to wait?

[Euthanos]

How much time do you gentlemen give an escort to show if they are late and have not contacted you?

[LTLurker]

I guess it depends on the area. There certainly can be legitimate delays in congested metropolitan areas, especially at peak times. But normally, 30 minutes is my max.

[+ Keith30309]

It depends.... And give them before what?

 

If it's an Incall to his hotel/apartment and he's not there but texted me he is stuck in traffic then I'll wait as much as 30 minutes. If he's not there and I haven't heard anything from him and he's not responding to calls/texts then about 30 seconds.

 

I went to one escort's hotel recently and he wasn't there but was texting me regularly that he was in traffic - very understandable in the afternoon - and he showed up 45 minutes after the meeting time. (It turned out he was a little flaky anyway but not a big deal.)

 

 

If it's an outcall to my hotel and he is communicating his intent to show up then I'll chill out and wait for at least a hour, probably more, before telling him "never mind". I'm going to be there anyway.

If he's not responding then I wait for about 30 minutes before I begin scrambling to find another guy for a Plan B.

 

I was in Houston not long ago and had confirmed at 8:00 outcall to my hotel the evening before. The porn star hadn't responded after an hour and I started looking elsewhere. (He did text me about 9:30 explaining that he had forgotten and asked if I still wanted him to come. At that point, had he shown up, the likelihood for a good connection was low and it would have been pointless.). I wasn't able to find a replacement and a little bent out of shape.

[bigvalboy]

After 30 mins I start thinking about plan B.

[Despardo]

Miss Manners recommends 20 minutes, but I don't think she was waiting for an escort--but who knows?

 

I waited almost 2 hours at a hotel in Vancouver, BC. The 2 guys kept checking in about every 20 minutes or so. I could find no reason why they couldn't get across town faster--they could have walked the distance in half an hour. The session, while agreeable was nothing I would go out of my way to repeat. Flakes!

 

Got stood up in Zagreb after multiple confirmations over a period of 3 days. Major inconvenience for me since I could have made other plans. The guy said he had a birthday party to go to. Thanks! He could have called me.

 

I don't mind waiting so long as the guy checks in to say he has been delayed and keeps me updated.

[+ bashful]

I think it depends on history. Have met with one guy 3 times. All 3 times I scheduled a 1 hour meeting. First time, I arrived at his place (30 miles away) about 5 minutes early, parked, and texted that I was there. He asked me to give him 10 minutes, and true to his word, after 10 minutes, texted he was ready. Our 1 hour meeting lasted 90 minutes. 2nd meeting, I was just pulling out of my garage and got a call, he was running late after the gym (he likes to go to the gym before we meet). Can we push it back 20 minutes. No problem for me. We ended up spending 90 minutes together that time too. 3rd time, just as I was a mile away from his place, got a text he was running late, could I give him more time. I stopped at a nearby Starbucks to text back, said I would wait there, and for him to text me when ready. About 30 minutes later, he texted he was ready. I had brought a bottle of wine for him, and we had a few glasses, and talked for some time before moving to the bedroom. Not until later, when I asked him what time it was, did I realize we had spent over 2 hours together. He's generous with his time, I'm flexible with mine. Probably doesn't hurt that I tip.

[+ Phactor]

@bashful Goes to show communication is key!

 

I wouldn't wait more than an hour for an out call. I've never done an in call.

[Euthanos]

Thanks for your responses gentlemen! Waited 30 with no communication before looking for and finding a plan B. Keith, I had a similar experience with a porn star no show in Dallas!

[Beancounter]

Thanks for your responses gentlemen! Waited 30 with no communication before looking for and finding a plan B. Keith, I had a similar experience with a porn star no show in Dallas!

 

Euthanos-your Dallas no-show wasn't Scott staying at the Omni by chance, was he? I got stood up, too.

[+ purplekow]

I had an appointment with an escort I had seen several times. I called about 10 minutes before I was to arrive and about 5 minutes later he called to say that our appointment was for the next day. I assured him that it was not and after checking he agreed but he had a client. I told him I would wait as i had travelled a bit more than an hour to see him. I went to a noisy restaurant and had dinner, but as I could not hear my phone ring, I checked it every ten minutes or so. He called and I returned his call in 10 minutes. He said that when he called, since I did not answer, he thought I had left and he had made arrangements to see friends and he was leaving right then.

My frustration with this escort was very high. He offered no apology, only suggested I return the next night.

Goes to show that even escorts who get great reviews, testimonial postings and many many many escort of the year votes can be an asshole sometimes.

 

For those that will, yes I could have put the phone on vibrate but I did not think of it and as an old geezer, I am not really sure I knew how to do it.

[JayNY]

I will only wait for 30 minutes, if I like the escort. Otherwise, I move on to the next guy.

[Mike Monkevicz]

If the escort I am hiring does not keep in contact with me then I call it a NO GO! I don't have time to play games and so many of them do. To that there is always exceptions. But that's my rule of thumb!

[humboldt]

Sadly, I still get quite nervous before every new hire. For me, waiting only increases the anxiety. For that reason, I'll wait 30 minutes with contact/excuses and 15 minutes without. Otherwise, I'm heading to the bar (and also likely the medicine cabinet).

[MscleLovr]

Goes to show that even escorts who get great reviews, testimonial postings and many many many escort of the year votes can be an asshole sometimes.

 

I sympathise with your predicament. I think this has happened to many of us at some time when hiring. It's always useful to have a 'back-up' plan.

[+ purplekow]

By the way, if you want to check on the escort I mentioned, feel free to contact me. I have received two PM from escorts asking me to mention that this was not them. It was not them. I will not mention who they are, lest it seem like they are the type to do this kind of thing nor will I name the escort. I will say that this was a NY escort not a traveller nor a LA man.

