Finding Out an Escort's Real Identity

[+ José Soplanucas]

Lol. We always end in the same place. For most questions, there are as many answers as people involved. There is no standard in this industry. I guess we have to be open and perceptive to get to know the other as much as possible, and make a decision. It is not what we think we should do in an hypothetical situation, but what it is the best to do in specific circumstances.

[seaboy4hire]

If anyone is bored enough to Google my phone number and or name have fun. I live a pretty boring life. Unless you count dancing around with my cat to Madonna exciting.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[manTOman]

If anyone is bored enough to Google my phone number and or name have fun. I live a pretty boring life. Unless you count dancing around with my cat to Madonna exciting.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

Come on Greg it's two cats and sometimes it's Britney. I'm watching you.

Now stop Vogueing and Work (it) b**ch!

[Will Do]

If anyone is bored enough to Google my phone number and or name have fun. I live a pretty boring life. Unless you count dancing around with my cat to Madonna exciting.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

Thanks, Greg!

 

Seems that we've gone though many days / many posts to end up at your statement that makes total sense!!

 

My gosh! Google, Facebook, LinkedIn and all the others.

 

I dare say there's not anyone out there who doesn't (try to) look up info on someone - an escort, a business link, a Craigslist responder. If it leads to all their friends it's that much more fun!

 

If you don't want it seen. Don't put it out there!

[klifhangar]

If you tell him, I would do so at the very end of your time together so that it doesn't ruin the rapport. Just my opinion. But as they say about opinions and assholes and I DEFINITELY have an asshole.

[+ DickyF]

I'm not sure what the consensus is - except maybe there is no consensus!

I think there are things we can do for safety without prying.

Googling an advertised phone number? Good idea IMHO. Might reveal a major scam or worse.

I did this recently though and the escort's real-name resume popped up first. I didn't tell him but might later. It was shocking how easy it was and was not my intent.

Twice I got friend-requests from escorts I'd hired, in their real names. I accepted both. One is a friend, the other I think just proposes friendship to whomever Facebook suggests.

I just got a Facebook "someone you may know" for another escort in his real name. I suspect he got the same for me. I will see him later this month and was debating if and how to disclose. Emailing afterwards may be good.

Maybe this is a good rule: if a basic web search for safety reasons reveals the escort's identity then should not be an issue to disclose though wait for the right time. Some like Juan would appreciate it. A deep dive though that becomes a clear invasion of privacy should be avoided and certainly not disclosed.

[+ DickyF]

Escorts - BTW do you google potential clients? If so how do you handle learning real names or other personal info?

[Tigger]

Escorts - BTW do you google potential clients? If so how do you handle learning real names or other personal info?

 

As I said in my earlier post, a well-known escort had a friend of his look me up. It may have bothered me for a second. But I got past it quickly. I'm not married or in a relationship.

[LADoug1]

When is the best time to tell the escort? Before, during, or after the sex?

[mike carey]

It's also not that difficult to keep certain information to yourself and or forget about it because certain details are not relevant to whether I accept your hire request or not. What is this? High School?

To me this encapsulates the whole issue. I want to know some things about an escort I want to hire, and I accept he wants to know certain things about me. If either of us googles the other we will most likely find out a whole lot of information. Bottom line, both of us are looking for red flags, any other information is irrelevant and most people will ignore it. If I find out that an escort can't abide a 60yo, I move on, if I find out he wants a phone call before meeting, I accept that and call him or let him know he can call me. [Kurtis, I was talking about a general case, not you!]

[+ José Soplanucas]

When is the best time to tell the escort? Before, during, or after the sex?

 

You can make little insinuations during sex, subtle things like "let me suck that (NAME OF COLLEGE) graduate's big dick", "you look so much better naked than in your mug shots", "Yeah, kiss me like you kissed you boyfriend in those Facebook pictures", "harder, harder like if you were pumping your credit report", etc

[manTOman]

You can make little insinuations during sex, subtle things like "let me suck that (NAME OF COLLEGE) graduate's big dick", "you look so much better naked than in your mug shots", "Yeah, kiss me like you kissed you boyfriend in those Facebook pictures", "harder, harder like if you were pumping your credit report", etc

 

+1

Most definitely during. Please make sure you're not too subtle though. You don't want him to miss the point. @latbear4blk gives great examples. I also think mentioning his wife or girlfriend by her name is an excellent idea. Nicknames are even better.

