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Hello guys!

 

I'm a new escort-aspirant. I've been reading threads in the forum during the last week, thank you for all the knowledge and experience you have shared, a big part of my leap has been a result of all the information here.

 

I already created a Rentmen profile and have had 5 clients contacting me so far but I'm struggling with a couple of things:

 

1-Face pic. I still don't know if I'm going to get fully into escorting and don't want to be linked to it a least for now. Clients are consistently asking for a face picture, is it safe for me to give it?

 

2-How do you check the clients? Do you do a search with their phone number? Do you pay for any premium service to get information?

 

This probably will be the first of a few "asking for advice" posts. I'm thanking you in advance for your help now and in the near future.

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You might want to check your price point with other escorts in LA.

Hiring or asking for a meeting with another LA escort might help answer a lot of questions.

Next weekend there is a forum meeting in Palm Springs. You might contact Oliver and see if there is space (there almost certainly is) and that would give you the opportunity to meet clients and other escorts.

Good luck.

As far as face pictures go, a separate face picture sent on a service not connected to your business out to keep that face picture free from connection by the casual searcher.

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Oh, boy, you have a beautiful body, Fabio.....And I love your lips in pic 1, they look soooooooo kissable. Too bad you live so far away from me. Welcome to the forum and good luck. If you ever come to Europe, you know where to find me! :rolleyes::rolleyes:

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Hi Fabio,

 

Welcome to the forum. I will give you my personal opinion.

 

1-Face pic. I still don't know if I'm going to get fully into escorting and don't want to be linked to it a least for now. Clients are consistently asking for a face picture, is it safe for me to give it?

 

ABSOLUTELY NOT.

If you are not sure whether you will continue escorting or if you are not sure whether you are okay about everyone knowing you are an escort, for absolutely no reason should you give away your face picture. TO ANYONE. IN ANY FORM. FROM ANY EMAIL.

 

Clients are lovely, honest, reliable, discreet... the whole nine yards. Wonderful people!

 

They are great people and they will all tell you that they would never EVER share your personal picture, name, personal information to others, yet, without having solicited it, I have had sent pictures of many escorts who have chosen not to post their faces, I have been told their real names, their marital status, the true names of their partners and children. I have been shown videos of escorts whose lives would be destroyed by them.

 

Let's imagine these kind, honest, discreet clients who happened to believe it was okay to share this information with me, 'cause I too, I'm a ho, are truly only sharing this info with other escorts.

 

Safe enough, isn't it?

 

But what will happen when uncle bill dies and his family finds all these videos, names, informations, pictures of you as an escort? Now you are a lawyer or a politician or an elementary school teacher and this information would have the ability to destroy your career.

 

The only true way to control your image and information is to be entirely sure about who has it. In other words, only you can have this information.

 

You will lose a couple clients, namely the most vocal clients here, but trust me, being a discreet, unknown escort will make you incredibly attractive to people who are interested in travelling with you. That's where the real money is.

 

Do. Not. Share. Your. Face. Picture.

 

Unless of course, you are comfortable with the idea of everyone knowing you are an escort at some point.

 

I wish you much success. I think you are going to do fantastic.

 

Big hug!

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Clients are consistently asking for a face picture, is it safe for me to give it?

 

Safe? None of this is safe.

 

I think the better way to think about it is assessing risk versus reward in context and trying to mitigate the risks to a degree that you’re comfortable with. I agree with Juan that sharing your face picture, even just through emails, could result in people becoming aware of your work as an escort. To reinforce the risk of having your image "out there," check out post #23 by BaronArtz in this thread: http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/do-more-escorts-need-to-come-out.111597/

 

At the same time, I am skeptical that you will only “lose a couple clients” as a result. People want to be with someone they’re attracted to and for many people that means a pretty face. That’s just a reality. BTW, for me, the torso is almost as important, and I love yours. :)

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Hi Fabio,

 

Welcome to the forum. I will give you my personal opinion.

 

 

 

ABSOLUTELY NOT.

If you are not sure whether you will continue escorting or if you are not sure whether you are okay about everyone knowing you are an escort, for absolutely no reason should you give away your face picture. TO ANYONE. IN ANY FORM. FROM ANY EMAIL.

 

Clients are lovely, honest, reliable, discreet... the whole nine yards. Wonderful people!

 

They are great people and they will all tell you that they would never EVER share your personal picture, name, personal information to others, yet, without having solicited it, I have had sent pictures of many escorts who have chosen not to post their faces, I have been told their real names, their marital status, the true names of their partners and children. I have been shown videos of escorts whose lives would be destroyed by them.

 

Let's imagine these kind, honest, discreet clients who happened to believe it was okay to share this information with me, 'cause I too, I'm a ho, are truly only sharing this info with other escorts.

 

Safe enough, isn't it?

 

But what will happen when uncle bill dies and his family finds all these videos, names, informations, pictures of you as an escort? Now you are a lawyer or a politician or an elementary school teacher and this information would have the ability to destroy your career.

 

The only true way to control your image and information is to be entirely sure about who has it. In other words, only you can have this information.

 

You will lose a couple clients, namely the most vocal clients here, but trust me, being a discreet, unknown escort will make you incredibly attractive to people who are interested in travelling with you. That's where the real money is.

 

Do. Not. Share. Your. Face. Picture.

 

Unless of course, you are comfortable with the idea of everyone knowing you are an escort at some point.

 

I wish you much success. I think you are going to do fantastic.

 

Big hug!

 

As far as politicians in the sex industry: we've so far seen Ted Cruise look alike in drag doing a porn video, and someone else famous for Las Vegas hotels defending penis size at a political debate. So hopefully we're not too far off from sexuality being grounds for termination from any job.