[+ Keith30309]

It depends.... And give them before what?

 

If it's an Incall to his hotel/apartment and he's not there but texted me he is stuck in traffic then I'll wait as much as 30 minutes. If he's not there and I haven't heard anything from him and he's not responding to calls/texts then about 30 seconds.

 

I went to one escort's hotel recently and he wasn't there but was texting me regularly that he was in traffic - very understandable in the afternoon - and he showed up 45 minutes after the meeting time. (It turned out he was a little flaky anyway but not a big deal.)

 

 

If it's an outcall to my hotel and he is communicating his intent to show up then I'll chill out and wait for at least a hour, probably more, before telling him "never mind". I'm going to be there anyway.

If he's not responding then I wait for about 30 minutes before I begin scrambling to find another guy for a Plan B.

 

I was in Houston not long ago and had confirmed at 8:00 outcall to my hotel the evening before. The porn star hadn't responded after an hour and I started looking elsewhere. (He did text me about 9:30 explaining that he had forgotten and asked if I still wanted him to come. At that point, had he shown up, the likelihood for a good connection was low and it would have been pointless.). I wasn't able to find a replacement and a little bent out of shape.

 

Grrrrr - I just sat in a hotel parking lot for 40 minutes waiting for a guy for an appointment I'd set up a week ago.

He was stuck in traffic (gee- traffic in Atlanta. Who could have foreseen that).

I left.

 

The worst part: Yesterday I had to pass on a great guy who'd texted me and let me know he was free today because I'd already committed to the stuck-in-traffic-guy!

 

<end of rant>

[MscleLovr]

It's not a rant, Keith30309; I feel your pain. Over the years, exactly this has happened to me twice.

 

The first time I was outside the apartment building and as there was no response, I phoned and he told me he was delayed shopping(!) but would be back in an hour. I left. The second time, another guy was a no-show and when I phoned, told me he had an accident and was on his way to hospital...but, when I called back on another phone 20 minutes later, miraculously he had recovered and was available for an hourly appointment (unlike the extended hire I'd booked) as he had 2 other clients booked afterwards. I declined.

 

The lesson I learned is always to have a Plan B. Because I enjoy the company of fit younger men, I've learned the hard way that often they are unreliable and change their plans on a whim. So nowadays when a "great guy" contacts me but I have a conflicting date, I wait to see if the original guy confirms and is certain to turn up. This approach seems to work well, and I'm only behaving as younger men do in that having various possibilities is better than having none.

[bobchitown]

There's often a clue beforehand. Perhaps it was all set up the day before including the meeting address. I text the day of the appointment to confirm that I'm in town and will be there, and get no reply. A couple hours later I call and go to voice mail. At this point it's a "do I go or not moment" and I usually go. And wait outside his place for as long as seems reasonable - maybe 30 minutes when there's been no contact that day and then leave. About half the time I later get a text saying "where were you" without either acknowledging the missed appointment or the contacts I'd tried to make earlier in the day. Sometimes with a "can we still get together" to which I say "no."

 

Recently in London I had everything all set up and we'd discussed both day and date several times - as in "I'll see you next week Monday the 12th". I get into London and text to confirm I'll be there in two hours and I get back "Oh, so sorry, I thought it was tomorrow, I'm busy today."

 

I've just come to accept that this business has a higher than normal percentage of total flakes. When you get one who isn't he's a keeper.

[LADoug1]

It depends how communicative they are about their ETA. No texts/calls means plan B.

[Treehorn]

How about "how long to wait to hear from someone to try to set up something before going to Plan B"

 

Just got a really snippy series of texts from someone I called and emailed at 4pm yesterday to try to set something up for today. But as I got no reply (and as today is the only option I have), went with Plan B at 11pm. Who responded within 15 minutes and based on our lovely exchange will have a great time.

 

So at 8am got a call from Plan A (whom I haven't met but looked promising and lives in my area). No preamble, no greeting, practically a 'what are you wearing' call before I had my coffee. Thanked him for calling and explained I had already made alternate plans as I hadn't heard from him. But as he was in the area would definitely contact him in near future. Followed up with a text thanking him again and sorry that it didn't work out (and sorry that I wasn't more articulate but I had just woken up).

 

Followed by a bunch of texts from him accusing me of being a time waster, that I should have let him know there was a time limit and that he didn't appreciate not being my only option.

 

I replied "word to the wise...in your profession you are never the only option" and promptly blocked him.

 

I think 7 hours is more than time enough to give a person a chance to reply - no?

[humboldt]

"word to the wise...in your profession you are never the only option"

 

Amen.

[+ Truereview]

I remember one instance still to this day. I remember bc it was pouring rain and I had no umbrella. I was going to meet a client and we were supposed to meet by a train stop at 2pm. At 2:05 i texted him and he says he is stuck in traffic I didnt think too much of it he says he will be there in 10-15 minutes so I waited. Like 15 minutes later he texts back that he got lost. I still believed he was legit so I waited some more and gave him directions. About 10 minutes later he said he was a couple blocks away. Then 10 minutes I go where the hell are you he says I'm close trust me. After 35-40 minutes of waiting by now I decided to leave and told him. He then texted I'm finally here (what a coincidence huh... ). I look around and nothing and told him I don't see him. He literally played games with me the entire time, after that incident I took a hiatus from escorting. I would say to anyone the maximum any escort/client should wait is 10-15 minutes. After 15 minutes text and call him and tell him your leaving, if he doesn't answer then just go. If he answers back then tell him you have 5 minutes to get here or forget it.

But I was there, I swear! Besitos, mi amor

 

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[Rudynate]

How much time do you gentlemen give an escort to show if they are late and have not contacted you?

 

 

Now that everybody has smartphones, he should text you as soon as he knows he is going to be late.