[Will Do]

You can make little insinuations during sex, subtle things like "let me suck that (NAME OF COLLEGE) graduate's big dick", "you look so much better naked than in your mug shots", "Yeah, kiss me like you kissed you boyfriend in those Facebook pictures", "harder, harder like if you were pumping your credit report", etc

 

MUG SHOTS!!

 

OMG! That killed me! Dead am I!!

[+ Keith30309]

You can make little insinuations during sex, subtle things like "let me suck that (NAME OF COLLEGE) graduate's big dick", "you look so much better naked than in your mug shots", "Yeah, kiss me like you kissed you boyfriend in those Facebook pictures", "harder, harder like if you were pumping your credit report", etc

 

"Who's your daddy! Who's your daddy!"

[+ poolboy48220]

MUG SHOTS!!

 

OMG! That killed me! Dead am I!!

"Your parole officer is really cute. Have the two of you ever done it?"

[samandtham]

Hello everyone.

 

We (myself and the escort) agreed to not continue with our overnight date.

 

I decided to tell him two weeks before our meeting (several days after starting this topic). I said, not verbatim, that "I was looking through your Twitter photos, and saw that you posted one of yourself at a distinguishable location. I know you are a discreet person and value your privacy, that's why I wanted to be honest and let you know that through this photograph, I was able to find you through the establishment's social media page. I apologize for the invasion of your privacy, and would respect your decision to both cancel our appointment and to stop any further communication in the future."

 

His reply was brief. "Thanks. Yeah, I think it's weird that you know who I am."

 

I ended it with me wishing him the best and thanking him for his time. He didn't reply anymore.

 

He removed the photo in question soon after.

Edited May 20, 2016 by samandtham

[+ TheKnobGobbler]

I've actually had this happen by accident a couple of times now when a particular app on my phone called "Sync Me" suddenly popped up all this personal information about the escort I had just received a call from. If anybody is the least bit careless about where and how they post their phone number(s), whether it be on Craigslist, an escort site, Google+, Facebook, etc., there are tons and tons of apps and companies whose sole purpose is to aggregate all of that information from all over the web back into a nice, pretty package under one potentially sellable identity. It's how the scumbags like Spokeo, BeenVerified, PeopleFinder, etc. make their money. In these cases with my accidental information dumps, I simply discarded the info and kept it to myself, except in one case where the information that came back was more than I felt he would want being that accessible, and I simply suggested that he segregate his escort number from any of his real social media accounts entirely. He was content to accept that advice without probing (oh, he probed! he probed me gooood!), so all was fine. I think a lot of newcomers to the trade aren't yet educated as much as they need to be on some of the important tips they need to do their business and keep their private lives private. There should be a buddy program for new escorts who can be paired up with experienced, helpful clients like myself, who will take them under their wing and help them learn the basics.

 

OH! And I've had the reverse happen once, too. An out-of-town escort wanted to let his Louisiana clients know he would be visiting, so he sent out one big email blast that had not only his real name (as set up in the email client's account settings - clumsy) but also the email addresses of close to 80 or 90 local guys who had apparently hired him or inquired about his services at one time or another. I was one of those unlucky enough to have my personal email address with my full name associated with it included in that chain mail. SO embarrassing, but it motivated me to put up firewalls between my professional and personal online personas and to be more mindful of which accounts I use for which purposes. Hard lesson to learn. Maybe I need an experienced escort to mentor ME! hahahaha

Edited May 20, 2016 by TheKnobGobbler

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[bobchitown]

The world is very small, it turns out. LinkedIn decided I knew someone who I'd hired, recognized by his picture. I freaked until I looked at the "why were we linked" page and discovered we'd bought our cars from the same salesman. LOL

[Phlmuscle]

Best not to say anything.