 

That said, I guess that's why some, if not many, porn stars kill themselves. However, Juan I'm surprised you feel that way because you're usually advocating being open/free accepting about being an escort? So it seems like you want to protect your identity, but you advocate a strong desire to be accepting of escorting. But how can that be if showing face is seen as destroying someone's livelihood? It's not like their butt naked, or having sex videos. And in these days of stolen pics and cat fishing, I don't think having a face pic on an escort site is that big of a deal UNLESS they are currently in a lawyer or teacher position. In which case they shouldn't be in the adult business.

 

I personally am getting a bit annoyed about people knowing I'm an escort. I had one guy not tell me all this time he's been seeing my ad on Rentmen, until just recently when I decided to tell him on our 3rd meet. Even though he said he was okay with it and all, part of me just lost interest. I respect that he didn't bring it up, but it's like #1 whys he looking at rentmen and #2 why ask what I do for work...TWICE? It's like they try to catch you in a lie.

 

Then, another guy I've been dating I think he knows about me being an escort also just by his evasiveness and his asking, "do you want to have sex now?", when we're supposed to be exploring friends/dating. These guys will snicker and gossip behind your back like little school girls.

 

So yeah, don't trust these FUCK boys for much

 

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You have a beautiful body and a beautiful mouth. Also great hair. I would certainly be willing to take the rest on faith. I think whether or not you share a full face pic is a very personal decision, based on your comfort level, as well as your own future plans, hopes and ambitions. But, Juan is right. If you do provide a picture you must assume that your work as an escort will be public knowledge at some point. If you are not ready for that, and at your age I might think on that a bit longer, then do not provide face pics. In 40 years, when your confirmation hearings for Secretary of State are scheduled, you will have enough to worry about without your early 20s endeavors becoming an issue.

 

On another point, I would suggest that you edit your ad. I think establishing a low hourly rate for your time and simply stating that you are new to escorting is more than enough. The extra explanation about why your rate is low & etc. is far too apologetic when you have nothing to apologize for. Just the marketing guy in me.

 

Good luck!

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I stopped giving a fuck a long time ago. No sense in hiding your face, if the government is gonna busy you, they're gonna bust you. Not using a face pic WILL NOT stop that. Neither will using a fake name or fake phone. You want to escort? Be ready to take those risks! With that said, I'm going on my 8th year. never one have I have issues with cops. Now, there were a couple times I called the cops, but it didn't affect me, my hotel or business. There's no reason to hide. Who cares what any one thinks, as long as when you look in the mirror your happy! Welcome to the headless torso group of escorts-- y'all just seem to get more and more ! Plus I love being recognized in public, talk about almost famous.

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@Brian Kevin, you're not everyone, and while many escorts, like you, have their faces in public, many do not and seem to do well. I suspect that a face pic can be the tipping point for being truly outed and many chose not to take that step. That applies to clients too. Escorting and hiring escorts are not universally accepted in 'polite society', but often the plausible deniability of not having a face pic out there can be enough. For men who are concerned about public exposure of their activities, keeping their face pic off the net is perfectly reasonable. Some, like you, may not care, but others do and we should accept that.

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I stopped giving a fuck a long time ago. No sense in hiding your face, if the government is gonna busy you, they're gonna bust you. Not using a face pic WILL NOT stop that. Neither will using a fake name or fake phone. You want to escort? Be ready to take those risks! With that said, I'm going on my 8th year. never one have I have issues with cops. Now, there were a couple times I called the cops, but it didn't affect me, my hotel or business. There's no reason to hide. Who cares what any one thinks, as long as when you look in the mirror your happy! Welcome to the headless torso group of escorts-- y'all just seem to get more and more ! Plus I love being recognized in public, talk about almost famous.

Almost famous? More like a legend!!

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Forgive me for being late to the party. I typed up a reply and then did not post. Whoops.

 

Hello guys!

 

I'm a new escort-aspirant. I've been reading threads in the forum during the last week, thank you for all the knowledge and experience you have shared, a big part of my leap has been a result of all the information here....

 

Welcome to the Forum!!

 

I already created a Rentmen profile and have had 5 clients contacting me so far but I'm struggling with a couple of things:

 

1-Face pic. I still don't know if I'm going to get fully into escorting and don't want to be linked to it a least for now. Clients are consistently asking for a face picture, is it safe for me to give it?...

 

If you are uncomfortable sharing a face pic, don't share it. Some potential clients will not be okay with that and others will be. It is really up to you. In terms of "safely" sharing a pic, there is no "safe" way to do it. Once the pic is out of your hands, it is up to the recipient to do with it as he pleases.

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2-How do you check the clients? Do you do a search with their phone number? Do you pay for any premium service to get information?...

 

The services that promise a phone number report are not 100% accurate. There are now sites that create fake record for a phone number in an attempt to trip up the reporting sites. You might very well waste your money. Besides, would you want your client to do the same to you?

 

Again, welcome to the site and to the world of escorting. YOu have come to the right place for advice from working guys and clients, alike. One thing you can be sure of: you will always get several candid, thoughtful, and varied bits of information.

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@Brian Kevin, you're not everyone, and while many escorts, like you, have their faces in public, many do not and seem to do well. I suspect that a face pic can be the tipping point for being truly outed and many chose not to take that step. That applies to clients too. Escorting and hiring escorts are not universally accepted in 'polite society', but often the plausible deniability of not having a face pic out there can be enough. For men who are concerned about public exposure of their activities, keeping their face pic off the net is perfectly reasonable. Some, like you, may not care, but others do and we should accept that.

 

And hence, the reason WHY I have always been a member of the "impolite society".....

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