[pierrot]

I agree. Especially, since Rentmen, M4RN, A4A etc. have policies in place to perform criminal background checks of their advertisers to make sure their advertisers can be trusted, and none of them are scammers, or worse yet, thieves or murderers. :rolleyes:

 

Is that true? I didn't know that (about RM doing background checks)

[pierrot]

+1000

 

For the life of me I will never understand why people do this kind of sleuthing. Checking the review sites and anything related to their professional reputation is understandable, but the kind of sleuthing that so many people do is just a nice word for stalking and it puts you in this exact awkward situation.

 

I understand an image search if you think the guy might be using someone else's pictures, but that's where I end it. It is sloppy on their part if they have the same photos on their personal and professional accounts, but I would stop immediately if I hit their personal Facebook account and never say a word that would make them uncomfortable.

 

Just like most clients want to control the release of their personal information, the pros should be afforded the same courtesy. It also makes it kind of special when / if they choose to reveal things of a personal nature.

 

I don't sleuth because there's no reason to do so. There's one guy I've hired numerous times and he's told me his real name and about his life, but he knows I'm trustworthy. I'm sure he knows mine too.

I think it's fairly easy for the escort to find out my real name when he sees my phone no. That makes me a little uncomfortable, but that's why I don't hire escorts who don't have reviews or recommendations from known sources.

I had an odd experience recently going to see an escort I've hired several times. He had moved to a bldg that requires you to show an i.d. to get in. So the guard wrote down my name! I wouldn't have done it had this been a first time hire, but I had seen him several times before. Still, it made me nervous.

[Tigger]

I don't sleuth because there's no reason to do so. There's one guy I've hired numerous times and he's told me his real name and about his life, but he knows I'm trustworthy. I'm sure he knows mine too.

I think it's fairly easy for the escort to find out my real name when he sees my phone no. That makes me a little uncomfortable, but that's why I don't hire escorts who don't have reviews or recommendations from known sources.

I had an odd experience recently going to see an escort I've hired several times. He had moved to a bldg that requires you to show an i.d. to get in. So the guard wrote down my name! I wouldn't have done it had this been a first time hire, but I had seen him several times before. Still, it made me nervous.

 

If it makes you nervous, why don't you get a cheap throw-away type of phone or a Google Voice Number to use?

[wolfgangdc]

I'm not sure what the consensus is - except maybe there is no consensus!

I think there are things we can do for safety without prying.

Googling an advertised phone number? Good idea IMHO. Might reveal a major scam or worse.

I did this recently though and the escort's real-name resume popped up first. I didn't tell him but might later. It was shocking how easy it was and was not my intent.

Twice I got friend-requests from escorts I'd hired, in their real names. I accepted both. One is a friend, the other I think just proposes friendship to whomever Facebook suggests.

I just got a Facebook "someone you may know" for another escort in his real name. I suspect he got the same for me. I will see him later this month and was debating if and how to disclose. Emailing afterwards may be good.

Maybe this is a good rule: if a basic web search for safety reasons reveals the escort's identity then should not be an issue to disclose though wait for the right time. Some like Juan would appreciate it. A deep dive though that becomes a clear invasion of privacy should be avoided and certainly not disclosed.

 

If you've ever connected your phone number to Facebook, or allowed the Facebook app to use your contacts, it will go through your newest contacts, see if they've done the same, and recommend those new people you added. This goes for LinkedIn as well.

 

Even if you change, or remove your phone number, or revoke access, it doesn't mean the other person has.

 

If you really want to protect your identity, use another phone number. +1 for google voice

Edited June 6, 2016 by wolfgangdc

[body2body]

The world is very small, it turns out. LinkedIn decided I knew someone who I'd hired, recognized by his picture. I freaked until I looked at the "why were we linked" page and discovered we'd bought our cars from the same salesman. LOL

I had been seeing a guy for a couple of years, a colleague of mine asked me to join LinkedIn. I did and it went through my contacts, and lo and behold there was the escort. I was horrified and stopped the whole process before it could continue. But I did learn that he was a high level executive with a major enterprise. After that I always thought of him as my Belle de Jour, after the character in the Luis Bunuel film. He made more money than I did, and obviously escorted for the emotional charge it gave him.